Dear Swati
It is simple to overcome from these kind of problem , Don't Give her answer with your reaction but give her answer with your JOB and work .
Because "suffering of each senior is their Job "
Nobal prabha Kishor
From India, Shimla
20It is simple to overcome from these kind of problem , Don't Give her answer with your reaction but give her answer with your JOB and work .
Because "suffering of each senior is their Job "
Nobal prabha Kishor
From India, Shimla
Dear swati,
Even though my reply to your mail will be the last, i hope...you can tell me the following. As a trainer I give examples to all concerned about the various activities happening in the organisations and it would be a lesson for them to cope up or quit. I would request you to give the company name personally in my mail id as I keep going to lot of companies and also know the top management. I have also solved several issues by telling the management that instead of losing 100 good people lose one top person who may be the culprit.
since i did not access the site for so many days I didnt see yours. pls reply to
I think u would have quit by this time
From India, Bangalore
Even though my reply to your mail will be the last, i hope...you can tell me the following. As a trainer I give examples to all concerned about the various activities happening in the organisations and it would be a lesson for them to cope up or quit. I would request you to give the company name personally in my mail id as I keep going to lot of companies and also know the top management. I have also solved several issues by telling the management that instead of losing 100 good people lose one top person who may be the culprit.
since i did not access the site for so many days I didnt see yours. pls reply to
I think u would have quit by this time
From India, Bangalore
1. To err is human. If your manager is not admitting this despite your apologies, you are advised to keep silence. The day will come when she would feel overburdened with work.
2. One thing goes in your favour that your director has taken it lightly. Keep on hunting a new job. Try that she should not find your another fault untill you get a new job. If she does not want to speak to you, do not beg again and again for work. One day she herself will give you the assignment.
3. If you want to take a risk, gather your courage, go to the director and speak the situation fearlessely without bothering the result. I have worked for 25 yrs in corporate world. I have won the situation many times applying one or the other above mentioned methods.
From India, Kharar
2. One thing goes in your favour that your director has taken it lightly. Keep on hunting a new job. Try that she should not find your another fault untill you get a new job. If she does not want to speak to you, do not beg again and again for work. One day she herself will give you the assignment.
3. If you want to take a risk, gather your courage, go to the director and speak the situation fearlessely without bothering the result. I have worked for 25 yrs in corporate world. I have won the situation many times applying one or the other above mentioned methods.
From India, Kharar
Hi Swati,
first of all this is the first thread i have read with more than 1300 view
most of the point are already covered in this thread by seniors
my suggestion for the course of action if not already pursued would be
first you should write an apology email to your manager CC your director on that email wait for at least 24 hours or more to receive any response
if you don't receive any response flip the recipient of that email TO Director and CC manager again wait for 24 hours or more to receive any response.
If no response again mark an email TO both of them
if still you don't get any response file a hot line complain or go to grievance cell and place you complain with them.
I Assume that you would get some sort of response
As mention : its up to you to flight fight or freeze
if still situation persist , it would be intelligent of you to file a mental harassment case of them.
As per you mentioning that some one tells you when you behave professional to be over smart, there are people you cannot perform work professionally and when they see others doing it effortlessly would always comment some cheap comments. you should be happy about it as this shows that you are doing your job with perfection and those are critics when each successful professional have to bear with
Thanks
Ro
From Netherlands, Group
first of all this is the first thread i have read with more than 1300 view
most of the point are already covered in this thread by seniors
my suggestion for the course of action if not already pursued would be
first you should write an apology email to your manager CC your director on that email wait for at least 24 hours or more to receive any response
if you don't receive any response flip the recipient of that email TO Director and CC manager again wait for 24 hours or more to receive any response.
If no response again mark an email TO both of them
if still you don't get any response file a hot line complain or go to grievance cell and place you complain with them.
I Assume that you would get some sort of response
As mention : its up to you to flight fight or freeze
if still situation persist , it would be intelligent of you to file a mental harassment case of them.
As per you mentioning that some one tells you when you behave professional to be over smart, there are people you cannot perform work professionally and when they see others doing it effortlessly would always comment some cheap comments. you should be happy about it as this shows that you are doing your job with perfection and those are critics when each successful professional have to bear with
Thanks
Ro
From Netherlands, Group
This is the case where you have two option. First is to continue suffering your manager and Second just think about choosing a new job.
