Hi,
Some people are tough in the beginning to work with …as relationship develops they ease out in the relationship..some people are bad at mouth but good at heart as my x-boss who used slangs like I will throw you out of this bloody window but when he used to meet you in official parties he was a thorough Gentlemen in the beginning I found tough to understand his personality ..but slowly slowly I understood his style of working his likes and dislikes and I used to work as per that ……with the time the gap narrowed and I didn’t had any problems with him…….others used to come and ask me how do I handle such a tough guy so I suppose in the beginning since there are teething problems hence one find it difficult to adjust just relax understand his requirement, know his likes and dislikes and I think you would be in a better situation in the time to follow…if still things persists be ready for the worse as well and look for options …..one should always be calculative ..as said pls do your SWOT Analysis hence be prepared for everything , anything and nothing……….Though Very easy to say that if going gets tough ….you also become tougher….
From United Kingdom
3Some people are tough in the beginning to work with …as relationship develops they ease out in the relationship..some people are bad at mouth but good at heart as my x-boss who used slangs like I will throw you out of this bloody window but when he used to meet you in official parties he was a thorough Gentlemen in the beginning I found tough to understand his personality ..but slowly slowly I understood his style of working his likes and dislikes and I used to work as per that ……with the time the gap narrowed and I didn’t had any problems with him…….others used to come and ask me how do I handle such a tough guy so I suppose in the beginning since there are teething problems hence one find it difficult to adjust just relax understand his requirement, know his likes and dislikes and I think you would be in a better situation in the time to follow…if still things persists be ready for the worse as well and look for options …..one should always be calculative ..as said pls do your SWOT Analysis hence be prepared for everything , anything and nothing……….Though Very easy to say that if going gets tough ….you also become tougher….
From United Kingdom
hi,
do the following things.
1. observe your boss carefully and try to find out his likings anf dislikings.
2. try to find what makes him annoyed most, avoid those and suggest your other friends to do the same.
3.try to know about the his habits at his singapore office. if you find any difference, reason it out. if he behaves same at singapore office also, then its your luck. your boss is like that.
4. if you find change of behaviour of your boss at singapore office try to know his singapore office's culture.
see the end of this episode. dont leave the job instantly. you are undergoing a valuable experience.
borhan
From Bangladesh, Dhaka
do the following things.
1. observe your boss carefully and try to find out his likings anf dislikings.
2. try to find what makes him annoyed most, avoid those and suggest your other friends to do the same.
3.try to know about the his habits at his singapore office. if you find any difference, reason it out. if he behaves same at singapore office also, then its your luck. your boss is like that.
4. if you find change of behaviour of your boss at singapore office try to know his singapore office's culture.
see the end of this episode. dont leave the job instantly. you are undergoing a valuable experience.
borhan
From Bangladesh, Dhaka
U might have heard that,,,"Boss is always Right",,,,,,,guess wat!!!he is not known that he is making you strong professionally........ dont leave the path which will take you to long way,,,,,,:)
From India, Delhi
From India, Delhi
Hi Shweta,I have a different take on this. I know it may be difficult right now, but if you have supportive colleagues, you all can together try to communicate subtly to the Big Bad Boss how atrocious his behaviour actually is.In any case, while you are using this opportunity to pick up key skills in HR and interpersonal interactions, do not allow the experience to mar you or make you bitter.As they say," Employees join a Company, but leave a bad boss". I have personally seen this happen so many times that I know that it cannot just be brushed away as being inconsequential.If you cannot take the pressure or if the behaviour becomes personally taxing, do remember that the world is a big place and there are lots of opportunities elsewhere. I don't think one needs to be a martyr in this day and age.All the best!Regards,SD..
From India, Bhubaneswar
From India, Bhubaneswar
Hi Sweeta,
My previous advise may not have understood correctly so here is systematic approach to deal with such difficult boss as follows:
Most people at some point in their lives have to deal with a difficult boss. Difficult supervisors vary in personality from being a little pushy or rude, all the way to being downright abusive. Many people feel that an abusive boss has control of their personal life outside of work by lowering their self-esteem and making them live in constant fear. The role of a supervisor sometimes attracts certain controlling-type personalities because they crave the power it gives them and because they lack such control in their own personal lives. A supervisor has complete control over your most basic human needs—your ability to put food on the table and a roof over your head. These are powerful motivating factors that allow a difficult supervisor to control people out of fear of losing these basic needs. We may not be able to always correct their behavior, but we should never have to live in fear and let our difficult boss control our lives.
