Hello Everyone,
I have been working in a Media Company for 3 months in Agra where the thinking of the people is very rigid, and they are not willing to change. Moreover, as I've heard from my HR Manager and other colleagues, people are so negative and spread rumors when female employees talk to male employees. This situation makes it difficult for me to communicate effectively. Even male employees are hesitant to talk due to the fear of rumors about affairs.
Even our CMD boss doesn't appreciate or like it when male employees talk to female employees. Please suggest what can be done as we can't change people's way of thinking, especially when our seniors and CMD sir also don't approve.
Thank you.
From India, Agra
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I have been working in a Media Company for 3 months in Agra where the thinking of the people is very rigid, and they are not willing to change. Moreover, as I've heard from my HR Manager and other colleagues, people are so negative and spread rumors when female employees talk to male employees. This situation makes it difficult for me to communicate effectively. Even male employees are hesitant to talk due to the fear of rumors about affairs.
Even our CMD boss doesn't appreciate or like it when male employees talk to female employees. Please suggest what can be done as we can't change people's way of thinking, especially when our seniors and CMD sir also don't approve.
Thank you.
From India, Agra
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Hi Kriti,
Be bold, that's it. People in the initial stage may pass comments directly or indirectly. Later, they will also change. If you have no problem, then don't bother about others. But at the same time, keep your work done on time. People are educated but not broad-minded. I call them educated illiterates. Chill out and enjoy your life rather than thinking of others.
From India, Bangalore
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21Be bold, that's it. People in the initial stage may pass comments directly or indirectly. Later, they will also change. If you have no problem, then don't bother about others. But at the same time, keep your work done on time. People are educated but not broad-minded. I call them educated illiterates. Chill out and enjoy your life rather than thinking of others.
From India, Bangalore
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Well this is human nature we can’t change, and thanks to our country culture where still we think unenthusiastic once the female colleague gossip to male.
(Frankly sometimes me to, but ignore it.)
As per my opinion If we are good then whole world is Good. (If we are negative then whole world is wrong)
So, as far as if you didn’t have any wrong intention or thinking to talk with your associate then, no need to fear any one. (But you should respect your senior/managers, as this is also one of our country culture to respect others.)
Coming to the point, below is some tips further to avoid any more tragedy.
1, Kindly avoid to talk male colleague in front of your senior/managers.
2, Kindly avoid your frustration in front of senior/managers, and keep smiling as smile is the best cure for all problems.
3, Communicate with your senior/managers regarding your open mind and try to convince them that you are modern type and didn’t believe in affairs etc.
Even you can say that you belongs to Reputed family and this things doesn’t suit you.
4, Convince them that you are junior and needs to gain lots of knowledge/experience in regards to Work, and doesn’t have time for any unwanted activity like affairs etc.
5, lastly, we can’t change the thinking of the peoples, but we can make them understand by presenting ourself in a better way.
Thank you,
From Kuwait, Hawalli
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(Frankly sometimes me to, but ignore it.)
As per my opinion If we are good then whole world is Good. (If we are negative then whole world is wrong)
So, as far as if you didn’t have any wrong intention or thinking to talk with your associate then, no need to fear any one. (But you should respect your senior/managers, as this is also one of our country culture to respect others.)
Coming to the point, below is some tips further to avoid any more tragedy.
1, Kindly avoid to talk male colleague in front of your senior/managers.
2, Kindly avoid your frustration in front of senior/managers, and keep smiling as smile is the best cure for all problems.
3, Communicate with your senior/managers regarding your open mind and try to convince them that you are modern type and didn’t believe in affairs etc.
Even you can say that you belongs to Reputed family and this things doesn’t suit you.
4, Convince them that you are junior and needs to gain lots of knowledge/experience in regards to Work, and doesn’t have time for any unwanted activity like affairs etc.
5, lastly, we can’t change the thinking of the peoples, but we can make them understand by presenting ourself in a better way.
Thank you,
From Kuwait, Hawalli
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Seriously, we all need to think about it. But, from my perspective, we often encounter such issues in our organization. People can be selfish about their work and frequently engage in gossip.
My approach to work is different; I prefer to focus on work while in the office and avoid interfering with anyone's personal life.
Therefore, you should concentrate on your work and not allow others to interfere with your personal and professional life. If you conduct yourself fairly, no one will dare to say anything negative about you. It doesn't matter whom you are talking to or where you are going! Live like a king.
Cheers! Sunita Sandhu 9810504481
From India, Delhi
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My approach to work is different; I prefer to focus on work while in the office and avoid interfering with anyone's personal life.
Therefore, you should concentrate on your work and not allow others to interfere with your personal and professional life. If you conduct yourself fairly, no one will dare to say anything negative about you. It doesn't matter whom you are talking to or where you are going! Live like a king.
Cheers! Sunita Sandhu 9810504481
From India, Delhi
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Dear Kriti what I suggest you is..Just say that you are engaged or commited to a guy.This way you can avoid the gossips at office. Regards, Anu Sr.Process Associate - Human Resources.
