Hi Boss,
Now enough you have done Now start on family end or Socialise, I she married, If yes then get his Anniversary date, his/her family details, similarly get a list of all employee personal details please do send or greet them on their birthday,anniversary etc.. do through some snack just for sack stating that my brother has got promoted, our my father has become GM etc cook some story and try to make your team, It's a part of socilasation but at the same time DO NOT forget what your BOSS has said to do your job (Means KPI), Try to interact with your other dept. people and share your views DO NOT complaine (rather you praise your boss "he takes care or you etc....)
NEVER put any comment about your boss or for any comment It does not give feeling to other who leasten....
If he/she is Bachlor, then very easy ask for a lunch together/or take him for movie but on your cost, If possible book ticket in advance check his area of interest and hobby try to go along with him...
SOme time praise him for his work and say thanks if any help done.
Try it Best of luck.
Kamal deo Prasad
From India, Mumbai
1Now enough you have done Now start on family end or Socialise, I she married, If yes then get his Anniversary date, his/her family details, similarly get a list of all employee personal details please do send or greet them on their birthday,anniversary etc.. do through some snack just for sack stating that my brother has got promoted, our my father has become GM etc cook some story and try to make your team, It's a part of socilasation but at the same time DO NOT forget what your BOSS has said to do your job (Means KPI), Try to interact with your other dept. people and share your views DO NOT complaine (rather you praise your boss "he takes care or you etc....)
NEVER put any comment about your boss or for any comment It does not give feeling to other who leasten....
If he/she is Bachlor, then very easy ask for a lunch together/or take him for movie but on your cost, If possible book ticket in advance check his area of interest and hobby try to go along with him...
SOme time praise him for his work and say thanks if any help done.
Try it Best of luck.
Kamal deo Prasad
From India, Mumbai
i think your boss is correct little bit. please intermingle with people. talk to them in free time about work,not about politics. as you said your office is small ,it will easily reach your boss whatever you do/talk. and donot forget that,others also can talk to your boss about you. because you all are employee there.as he is sayig you to improve interpersonally,then something is there for sure.
change your behaviour incase you are less communicative to other employees,donot rude to anyone. and donot underestimate anyone.i am just giving you advice,please donot take my words wrongly.
after this i am sure your boss will increase your responsibility. if not then, do onething. study in idle time,upgrade your knowledge in your domain field. and switch to another job./company. but before getting a job elsewhere,donot leave the current job.
with warm regards,
gbm_pampi
From India, Bangalore
change your behaviour incase you are less communicative to other employees,donot rude to anyone. and donot underestimate anyone.i am just giving you advice,please donot take my words wrongly.
after this i am sure your boss will increase your responsibility. if not then, do onething. study in idle time,upgrade your knowledge in your domain field. and switch to another job./company. but before getting a job elsewhere,donot leave the current job.
with warm regards,
gbm_pampi
From India, Bangalore
Thanks everybody.
Many of you here have suggested me co-mingling with the rest. I have noted it all. However, I know this is not going to be dat easy.. as it is been a year that I have remained isolated. My frequent approaches to my boss have also yielded me some results as he has asked one amongst the front office people to chalk out something effective for me. Evenafter they been briefed about my involvement from now on, I could still feel me left out ( I say this as I have always observed they do not invite me for anything, they just ignore me while partying)
I wish good days come to me soon and last forever.
From India, Mumbai
Many of you here have suggested me co-mingling with the rest. I have noted it all. However, I know this is not going to be dat easy.. as it is been a year that I have remained isolated. My frequent approaches to my boss have also yielded me some results as he has asked one amongst the front office people to chalk out something effective for me. Evenafter they been briefed about my involvement from now on, I could still feel me left out ( I say this as I have always observed they do not invite me for anything, they just ignore me while partying)
I wish good days come to me soon and last forever.
From India, Mumbai
Dear i m suffering same situation....but i did one big mistake that i complained about my boss to our ceo.. our ceo is gud. i asked him in front of ceo that is im not capable? is my performance is going down? u have any problem with me? he was like no..then i asked simply to him why ru playing game with me if im not worng...
now everything is ok in my side...lets see..how many days it will work....
dont worry, talk to him and dont change the job if the company is good.
