Dear All,
The brawl started day before yesterday.It continued for the whole day yesterday.Yesterday itself I had asked the GM to give me a letter/email regarding the matter when he sort of threatened me to issue me letter if I donot give my in laws' address.GM-HRD has gone completely silent over the matter today.
From Canada, Yellowknife
The brawl started day before yesterday.It continued for the whole day yesterday.Yesterday itself I had asked the GM to give me a letter/email regarding the matter when he sort of threatened me to issue me letter if I donot give my in laws' address.GM-HRD has gone completely silent over the matter today.
From Canada, Yellowknife
@ Mr Raj Kumar Hansdah,
You have got to the point .thanks a ton.Now I myself feel confident knowing "there are no Laws that compel you to provide your in-laws address as you residence"as you have mentioned.It is the attitude which has annoyed me.It is completely my personal choice whether I shall retain my parental address/surname or use that of my in-laws'.Why point finger on my personal preference?
From Canada, Yellowknife
You have got to the point .thanks a ton.Now I myself feel confident knowing "there are no Laws that compel you to provide your in-laws address as you residence"as you have mentioned.It is the attitude which has annoyed me.It is completely my personal choice whether I shall retain my parental address/surname or use that of my in-laws'.Why point finger on my personal preference?
From Canada, Yellowknife
Dear Aparajita!!! I think we are all going off the tangent, the real issue is, does the organisation have your actual residential address? It is needed for reasons, more than one. If you continue to be put up with your maternal family there is no need to disclose your in-law's address but if you are put up in a different place other than the address already given to your orgn. then you need to furnish the new address, be it your in-laws or an altogether new one. But the point remains that an organisation really needs your temperorary address and the permenent address in its records. But no body can compel you to disclose the address of your kith and kin including in-laws provided you are not residing there.
Regards
KK
From India, Bhopal
Regards
KK
From India, Bhopal
Dear Aparajita,
How you will maintain Parental address. if you are not staying with your Parents. It’s your moral responsibility to provide company the address where you are currently residing.
It’s not the issue about the address of in-laws; so keep your ego aside and simply provide your current updated residing address.
With regards,
Abhijit Pawar.
From United States
How you will maintain Parental address. if you are not staying with your Parents. It’s your moral responsibility to provide company the address where you are currently residing.
It’s not the issue about the address of in-laws; so keep your ego aside and simply provide your current updated residing address.
With regards,
Abhijit Pawar.
From United States
Dear all,
I do not understand any "moral obligation" to disclose ones address.
1. for untoward incidents - this is for a practical reason, no morality is involved, even so one may feel to give a caring uncles contact no in case of emergency.
could there be any other reason for a company to know my location?
From India, Bangalore
I do not understand any "moral obligation" to disclose ones address.
1. for untoward incidents - this is for a practical reason, no morality is involved, even so one may feel to give a caring uncles contact no in case of emergency.
could there be any other reason for a company to know my location?
From India, Bangalore
Dear Aparajita
As being in HR you must understand that the issue is not a debate of woman identity, I myself have not changed my surname yet,but where we work the need of providing right information is necessary as in case if there is any problem with your bank account or any other financial transaction or any official transactions ,your office might approach ,and the information will not reach to you directly.
It is not must ,but yes as an employee its our duty,and specially being in HR you must understand this well ,then only you can make other employee understand.
If your GM has approached in negative way , that may be because you have given him the reason to do so.Its just my perception don't take it wrong ,sometimes we girls get emotionally adamant in case of our parental issue so we don't want to change that.
please be easy ,its nothing wrong to inform the right thing to your company.If you go somewhere else for studying or change of job ,won't you give your in-laws address then ?
Regards
Mitali
From India, New Delhi
As being in HR you must understand that the issue is not a debate of woman identity, I myself have not changed my surname yet,but where we work the need of providing right information is necessary as in case if there is any problem with your bank account or any other financial transaction or any official transactions ,your office might approach ,and the information will not reach to you directly.
It is not must ,but yes as an employee its our duty,and specially being in HR you must understand this well ,then only you can make other employee understand.
If your GM has approached in negative way , that may be because you have given him the reason to do so.Its just my perception don't take it wrong ,sometimes we girls get emotionally adamant in case of our parental issue so we don't want to change that.
please be easy ,its nothing wrong to inform the right thing to your company.If you go somewhere else for studying or change of job ,won't you give your in-laws address then ?
Regards
Mitali
From India, New Delhi
Dear Ms. Aparajitha,
You are correct according to hindu marriage act. It's up to you to decide.
Now consider this situation.
Your in-laws are multi- millionares and your hus is their only child, will you take their money? If you dont want, no law can force you. If your manager is bullying, tell him to worry about millions living without any address in our country. If he is not, then you think about this sad fact. Thank you
From India, Kochi
You are correct according to hindu marriage act. It's up to you to decide.
Now consider this situation.
Your in-laws are multi- millionares and your hus is their only child, will you take their money? If you dont want, no law can force you. If your manager is bullying, tell him to worry about millions living without any address in our country. If he is not, then you think about this sad fact. Thank you
From India, Kochi
Aparajitha,
This is first time i am posting something in this site. If you dont want to change the address, dont change. Tell your boss, on records i want this address. Tell him "if you are so much interested in my current address, i can give you off the records".
You stick to your decision. Otherwise if he is still stubborn, put ur parents address in permanent & hubby's address in current address.
Even after having all these discussions, your GM is stubborn, directly ask him "why you are so particular about my hubby's address?". I think after this, he will not pressurise you.
Keep it simple, silly...
Devarajan.N.R
98418-22629
From India, Madras
This is first time i am posting something in this site. If you dont want to change the address, dont change. Tell your boss, on records i want this address. Tell him "if you are so much interested in my current address, i can give you off the records".
You stick to your decision. Otherwise if he is still stubborn, put ur parents address in permanent & hubby's address in current address.
Even after having all these discussions, your GM is stubborn, directly ask him "why you are so particular about my hubby's address?". I think after this, he will not pressurise you.
Keep it simple, silly...
Devarajan.N.R
98418-22629
From India, Madras
Dear Aparajita, You are absolutely right.I think the matter should be left at the discretion of an individual. Regards, Aditi
From India, Calcutta
From India, Calcutta
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