Hey,
I'm surprised that the wife is still working in the organization. According to me, she shouldn't work with him and enjoy all the perks that the director enjoys. If the wife is so ambitious, then she should work somewhere else and make a name for herself. By creating such a situation, I'm sure the couple must be having a tough time with each other. I strongly agree with Col. Virendra, Anubha, and many more friends here....
Prachi, as Mr. Anil Mehta said, you need to go and apologize to the director and then sit with him to ask for his suggestions on this issue. Now that the damage is done, it's better to be intelligent and play it safe. I hope you understand what I'm indicating.
All the best!!
From Korea
2I'm surprised that the wife is still working in the organization. According to me, she shouldn't work with him and enjoy all the perks that the director enjoys. If the wife is so ambitious, then she should work somewhere else and make a name for herself. By creating such a situation, I'm sure the couple must be having a tough time with each other. I strongly agree with Col. Virendra, Anubha, and many more friends here....
Prachi, as Mr. Anil Mehta said, you need to go and apologize to the director and then sit with him to ask for his suggestions on this issue. Now that the damage is done, it's better to be intelligent and play it safe. I hope you understand what I'm indicating.
All the best!!
From Korea
The fact that he has been with you for seven years doesn't matter. The fact of the matter is, is he as efficient as you said? Because what I believe is, a Director should have company interests at heart. He should look at the expenses of the company and prioritize the success of the company rather than considering personal interests. It's not his fault, though. Married guys will agree with me that women's power is irresistible, and when a lady wants something, she will go to extremes to get it. When the husband has power, like in this case as a Director, the lady wants him to do something. And the man, being a Director, wants to prove he is a man and a Director for the company. Look at the root of the problem; it's not him, it's the lady who is forcing him to do this. I sometimes wonder, are relationships like this one good for the company.
From Zimbabwe, Harare
From Zimbabwe, Harare
Hi Prachi,
We are in HR, so if we always think about this type of relationship in the company, then we can't work. If we celebrate her birthday in a nice way, that is also acceptable. But the next situation, you should be ready for a second person also standing for an argument that you should celebrate his/her birthday at the same level. So be strict, let him go.
"Jane vale ko koi rok bhi nahi sakta" – if you have heard this sentence, let him go and start searching for a new person for the same position. The same situation I have also faced, but the difference is that it was a birthday in my case, that was an increment.
Regards,
SHARMILA YADAV
Manager - HR
CONCORDE DESIGNS PVT LTD, MUMBAI
From India, Delhi
We are in HR, so if we always think about this type of relationship in the company, then we can't work. If we celebrate her birthday in a nice way, that is also acceptable. But the next situation, you should be ready for a second person also standing for an argument that you should celebrate his/her birthday at the same level. So be strict, let him go.
"Jane vale ko koi rok bhi nahi sakta" – if you have heard this sentence, let him go and start searching for a new person for the same position. The same situation I have also faced, but the difference is that it was a birthday in my case, that was an increment.
Regards,
SHARMILA YADAV
Manager - HR
CONCORDE DESIGNS PVT LTD, MUMBAI
From India, Delhi
This is funny, very funny, but that is the sort of thing that we have to bear in HR. Ludicrous things. The guy has a better offer somewhere else. This is a smokescreen! I will advise that you start headhunting for his replacement while you have a senior person of his level go through the procedures with him. Do not request his resignation. Keep an eye on his performance for signs of depreciation. If he has found another place, my bet is that he will not budge. Get your new person to understudy him while his period of resignation lasts. At such a senior level, it should be about 3 months.
Regards,
Olarinde
From Nigeria
Regards,
Olarinde
From Nigeria
I think your Director should take a look at his priorities. His wife is an employee (in the first instance) and secondly his wife. If he is so wrapped up in these minor matters, it is preferable that he leave rather than go on about small details that have nothing whatsoever to do with the business at hand.
I suggest you decide whether he is worth retaining. I have found that it is generally not a good idea to hire close relatives, especially if one of them is in a senior management position.
Regards, PVQ
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
I suggest you decide whether he is worth retaining. I have found that it is generally not a good idea to hire close relatives, especially if one of them is in a senior management position.
Regards, PVQ
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
Hi...Dear Prachi, No yaar. It is not as u think. He just wants leave the company. That’s it. Reg, Rafi
From India, Hyderabad
From India, Hyderabad
Hello Prachi,
It's not that big of a deal; it happens. A big role often comes with a big ego, and that's okay. Now, the person in question is efficient. Go to him, say sorry, and assure him that it won't happen again. Next, wait for the weekend when you are planning to celebrate the birthday of the 'entry-level' employee. Celebrate the birthday in the same manner as you celebrate the birthdays of 'Director-level' employees. His ego will definitely be hurt, and he will understand your point practically.
Goodbye,
BEST OF LUCK,
Anjali Thakur
It's not that big of a deal; it happens. A big role often comes with a big ego, and that's okay. Now, the person in question is efficient. Go to him, say sorry, and assure him that it won't happen again. Next, wait for the weekend when you are planning to celebrate the birthday of the 'entry-level' employee. Celebrate the birthday in the same manner as you celebrate the birthdays of 'Director-level' employees. His ego will definitely be hurt, and he will understand your point practically.
Goodbye,
BEST OF LUCK,
Anjali Thakur
Hi,
Did anybody think on the other way round, that his wife would have expected a different birthday celebration being a Director's wife. Why not try to talk to his wife who is at the entry level in a totally different way? The Director may be good - did he show such behavior earlier before getting married, not for a birthday party, for some other issues? If not, then there may be his wife's pressure. Talk to his wife; he will automatically get settled. An efficient person, if said, should not be left in this manner.
Regards,
Jennifer Isaac
From India, Mumbai
Did anybody think on the other way round, that his wife would have expected a different birthday celebration being a Director's wife. Why not try to talk to his wife who is at the entry level in a totally different way? The Director may be good - did he show such behavior earlier before getting married, not for a birthday party, for some other issues? If not, then there may be his wife's pressure. Talk to his wife; he will automatically get settled. An efficient person, if said, should not be left in this manner.
Regards,
Jennifer Isaac
From India, Mumbai
Hi Henry,
I am sure I have created some sort of mess in communicating properly. Let me try to explain once again.
There can not be two opinions about the requirement of mature behavior, not only from the Director but all senior people sitting at the top level. It is a must. Please read my last statement in which I clearly stated that "Disregard of his efficiency, you should not entertain his expectations which are not legitimate."
I simply tried to distinguish the efficiency from what you call an individual's belief as to how his wife's birthday should be celebrated. Because a person having such a perception could be quite efficient in his work, and these two things must not be mixed up. Please read the initial responses of our members; you will find many such responses related to efficiency with his belief.
All the best.
From India, Rajkot
I am sure I have created some sort of mess in communicating properly. Let me try to explain once again.
There can not be two opinions about the requirement of mature behavior, not only from the Director but all senior people sitting at the top level. It is a must. Please read my last statement in which I clearly stated that "Disregard of his efficiency, you should not entertain his expectations which are not legitimate."
I simply tried to distinguish the efficiency from what you call an individual's belief as to how his wife's birthday should be celebrated. Because a person having such a perception could be quite efficient in his work, and these two things must not be mixed up. Please read the initial responses of our members; you will find many such responses related to efficiency with his belief.
All the best.
From India, Rajkot
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