Hi Gayathri,
Such scenarios do happen. What you require to do is take charge. Finally whatever they do you are their boss.
In such scenarios, being professional is more imp than being emotional.
The most important thing that requires to be done by you is firstly call a meeting, in which at all times you require to be very cordial.
Tell them that the change has taken place and they have to work in the present. You can even praise your predecessor and request them to give you the same kind of support.
You have to draw their attention to the fact that the success of the department is dependent on each and every person and we have to work as a team.
Create KRAs and hand over the brief to every team member. This could be done in the second meeting.
Inform them that their appraisal is based on their achievements.
Create accountability in the organisation.
Your team will realize that they cant fool around and will start respecting you.
You require to be assertive at all times.
This is a very brief suggestion. Incase you can inform me about your exact and specific problem, I could. be of assistance to you as I personally have handled such situations and as a consultant have also advised promoters on staff handling.
You can contact me at:
for further details.
Rgds and All the Best
From India, Mumbai
Such scenarios do happen. What you require to do is take charge. Finally whatever they do you are their boss.
In such scenarios, being professional is more imp than being emotional.
The most important thing that requires to be done by you is firstly call a meeting, in which at all times you require to be very cordial.
Tell them that the change has taken place and they have to work in the present. You can even praise your predecessor and request them to give you the same kind of support.
You have to draw their attention to the fact that the success of the department is dependent on each and every person and we have to work as a team.
Create KRAs and hand over the brief to every team member. This could be done in the second meeting.
Inform them that their appraisal is based on their achievements.
Create accountability in the organisation.
Your team will realize that they cant fool around and will start respecting you.
You require to be assertive at all times.
This is a very brief suggestion. Incase you can inform me about your exact and specific problem, I could. be of assistance to you as I personally have handled such situations and as a consultant have also advised promoters on staff handling.
You can contact me at:
Rgds and All the Best
From India, Mumbai
Hi Gayathri,
As all others have advised you, a little more patience will help you go a long way in your overall career.
Please also understand that your task as a HR professional is to do your job first. Winning a popularity contest will not be in your KRAs. Having said that, you should aimed for being respected as a professional first, and being liked afterwards.
Become visible as an HR person - don't be stuck in your cabin for the entire day. With increased visibility, you can generate rapport. There are various ways to do this - from having lunch with folks of other departments, offering someone a lift home.
They will then understand you better and things will improve. They will change their attitude towards you once they realise that you can and do deliver your work - on time, without excuses.
I disagree with Nev about HR handing over the KRAs to employees. This task should be done by the Managers directly - in person. HR can be present during this meeting as a facilitator of the assessment system. The lines of authority should be clear. If you are going to give the KRAs, then why are you hiring a line manager - what is the value add of that person.
In all your communication with them, I have only one comment to make : "There is a difference between TELL & SELL - (most of the time) strike a balance which favours the SELL ". This will help you in the long run.
Wish you all the best.
Regards
Ryan
From India, Mumbai
89As all others have advised you, a little more patience will help you go a long way in your overall career.
Please also understand that your task as a HR professional is to do your job first. Winning a popularity contest will not be in your KRAs. Having said that, you should aimed for being respected as a professional first, and being liked afterwards.
Become visible as an HR person - don't be stuck in your cabin for the entire day. With increased visibility, you can generate rapport. There are various ways to do this - from having lunch with folks of other departments, offering someone a lift home.
They will then understand you better and things will improve. They will change their attitude towards you once they realise that you can and do deliver your work - on time, without excuses.
I disagree with Nev about HR handing over the KRAs to employees. This task should be done by the Managers directly - in person. HR can be present during this meeting as a facilitator of the assessment system. The lines of authority should be clear. If you are going to give the KRAs, then why are you hiring a line manager - what is the value add of that person.
In all your communication with them, I have only one comment to make : "There is a difference between TELL & SELL - (most of the time) strike a balance which favours the SELL ". This will help you in the long run.
Wish you all the best.
Regards
Ryan
From India, Mumbai
Dear Gayatri,
I m not sure that how far I m right…but this is the right situation you can prove your self and take it as challenge then you will get success. Also maintain good relationship with your colleagues and be confident on your work wat you are doing.
I wish you All the best …..
Thank you,
Aparna.
:)
From India, Hyderabad
I m not sure that how far I m right…but this is the right situation you can prove your self and take it as challenge then you will get success. Also maintain good relationship with your colleagues and be confident on your work wat you are doing.
I wish you All the best …..
Thank you,
Aparna.
:)
From India, Hyderabad
Dear Gayathri,
"......But to be calm and composed before a million universes!!!"
