Self confidence tips..
Everybody needs a confidence boost sometimes, so here are a few
tips...
[These self confidence tips come from Roger Elliott]
1) Feel Good when you Want
When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3
things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good
times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use
photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to
mind.
Developing self confidence that lasts - because of the way
emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train
yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.
2) Beat Self Consciousness
Self consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to
keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following
these steps...
a) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually
tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday'
you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look
at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made
it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how
to keep your attention off yourself.
b) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually
because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in
the situation is. Whether you're there to:
find out if you like the other people in the situation
make others feel comfortable
find out some information
make business contacts
and so on...
It's easy to feel self-conscious if you have nothing to do, and much
more difficult if your attention is occupied by a task.
Think how comfortable you have been with others when you're all
working toward a common goal. The common goal of socialising could be
making friends, it could be the exchange of mutually beneficial
information, it could be whatever you want it to be!
3) Don't Take Undue Criticism - Even From Yourself !
Challenge your own assumptions. Here's a few to get you started:
a) Confident-looking people have bad moments too.
b) Just because you feel under-confident, doesn't mean other people can tell..
c) If you're saying things to yourself like "You're no good at
anything" then rest assured, you're wrong. Everyone can compose a
sentence, get successfully to the store, eat without choking. Don't
let yourself make sweeping statements about yourself - in the long
run it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image.
Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself,
it's about not thinking bad for no reason!
d) Just because you have felt bad about yourself in the past doesn't
mean you're always going to feel that way. I have seen hundreds of
people surprise themselves once they have learned how to build self
confidence in a way that it stays built!
From India, Coimbatore
Everybody needs a confidence boost sometimes, so here are a few
tips...
[These self confidence tips come from Roger Elliott]
1) Feel Good when you Want
When you need to boost your self confidence or self esteem, find 3
things that make you feel good. These could be memories of good
times, a piece of music, a holiday souvenir, or a person's face - use
photos if it helps. Practise thinking about them and bringing them to
mind.
Developing self confidence that lasts - because of the way
emotions 'attach' themselves to memories, you will quickly train
yourself to feel good when you want - a great help.
2) Beat Self Consciousness
Self consciousness is the No.1 enemy of self confidence. Learn how to
keep your attention off yourself. You can do this easily by following
these steps...
a) If you notice you have become self-conscious, (you can usually
tell because you start to feel anxious), choose something 'everyday'
you can see and study it in detail. For example: examine a door, look
at the different textures and shades of colour, wonder about who made
it and how and so on. The important thing is that you're learning how
to keep your attention off yourself.
b) If you feel self-conscious in a social situation, it's usually
because you don't have enough to do! Focus on what your purpose in
the situation is. Whether you're there to:
find out if you like the other people in the situation
make others feel comfortable
find out some information
make business contacts
and so on...
It's easy to feel self-conscious if you have nothing to do, and much
more difficult if your attention is occupied by a task.
Think how comfortable you have been with others when you're all
working toward a common goal. The common goal of socialising could be
making friends, it could be the exchange of mutually beneficial
information, it could be whatever you want it to be!
3) Don't Take Undue Criticism - Even From Yourself !
Challenge your own assumptions. Here's a few to get you started:
a) Confident-looking people have bad moments too.
b) Just because you feel under-confident, doesn't mean other people can tell..
c) If you're saying things to yourself like "You're no good at
anything" then rest assured, you're wrong. Everyone can compose a
sentence, get successfully to the store, eat without choking. Don't
let yourself make sweeping statements about yourself - in the long
run it is this sort of thing that can really damage your self image.
Building self esteem is not just about thinking good of yourself,
it's about not thinking bad for no reason!
d) Just because you have felt bad about yourself in the past doesn't
mean you're always going to feel that way. I have seen hundreds of
people surprise themselves once they have learned how to build self
confidence in a way that it stays built!
From India, Coimbatore
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