Dear All,
Thank you for all these replies.
I would like to give answers to some questions that have come up.
First, the boss is 62 years old but is still at the job because he is on an extension.
Second, some members seem offended by this personal post. I fully agree that citehr has the motive of helping HR professionals in their careers. I feel it's a very strong site for any HR personnel. This particular post was posted to get the comments of the HR fraternity. The only reason for posting this in a public professional forum is the feeling of oneness that the undersigned feels towards any HR person. Some might think it's overexpression, but then, everyone has the freedom of thought.
Third, since ages were mentioned, someone has written if the boss wasn't 62, would the girl have accepted in that case. My dear fellow member, it's not a question of accepting or not accepting in the case of a younger boss. The ages were mentioned to show how a person can approach another who is even younger than his own daughter.
The human mind and nature are difficult to decipher. Still, when one says anything, the entire scenario should be kept in mind. The world won't remain this sweet if we really start speaking up our minds. We really should keep in mind where to say what. It's, of course, expected from a GM HR of a premier company.
Thank you again for all the suggestions.
From India, Calcutta
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2Thank you for all these replies.
I would like to give answers to some questions that have come up.
First, the boss is 62 years old but is still at the job because he is on an extension.
Second, some members seem offended by this personal post. I fully agree that citehr has the motive of helping HR professionals in their careers. I feel it's a very strong site for any HR personnel. This particular post was posted to get the comments of the HR fraternity. The only reason for posting this in a public professional forum is the feeling of oneness that the undersigned feels towards any HR person. Some might think it's overexpression, but then, everyone has the freedom of thought.
Third, since ages were mentioned, someone has written if the boss wasn't 62, would the girl have accepted in that case. My dear fellow member, it's not a question of accepting or not accepting in the case of a younger boss. The ages were mentioned to show how a person can approach another who is even younger than his own daughter.
The human mind and nature are difficult to decipher. Still, when one says anything, the entire scenario should be kept in mind. The world won't remain this sweet if we really start speaking up our minds. We really should keep in mind where to say what. It's, of course, expected from a GM HR of a premier company.
Thank you again for all the suggestions.
From India, Calcutta
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Dear Avi,
Don't worry, things will get all right. Treat them in another way. The person who proposed is psychologically affected. You can find these kinds of people everywhere. Once you know how to tackle (since I am in the social work field), don't create a big issue. Treat them in front of your colleagues as if he is like your father and purposefully show him that you are treating him as your father; definitely, he will change.
Quitting the job will show your weakness. Wherever you go, you will find these types of people. Put him in a corner as if he is your real father. Enjoy it, don't make it an issue. Even if you quit and join another place, somehow they will talk about this, which will spoil your career. He may be in a family aversion state. Find his childhood experiences. If he is married, try to meet his wife and be friendly with her.
Janaki
From India, Madras
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Don't worry, things will get all right. Treat them in another way. The person who proposed is psychologically affected. You can find these kinds of people everywhere. Once you know how to tackle (since I am in the social work field), don't create a big issue. Treat them in front of your colleagues as if he is like your father and purposefully show him that you are treating him as your father; definitely, he will change.
Quitting the job will show your weakness. Wherever you go, you will find these types of people. Put him in a corner as if he is your real father. Enjoy it, don't make it an issue. Even if you quit and join another place, somehow they will talk about this, which will spoil your career. He may be in a family aversion state. Find his childhood experiences. If he is married, try to meet his wife and be friendly with her.
Janaki
From India, Madras
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Hi Baby,
This is utterly a confession of a fabricated story and has no chance of offense or getting offended by any of the responses, especially matured and senior people like me. Very well read between the lines that this post is frivolous and react accordingly as per the quality of the subject and post.
Some senior members expressed frustration and their anguish disproportionately just because of misunderstanding.
I have experienced in my 18 years of career that there are two kinds of professionals:
The first kind is those who are theoretically strong but practically failures in their professional careers and have been rescued by jobs as consultants, lecturers, or visiting faculty at institutes because they did not survive in the field due to a lack of practical approach in their profession.
