Hello Senior,
I am facing some behavioral problems in my organization. Employees treat me as a medium between management and employees, which is true. However, if something goes wrong, they show their envy and react towards me, which sometimes hurts me. I sometimes take it lightly, but it crosses the limit at times.
Basically, most of the employees are elder to me and senior in this organization. They have direct communication with the CEO. They don't follow the rules and procedures, which is impacting the next level. They have even started breaking rules and procedures, creating an unhealthy environment in the office.
Seniors, please suggest how I can balance the situation.
Sandhya.
From India, Visakhapatnam
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1I am facing some behavioral problems in my organization. Employees treat me as a medium between management and employees, which is true. However, if something goes wrong, they show their envy and react towards me, which sometimes hurts me. I sometimes take it lightly, but it crosses the limit at times.
Basically, most of the employees are elder to me and senior in this organization. They have direct communication with the CEO. They don't follow the rules and procedures, which is impacting the next level. They have even started breaking rules and procedures, creating an unhealthy environment in the office.
Seniors, please suggest how I can balance the situation.
Sandhya.
From India, Visakhapatnam
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Dear Ms. Sandhya,
Greetings.
I read your thread and would like to gather information from you before I could do the needful.
a) May I know your role and designation in your organization?
b) Please submit a few examples supporting your statement "if something goes wrong, they show their envy and reaction towards me."
c) What is the reason behind your employees violating rules?
d) Has any action been initiated against those who have violated rules and regulations? If so, who initiated it?
I suggest the following:
1) Do not lose your control.
2) Handle the situation by applying logic and using your common sense.
3) Demonstrate maturity when handling your employees.
4) Treat problems as challenges, obstacles to overcome, and opportunities to demonstrate your ability to solve problems.
Looking forward to hearing from you at the earliest.
With profound regards.
From India, Chennai
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Greetings.
I read your thread and would like to gather information from you before I could do the needful.
a) May I know your role and designation in your organization?
b) Please submit a few examples supporting your statement "if something goes wrong, they show their envy and reaction towards me."
c) What is the reason behind your employees violating rules?
d) Has any action been initiated against those who have violated rules and regulations? If so, who initiated it?
I suggest the following:
1) Do not lose your control.
2) Handle the situation by applying logic and using your common sense.
3) Demonstrate maturity when handling your employees.
4) Treat problems as challenges, obstacles to overcome, and opportunities to demonstrate your ability to solve problems.
Looking forward to hearing from you at the earliest.
With profound regards.
From India, Chennai
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Hi Sandhya,
Human behavior, attitude, and instinct cannot be comprehended, and accordingly, their central nervous systems work differently.
In your case, you have been implicated between the ID, EGO, and Super EGO. These states occur in every human life. When people are trapped between the ID, EGO, and Super-EGO, for example, when you want to get something without pain, you may think that the person you are talking to knows less than you, and you have learned the strongest values that are a part of your life.
Now, you can understand that this is your personality problem, and these states above create questions that you ask yourself. As an HR person, how can anyone comment on me?
Your work conditions are surrounded by seniors, and your work relations are more emotional than professional with your seniors. It is all up to you how you will get the best results from them.
Here are some points you should take care of:
1. Be a good listener and stay calm.
2. Avoid gossip.
3. Be emotional but act professionally.
4. Create a strong communication channel.
5. Whenever you act, show your effectiveness but be polite.
6. Always ask for suggestions regarding your company policies and ask for implementation.
7. Whenever you are planning to implement new policies, take the good faith of your seniors.
Moreover, if you engage your seniors in company policies for a conducive environment, they will gradually take an interest in following all guidelines. It will take time, but you will get good results.
Sorry for blaming you.
From India
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Human behavior, attitude, and instinct cannot be comprehended, and accordingly, their central nervous systems work differently.
In your case, you have been implicated between the ID, EGO, and Super EGO. These states occur in every human life. When people are trapped between the ID, EGO, and Super-EGO, for example, when you want to get something without pain, you may think that the person you are talking to knows less than you, and you have learned the strongest values that are a part of your life.
