Hi,
You are in a difficult situation, probably you have been brought up in a free atmosphere that is why you are feeling the difference.
My suggestions are
1. For the time being- In Rome do as Romans do.
2. Get some work experience and then get out of Rome.
Get to a metro like Delhi/NCR where you will not face this kind of problem.
The interiors of our country are still living in stone age as far as treatment of women is concerned
so its better to leave such places rather than continue getting frustrated.
Because the problem is sticking for too long in such places is that
very soon YOU MAY BECOME ONE OF THEM.
From India, Delhi
38You are in a difficult situation, probably you have been brought up in a free atmosphere that is why you are feeling the difference.
My suggestions are
1. For the time being- In Rome do as Romans do.
2. Get some work experience and then get out of Rome.
Get to a metro like Delhi/NCR where you will not face this kind of problem.
The interiors of our country are still living in stone age as far as treatment of women is concerned
so its better to leave such places rather than continue getting frustrated.
Because the problem is sticking for too long in such places is that
very soon YOU MAY BECOME ONE OF THEM.
From India, Delhi
Hi Kriti,
It's a human nature "curiosity" and it’s a very common thing in the small town like Agra, it may be a plus point also that the people of such places interested in other, not like Metros where nobody bothers for other, it’s definitely not a question of stone age and backwardness of people, it's just a mindset and which is now improving, you may feel awkward and bad this because you are new to this kind of atmosphere, and leaving the job for a silly reason, that others are not happy is not a good idea, I feel the suggestion given by Mr. Sayeed and Mr. Vikash are very good and will help you.
Best of luck.
and the tag line of Manish is very good ""Every day I get up and look through the Forbes list of the richest people. If I'm not there, I go to work!!!"
Regards,
KC
From India, Delhi
It's a human nature "curiosity" and it’s a very common thing in the small town like Agra, it may be a plus point also that the people of such places interested in other, not like Metros where nobody bothers for other, it’s definitely not a question of stone age and backwardness of people, it's just a mindset and which is now improving, you may feel awkward and bad this because you are new to this kind of atmosphere, and leaving the job for a silly reason, that others are not happy is not a good idea, I feel the suggestion given by Mr. Sayeed and Mr. Vikash are very good and will help you.
Best of luck.
and the tag line of Manish is very good ""Every day I get up and look through the Forbes list of the richest people. If I'm not there, I go to work!!!"
Regards,
KC
From India, Delhi
Hi kriti,
As per my experience you should not bother what others say or think because if you know that you are right then you are..the most difficult situation is when you have to answer your conscious...the main matter of concern is your head/boss,then do clarify if he says something and if he does not say anything but only behaves abnormal because of this...then you can say(by yourself) that ...."sir here the people are quite different,they donot like when a boy talks to girl..i can share this with you because you are matured,broad minded and can understand"...this line would definitely change his view if not permanent but atleast for you...and this is what our matter of concern is
Hope this will work !!!
From India, Delhi
As per my experience you should not bother what others say or think because if you know that you are right then you are..the most difficult situation is when you have to answer your conscious...the main matter of concern is your head/boss,then do clarify if he says something and if he does not say anything but only behaves abnormal because of this...then you can say(by yourself) that ...."sir here the people are quite different,they donot like when a boy talks to girl..i can share this with you because you are matured,broad minded and can understand"...this line would definitely change his view if not permanent but atleast for you...and this is what our matter of concern is
Hope this will work !!!
From India, Delhi
Hi Kriti
I am also belong from Agra & completed Master from Guj.. Due to these type of Problems 0r mentality of persons i was not do Job in my Home town .... After So many Years I found that i was wrong .. STRANGE na why?? i felt today i was wrong beacuse i am feeling that i face same problem in starting in guj as well .. but i had face it with compose n strong behaviour .,.. i dont care of the world ... n working with challenges .. so i suggest you dont move anywhere n dont think much ... concentrate on your career goal .. where you want to reach and how you will reah there focus ... n rest leave it whom so ever TOM DICK HARRY is there dont think ... leave them ... yes do one think look once in yourself .. WHY they are pointing or catching you ... they dont have personal problem with you then quetion arise why they are targeting you .... dont give them much time ... n make your behaviour straight with all for few days ..
I hope so problem will be sought it out ..
Dont think much
Regards
S P Nayak
HR Head
From India
I am also belong from Agra & completed Master from Guj.. Due to these type of Problems 0r mentality of persons i was not do Job in my Home town .... After So many Years I found that i was wrong .. STRANGE na why?? i felt today i was wrong beacuse i am feeling that i face same problem in starting in guj as well .. but i had face it with compose n strong behaviour .,.. i dont care of the world ... n working with challenges .. so i suggest you dont move anywhere n dont think much ... concentrate on your career goal .. where you want to reach and how you will reah there focus ... n rest leave it whom so ever TOM DICK HARRY is there dont think ... leave them ... yes do one think look once in yourself .. WHY they are pointing or catching you ... they dont have personal problem with you then quetion arise why they are targeting you .... dont give them much time ... n make your behaviour straight with all for few days ..