The second kind of professionals are not theoretically strong enough, but they are most successful in dealing with any situation and problem in professional life because this is their strength; they work and survive in the profession.
For those who misjudged the notorious nature of this post and reacted out of proportion, I will say that they may be theoretically successful personnel and labor law experts but less practical and experienced enough to apply their judgment and knowledge in real life.
Badlu
From Saudi Arabia
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This is utterly a confession of a fabricated story and has no chance of offense or getting offended by any of the responses, especially matured and senior people like me. Very well read between the lines that this post is frivolous and react accordingly as per the quality of the subject and post.
Some senior members expressed frustration and their anguish disproportionately just because of misunderstanding.
I have experienced in my 18 years of career that there are two kinds of professionals:
The first kind is those who are theoretically strong but practically failures in their professional careers and have been rescued by jobs as consultants, lecturers, or visiting faculty at institutes because they did not survive in the field due to a lack of practical approach in their profession.
The second kind of professionals are not theoretically strong enough, but they are most successful in dealing with any situation and problem in professional life because this is their strength; they work and survive in the profession.
For those who misjudged the notorious nature of this post and reacted out of proportion, I will say that they may be theoretically successful personnel and labor law experts but less practical and experienced enough to apply their judgment and knowledge in real life.
Badlu
From Saudi Arabia
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I am appalled that a person in HR is so unprofessional as to make inappropriate comments/remarks/suggestions. Is it possible that he was trying to be funny? Are you sure it was not someone else pretending to be the GMHR as it was on the phone. But if it was the HRGM and he was serious - you have a problem.
You are quite right in stating why should she leave her job but is she then prepared for the boss to continue to make verbal advances (which, if not dealt with, can lead to physical advances and sexual harassment)?
I would suggest that she take up this matter in writing with the HR GM. Let him know, in no uncertain terms, that she did not find the conversation funny. In fact, it made her very uncomfortable and that she was surprised that a person of his calibre should resort to tactics of a sexual nature, be they verbal or otherwise. If the GM continues in this manner, she will have no other path but to seek an interview with the person above him. Name him and shame him if the victim is absolutely positive the voice on the phone was the HR GM.
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
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You are quite right in stating why should she leave her job but is she then prepared for the boss to continue to make verbal advances (which, if not dealt with, can lead to physical advances and sexual harassment)?
I would suggest that she take up this matter in writing with the HR GM. Let him know, in no uncertain terms, that she did not find the conversation funny. In fact, it made her very uncomfortable and that she was surprised that a person of his calibre should resort to tactics of a sexual nature, be they verbal or otherwise. If the GM continues in this manner, she will have no other path but to seek an interview with the person above him. Name him and shame him if the victim is absolutely positive the voice on the phone was the HR GM.
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
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You are quite right in your comments. Sexual harassment in the workplace is soul-destroying. To relegate it to a joke is despicable. This is a professional forum, and if we cannot make a positive contribution, we should not comment at all.
As an HR specialist for 35 years, I have dealt with sexual harassment cases ranging from sexual jokes to full-scale sexual harassment. I have seen how it has affected both men and women, and the results of such behavior are not edifying.
If this is a joke (according to Bad loser), then it is something the webmaster must deal with. However, if it is a case, then it is worrying, and if we can assist the victim with advice, we should do so.
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
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As an HR specialist for 35 years, I have dealt with sexual harassment cases ranging from sexual jokes to full-scale sexual harassment. I have seen how it has affected both men and women, and the results of such behavior are not edifying.
If this is a joke (according to Bad loser), then it is something the webmaster must deal with. However, if it is a case, then it is worrying, and if we can assist the victim with advice, we should do so.
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
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Dear,
My only request is to disclose this type of person before everyone. We are in the HR department, where we aim to create a positive work environment promoting good teamwork, a positive attitude, etc.
