I joined my company about 45 days ago. In the project I've been assigned to, there is another employee who is evil. Quite a few incidents happened that demonstrated this:
1. He had been asked to help me with the project workspace setup on my computer. But he kept me waiting when I faced some issues. As in most software companies, we used to communicate over instant messenger instead of having to walk to one another's desk. He did not respond properly over the messenger. So I actually walked over to his desk and told him about the problem. He listened to it, then continued his work ignoring me. I waited for 10 more minutes standing by him, and he kept ignoring me. Then he looked at his watch and said, "We have a team meeting now," and walked away to the meeting room.
Then I only got the project workspace setup asking help from the manager.
2. The manager asked him to give me a code walkthrough of the project, and he readily agreed to do so. But he never once called me to do it. Twice when I asked him, he said, "Yeah, we shall do it soon." Then another day I once again asked him over messenger and he ignored my message. I thought probably he was busy and pinged him on messenger the next day, and again he ignored it.
I informed the manager in a passive tone that "The code walkthrough still hasn't happened." He said the guy might be busy with some bug fixes. Then I got the code walkthrough only from the manager though he is a much busier man.
3. Last week, the manager asked the guy to explain to me some of the features he had been working on so I can handle any issues that may come up in his absence, as he was going on vacation. I was standing by the evil guy's desk when the manager said this. He said he had some check-ins to do and he will explain after that. So I went back to my desk and was waiting for him to call me. I did not bother to ping him or ask him, considering his irresponsible behavior in the past. He silently left for the day without bothering to explain a word to me.
Today I have a one-on-one with my manager's manager. I'm going to complain about the XXXX to him. I'm planning to nicely state, "Some weird things have been happening in the team. Whenever <manager's name> asks <evil guy's name> to help me with some setup or give a code walkthrough, it never happens. I thought I should bring it to your notice." Any thoughts?
From India, Bangalore
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1. He had been asked to help me with the project workspace setup on my computer. But he kept me waiting when I faced some issues. As in most software companies, we used to communicate over instant messenger instead of having to walk to one another's desk. He did not respond properly over the messenger. So I actually walked over to his desk and told him about the problem. He listened to it, then continued his work ignoring me. I waited for 10 more minutes standing by him, and he kept ignoring me. Then he looked at his watch and said, "We have a team meeting now," and walked away to the meeting room.
Then I only got the project workspace setup asking help from the manager.
2. The manager asked him to give me a code walkthrough of the project, and he readily agreed to do so. But he never once called me to do it. Twice when I asked him, he said, "Yeah, we shall do it soon." Then another day I once again asked him over messenger and he ignored my message. I thought probably he was busy and pinged him on messenger the next day, and again he ignored it.
I informed the manager in a passive tone that "The code walkthrough still hasn't happened." He said the guy might be busy with some bug fixes. Then I got the code walkthrough only from the manager though he is a much busier man.
3. Last week, the manager asked the guy to explain to me some of the features he had been working on so I can handle any issues that may come up in his absence, as he was going on vacation. I was standing by the evil guy's desk when the manager said this. He said he had some check-ins to do and he will explain after that. So I went back to my desk and was waiting for him to call me. I did not bother to ping him or ask him, considering his irresponsible behavior in the past. He silently left for the day without bothering to explain a word to me.
Today I have a one-on-one with my manager's manager. I'm going to complain about the XXXX to him. I'm planning to nicely state, "Some weird things have been happening in the team. Whenever <manager's name> asks <evil guy's name> to help me with some setup or give a code walkthrough, it never happens. I thought I should bring it to your notice." Any thoughts?
From India, Bangalore
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Hello friend,
First and foremost, what your colleague is doing is non-cooperation. You cannot call it "evil." Evil is too strong a word to describe his behavior.
Secondly, going on leave/vacation without proper handover is a matter of indiscipline. You should bring this point to your manager.
Thirdly, tone down your anger. Keep your feelings separate from the actual problem. You are becoming a victim of your emotions. I understand it is very difficult to do so, but we must show restraint and maturity as well.
