Dear Roshan,
If I understand him correctly, then he will call you back. It is his emotional need. Please do not succumb to any pity tactics.
At the same time, it is your turn to put emotional pressure on him. Get your experience certificate out. Salary is not important but papers are.
If you can, convince him that he did the right thing by letting you go. And you are very proud that he was able to make the decision..... blah blah blah, then you might just be able to get your work done. Some one who has so much self pity, alternatly, is bound to be a megalomaniac enough to succumb to praises.
Sounds a little extreme? Some problems need to be dealt with emotional intelligence. Professionalism only; might not work.
Try it and let me know if it works.
All the best buddy,
Kavitha
From India, Bangalore
6If I understand him correctly, then he will call you back. It is his emotional need. Please do not succumb to any pity tactics.
At the same time, it is your turn to put emotional pressure on him. Get your experience certificate out. Salary is not important but papers are.
If you can, convince him that he did the right thing by letting you go. And you are very proud that he was able to make the decision..... blah blah blah, then you might just be able to get your work done. Some one who has so much self pity, alternatly, is bound to be a megalomaniac enough to succumb to praises.
Sounds a little extreme? Some problems need to be dealt with emotional intelligence. Professionalism only; might not work.
Try it and let me know if it works.
All the best buddy,
Kavitha
From India, Bangalore
Hi !!
You need to admit that you made a big mistake. However everyone experiences the same in life- personal or professional- ONCE.
Don't be demotivated- Take it as a lesson and never ever fall into a MANs trap again in life.- Learn to say No assertively. That does not mean you will not get Men you can trust , however be professional at work and keep your personal life away.
Enjoy the Break !! ........and reach out to new hights. This is not the end of life.
Cheers !!
Neats
From India, Pune
You need to admit that you made a big mistake. However everyone experiences the same in life- personal or professional- ONCE.
Don't be demotivated- Take it as a lesson and never ever fall into a MANs trap again in life.- Learn to say No assertively. That does not mean you will not get Men you can trust , however be professional at work and keep your personal life away.
Enjoy the Break !! ........and reach out to new hights. This is not the end of life.
Cheers !!
Neats
From India, Pune
Dont behave stupid again-u r the cause-so learn from mistake and proceed-dont blame each and everything
Dear Friend,
What has happened cannot be corrected. Try to learn from this experience and grow as a person. Such things happen everyone's life in some way or the other affecting emotionally. Try to meet your friends talk to them and forget about this incident. I know it may be hard, but with every passing day the pain will become less and less and eventually you will feel relieved.
Take a positive view about life...Try to do good things .. even if someone has harmed you or tried it in that way...
You seem to have more strengths than weaknessess (as your mail suggests), hence getting a better job will just be a matter or time and I am sure that you will certainly find one soon...
Take Care ! & Cheer Up !
Debashis
From India, Lucknow
What has happened cannot be corrected. Try to learn from this experience and grow as a person. Such things happen everyone's life in some way or the other affecting emotionally. Try to meet your friends talk to them and forget about this incident. I know it may be hard, but with every passing day the pain will become less and less and eventually you will feel relieved.
Take a positive view about life...Try to do good things .. even if someone has harmed you or tried it in that way...
You seem to have more strengths than weaknessess (as your mail suggests), hence getting a better job will just be a matter or time and I am sure that you will certainly find one soon...
Take Care ! & Cheer Up !
Debashis
From India, Lucknow
i read
ur mesage
their is nothing to warry about.and don't be disheated
sometime it happened.but i can undersatnd that you face the situation so early.yeah ur decision was not correct to join the same organisation as aHr person we knew that mentaly satisafaction in awork place.
take it as a lesson nothing is end.
Go ahead .though it take time but you will get the job as your are capable enough and show excellence performance in your previous job.
instead of thiniikg that i made a mistake think how i have o come over with that. i am sure u will definately get the nice appourtunity.
All the Best:huh:
From India, Bhopal
ur mesage
their is nothing to warry about.and don't be disheated
sometime it happened.but i can undersatnd that you face the situation so early.yeah ur decision was not correct to join the same organisation as aHr person we knew that mentaly satisafaction in awork place.
take it as a lesson nothing is end.
Go ahead .though it take time but you will get the job as your are capable enough and show excellence performance in your previous job.
instead of thiniikg that i made a mistake think how i have o come over with that. i am sure u will definately get the nice appourtunity.
All the Best:huh:
From India, Bhopal
Dear friend,
It is really a woful sitution I agree, but you not mentioned your age qualification of KRA. I do think in future if you still hunting for job you should mention all this things so that if any Sr. HR recruter person logged on he may fell that yes, this is the person I want.
Let me tll that dont feel upsate and never lose your faith it will harmful for your carier stand up and fight I dont thik you done any thing wrong, but initially when you start geting personalized mail from your boss you should immidiately report to the higher authority or police for humlating through mail.
I am also working in a concern and running it you may mail me your resume I will definately like to contact guy like you
mail me at :
Thank you
Debajit Roy
Head - HR:)
From India, Mumbai
It is really a woful sitution I agree, but you not mentioned your age qualification of KRA. I do think in future if you still hunting for job you should mention all this things so that if any Sr. HR recruter person logged on he may fell that yes, this is the person I want.
Let me tll that dont feel upsate and never lose your faith it will harmful for your carier stand up and fight I dont thik you done any thing wrong, but initially when you start geting personalized mail from your boss you should immidiately report to the higher authority or police for humlating through mail.
