Dear All,
Before writing anything here, I would like to inform everyone that the incident is real and there's no intention to hurt anyone's feeling here. Please be straight and true on your comments...
Recently, My frnd got very depressed and stopped talking to anyone in his family, frnd circle and in office too. When we continously asked him the reason he started crying and in deep depression he told us this..
He was in love with one girl frm past 5 years...she also loved him..Everything was going on fine when suddenly last month girls parents fixed her marriage with some other person. Both girl and my frnd got very depressed. But suddenly one day the girl was missing and everyone was afarid of her well being. After lot of enquiries everyone came to know that she has married another boy whom she knew only frm last 1 yr or so (Its not my frnd). When my frnd heard this; he got very depressed and right now he's not able to decide anything as he was truly and totally dedicated towards her...
Now; when my frnd approached that girl; she refused to tell him anything and has started neglecting him by saying that she have married a boy who loves her and care for her.
I have posted this incident as I believe that people here in this community belongs to Human resource profile who understand the value of humans!
Now, everyone out here in CiteHR, please let me know-
1) Is this fair enough for my friend? Or the girl has choosen a right step towards her life?
2) Whether we humans r making a mokery of the true sense of love by palying with others life?
Please decide and suggest as what my frnd should do! This is not simple to answer as it requires an unbaised thinking..
Regards,
From India, Madras
Before writing anything here, I would like to inform everyone that the incident is real and there's no intention to hurt anyone's feeling here. Please be straight and true on your comments...
Recently, My frnd got very depressed and stopped talking to anyone in his family, frnd circle and in office too. When we continously asked him the reason he started crying and in deep depression he told us this..
He was in love with one girl frm past 5 years...she also loved him..Everything was going on fine when suddenly last month girls parents fixed her marriage with some other person. Both girl and my frnd got very depressed. But suddenly one day the girl was missing and everyone was afarid of her well being. After lot of enquiries everyone came to know that she has married another boy whom she knew only frm last 1 yr or so (Its not my frnd). When my frnd heard this; he got very depressed and right now he's not able to decide anything as he was truly and totally dedicated towards her...
Now; when my frnd approached that girl; she refused to tell him anything and has started neglecting him by saying that she have married a boy who loves her and care for her.
I have posted this incident as I believe that people here in this community belongs to Human resource profile who understand the value of humans!
Now, everyone out here in CiteHR, please let me know-
1) Is this fair enough for my friend? Or the girl has choosen a right step towards her life?
2) Whether we humans r making a mokery of the true sense of love by palying with others life?
Please decide and suggest as what my frnd should do! This is not simple to answer as it requires an unbaised thinking..
Regards,
From India, Madras
ya annesh,
its very difficult situation the problem is with that girl itself..why she had left that great lover........may be she has some reasons we dont now.....
make ur frd realize that some one...will definetely come in his life......... to share his feelings as every one will be having one partner as off nature.....
Its her fault to lose such a cared person.............
we can give but can't take same from the other side...............
So why should not depress and makes his life as a great loser..........
he has so much life to go on..........Lets concentrate on his Goal
and fulfill his parents wishes ................
Parents are more important to us than any one..........
ask him to look after their parents as they were older.. they need his happiness
as if he was in depress as of now
they even feel bad along with him..........
Suggest his parents to marry him........as soon as possible if he settles in his life ..........
So that he can forget all his past as soon as possible............
At starting ...its make him feel uncomfortable but later he understands why he was wasting his life by thinking...................
From India, Hyderabad
3its very difficult situation the problem is with that girl itself..why she had left that great lover........may be she has some reasons we dont now.....
make ur frd realize that some one...will definetely come in his life......... to share his feelings as every one will be having one partner as off nature.....
Its her fault to lose such a cared person.............
we can give but can't take same from the other side...............
So why should not depress and makes his life as a great loser..........
he has so much life to go on..........Lets concentrate on his Goal
and fulfill his parents wishes ................
Parents are more important to us than any one..........
ask him to look after their parents as they were older.. they need his happiness
as if he was in depress as of now
they even feel bad along with him..........