I hope so problem will be sought it out ..
Dont think much
Regards
S P Nayak
HR Head
From India
Thank you all for your valuable suggestions ... It will definitely gonna help me out & have started implementing it as well...
Hope to see positive change in & around my environment soon...
But as said by many as am new in the system therefore i have to 1st understand the place & the culture out here then change myself or think of change...
I think i need to stick to the company for some time as well... otherwise putting forth my work exp. fr 3 months will show instability ...
Thank you all once again for taking out time to write ur feedback... every1z suggestion is goood
@ Manish : Really loved ur quote " Everday I see Forbes magazine .... "
From India, Agra
Hope to see positive change in & around my environment soon...
But as said by many as am new in the system therefore i have to 1st understand the place & the culture out here then change myself or think of change...
I think i need to stick to the company for some time as well... otherwise putting forth my work exp. fr 3 months will show instability ...
Thank you all once again for taking out time to write ur feedback... every1z suggestion is goood
@ Manish : Really loved ur quote " Everday I see Forbes magazine .... "
From India, Agra
Dear Kirti concentrate on your work, try to understand the culture of office,spend some time in office.People should know about you. Thanks & regards Vinod Yadav
From India, Bangalore
From India, Bangalore
Dear Kriti,
I would suggest some things:
One, list down the purpose for you being at that place - in detail.
This will clear things for you in the first place. That is bcoz if you are sure of what you are there for, you will hardly get time to waste on other irrelevant opinions.
Two, time is extremely important, so while you spend time understanding people and culture there, focus on what really matters to you and your growth - in the long run. Keep working and performing on areas that are out of your responsibility too. This will indirectly inform everyone that they have a mute leader among them, always ready to contribute and make a difference, and not just to pass time.
Three, be honest to yourself and your intentions. What people think about your moves is their problem, not yours.
Everything happens for a purpose, so rather than getting bothered about what ppl think, keep following your heart and you will keep feeling good from within irrespective of what keeps happening outside..
Let me know if you need any further support on the same.
I am learning and living in a similar situation, and just sharing the way i m growing at my workplace..
Warm Regards,
Kirtan..
Business Strategist.
"मंज़िल है किधर, रुख किधर, जानता नहीं,
ले जा रहा है कोई, चला जा रहा हूँ मैं..."
From India, Ahmadabad
I would suggest some things:
One, list down the purpose for you being at that place - in detail.
This will clear things for you in the first place. That is bcoz if you are sure of what you are there for, you will hardly get time to waste on other irrelevant opinions.
Two, time is extremely important, so while you spend time understanding people and culture there, focus on what really matters to you and your growth - in the long run. Keep working and performing on areas that are out of your responsibility too. This will indirectly inform everyone that they have a mute leader among them, always ready to contribute and make a difference, and not just to pass time.
Three, be honest to yourself and your intentions. What people think about your moves is their problem, not yours.
Everything happens for a purpose, so rather than getting bothered about what ppl think, keep following your heart and you will keep feeling good from within irrespective of what keeps happening outside..
Let me know if you need any further support on the same.
I am learning and living in a similar situation, and just sharing the way i m growing at my workplace..
Warm Regards,
Kirtan..
Business Strategist.
"मंज़िल है किधर, रुख किधर, जानता नहीं,
ले जा रहा है कोई, चला जा रहा हूँ मैं..."
From India, Ahmadabad
First of all establish yourself in this new company and then think about changing things surround you.
From India, Chandigarh
From India, Chandigarh
Dear Ma'am,
I think the discussed subject is only one side of the coin.
Throughout my career, i have seen so many offices/establishments where employees chat with each other without any valid reasons ultimately resulting in not only low productivity but also spoiling the quality of other employees who continue to work nearby. The common places are Water/Tea Vending machines, Meeting Rooms, Lounges and even workstations etc. I have also witnessed some organisations, where the management had to notify employees on this. Unfortunately, the female employee percent is more in this respect. (Ladies to excuse Please!!)
Although some amount of oral communication is but natural and has to be there, talkativeness in office hours really hampers productivity and quality.
Having said this, it is advisable just to have more attention on the task, avoiding unnecessary chitchating. I do not think there will be seniors in your establishment, who are neglecting to talk to you on your assignments related queries and matters.
Regards,
arun dixit
I think the discussed subject is only one side of the coin.
Throughout my career, i have seen so many offices/establishments where employees chat with each other without any valid reasons ultimately resulting in not only low productivity but also spoiling the quality of other employees who continue to work nearby. The common places are Water/Tea Vending machines, Meeting Rooms, Lounges and even workstations etc. I have also witnessed some organisations, where the management had to notify employees on this. Unfortunately, the female employee percent is more in this respect. (Ladies to excuse Please!!)
Although some amount of oral communication is but natural and has to be there, talkativeness in office hours really hampers productivity and quality.
Having said this, it is advisable just to have more attention on the task, avoiding unnecessary chitchating. I do not think there will be seniors in your establishment, who are neglecting to talk to you on your assignments related queries and matters.
Regards,
arun dixit
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