hey frnds,
I need help. In my husband's organization, there r two employees who r nw getting on my nerves by their daily activities.they are best frnds of my husband. I am HR there, they dont maintain decorum in the office nd breaks one rule every day. If I say them anything, my Husband scolds me....because of there deeds I hv got scoldings from my husband in office many times due to them not working in proper way !!!
I dont kno what to do !!!!
Plzzzzzzzzz suggest me what to do, so that I can avoid this or.....just suggest me smthing to come out of this situation !!!!
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with warm regards
Richa.
From India, Mumbai
I need help. In my husband's organization, there r two employees who r nw getting on my nerves by their daily activities.they are best frnds of my husband. I am HR there, they dont maintain decorum in the office nd breaks one rule every day. If I say them anything, my Husband scolds me....because of there deeds I hv got scoldings from my husband in office many times due to them not working in proper way !!!
I dont kno what to do !!!!
Plzzzzzzzzz suggest me what to do, so that I can avoid this or.....just suggest me smthing to come out of this situation !!!!
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with warm regards
Richa.
From India, Mumbai
Richa, Your husband needs counselling as he interfere in discharging your duties effectively. pon
From India, Lucknow
604From India, Lucknow
Dear Richa,
I am sure, it doesn't feel you any good when your husband scolds you in office for delivering your job. Have you ever considered how would it feel when your boss would hold you responsible for being incompetent and fire you for not being able to deliver your responsibilities?
Please take a stand. I second Pon1965. Your husband needs direction.
Tell us more about your firm. Is it a startup? How is the discipline valued by the company? What role is your husband working in your office? Does he hold the authority to remain responsible for these two friends whom he supports so much ? In what roles are these two employees working? How far does their work allows them to avail flexi-timing and a relaxed behavior?
What about your manager? Discuss it with him and find a way out. Office discipline and decorum needs to be respected. Nepotism can only lead to complications. Draw a line to balance a healthy working environment , but remain firm.
Wish you all the best!
Regards,
(Cite Contribution)
From India, Mumbai
I am sure, it doesn't feel you any good when your husband scolds you in office for delivering your job. Have you ever considered how would it feel when your boss would hold you responsible for being incompetent and fire you for not being able to deliver your responsibilities?
Please take a stand. I second Pon1965. Your husband needs direction.
Tell us more about your firm. Is it a startup? How is the discipline valued by the company? What role is your husband working in your office? Does he hold the authority to remain responsible for these two friends whom he supports so much ? In what roles are these two employees working? How far does their work allows them to avail flexi-timing and a relaxed behavior?
What about your manager? Discuss it with him and find a way out. Office discipline and decorum needs to be respected. Nepotism can only lead to complications. Draw a line to balance a healthy working environment , but remain firm.
Wish you all the best!
Regards,
(Cite Contribution)
From India, Mumbai
Hi Richa,
Agreeing to what Pon and (Cite Contribution) have mentioned, You, dealing with issue directly might create problem in your personal life so its better to seek help from an HR colleague to resolve this and through this person initiate a counseling or proper coaching for your husband...
You haven't mentioned about the designations and roles you both play in organisation...as it might help to resolve the query raised here.
There are chances that the friends of your husband involved are instigating him in some way or the other, i have seen this happening in one of the organisation i worked for, but timely interference of the HR head really saved the boat......
We look forward for the answers from you....before we discuss it further...
Regards,
From India, Delhi
Agreeing to what Pon and (Cite Contribution) have mentioned, You, dealing with issue directly might create problem in your personal life so its better to seek help from an HR colleague to resolve this and through this person initiate a counseling or proper coaching for your husband...
You haven't mentioned about the designations and roles you both play in organisation...as it might help to resolve the query raised here.
There are chances that the friends of your husband involved are instigating him in some way or the other, i have seen this happening in one of the organisation i worked for, but timely interference of the HR head really saved the boat......
We look forward for the answers from you....before we discuss it further...
Regards,
From India, Delhi
Dear Mrs. Richa,
I second to PON and Ms. (Cite Contribution).
This sounds like FAMILY BUSINESS where your HUSBAND'S FRIENDS are also a part of it. Kindly do remember one thing PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP, BUSINESS RELATIONSHIP and FRIENDSHIP are 3 DIFFERENT CIRCLES, which should never mix up nor should become SUBSET of any other.
I am sure you are smart than your husband as you give preference to PROFESSIONAL DEALINGS at workplace. My advice to you, is to have HIGH LEVEL DISCUSSION with your HUSBAND, ensure that YOU BOTH ARE DISCUSSING ABOUT YOUR BUSINESS(SOURCE OF LIVING) WHILE VALUING YOUR PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP, which is more than PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIP.
You can do it, if you can succeed in explaining things in RIGHT WAY to your husband by using the RIGHT APPROACH........
Wish you GOOD LUCK because your case is VERY SENSITIVE.......
With profound regards
From India, Chennai
I second to PON and Ms. (Cite Contribution).
This sounds like FAMILY BUSINESS where your HUSBAND'S FRIENDS are also a part of it. Kindly do remember one thing PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP, BUSINESS RELATIONSHIP and FRIENDSHIP are 3 DIFFERENT CIRCLES, which should never mix up nor should become SUBSET of any other.