Your emotions have completely taken over you, and here in this public forum, you have used some inappropriate language as well. Please refrain from doing this. Emotion always triggers emotion, especially negative ones.
List out the problems you face and discuss them with your manager one by one. Seek his advice on how to work without your colleague's non-cooperation.
Gentleman, do not jeopardize your career because of your colleague's non-cooperation. You need to exercise discretion and assertiveness at this stage.
Thanks,
Dinesh V Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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8032First and foremost, what your colleague is doing is non-cooperation. You cannot call it "evil." Evil is too strong a word to describe his behavior.
Secondly, going on leave/vacation without proper handover is a matter of indiscipline. You should bring this point to your manager.
Thirdly, tone down your anger. Keep your feelings separate from the actual problem. You are becoming a victim of your emotions. I understand it is very difficult to do so, but we must show restraint and maturity as well.
Your emotions have completely taken over you, and here in this public forum, you have used some inappropriate language as well. Please refrain from doing this. Emotion always triggers emotion, especially negative ones.
List out the problems you face and discuss them with your manager one by one. Seek his advice on how to work without your colleague's non-cooperation.
Gentleman, do not jeopardize your career because of your colleague's non-cooperation. You need to exercise discretion and assertiveness at this stage.
Thanks,
Dinesh V Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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It is really quite obvious of you to behave like this because from your post, it seems you are a fresher who joined an organization for the first time.
First of all, just remember you are here to learn; therefore, you need to have patience as learning is a gradual process that comes with time. Moreover, try to put yourself in the shoes of the evil man; maybe he is insecure after you joined the organization for his own post. It is a common psychology, so you need not worry. You just need to talk to your manager in an amicable way that will definitely sort out your problem to a greater extent.
Regards,
MK
From India, Delhi
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First of all, just remember you are here to learn; therefore, you need to have patience as learning is a gradual process that comes with time. Moreover, try to put yourself in the shoes of the evil man; maybe he is insecure after you joined the organization for his own post. It is a common psychology, so you need not worry. You just need to talk to your manager in an amicable way that will definitely sort out your problem to a greater extent.
Regards,
MK
From India, Delhi
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Yes, I will tell facts only to the manager without showing any emotions or anger.
This guy is behaving this way, even though I had once helped him fix a bug in the code sitting with him for half an hour, for which he had been struggling sitting on a whole Sunday at the office. He has no moral sense.
One more thing, I'm not a fresher, I'm an experienced person at the Project leader level. The coworker is at a lower designation than me, and my time is costlier to the company than his.
From India, Bangalore
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This guy is behaving this way, even though I had once helped him fix a bug in the code sitting with him for half an hour, for which he had been struggling sitting on a whole Sunday at the office. He has no moral sense.
One more thing, I'm not a fresher, I'm an experienced person at the Project leader level. The coworker is at a lower designation than me, and my time is costlier to the company than his.
From India, Bangalore
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Hi About to be caught,
This is effective communication if you show your name whenever you ask for suggestions from seniors, okay pal.
After taking a glance at your thread, I understand that your communication channel is not effective. When we express our thoughts, considerations, decisions, and work talks with someone, we need a strong channel for communication to persuade people in the right direction.
We can't use unparliamentary words, no matter what situation arises in front of us.
Now, in your case, you have only 45 days of experience in this company, and you have analyzed that your colleague is not supporting you. Your colleague is trapped with two emotional conditions:
1. Job insecurity
2. Personality insecurity
You are also dealing with two emotional behaviors:
1. Infamous
2. Super ego
You need to rectify the above paragraphs, and no one can help you with this, only guide you.
One thing you can do is start written communication with your senior or colleague; this will help you enjoy the work, and your performance will definitely increase.
Also, follow the suggestions given by Mr. Dinesh and MK.
From India
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This is effective communication if you show your name whenever you ask for suggestions from seniors, okay pal.