From India, Mumbai
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From India, Mumbai
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Hi Kriti,
Sometimes the office culture demands you to behave in a certain way that may not align with your usual behavior.
Organizations like the one you are in are indeed very old school in their thoughts and mindset.
What I sincerely suggest is that if you are new to the company, take your time to settle down and then consider initiating change gradually.
Changing an office culture is usually not easy, so avoid giving the impression that as a newcomer, you are trying to alter long-established practices abruptly. Allow your colleagues time to understand you before implementing any changes.
I hope this helps.
From India, Mumbai
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Sometimes the office culture demands you to behave in a certain way that may not align with your usual behavior.
Organizations like the one you are in are indeed very old school in their thoughts and mindset.
What I sincerely suggest is that if you are new to the company, take your time to settle down and then consider initiating change gradually.
Changing an office culture is usually not easy, so avoid giving the impression that as a newcomer, you are trying to alter long-established practices abruptly. Allow your colleagues time to understand you before implementing any changes.
I hope this helps.
From India, Mumbai
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Dear Kriti,
Please be bold. Many times we have to change ourselves to fit the environment. The people here are really not very open-minded. So, being a girl in an HR role, you need to have a balanced approach. You should be genuine in your interactions with everyone, regardless of gender. The nature of your profession requires communication, so you cannot isolate yourself. Genuine behavior will benefit you in the long run. People, in general, will come to understand you better as time passes and will develop respect and concern for you if you maintain a professional demeanor.
At the same time, do not get too involved in conversations with one individual and avoid creating opportunities for overly personal relationships in the workplace. Refrain from getting too deeply involved with the same employee on multiple issues. While these suggestions primarily apply to public life, it is important to note that your private life can eventually impact your public image. I hope these behavioral tips will be beneficial to you.
WITH WARM WISHES,
DS
From India, Kanpur
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Please be bold. Many times we have to change ourselves to fit the environment. The people here are really not very open-minded. So, being a girl in an HR role, you need to have a balanced approach. You should be genuine in your interactions with everyone, regardless of gender. The nature of your profession requires communication, so you cannot isolate yourself. Genuine behavior will benefit you in the long run. People, in general, will come to understand you better as time passes and will develop respect and concern for you if you maintain a professional demeanor.
At the same time, do not get too involved in conversations with one individual and avoid creating opportunities for overly personal relationships in the workplace. Refrain from getting too deeply involved with the same employee on multiple issues. While these suggestions primarily apply to public life, it is important to note that your private life can eventually impact your public image. I hope these behavioral tips will be beneficial to you.
WITH WARM WISHES,
DS
From India, Kanpur
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Hi Kriti,
You have great comments there. I would go by Drmz... He is right. At the same time, you might want to be professional and specific when you talk. It doesn't matter if we talk less at times; it helps get the ears of the others... :-)
From United States, Daphne
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You have great comments there. I would go by Drmz... He is right. At the same time, you might want to be professional and specific when you talk. It doesn't matter if we talk less at times; it helps get the ears of the others... :-)
From United States, Daphne
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Hi Kirti,
Many years ago, I watched a movie and understood that if you want to be different from others, you should act differently.
Don't be afraid in this kind of situation because with every step we take, we encounter problems, and we must act accordingly.
Working in any culture is challenging for everyone (man or woman) until they develop their personality traits or style.
In your case, your personality style is trapped between the instincts of being "famous" and "infamous," which can create stress in your mind and decrease your efficiency towards work.
Here are some tips to help you overcome your problem:
1. Be composed, cool, and polite.
2. Be a good listener and avoid engaging in gossip.
3. Share your ideas with your seniors, peers, and subordinates.
4. Respect your seniors and colleagues.
5. Communicate effectively; avoid making loose statements.
6. Observe others and act accordingly.
7. Deliver your results on time.
8. Be emotional but act professionally.
9. Have faith in yourself.
Engage yourself in doing your best rather than just being good.
I hope these tips help you in your journey.
From India
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Many years ago, I watched a movie and understood that if you want to be different from others, you should act differently.
Don't be afraid in this kind of situation because with every step we take, we encounter problems, and we must act accordingly.
Working in any culture is challenging for everyone (man or woman) until they develop their personality traits or style.
In your case, your personality style is trapped between the instincts of being "famous" and "infamous," which can create stress in your mind and decrease your efficiency towards work.
Here are some tips to help you overcome your problem:
1. Be composed, cool, and polite.
2. Be a good listener and avoid engaging in gossip.
3. Share your ideas with your seniors, peers, and subordinates.
4. Respect your seniors and colleagues.
5. Communicate effectively; avoid making loose statements.
6. Observe others and act accordingly.
7. Deliver your results on time.
8. Be emotional but act professionally.
9. Have faith in yourself.
Engage yourself in doing your best rather than just being good.
I hope these tips help you in your journey.
From India
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