From India, Mumbai
now everything is ok in my side...lets see..how many days it will work....
dont worry, talk to him and dont change the job if the company is good.
From India, Mumbai
hi
i feel you should not waste ur potential in this org. If you are willing to work and there is no Job responsibility assigned to you, it will erode your enthusiam to work and also it will not help u learn anything.
dnt waste ur time and look for a change.
From India, Mumbai
i feel you should not waste ur potential in this org. If you are willing to work and there is no Job responsibility assigned to you, it will erode your enthusiam to work and also it will not help u learn anything.
dnt waste ur time and look for a change.
From India, Mumbai
This Is All The Matter Of Seniority............which Always Persists In People Who Are In Higher Authority / Over Aged / Who Have Got The Fear Of Replacement.....................dats The Only Reason He Is Behaving Like This.........you Also Adapt The Same And C The Result....
From India, Tiruppur
From India, Tiruppur
Hello Pleasehelp,
I have one friend like you only. She wants to be a centre of attraction, wants always to be pampered, wants that everybody should run behind her to help her but don't want to listen to anybody. She discuss her problems with us but when we try to give her some solutions, then she will always try to prove us wrong as if we are all fools. She always thinks that only she is correct.
I went through all the stuff of this post and come to conclusion that you are like my that friend.
I think HRProp is trying to tell you this in soft words, I am sorry I also don't want to be harsh on you, only want to suggest you that before blaming anybody else please! please!! please!!! look into your innerself and try to be positive and friendly with others in office.
Your boss might have been judging your capabilities and skills by giving you small small assignments. The only problem with him is, he is not enough good in communicating that to you. Just give him some time I am sure that he has a perfect carrier plan for you with him.
Dear, just think how all others are good with boss and why only you have different feelings about him?
From India, Mumbai
I have one friend like you only. She wants to be a centre of attraction, wants always to be pampered, wants that everybody should run behind her to help her but don't want to listen to anybody. She discuss her problems with us but when we try to give her some solutions, then she will always try to prove us wrong as if we are all fools. She always thinks that only she is correct.
I went through all the stuff of this post and come to conclusion that you are like my that friend.
I think HRProp is trying to tell you this in soft words, I am sorry I also don't want to be harsh on you, only want to suggest you that before blaming anybody else please! please!! please!!! look into your innerself and try to be positive and friendly with others in office.
Your boss might have been judging your capabilities and skills by giving you small small assignments. The only problem with him is, he is not enough good in communicating that to you. Just give him some time I am sure that he has a perfect carrier plan for you with him.
Dear, just think how all others are good with boss and why only you have different feelings about him?
From India, Mumbai
start looking better job and be clear of your job responsibilities, it seems you yourself is not clear of your objectives. remember for a good employees, there are plenty of jobs. before you really become idle, start looking for good job, well all jobs are good, it is our perception. the work you have been given, do it in an excellent way. make a written report and send the carbon copy of your bosses. gradually, you will realize that you starts working and parallely look for another job.okay all the bestpriyanka
From India, Bhopal
From India, Bhopal
Hi guys,
It is a persistent problem in all organization and as an employee, he has to meet these challenges by considering them as an opportunity of learning and focus on his skills and move forward. This situation may be faced by your boss also if he is in middle or upper middle management and he too need to follow the same principle of taking these challenges as an opportunity towards learning and move forward. Please note that all bosses are not as bad as you are thinking, it is question of their experience in facing such challenges as an opportunity and moving forward.If this cycle goes on, i think you will become a perfect boss to your subordinate going forward and he in turn will become perfect boss to his subordinate and so on.....
From India, Bangalore
It is a persistent problem in all organization and as an employee, he has to meet these challenges by considering them as an opportunity of learning and focus on his skills and move forward. This situation may be faced by your boss also if he is in middle or upper middle management and he too need to follow the same principle of taking these challenges as an opportunity towards learning and move forward. Please note that all bosses are not as bad as you are thinking, it is question of their experience in facing such challenges as an opportunity and moving forward.If this cycle goes on, i think you will become a perfect boss to your subordinate going forward and he in turn will become perfect boss to his subordinate and so on.....
From India, Bangalore
Hello Pleasehelp,
You are not at all clear whats the problem with you and your boss?