After taking a glance at your thread, I understand that your communication channel is not effective. When we express our thoughts, considerations, decisions, and work talks with someone, we need a strong channel for communication to persuade people in the right direction.
We can't use unparliamentary words, no matter what situation arises in front of us.
Now, in your case, you have only 45 days of experience in this company, and you have analyzed that your colleague is not supporting you. Your colleague is trapped with two emotional conditions:
1. Job insecurity
2. Personality insecurity
You are also dealing with two emotional behaviors:
1. Infamous
2. Super ego
You need to rectify the above paragraphs, and no one can help you with this, only guide you.
One thing you can do is start written communication with your senior or colleague; this will help you enjoy the work, and your performance will definitely increase.
Also, follow the suggestions given by Mr. Dinesh and MK.
From India
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Dear Caught,
In case your coworker lacks moral sense, you must help him realize the same. Expecting a favor in return for your help is like expecting a lion not to eat you because you are a vegetarian. Just be patient and make note of all the points you need to discuss with your manager. He will certainly understand your point of view and provide a solution once he discusses the matter with both of you.
Also, do not compare yourself with anybody; always compete with yourself.
Regards,
MK
From India, Delhi
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In case your coworker lacks moral sense, you must help him realize the same. Expecting a favor in return for your help is like expecting a lion not to eat you because you are a vegetarian. Just be patient and make note of all the points you need to discuss with your manager. He will certainly understand your point of view and provide a solution once he discusses the matter with both of you.
Also, do not compare yourself with anybody; always compete with yourself.
Regards,
MK
From India, Delhi
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Dear about_to_be_caught,
There are certain points which I think you, being the Project Leader, may consider and apply for these types of problems:
1. There is no place for emotion in this service world.
2. Why should you behave in such an indisciplined manner which others want you to?
3. Always try to apply Emotional Intelligence to handle these types of problems.
4. Instead of being frustrated by others' negative behavior, you may concentrate on your work and let time and your work speak for itself.
5. Try not to be reactive in those situations; rather, instigate them to be reactive and watch the HD film.
6. The above points are very hard to maintain, but to remain competitive in this world of dragons, we need to follow these for ourselves only.
Regards,
Jawed Alam.
From India, Dhanbad
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There are certain points which I think you, being the Project Leader, may consider and apply for these types of problems:
1. There is no place for emotion in this service world.
2. Why should you behave in such an indisciplined manner which others want you to?
3. Always try to apply Emotional Intelligence to handle these types of problems.
4. Instead of being frustrated by others' negative behavior, you may concentrate on your work and let time and your work speak for itself.
5. Try not to be reactive in those situations; rather, instigate them to be reactive and watch the HD film.
6. The above points are very hard to maintain, but to remain competitive in this world of dragons, we need to follow these for ourselves only.
Regards,
Jawed Alam.
From India, Dhanbad
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Dear Friend,
I just want to tell you one thing: to handle these kinds of situations, always drop an email to the person first, then wait for their response. If they don't reply, just ask again by forwarding that particular email with a cc to the manager.
Regards,
Ravi
From India, Mumbai
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I just want to tell you one thing: to handle these kinds of situations, always drop an email to the person first, then wait for their response. If they don't reply, just ask again by forwarding that particular email with a cc to the manager.
Regards,
Ravi
From India, Mumbai
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Vikash, XXX. You accused me of being egoistic with no evidence at all. I've been dealing with that person with the utmost patience despite his repeated offenses towards a person senior to himself, and when he was explicitly instructed to do the tutorial sessions with me. I helped him and never spoke or behaved in a harsh way towards him. You are just another jealous person like him, so you call good people egoistic.
Others, thanks for the replies. I did complain in a factual way to the boss about him being non-cooperative, and he said he will talk to the person about this and get back to me.
From India, Bangalore
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Others, thanks for the replies. I did complain in a factual way to the boss about him being non-cooperative, and he said he will talk to the person about this and get back to me.
From India, Bangalore
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