I am sure you are smart than your husband as you give preference to PROFESSIONAL DEALINGS at workplace. My advice to you, is to have HIGH LEVEL DISCUSSION with your HUSBAND, ensure that YOU BOTH ARE DISCUSSING ABOUT YOUR BUSINESS(SOURCE OF LIVING) WHILE VALUING YOUR PERSONAL RELATIONSHIP, which is more than PROFESSIONAL RELATIONSHIP.
You can do it, if you can succeed in explaining things in RIGHT WAY to your husband by using the RIGHT APPROACH........
Wish you GOOD LUCK because your case is VERY SENSITIVE.......
With profound regards
From India, Chennai
Hello Richa,
(Cite Contribution) & Archna are right--unless you give more inputs, any suggestions/solutions would be futile, and in the extreme end, counter-productive.
Though I can see a few things you can do, it would be premature to mention them without knowing the full picture of your situation.
Rgds,
TS
From India, Hyderabad
(Cite Contribution) & Archna are right--unless you give more inputs, any suggestions/solutions would be futile, and in the extreme end, counter-productive.
Though I can see a few things you can do, it would be premature to mention them without knowing the full picture of your situation.
Rgds,
TS
From India, Hyderabad
Dear Richa,
Our friends with experience in HR have given some advice and raised some questions. Let me ask some specific questions to help you to give a complete picture.
I hope you have heard of Rudyard Kipling's six Wise Men or Honest Serving Men: What and Why and When
And How and Where and Who.
What sort of an organisation is yours? How mnay people work there? Where or in which department do you, you husband, and his friends work? Are his friends male or female?
How long have you been both working for the firm?
What are their activities that really get on your nerves? What rules are they breaking?
Who is your boss?
I am sure you are capable of forming your own questions and answering them to give us a complete picture of what is happening. If we could only read your mind from afar, we could have helped you. But we can't; hence, help us by giving as much detail as you can to guide you.
Have a nice day.
Simhan
A retired academic in the UK
From United Kingdom
Our friends with experience in HR have given some advice and raised some questions. Let me ask some specific questions to help you to give a complete picture.
I hope you have heard of Rudyard Kipling's six Wise Men or Honest Serving Men: What and Why and When
And How and Where and Who.
What sort of an organisation is yours? How mnay people work there? Where or in which department do you, you husband, and his friends work? Are his friends male or female?
How long have you been both working for the firm?
What are their activities that really get on your nerves? What rules are they breaking?
Who is your boss?
I am sure you are capable of forming your own questions and answering them to give us a complete picture of what is happening. If we could only read your mind from afar, we could have helped you. But we can't; hence, help us by giving as much detail as you can to guide you.
Have a nice day.
Simhan
A retired academic in the UK
From United Kingdom
Hey Richa,
You said above that you are HR wht HR???? Are you a MANAGER or HEAD-HR or what???
See if you are HR-MANAGER/HR-HEAD can solve this problem easily by making a policy against this kind of activities in your Organization and the peoples along with these two guys and you can stop this....and I dont think other peoples need to tell you about how to make a Policy but believe me this is the best way to solve your problem.
Second thing I wanna know from you on what position your husband is working in your organization and other two peoples you are saying about...
And the most important thing dear, I wud suggest you to change your job, both Husband -Wife shud not work in the same Organization and you can understand this ...
Once again if you are in power, make a Organizaton Policy in this regard....
From India, Gurgaon
You said above that you are HR wht HR???? Are you a MANAGER or HEAD-HR or what???
See if you are HR-MANAGER/HR-HEAD can solve this problem easily by making a policy against this kind of activities in your Organization and the peoples along with these two guys and you can stop this....and I dont think other peoples need to tell you about how to make a Policy but believe me this is the best way to solve your problem.
Second thing I wanna know from you on what position your husband is working in your organization and other two peoples you are saying about...
And the most important thing dear, I wud suggest you to change your job, both Husband -Wife shud not work in the same Organization and you can understand this ...
Once again if you are in power, make a Organizaton Policy in this regard....
From India, Gurgaon
Thank U all for ur valuable suggestions.
We have started our business jst 2 months ago nd everything is going well. ours is an IT company with 25 employees and I am HR Head there and my husband is MD. If we talk 'bt hs frnds..both r again husband-wife...in which husband is Marketing Manager and wife is Accounts Manager.
and as said by anilkr...yes I can make nw rules bt thing is tht has to be followed nd if they r not followed thn its useless to make thm !!!
Looking forward for ur more valuable suggestions.
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With warm regards
Richa
From India, Mumbai
We have started our business jst 2 months ago nd everything is going well. ours is an IT company with 25 employees and I am HR Head there and my husband is MD. If we talk 'bt hs frnds..both r again husband-wife...in which husband is Marketing Manager and wife is Accounts Manager.
and as said by anilkr...yes I can make nw rules bt thing is tht has to be followed nd if they r not followed thn its useless to make thm !!!
Looking forward for ur more valuable suggestions.
--
With warm regards
Richa
From India, Mumbai
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