Suggest his parents to marry him........as soon as possible if he settles in his life ..........
So that he can forget all his past as soon as possible............
At starting ...its make him feel uncomfortable but later he understands why he was wasting his life by thinking...................
From India, Hyderabad
Hi aneesh,
Tell your friend now she got married so now no use to cry for her whatever he has to do has to be done b4. Now she is not her she is someone else's so leave that matter and try to look forward!
I know its not so easy but he has to come out of this situation.
It will be wastage of time if he will think of her continuosly bcz she is no more of him.
She was the part of his life now she is not.
Tell your friend now she got married so now no use to cry for her whatever he has to do has to be done b4. Now she is not her she is someone else's so leave that matter and try to look forward!
I know its not so easy but he has to come out of this situation.
It will be wastage of time if he will think of her continuosly bcz she is no more of him.
She was the part of his life now she is not.
Dear Yogita/ Minnu,
Thanks for both of ur comments....I'm glad that the one who repled for my questions were both girls...
See... wat we have learnt frm life is...A girl..she is a mother, She's a daughter, a wife and ofcourse a great companion and frnd...
But wat if she turns like dis....???
Not 2 blame anyone...pls dont mistake my words...
We have tried to console him with similar words but as you said its very easy to just tell him not to think of her anymore but its hard for him to apply and realise all this...
Anyways....Thanks a lot for your valuable suggestions...and hope that girl will soon realise that she has lost a reall good boy...
Regards,
From India, Madras
Thanks for both of ur comments....I'm glad that the one who repled for my questions were both girls...
See... wat we have learnt frm life is...A girl..she is a mother, She's a daughter, a wife and ofcourse a great companion and frnd...
But wat if she turns like dis....???
Not 2 blame anyone...pls dont mistake my words...
We have tried to console him with similar words but as you said its very easy to just tell him not to think of her anymore but its hard for him to apply and realise all this...
Anyways....Thanks a lot for your valuable suggestions...and hope that girl will soon realise that she has lost a reall good boy...
Regards,
From India, Madras
Hi aneesh,
Its really sad & its foolishness of the Girl to Lose such a Caring, Loving Lover. Just after reading, Im feeling very bad by the incident, Then It takes Some days for Your friend to erase the unfavouable incident by his memory. All of Your friends, Near & Dear ones has to join hands in helping him to slowly forget this. Dont let him to be alone, Try to make him to know the GIRL ISN`t LUCKY TO LEAD LIFE WITH HIM. if he keeps on worrying, the girl will not come back na, Instead it effects his health, Golden Career, & his Surroundings. your friend is worrying for the Lost ONe Girl, There are more than ONe(i.e his parents & Dear ones are worrying about YOUr Friend), he will lose the valuable time by thinking about the girl, Bec TIME ONCE PAST, IT CAN`t BE RESTRAINED NA,
Lastly I Wish let GOD help in forgetting the Girl. May He Finds THE LOST LOVE WITH SOMEONE, :|
From India, Bellary
Its really sad & its foolishness of the Girl to Lose such a Caring, Loving Lover. Just after reading, Im feeling very bad by the incident, Then It takes Some days for Your friend to erase the unfavouable incident by his memory. All of Your friends, Near & Dear ones has to join hands in helping him to slowly forget this. Dont let him to be alone, Try to make him to know the GIRL ISN`t LUCKY TO LEAD LIFE WITH HIM. if he keeps on worrying, the girl will not come back na, Instead it effects his health, Golden Career, & his Surroundings. your friend is worrying for the Lost ONe Girl, There are more than ONe(i.e his parents & Dear ones are worrying about YOUr Friend), he will lose the valuable time by thinking about the girl, Bec TIME ONCE PAST, IT CAN`t BE RESTRAINED NA,
Lastly I Wish let GOD help in forgetting the Girl. May He Finds THE LOST LOVE WITH SOMEONE, :|
From India, Bellary
Hello Aneesh
Hope you are doing good. After reading your friend's incident i recall similar incident of my brother. He was in a relationship from 12 yrs and suddenly girl broke up with him saying that she is no more interested in him. That was very unusual statement from girls side as my brother cared her like a child. but now we understand this that it was both's fault one took it very seriously(my brother) and other one took it very lightly (that girl). My brother was in same condition as your friend is, but we took extra care of him. his friends were always there for him to help n support him. We are thankful to his friends who changed his mind by diverting his mind from the girl to his career. i know my brother still thinks about that girl whenever he is alone but now he knows that he has lost somebody who never loved him but that girl has lost somebody who loved her like anything.