Here are some strategies on handling a difficult boss situation.
Always have a plan B. Most people are scared about having a discussion with their boss concerning their abusive behavior because they fear reprimand or losing their job. Their fear is usually justified if the supervisor is a control-freak and feels that their subordinate is threatening their control. Before you deal with any type of conflict, you always need to have a plan B in case things don’t work out. A plan B is the best alternative that you can come up without having to negotiate anything with your boss. In this type of scenario, your best plan B would probably take the form of having an actual job offer in hand with another employer before you have your talk. By not having a back-up plan, you have given your abusive boss even more leverage over you because they know you have no where else to go. Having a plan B, however, empowers you with the ability to walk-away at any time should the negotiation not go right. Increase your power and have a plan B before you deal with the conflict.
Never react to verbal abuse or harsh criticism with emotion. This will always get you into more trouble than you started with because it will become a war between egos and chances are good that your boss has a bigger ego than you have—hence why he is difficult in the first place. When a personal attack is made on you, they are trying to bait you into reacting emotionally because once you react, you become an easy target for additional attacks. The key then is not to react, but to acknowledge and move on. By doing this, you effectively strip all of the power behind their verbal attacks away from your abusive boss, without creating conflict. If your boss happens to be an intimidator or a control freak, then the best way of dealing with their behavior is to remain calm and acknowledge their power by saying, "You're right, I'm sorry." By saying this, you take away any chance of them lashing back at you because you have sidestepped their verbal attack rather than meeting it head on.
Discuss rather than confront. When your boss criticizes you, don’t react out of emotion and become confrontational with them about it because that just breeds more conflict. Instead, use their criticism as a topic for discussion on interests, goals, and problem-solving and ask them for their advice. If they criticize your work, then that means that they have their own idea on how that work should be done, so ask them for their advice on how your work can be improved.
Manage the manager. A source of conflict usually occurs when a group of employees gets a new manager who demands that things run differently. These changes are usually reactionary in nature because the employees go about their regular duties until the manager comes by and criticizes the way it is being done. Instead of waiting for their criticism, take a proactive approach and be absolutely clear from the very beginning on how your boss wants things to be done so that there is no miscommunication later on. There are many ways of completing a task and having a discussion about them at the very beginning will allow you to see things from their perspective as well as sharing your own with them. Get to know their likes and dislikes inside and out so that you can avoid future criticisms.
Know that you can do little to change them. Being a difficult person is part of their personality and therefore it is a very difficult, if not impossible thing to change in a supervisor, so don’t think that you can change how they act. Instead, change the way that you view their behavior. Don’t label them as being a jerk--just merely label them as your boss. By avoiding derogatory labeling, you avoid making it easy on yourself to be angry with your boss.
Keep your professional face on. Know the difference between not liking your boss and not being professional. You don’t have to make your boss your friend or even like your boss as a person, but you do have to remain professional and get the job done and carry out their instructions dutifully as a subordinate, just as you would expect them to be professional as do their duties as a supervisor.
Evaluate your own performance. Before you go attacking your boss, examine your own performance and ask yourself if you are doing everything right. Get opinions from other coworkers about your performance and see if there is any warrant to the criticisms of your supervisor before you criticize their opinions.
Gather additional support. If others share in your concern, then you have the power of numbers behind you to give you additional persuasion power over your boss. It is often easy for a supervisor to ignore or attack one employee, but it becomes more difficult to attack all of his employees. He might be able to fire one of you, but he will look like an idiot (and probably get fired himself) if he tries to fire all of you. An interdepartment union is a good way of mustering power against an abusive employer.
Don’t go to up the chain of command unless it’s a last resort. Going straight up the chain of command is not an effective way of dealing with a difficult supervisor because it only increases conflict in the workplace. Your immediate supervisor will consider this a very serious backstabbing maneuver and might seek some sort of retribution in the future against you and your career. Also, other people in your workplace might brand you as a whistleblower because of your actions. Try to discuss issues with your supervisor first and only go up the chain of command as a last resort.
