Dear,
When you are stating that he is an efficient employee, I can understand you are at the level of judging people. Let him quit the job, by God's grace, India is flooded with efficient people like you. If one quits, another will come; maybe he is more efficient than the current one.
Regards,
Srinivas N
From India, Hyderabad
7When you are stating that he is an efficient employee, I can understand you are at the level of judging people. Let him quit the job, by God's grace, India is flooded with efficient people like you. If one quits, another will come; maybe he is more efficient than the current one.
Regards,
Srinivas N
From India, Hyderabad
If somebody at that level cannot model the behavior expected of a leadership role, it is best to let him go. If you bend over backwards to please him, you will be setting a wrong precedent, as Riyaz has rightly said. However, there is a possibility that this is an outward excuse for something else that's irritating him! Get someone senior to talk to him and find out.
From India, Bangalore
From India, Bangalore
Hi Prachi,
In fact, being in HR, you can also have a talk with his wife and explain the situation to her. If she is convinced, she can definitely help her husband understand, and all this confusion can end at once.
Regards,
Aruna
From India, Bangalore
In fact, being in HR, you can also have a talk with his wife and explain the situation to her. If she is convinced, she can definitely help her husband understand, and all this confusion can end at once.
Regards,
Aruna
From India, Bangalore
Hi Prachi,
I don't think this person is mature enough to be at the senior director level. He should understand that the office is different from personal life. It's not the office's responsibility to celebrate his wife's birthday as he wants. Rules apply to everybody.
From India, Nasik
I don't think this person is mature enough to be at the senior director level. He should understand that the office is different from personal life. It's not the office's responsibility to celebrate his wife's birthday as he wants. Rules apply to everybody.
From India, Nasik
Dear Ms. Prachi Jain,
1. A senior person, at a Director level, will not leave the job for such a reason. There could be something else which he is not revealing.
2. Convince him that this would be compensated for on his marriage anniversary.
3. Speak to his wife, explain to her the dilemma in which the HR is, and the policy of the company. If it is within the company's scope, you should also gift her something of her choice. If she is happy, I believe that she can influence her husband's decision.
Thanks, with regards,
msn
1. A senior person, at a Director level, will not leave the job for such a reason. There could be something else which he is not revealing.
2. Convince him that this would be compensated for on his marriage anniversary.
3. Speak to his wife, explain to her the dilemma in which the HR is, and the policy of the company. If it is within the company's scope, you should also gift her something of her choice. If she is happy, I believe that she can influence her husband's decision.
Thanks, with regards,
msn
Dear Prachi,
It's a unique situation to be in. Just some thoughts: If he has been with the org long enough, he would know the way these things are done, so it's not ignorance. As far as efficiency is concerned, I am not too sure of it. If it's your org's policy, then there is not much that can be done. If he wishes to quit, so be it; you may be better off without him.
Lastly, we do have a similar practice in my company too. The only difference is that, irrespective of whose birthday or anniversary it is, they are all celebrated in the same way. After all, a birthday or an anniversary has the same importance to all, irrespective of whether he is a Director, clerk, or the office boy.
Regards, sapatsundar
It's a unique situation to be in. Just some thoughts: If he has been with the org long enough, he would know the way these things are done, so it's not ignorance. As far as efficiency is concerned, I am not too sure of it. If it's your org's policy, then there is not much that can be done. If he wishes to quit, so be it; you may be better off without him.
Lastly, we do have a similar practice in my company too. The only difference is that, irrespective of whose birthday or anniversary it is, they are all celebrated in the same way. After all, a birthday or an anniversary has the same importance to all, irrespective of whether he is a Director, clerk, or the office boy.
Regards, sapatsundar
Hi Prachi,
I do agree with Riyaz’s point
Do one thing , don’t west your vigor on convince him , I m sure he is not ready to listen coz this is matter of his wife.
Just tell him discreetly like sir why are you so annoyed in this case. We all are doing this things as per our Co’s policy and you knew that
We have a set levels as per policy and we had celebrated your’s wife b’day as per the set levels, at that time if you had a plan to celebrates your wife b’day then that was yours personal things. And that has not comes as official thing I apologize for advance.
Be Candid, and also search for some other efficient person, not to worry you got a good candidate
Trust truly is the one thing that changes everything
Kind Regards
Rekha
From India, Delhi
I do agree with Riyaz’s point
Do one thing , don’t west your vigor on convince him , I m sure he is not ready to listen coz this is matter of his wife.
Just tell him discreetly like sir why are you so annoyed in this case. We all are doing this things as per our Co’s policy and you knew that
We have a set levels as per policy and we had celebrated your’s wife b’day as per the set levels, at that time if you had a plan to celebrates your wife b’day then that was yours personal things. And that has not comes as official thing I apologize for advance.
Be Candid, and also search for some other efficient person, not to worry you got a good candidate
Trust truly is the one thing that changes everything
Kind Regards
Rekha
From India, Delhi
This is proof that managerial seniority and personal maturity do not necessarily go together. This man needs to grow up.
Hi All,
A thorn stuck in the throat situation for you, Prachi, but what it seems is not actually the case:
a) He has some other intentions, like what other members had suggested:
(i) Quitting the job for something better OR getting a better bargain from the management.
b) There could be some internal issues with the senior team/colleagues that are troubling him.
c) We can't doubt his inefficiency or his tendency to make unrealistic expectations, as he has been with the organization for the past 7 years. If so, were there similar instances before his marriage of him making demands/special treatment? I don't think so.
d) When you mention his birthday was celebrated differently, was there anything else besides the presence of top management? Their presence is a different case, but have you discriminated in any other terms that have hurt his personal ego?
Someone needs to have a one-on-one with him and clear the air. There is more to his attitude than meets the eye—a nice case study! This has to be dealt with on personal terms.
Thanks,
Ajith
From India, Bangalore
A thorn stuck in the throat situation for you, Prachi, but what it seems is not actually the case:
a) He has some other intentions, like what other members had suggested:
(i) Quitting the job for something better OR getting a better bargain from the management.
b) There could be some internal issues with the senior team/colleagues that are troubling him.
c) We can't doubt his inefficiency or his tendency to make unrealistic expectations, as he has been with the organization for the past 7 years. If so, were there similar instances before his marriage of him making demands/special treatment? I don't think so.
d) When you mention his birthday was celebrated differently, was there anything else besides the presence of top management? Their presence is a different case, but have you discriminated in any other terms that have hurt his personal ego?
Someone needs to have a one-on-one with him and clear the air. There is more to his attitude than meets the eye—a nice case study! This has to be dealt with on personal terms.
Thanks,
Ajith
From India, Bangalore
Hi,
I agree with point number 1, as per your suggestion. However, points 2 and 3 are not acceptable as they may set a wrong precedence. Involving his wife in such matters could potentially worsen the situation for other employees at the same rank, as it may lead to regular tantrums. It would be more beneficial to discuss and resolve the issue as I don't perceive it to be a major problem. Remember, no one is irreplaceable!
Thank you.
From India, Bangalore
I agree with point number 1, as per your suggestion. However, points 2 and 3 are not acceptable as they may set a wrong precedence. Involving his wife in such matters could potentially worsen the situation for other employees at the same rank, as it may lead to regular tantrums. It would be more beneficial to discuss and resolve the issue as I don't perceive it to be a major problem. Remember, no one is irreplaceable!
Thank you.
From India, Bangalore
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