As it is very clear that you have done a mistake by mistake and your manager is overreacting on it.
See every Superior shows his anger if your mistakes are getting him/her down. If it has happen then you should try to bring some respect for him/her.
A capable employee never takes decision in hurry as well as in negative sense. You should also take a decision to work with her by changing your views about her or to just changing your company but Are you sure will get a favorable manager in other company. I would like to say you just go ahead at the same company while performing your duties as usual but not ignore a single thing whatever you are learning from her behaviour.
Best regards,
Jas
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
As it is very clear that you have done a mistake by mistake and your manager is overreacting on it.
See every Superior shows his anger if your mistakes are getting him/her down. If it has happen then you should try to bring some respect for him/her.
A capable employee never takes decision in hurry as well as in negative sense. You should also take a decision to work with her by changing your views about her or to just changing your company but Are you sure will get a favorable manager in other company. I would like to say you just go ahead at the same company while performing your duties as usual but not ignore a single thing whatever you are learning from her behaviour.
Best regards,
Jas
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
Hi Swaati,
I read all above mentioned comments, and here my comment goes:
At very first place, if you are working under someone else, really does not mean to tolerate insult. Be professional in this case, your manager is not one to control you. who matters is, your director.
if you think that there was not any confidential matter in a mail, there is no point to create and involved in a war. So be very precise and to the point.
And no need to beg atleast, this is something your manager wants and you do that. You are satisfying her ego. and she enjoys that.
Stop doing this, better you concentrate on your work and avoid her, your colleagues know your work, so do your director. so be happy with that.
Have a meeting with your director, there is noone who can stop you for this. Ask him directly that you would resign if things continue in this way.
You have pretty good experience, field of HR is vast, explore yourself and enjoy your career. do not allow anyone to criticize you.
Regards,
Shreya Parikh
(HR)
From India, Pune
I read all above mentioned comments, and here my comment goes:
At very first place, if you are working under someone else, really does not mean to tolerate insult. Be professional in this case, your manager is not one to control you. who matters is, your director.
if you think that there was not any confidential matter in a mail, there is no point to create and involved in a war. So be very precise and to the point.
And no need to beg atleast, this is something your manager wants and you do that. You are satisfying her ego. and she enjoys that.
Stop doing this, better you concentrate on your work and avoid her, your colleagues know your work, so do your director. so be happy with that.
Have a meeting with your director, there is noone who can stop you for this. Ask him directly that you would resign if things continue in this way.
You have pretty good experience, field of HR is vast, explore yourself and enjoy your career. do not allow anyone to criticize you.
Regards,
Shreya Parikh
(HR)
From India, Pune
Dear Swathi,
I can understand and feel your situation. Because, i have faced the same issues with my boss during my 1st employment.
There are few seniors, always shows some character (specially to the reporting personnel)
Those people have the attitude of self dominance. They want, he/she want to dominate the office premises.
If, anyone comes equal to them (specially juniors). They will definitely put their shoes on our head to dump.
Be patient & start looking for a change.
Until U be calm for while & better you stay away from your boss until u get your new job.
Regards
Selva
From India, Chennai
I can understand and feel your situation. Because, i have faced the same issues with my boss during my 1st employment.
There are few seniors, always shows some character (specially to the reporting personnel)
Those people have the attitude of self dominance. They want, he/she want to dominate the office premises.
If, anyone comes equal to them (specially juniors). They will definitely put their shoes on our head to dump.
Be patient & start looking for a change.
Until U be calm for while & better you stay away from your boss until u get your new job.
Regards
Selva
From India, Chennai
Hi swathi,
I am following your post from many days. Can you please let us know what steps have you taken and if so any changes in your work environment?
Did citehr help you in putting things in reality?
Looking forward for your comments
Regards,
Radha yermal
From India, Bangalore
I am following your post from many days. Can you please let us know what steps have you taken and if so any changes in your work environment?
Did citehr help you in putting things in reality?
Looking forward for your comments
Regards,
Radha yermal
From India, Bangalore
Firstly, Jus think was she the same before. If yes, may be you can discuss about it with the next level. If No then probably you will have to give her some time to cool down, as the mistake might be very severe or she might be worried that you may continue the same if she is not correcting you. Let her get the confidence that you will not repeat the same & will prove to be a real support to her...
From India, Hyderabad
From India, Hyderabad
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