Encourage good behavior with praise. It is easy to criticize your superiors, but criticisms often lead towards resentment and hostile feelings. Everyone likes a pat on the back for good behavior, so you should strive to watch for good behaviors from your supervisor and compliment them on that. Proactive praising is much more effective than reactive criticisms.
Document everything. If you choose to stay with a toxic employer, then document everything. This will become your main ammunition should a complaint ever be filed down the road. Document interactions with them as well as your own activities so that you can remind them of your own achievements at performance review time.
Leave work at work. Get into the habit of leaving work at home and not bringing it into your personal life because that will only add to your level of stress. Keep your professional life separate from your personal life as best as you can. This also includes having friends who you don’t work with so that you can detach yourself from your work life rather than bringing it home with you.
Is it OK now?
Regards
Sawant
From Saudi Arabia
Hi Swetha
I suggest to stay there for sone time atleast for 1 year because job hopping is not good and you may find the difficult people at other places too. Its only how we manage. As its new place ,new people and new environment you may feel frustated , it takes some time to get adjudted to the new environment and new people , after some you will get accustomed to those p[eople and will how to deal such kind of people. Even after one year if you feel liking leaving yoiu can search for other job but not in the initial stage of the job start. If the next interivewer asks you why you left what would be you r answer, you cannot just say because your boss is not good , if you, he will also that iam also the same kind of person , he will have a negative impart on you.
Think properly and take a decision but still i suggest to stay for some time if not 1 year atleast for 6 months so that you can say that you have been appointed on contract basis.
bye usha
From India, Hyderabad
I suggest to stay there for sone time atleast for 1 year because job hopping is not good and you may find the difficult people at other places too. Its only how we manage. As its new place ,new people and new environment you may feel frustated , it takes some time to get adjudted to the new environment and new people , after some you will get accustomed to those p[eople and will how to deal such kind of people. Even after one year if you feel liking leaving yoiu can search for other job but not in the initial stage of the job start. If the next interivewer asks you why you left what would be you r answer, you cannot just say because your boss is not good , if you, he will also that iam also the same kind of person , he will have a negative impart on you.
Think properly and take a decision but still i suggest to stay for some time if not 1 year atleast for 6 months so that you can say that you have been appointed on contract basis.
bye usha
From India, Hyderabad
As per the specifications submitted by you, it is understood that your Boss has "BOSSY Ruthless Professional character" . People with such characterstics like to dominate others & treat others beneath.
The best policy to deal with such people of "confrontation" . Since he is your Boss & you are new to the Organization, its sugested that you people (you & your TEAM members) confront him indirectly over his various professional downsides, to the extreme. This will either put him aback or straigten him.
The best policy to deal with such people of "confrontation" . Since he is your Boss & you are new to the Organization, its sugested that you people (you & your TEAM members) confront him indirectly over his various professional downsides, to the extreme. This will either put him aback or straigten him.
I dont see any big problem in that situation of yours. you need to put this point in front of your Management about his behaviour and thats where HR has to play a role.
In case you won't see any positive sign from the Management about the guy than i would suggest you not to spend much of your career in an organisation who can't see the invaluable contribution of the HR team. last but not the least" People leave the company coz of bosses". so take a call rather than sitting on the issue till it boils down your carrer.
From India, Mumbai
In case you won't see any positive sign from the Management about the guy than i would suggest you not to spend much of your career in an organisation who can't see the invaluable contribution of the HR team. last but not the least" People leave the company coz of bosses". so take a call rather than sitting on the issue till it boils down your carrer.
From India, Mumbai
Dear Shweta,
I also faced the same situation in my career almost for 4 years. My bosses were not cooperative. I left one job within 2 months under frustration & that affects my cv a lot.
But now I am realizing the difference, becoz of such situations I learn how to tackle with such bosses.
Stick to the organization & try to find out the ways to work with him.
Definitely you will get successes
Regards,
Shailesh
From India, Mumbai
I also faced the same situation in my career almost for 4 years. My bosses were not cooperative. I left one job within 2 months under frustration & that affects my cv a lot.
But now I am realizing the difference, becoz of such situations I learn how to tackle with such bosses.
Stick to the organization & try to find out the ways to work with him.
Definitely you will get successes
Regards,
Shailesh
From India, Mumbai
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