I am also working in a concern and running it you may mail me your resume I will definately like to contact guy like you
mail me at :
Thank you
Debajit Roy
Head - HR:)
From India, Mumbai
I agree with Kavitha Janya’s tactic Roshan...........try it ASAP-but WHEN HE CALLS. You don’t make the move. Rgds, TS
From India, Hyderabad
From India, Hyderabad
Hi,
Take this as a experience well learnt & move on.We will be meeting all kinds of people throughout our life.So time is the best healer.
As of you-Never fall into self pity nor your self confidence.A friendly behaviour by you has ended up bad.So nothin wrong in your part.You even gave the other person a second chance which proved wrong for both of you.
You havent come acrossed such incidents so in a way its shocking & annoying for you.Come out of emotional trauma & look into your strenghts.
As you have mentioned you did multi tasking,managing team,inspiring others - you concentrate on that.
1 month gap doesnt mean you are not worth.All our sugesstions will be healing your wound but its in your hand to remove the scar.Takecare.
From India, Madras
Take this as a experience well learnt & move on.We will be meeting all kinds of people throughout our life.So time is the best healer.
As of you-Never fall into self pity nor your self confidence.A friendly behaviour by you has ended up bad.So nothin wrong in your part.You even gave the other person a second chance which proved wrong for both of you.
You havent come acrossed such incidents so in a way its shocking & annoying for you.Come out of emotional trauma & look into your strenghts.
As you have mentioned you did multi tasking,managing team,inspiring others - you concentrate on that.
1 month gap doesnt mean you are not worth.All our sugesstions will be healing your wound but its in your hand to remove the scar.Takecare.
From India, Madras
Hi Roshan,
I completely agree with Lijesh, this experiance have taught you many things which you have to understand and take in a positive spirit for your future career.
1. You have to circled the limits arround you, beyond which you shouldnt give extra time to your collegues like hangout, movies etc etc. Its ok once in a while not frequently
2. You need to adhere to you work responsibilities and do the specialization in the same. When you try to do every thing it might happen you are disturbing somebody else's work unknowingly.
3. Learn to say No.
4. Belive on your capacities,which will help you to say NO - when you want to say it.
5. However your an important employee of the company that company can still run without you.
6. Be Professional
and so on.......
All these things or more than this u learned from this single experiance, there are meny people who takes years to understand this. So your lucky that you learned everything from one bitter experiance.
Cheer up and Dont stop.
All the best
Cheers!!!!
Ashwini Prajapati
From India, Mumbai
I completely agree with Lijesh, this experiance have taught you many things which you have to understand and take in a positive spirit for your future career.
1. You have to circled the limits arround you, beyond which you shouldnt give extra time to your collegues like hangout, movies etc etc. Its ok once in a while not frequently
2. You need to adhere to you work responsibilities and do the specialization in the same. When you try to do every thing it might happen you are disturbing somebody else's work unknowingly.
3. Learn to say No.
4. Belive on your capacities,which will help you to say NO - when you want to say it.
5. However your an important employee of the company that company can still run without you.
6. Be Professional
and so on.......
All these things or more than this u learned from this single experiance, there are meny people who takes years to understand this. So your lucky that you learned everything from one bitter experiance.
Cheer up and Dont stop.
All the best
Cheers!!!!
Ashwini Prajapati
From India, Mumbai
Dear Roshan,
That was real bad exp
There is saying Tough people last forever but Tough times does not
Dude you are strong .
Appreciate yourself for being tough and fighting in such a hard situation and coming out as survival .
Here are answers to your Q'
Suggest me guys where I was wrong or right?
You are right and carry this exp with you that in world there are two types of people one good and one Bad. Since We are into HR Judge them by Brain and Heart
and accordingly gel with them otherwise avoid at first instance.
Where do I need to improve?
As i said earlier be soft to yourself forgive that GAY but don't forget that mistake or Exp
so that next time you will be Aware how to react.
What can I do to go ahead with High Spirits?
For Your High spirits
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF , HAVE FAITH IN GOD ,STAND UP AND REGAIN YOUR CONFIDENCE BY THINKING YOU ARE SURVIVOR:p.
If you will be in low spirit then that Gay will be winner in his mission
There is more-self esteem site you can visit that its very helpful to bring back your self esteem
This is not end of life DUDE
THERE IS WONDERFUL LIFE WAITING AHEAD JUST CHANGE YOUR FOCUS .
Regards
shruti
HR
From India, Mumbai
That was real bad exp
There is saying Tough people last forever but Tough times does not
Dude you are strong .
Appreciate yourself for being tough and fighting in such a hard situation and coming out as survival .
Here are answers to your Q'
Suggest me guys where I was wrong or right?
You are right and carry this exp with you that in world there are two types of people one good and one Bad. Since We are into HR Judge them by Brain and Heart
and accordingly gel with them otherwise avoid at first instance.
Where do I need to improve?
As i said earlier be soft to yourself forgive that GAY but don't forget that mistake or Exp
so that next time you will be Aware how to react.
What can I do to go ahead with High Spirits?
For Your High spirits
BELIEVE IN YOURSELF , HAVE FAITH IN GOD ,STAND UP AND REGAIN YOUR CONFIDENCE BY THINKING YOU ARE SURVIVOR:p.
If you will be in low spirit then that Gay will be winner in his mission
There is more-self esteem site you can visit that its very helpful to bring back your self esteem
This is not end of life DUDE
THERE IS WONDERFUL LIFE WAITING AHEAD JUST CHANGE YOUR FOCUS .
Regards
shruti
HR
From India, Mumbai
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