If you start, there is a possibility that many of us will share their bitter experiences, regardless of where they are working.
Expose the name of that individual and let the whole world know. So that in the future, no one will attempt to behave in such a manner in any field they are working in.
Eagerly waiting for the name.
With Regards,
Vivek
From India, Ahmadabad
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My only request is to disclose this type of person before everyone. We are in the HR department, where we aim to create a positive work environment promoting good teamwork, a positive attitude, etc.
If you start, there is a possibility that many of us will share their bitter experiences, regardless of where they are working.
Expose the name of that individual and let the whole world know. So that in the future, no one will attempt to behave in such a manner in any field they are working in.
Eagerly waiting for the name.
With Regards,
Vivek
From India, Ahmadabad
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Hi AKS,
Just be diplomatic and ignore all the comments that the 62-year-old guy is making. As per your initials, AKS shows you have the power to fight any wars. Be brave and follow your inner soul, which guides you, but do so using your brain. You are close to the solution. Think about it for just 30 minutes with your eyes closed, and you will find the solution. REMEMBER ONE THING, the problems in one's life must be solved by oneself; no one else will come to solve them. So, do your best. GOOD LUCK.
Regards,
Vishal
From India, Vadodara
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Just be diplomatic and ignore all the comments that the 62-year-old guy is making. As per your initials, AKS shows you have the power to fight any wars. Be brave and follow your inner soul, which guides you, but do so using your brain. You are close to the solution. Think about it for just 30 minutes with your eyes closed, and you will find the solution. REMEMBER ONE THING, the problems in one's life must be solved by oneself; no one else will come to solve them. So, do your best. GOOD LUCK.
Regards,
Vishal
From India, Vadodara
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There is nothing to feel bad rather appreciate the GM's frankness and had the nerves to speak to you! This is not the end of the issue. Get along as ever you did prior to the phone call and befriend his family members which he should be aware of. Rest assured his behaviour towards you will be more of fear rather than trying the odd trick!
From India, Bangalore
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From India, Bangalore
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Hi AKS,
I wish to agree with Badlu's logic. The boss is a senior person and holding the position of GM-HR (deservingly?). He must have earned this position with a lot of hard work, and I am sure he also knows all about psychology, sexual harassment, motivation, and all related issues. He would have definitely dealt with cases of sexual harassment earlier in his career and would not put his career/reputation at stake.
Keeping these aspects at the back of her mind, she should speak directly to her boss and tell him frankly that such comments make her very uncomfortable and are not welcome. She is also advised to work with confidence and talk to the boss to the point about work-related issues only.
Cheers,
Avinash Tyagi
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I wish to agree with Badlu's logic. The boss is a senior person and holding the position of GM-HR (deservingly?). He must have earned this position with a lot of hard work, and I am sure he also knows all about psychology, sexual harassment, motivation, and all related issues. He would have definitely dealt with cases of sexual harassment earlier in his career and would not put his career/reputation at stake.
Keeping these aspects at the back of her mind, she should speak directly to her boss and tell him frankly that such comments make her very uncomfortable and are not welcome. She is also advised to work with confidence and talk to the boss to the point about work-related issues only.
Cheers,
Avinash Tyagi
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Hi,
My suggestion would be that the girl should be very firm in handling her relationship with the GM very professionally. No one can intrude on your personal space unless you give the other person that flexibility. If things still go beyond any control, the girl always has the option to take it to higher management. If nothing works out, she should move out and stop this at once. It will hamper not only her personal and professional life but also affect his family. Relationships are more important as compared to career aspirations.
From India, Aurangabad
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My suggestion would be that the girl should be very firm in handling her relationship with the GM very professionally. No one can intrude on your personal space unless you give the other person that flexibility. If things still go beyond any control, the girl always has the option to take it to higher management. If nothing works out, she should move out and stop this at once. It will hamper not only her personal and professional life but also affect his family. Relationships are more important as compared to career aspirations.
From India, Aurangabad
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