Hi,
You are in a difficult situation, probably because you have been brought up in a free atmosphere, which is why you are feeling the difference. My suggestions are:
1. For the time being, "In Rome, do as the Romans do."
2. Get some work experience and then move out of Rome. Head to a metropolitan area like Delhi/NCR where you will not face this kind of problem. The interiors of our country are still living in the Stone Age when it comes to the treatment of women, so it's better to leave such places rather than continue getting frustrated. The issue with staying too long in such places is that very soon, YOU MAY BECOME ONE OF THEM.
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38You are in a difficult situation, probably because you have been brought up in a free atmosphere, which is why you are feeling the difference. My suggestions are:
1. For the time being, "In Rome, do as the Romans do."
2. Get some work experience and then move out of Rome. Head to a metropolitan area like Delhi/NCR where you will not face this kind of problem. The interiors of our country are still living in the Stone Age when it comes to the treatment of women, so it's better to leave such places rather than continue getting frustrated. The issue with staying too long in such places is that very soon, YOU MAY BECOME ONE OF THEM.
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Hi Kriti,
It's a human nature "curiosity" and it’s a very common thing in the small town like Agra, it may be a plus point also that the people of such places interested in other, not like Metros where nobody bothers for other, it’s definitely not a question of stone age and backwardness of people, it's just a mindset and which is now improving, you may feel awkward and bad this because you are new to this kind of atmosphere, and leaving the job for a silly reason, that others are not happy is not a good idea, I feel the suggestion given by Mr. Sayeed and Mr. Vikash are very good and will help you.
Best of luck.
and the tag line of Manish is very good ""Every day I get up and look through the Forbes list of the richest people. If I'm not there, I go to work!!!"
Regards,
KC
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It's a human nature "curiosity" and it’s a very common thing in the small town like Agra, it may be a plus point also that the people of such places interested in other, not like Metros where nobody bothers for other, it’s definitely not a question of stone age and backwardness of people, it's just a mindset and which is now improving, you may feel awkward and bad this because you are new to this kind of atmosphere, and leaving the job for a silly reason, that others are not happy is not a good idea, I feel the suggestion given by Mr. Sayeed and Mr. Vikash are very good and will help you.
Best of luck.
and the tag line of Manish is very good ""Every day I get up and look through the Forbes list of the richest people. If I'm not there, I go to work!!!"
Regards,
KC
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Hi Kriti,
Based on my experience, you should not be concerned about what others say or think. If you know that you are right, that is what matters most. The most challenging situation arises when you have to answer to your conscience. The main issue to address is your head/boss. If he says something, clarify with him. If he does not say anything but behaves abnormally, you can approach him directly and say, "Sir, here the people have different views. They do not appreciate when a man communicates with a woman. I am sharing this with you because I believe you are mature, open-minded, and can comprehend." This statement could potentially alter his perspective, if not permanently, at least in your favor. This is the crux of the matter.
Hope this approach proves effective!
From India, Delhi
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Based on my experience, you should not be concerned about what others say or think. If you know that you are right, that is what matters most. The most challenging situation arises when you have to answer to your conscience. The main issue to address is your head/boss. If he says something, clarify with him. If he does not say anything but behaves abnormally, you can approach him directly and say, "Sir, here the people have different views. They do not appreciate when a man communicates with a woman. I am sharing this with you because I believe you are mature, open-minded, and can comprehend." This statement could potentially alter his perspective, if not permanently, at least in your favor. This is the crux of the matter.
Hope this approach proves effective!
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Hi Kriti,
I also belong to Agra and completed my Master's from Gujarat. Due to these types of problems or the mentality of people, I did not work in my hometown. After many years, I realized that I was wrong. Isn't it strange? Today, I feel that I faced the same problems when starting in Gujarat as well. However, I dealt with them confidently and strongly. I didn't care about the world and worked with challenges. So, I suggest you stay where you are and don't overthink. Focus on your career goals, where you want to be, and how you will get there. Concentrate and leave aside those who criticize you. Look within yourself to understand why they are targeting you. Don't give them too much attention. Maintain a professional demeanor for a few days.
I hope these problems will be resolved.
Don't overthink.
Regards,
S P Nayak
HR Head
From India
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I also belong to Agra and completed my Master's from Gujarat. Due to these types of problems or the mentality of people, I did not work in my hometown. After many years, I realized that I was wrong. Isn't it strange? Today, I feel that I faced the same problems when starting in Gujarat as well. However, I dealt with them confidently and strongly. I didn't care about the world and worked with challenges. So, I suggest you stay where you are and don't overthink. Focus on your career goals, where you want to be, and how you will get there. Concentrate and leave aside those who criticize you. Look within yourself to understand why they are targeting you. Don't give them too much attention. Maintain a professional demeanor for a few days.