Now, you can understand that this is your personality problem, and these states above create questions that you ask yourself. As an HR person, how can anyone comment on me?
Your work conditions are surrounded by seniors, and your work relations are more emotional than professional with your seniors. It is all up to you how you will get the best results from them.
Here are some points you should take care of:
1. Be a good listener and stay calm.
2. Avoid gossip.
3. Be emotional but act professionally.
4. Create a strong communication channel.
5. Whenever you act, show your effectiveness but be polite.
6. Always ask for suggestions regarding your company policies and ask for implementation.
7. Whenever you are planning to implement new policies, take the good faith of your seniors.
Moreover, if you engage your seniors in company policies for a conducive environment, they will gradually take an interest in following all guidelines. It will take time, but you will get good results.
Sorry for blaming you.
From India
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Thank you, Mr. Abdul, for the suggestions. I will surely follow those. Actually, I am the only HR in my company, so it's a bit difficult sometimes to tolerate others' attitudes. But I will try to make changes in my behavior.
Sandhya.
From India, Visakhapatnam
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Sandhya.
From India, Visakhapatnam
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Thank you, Mr. Vikas, for the wonderful suggestions you have given. I think you are right. I should not be emotionally attached to them on a professional platform. I have to bring about a change in my behavior first and foremost. You are right; it's not about blaming me; you made it clear where I may have gone wrong. Thank you very much for guiding me. I will work on this.
Sandhya
From India, Visakhapatnam
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Sandhya
From India, Visakhapatnam
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Dear Ms. Sandhya,
I strongly suggest that you do your job and deliver your responsibilities on time without giving room for any complaints from your immediate superior or boss. If you find anything abnormal, kindly submit a detailed formal and polite report seeking guidance from your boss, updating him on the whole scenario as it is one of your responsibilities. This is the only way to explore your boss's attitude, ability, capability, and more. Good luck in all your endeavors.
With profound regards
From India, Chennai
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I strongly suggest that you do your job and deliver your responsibilities on time without giving room for any complaints from your immediate superior or boss. If you find anything abnormal, kindly submit a detailed formal and polite report seeking guidance from your boss, updating him on the whole scenario as it is one of your responsibilities. This is the only way to explore your boss's attitude, ability, capability, and more. Good luck in all your endeavors.
With profound regards
From India, Chennai
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Hi Sandhya,
Senior employees need recognition, and youngsters need friendliness and equality. Talk to them in their language. Before you implement a rule, personally discuss the rule with the person who is creating a problem and take their opinion into consideration before finalizing the rule. Believe me, they themselves will ensure its perfection.
Good Day,
Saritha
From India, Bangalore
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Senior employees need recognition, and youngsters need friendliness and equality. Talk to them in their language. Before you implement a rule, personally discuss the rule with the person who is creating a problem and take their opinion into consideration before finalizing the rule. Believe me, they themselves will ensure its perfection.
Good Day,
Saritha
From India, Bangalore
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Dear Sandhya,
I completely agree with everybody. Through your conversation, I feel you are working in a small-scale company or a little company. In small companies, employees' attitudes are common. Seniors always try to show their seniority and attitude. Some people feel like HR is trying to control us, HR is trying to gain goodwill with management. You show your sense, like you support them. You should first be cool and think about their attitude, then go logically.
ALL THE BEST
From India, Bangalore
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I completely agree with everybody. Through your conversation, I feel you are working in a small-scale company or a little company. In small companies, employees' attitudes are common. Seniors always try to show their seniority and attitude. Some people feel like HR is trying to control us, HR is trying to gain goodwill with management. You show your sense, like you support them. You should first be cool and think about their attitude, then go logically.
ALL THE BEST
From India, Bangalore
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Dear Mr. Reddy, The location which you hail from is my native place. Nice to see a person from my native as a member of citehr. Kindly do email me about yourself. With profound regards
From India, Chennai
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