Tell your friend the same thing and motivate him, Try to change his mind. Take him away from his surroundings for a while bc sometimes change in place matters a lot in changing mind. Dont tell wrong about that girl bc she must have done this for a reason which we all dont know. so we cant totally blame that girl as well.
Take care dear and May god bless your friend with a more loving partner.
From India, Chandigarh
Hope you are doing good. After reading your friend's incident i recall similar incident of my brother. He was in a relationship from 12 yrs and suddenly girl broke up with him saying that she is no more interested in him. That was very unusual statement from girls side as my brother cared her like a child. but now we understand this that it was both's fault one took it very seriously(my brother) and other one took it very lightly (that girl). My brother was in same condition as your friend is, but we took extra care of him. his friends were always there for him to help n support him. We are thankful to his friends who changed his mind by diverting his mind from the girl to his career. i know my brother still thinks about that girl whenever he is alone but now he knows that he has lost somebody who never loved him but that girl has lost somebody who loved her like anything.
Tell your friend the same thing and motivate him, Try to change his mind. Take him away from his surroundings for a while bc sometimes change in place matters a lot in changing mind. Dont tell wrong about that girl bc she must have done this for a reason which we all dont know. so we cant totally blame that girl as well.
Take care dear and May god bless your friend with a more loving partner.
From India, Chandigarh
Tell ur frnd tht he has not lost anything The girl has lost a person who loved her truly so no need to b depressed
From India, Gurgaon
From India, Gurgaon
dear aneesh,
m happy that u care for ur frnd.... but its not good to hav bad feeling for that girl.... as we dnt kno why she has done this...and this only ur frnd can understand...
thr must b some reason for making that girl to took that step...
its not necessary that if they are having relationship from last 5 years it means they are happy together....
may b the girl is not happy with ur frnd..... may b frm last 2-3 yrs thr are some prblms btwn both of them, and they are not able to solve it out, so she fall in another relationship with another boy...
only loving each other is not enough to spent life with each other, thr are so many compromises and understanding too may b they dont hav all these btwn them, and all these qualities she found in other boy..
and i think it is good to break the relation which dnt let them live happily it gives them pain for some time, on the other hand if they get married and wl not b happy this giv them pain for the whole life
i hav sympathy with ur frnd too but it is not correct in my opinion to blame that girl for his condition, thr must b some of his fault which make her to do this...
i wish ur frnd will come out of this very soon and that girl will live happily too.
From India, Bangalore
m happy that u care for ur frnd.... but its not good to hav bad feeling for that girl.... as we dnt kno why she has done this...and this only ur frnd can understand...
thr must b some reason for making that girl to took that step...
its not necessary that if they are having relationship from last 5 years it means they are happy together....
may b the girl is not happy with ur frnd..... may b frm last 2-3 yrs thr are some prblms btwn both of them, and they are not able to solve it out, so she fall in another relationship with another boy...
only loving each other is not enough to spent life with each other, thr are so many compromises and understanding too may b they dont hav all these btwn them, and all these qualities she found in other boy..
and i think it is good to break the relation which dnt let them live happily it gives them pain for some time, on the other hand if they get married and wl not b happy this giv them pain for the whole life
i hav sympathy with ur frnd too but it is not correct in my opinion to blame that girl for his condition, thr must b some of his fault which make her to do this...
i wish ur frnd will come out of this very soon and that girl will live happily too.
From India, Bangalore
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