Either you avoided sharing with us or if you introspect your behaviour, performance, quality of work or job knowledge you will find the answers which can be a major issues and you may be searching answer for wrong reason.
May your peculier tendancies or Complex personality abused you.
Some sort of guidelins needs to be followed to maintain the decorum as well as self discipline to improve your image;
I would like to advise the following :
1. Change your attitude by greeting people with smiling face in the morning.
2. Prepare your agenda of the day memorised those assignments in the order of preference for execution.
3. Then interact with the people in office and show your interest in your work by involving your colleauges in the discussion on the topic.
4. Keep motivating yourself and do not expect people arround you will motivate you, so be positive.
5. Try to be perfectionist and varify twice output of your assignments, before forwarding to Boss so can be replied immediately.
6. Avoid silly charactors in office and participate in management discussion or bring new ideas to improve current status of your job.
Something positive will develop in comming three months you have to just focus and believe in your above strategy. Do not except immediate results it will take time.
read the following from our citeHR Mr.John posted this on another topic appropriate to expres here:
[QUOTE]
Aman feared his wife wasn't hearing as well as she used to and he thought she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family Doctor to discuss the problem. The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss.
Here's what you do," said the Doctor, "stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response."
That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the den. He says to himself, "I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what happens." Then in a normal tone he asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?"
No response.
So the husband moves to closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, "Honey, what's for dinner?"
Still no response.
Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his wife and asks, Honey, what's for dinner?"
Again he gets no response so, He walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. "Honey, what's for dinner?"
Again there is no response.
So he walks right up behind her. "Honey, what's for dinner?"
;
;
;
"James, for the FIFTH time I've said, CHICKEN!"
Moral of the story:
The problem may not be with the other one as we always think,
could be very much within us..!
Regards
Sawant
From Saudi Arabia
You are not at all clear whats the problem with you and your boss?
Either you avoided sharing with us or if you introspect your behaviour, performance, quality of work or job knowledge you will find the answers which can be a major issues and you may be searching answer for wrong reason.
May your peculier tendancies or Complex personality abused you.
Some sort of guidelins needs to be followed to maintain the decorum as well as self discipline to improve your image;
I would like to advise the following :
1. Change your attitude by greeting people with smiling face in the morning.
2. Prepare your agenda of the day memorised those assignments in the order of preference for execution.
3. Then interact with the people in office and show your interest in your work by involving your colleauges in the discussion on the topic.
4. Keep motivating yourself and do not expect people arround you will motivate you, so be positive.
5. Try to be perfectionist and varify twice output of your assignments, before forwarding to Boss so can be replied immediately.
6. Avoid silly charactors in office and participate in management discussion or bring new ideas to improve current status of your job.
Something positive will develop in comming three months you have to just focus and believe in your above strategy. Do not except immediate results it will take time.
read the following from our citeHR Mr.John posted this on another topic appropriate to expres here:
[QUOTE]
Aman feared his wife wasn't hearing as well as she used to and he thought she might need a hearing aid. Not quite sure how to approach her, he called the family Doctor to discuss the problem. The Doctor told him there is a simple informal test the husband could perform to give the Doctor a better idea about her hearing loss.
Here's what you do," said the Doctor, "stand about 40 feet away from her, and in a normal conversational speaking tone see if she hears you. If not, go to 30 feet, then 20 feet, and so on until you get a response."
That evening, the wife is in the kitchen cooking dinner, and he was in the den. He says to himself, "I'm about 40 feet away, let's see what happens." Then in a normal tone he asks, 'Honey, what's for dinner?"
No response.
So the husband moves to closer to the kitchen, about 30 feet from his wife and repeats, "Honey, what's for dinner?"
Still no response.
Next he moves into the dining room where he is about 20 feet from his wife and asks, Honey, what's for dinner?"
Again he gets no response so, He walks up to the kitchen door, about 10 feet away. "Honey, what's for dinner?"
Again there is no response.
So he walks right up behind her. "Honey, what's for dinner?"
;
;
;
"James, for the FIFTH time I've said, CHICKEN!"
Moral of the story:
The problem may not be with the other one as we always think,
could be very much within us..!
Regards
Sawant
From Saudi Arabia
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