All depends on the amount of confidence you have in your abilities and confidence especially on the clarity of your thoughts. Do you believe yourself to possess enough intelligence? Do you believe that you have the capacity to learn? Do you believe you can think clearly? Do you believe you have the ability to communicate? You may not know every thing, but do you believe you have the right attitude? If so, please stand your ground in a stead fast manner. If you become too self conscious, you would be focusing on your assumed weaknesses and start seeing ghosts and this may become chronic. You may not have control on others but you can certainly regulate your behaviour or your responses to the events and people around you. In such cases, being a little thick headed helps too!!! (But ofcourse, not arrogant). You also need not stoop to please every one, but at the same time appear caring. You can if you (try) modify other's behaviour through your behaviour or behavioural responses. But you must be consistent in your behaviour perseverently, assuming the behaviour you display is well balanced.
You may also need to pick up a few techniques that I am sure many senior friend will contribute to you to get over such situations with sucess. Most importantly, you need to trust yourself and the work you put in persistently and at the same time develop a solid / good impression with the top / boss. Simultaneously try gradually winning over the people one by one. Do not over react. Be empathetic but firm.
In fact, this gives you a wonderful opportunity to gain newer abilities which if successful will make you succeed with people and this is no ordinary quality. However, we always encounter, the male bias towards the working women notedly. Do not try to do every thing all at one time. It will be too difficult and confusing. Just think with clear head and understand the biases, insecurities and temperaments of the people. Two major problems are sense of insecurity and the other is the ego. How do you tackle these, you must watch and see and devise strategies and tactics. How will you win their confidence and build good communication with one-to-one. The work place and the work can be the aids through which you interact and build relationships. Use them strategically and tactically. There will be innumerous events, circumstances and situations where they would give you chances to intervene and help them out both at work and / or personal fronts. Be helpful without getting too personally involved, be generous but be a no nonsense person form the very start while being benevolent. Display firmness only with your superior knowledge of things, but be a mentor / coach exhibiting interest in helping some one develop skills or know about any assignments / work where they feel they need assistance. search for such circumstances where in you can professionally help them on their jobs. But don't be "please all" types. i hope you understand.
All these you can certainly do, only if you take it as a positive challenge, and it is definitely worth all the effort you put in for you will be aglow with new intrinsic confidence. Another important point is, however, wrong or unreasonable people may be, that is the perception of you they are exhibiting. However wrong their perception of you might be, but that perception is a reality. It provides you with a challenge to also make modifications suitably. Enjoy the fun sincerely and wish you all the best. Also read books and articles by successful women, it helps!!!
Regrds,
M.A.Ganju
From United Arab Emirates, Sharjah
"......But to be calm and composed before a million universes!!!"
All depends on the amount of confidence you have in your abilities and confidence especially on the clarity of your thoughts. Do you believe yourself to possess enough intelligence? Do you believe that you have the capacity to learn? Do you believe you can think clearly? Do you believe you have the ability to communicate? You may not know every thing, but do you believe you have the right attitude? If so, please stand your ground in a stead fast manner. If you become too self conscious, you would be focusing on your assumed weaknesses and start seeing ghosts and this may become chronic. You may not have control on others but you can certainly regulate your behaviour or your responses to the events and people around you. In such cases, being a little thick headed helps too!!! (But ofcourse, not arrogant). You also need not stoop to please every one, but at the same time appear caring. You can if you (try) modify other's behaviour through your behaviour or behavioural responses. But you must be consistent in your behaviour perseverently, assuming the behaviour you display is well balanced.
You may also need to pick up a few techniques that I am sure many senior friend will contribute to you to get over such situations with sucess. Most importantly, you need to trust yourself and the work you put in persistently and at the same time develop a solid / good impression with the top / boss. Simultaneously try gradually winning over the people one by one. Do not over react. Be empathetic but firm.
In fact, this gives you a wonderful opportunity to gain newer abilities which if successful will make you succeed with people and this is no ordinary quality. However, we always encounter, the male bias towards the working women notedly. Do not try to do every thing all at one time. It will be too difficult and confusing. Just think with clear head and understand the biases, insecurities and temperaments of the people. Two major problems are sense of insecurity and the other is the ego. How do you tackle these, you must watch and see and devise strategies and tactics. How will you win their confidence and build good communication with one-to-one. The work place and the work can be the aids through which you interact and build relationships. Use them strategically and tactically. There will be innumerous events, circumstances and situations where they would give you chances to intervene and help them out both at work and / or personal fronts. Be helpful without getting too personally involved, be generous but be a no nonsense person form the very start while being benevolent. Display firmness only with your superior knowledge of things, but be a mentor / coach exhibiting interest in helping some one develop skills or know about any assignments / work where they feel they need assistance. search for such circumstances where in you can professionally help them on their jobs. But don't be "please all" types. i hope you understand.
All these you can certainly do, only if you take it as a positive challenge, and it is definitely worth all the effort you put in for you will be aglow with new intrinsic confidence. Another important point is, however, wrong or unreasonable people may be, that is the perception of you they are exhibiting. However wrong their perception of you might be, but that perception is a reality. It provides you with a challenge to also make modifications suitably. Enjoy the fun sincerely and wish you all the best. Also read books and articles by successful women, it helps!!!
Regrds,
M.A.Ganju
From United Arab Emirates, Sharjah
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