I hope these problems will be resolved.
Don't overthink.
Regards,
S P Nayak
HR Head
From India
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Thank you all for your valuable suggestions. It will definitely help me out, and I have started implementing it as well. I hope to see a positive change in and around my environment soon. However, as many have said, I am new in the system; therefore, I have to first understand the place and the culture out here before changing myself or considering change. I think I need to stick to the company for some time as well; otherwise, presenting my work experience for three months will show instability.
Thank you all once again for taking the time to write your feedback. Everyone's suggestions are good.
@ Manish: Really loved your quote "Every day I see Forbes magazine."
From India, Agra
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Thank you all once again for taking the time to write your feedback. Everyone's suggestions are good.
@ Manish: Really loved your quote "Every day I see Forbes magazine."
From India, Agra
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Dear Kirti concentrate on your work, try to understand the culture of office,spend some time in office.People should know about you. Thanks & regards Vinod Yadav
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Dear Kriti,
I would suggest some things:
One, list down the purpose for you being at that place - in detail. This will clear things for you in the first place. That is because if you are sure of what you are there for, you will hardly get time to waste on other irrelevant opinions.
Two, time is extremely important, so while you spend time understanding people and culture there, focus on what really matters to you and your growth - in the long run. Keep working and performing on areas that are out of your responsibility too. This will indirectly inform everyone that they have a mute leader among them, always ready to contribute and make a difference, and not just to pass the time.
Three, be honest with yourself and your intentions. What people think about your moves is their problem, not yours.
Everything happens for a purpose, so rather than getting bothered about what people think, keep following your heart and you will keep feeling good from within irrespective of what keeps happening outside.
Let me know if you need any further support on the same. I am learning and living in a similar situation, and just sharing the way I'm growing at my workplace.
Warm Regards,
Kirtan
Business Strategist
From India, Ahmadabad
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I would suggest some things:
One, list down the purpose for you being at that place - in detail. This will clear things for you in the first place. That is because if you are sure of what you are there for, you will hardly get time to waste on other irrelevant opinions.
Two, time is extremely important, so while you spend time understanding people and culture there, focus on what really matters to you and your growth - in the long run. Keep working and performing on areas that are out of your responsibility too. This will indirectly inform everyone that they have a mute leader among them, always ready to contribute and make a difference, and not just to pass the time.
Three, be honest with yourself and your intentions. What people think about your moves is their problem, not yours.
Everything happens for a purpose, so rather than getting bothered about what people think, keep following your heart and you will keep feeling good from within irrespective of what keeps happening outside.
Let me know if you need any further support on the same. I am learning and living in a similar situation, and just sharing the way I'm growing at my workplace.
Warm Regards,
Kirtan
Business Strategist
From India, Ahmadabad
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First of all establish yourself in this new company and then think about changing things surround you.
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Dear Ma'am,
I think the discussed subject is only one side of the coin.
Throughout my career, I have seen many offices/establishments where employees chat with each other without any valid reasons, ultimately resulting in not only low productivity but also spoiling the quality of other employees who continue to work nearby. The common places are water/tea vending machines, meeting rooms, lounges, and even workstations, etc. I have also witnessed some organizations where the management had to notify employees about this. Unfortunately, the percentage of female employees engaging in this behavior is higher. (Ladies, please excuse!)
Although some amount of oral communication is natural and necessary, excessive talking during office hours really hampers productivity and quality.
Having said this, it is advisable to focus more on the task at hand and avoid unnecessary chitchat. I do not believe there are seniors in your establishment who are neglecting to address your assignment-related queries and concerns.
Regards,
Arun Dixit
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I think the discussed subject is only one side of the coin.
Throughout my career, I have seen many offices/establishments where employees chat with each other without any valid reasons, ultimately resulting in not only low productivity but also spoiling the quality of other employees who continue to work nearby. The common places are water/tea vending machines, meeting rooms, lounges, and even workstations, etc. I have also witnessed some organizations where the management had to notify employees about this. Unfortunately, the percentage of female employees engaging in this behavior is higher. (Ladies, please excuse!)
Although some amount of oral communication is natural and necessary, excessive talking during office hours really hampers productivity and quality.
Having said this, it is advisable to focus more on the task at hand and avoid unnecessary chitchat. I do not believe there are seniors in your establishment who are neglecting to address your assignment-related queries and concerns.
Regards,
Arun Dixit
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