Hi Sailena,
Well first and foremost let me tell you one thing…………………….. don’t let all this madness get in to your capabilities. And more than anything don’t let this get in to your personal life.
I think you should confront your boss who will help eliminate what ever misunderstanding or clear any doubts which might have occurred. If this doesn’t help then think of switching jobs and seek for opportunities. Because if you don’t like what you are doing you’ll be forced to like what ever you are doing. If you are feeling that your job does not give you the opportunity to apply your knowledge, capabilities, experiences and you do not feel fulfilled then it’s might as well you search for something that does.
Life is said to be short so try to keep your self happy as much as possible.
Hope you find your way out soon.
Cheers,
Ashra
From Sri Lanka
3Well first and foremost let me tell you one thing…………………….. don’t let all this madness get in to your capabilities. And more than anything don’t let this get in to your personal life.
I think you should confront your boss who will help eliminate what ever misunderstanding or clear any doubts which might have occurred. If this doesn’t help then think of switching jobs and seek for opportunities. Because if you don’t like what you are doing you’ll be forced to like what ever you are doing. If you are feeling that your job does not give you the opportunity to apply your knowledge, capabilities, experiences and you do not feel fulfilled then it’s might as well you search for something that does.
Life is said to be short so try to keep your self happy as much as possible.
Hope you find your way out soon.
Cheers,
Ashra
From Sri Lanka
Hi Saileena,
I can help you to win over this situation. Beginning with your name. Saileena - Either it is shy-leena or Sai-leena. If you are shy-leena then forget it, you may face this kind of situation many in ur life. If you are Sai-leena then let me tell you the meaning of Sai. I relates to Sai baba, who never cares for nagativity or others, he use to do his own work, which he thinks it is not harming anybody and won everybody's heart.
In your case, what I appreciate you to do is please take up that job what your new boss is giving and finish those jobs in a short time by streamlining some process. I think the job you are mentioning doesn't require your continuous presence. You can put someone below you to take responsibility and ask him to report to you every after four hours or at the end of the day. Now what you have to do is watch the complete process of your new boss from a top angle or distance angle, you will come to know what fine tunings are required to make ur boss's process right. Do those changes without a feeling to take the credit (Never do anything as buttering or lifting, I hate those, if you have a point then present else just observe) and do the task very sincerely. What ever has been given to you if you do perfect, within a short span you can get back all those jobs/responsibilities back to you. Never feel bad when something of this kind happens. Changes always will be there, only thing you can do is mould yourself to accept those challenges and befit into those situation. Down the line you can be a boss and you will bring some changes. So don not worry on those parts. Do everything that the job requires and in addition help those colleagues who are slow or burden with more task. You will be recognised by everyone and by this you will upgrade your knowledge too. Try it. You can speak to me at 09871295325, New Delhi, India. All the best.
Venkatesh (spsp_venky@rediffmail.com)
From India, Delhi
I can help you to win over this situation. Beginning with your name. Saileena - Either it is shy-leena or Sai-leena. If you are shy-leena then forget it, you may face this kind of situation many in ur life. If you are Sai-leena then let me tell you the meaning of Sai. I relates to Sai baba, who never cares for nagativity or others, he use to do his own work, which he thinks it is not harming anybody and won everybody's heart.
In your case, what I appreciate you to do is please take up that job what your new boss is giving and finish those jobs in a short time by streamlining some process. I think the job you are mentioning doesn't require your continuous presence. You can put someone below you to take responsibility and ask him to report to you every after four hours or at the end of the day. Now what you have to do is watch the complete process of your new boss from a top angle or distance angle, you will come to know what fine tunings are required to make ur boss's process right. Do those changes without a feeling to take the credit (Never do anything as buttering or lifting, I hate those, if you have a point then present else just observe) and do the task very sincerely. What ever has been given to you if you do perfect, within a short span you can get back all those jobs/responsibilities back to you. Never feel bad when something of this kind happens. Changes always will be there, only thing you can do is mould yourself to accept those challenges and befit into those situation. Down the line you can be a boss and you will bring some changes. So don not worry on those parts. Do everything that the job requires and in addition help those colleagues who are slow or burden with more task. You will be recognised by everyone and by this you will upgrade your knowledge too. Try it. You can speak to me at 09871295325, New Delhi, India. All the best.
Venkatesh (spsp_venky@rediffmail.com)
From India, Delhi
Dear FRND Saileena..
Reading your mail, it was really hurting, but you know you should be happy bcos you came to know wat kind of people you are having around you.theres a saying "If a person whom you love & Like & admire leaves you, do not be sad. because you have lost the person who doesnt love you and they have lost the person who really Loves them"
So dont worry.. be positive..I know it is very difficult to be cheerful, but we can be positive.
In times of difficulties, dont ever say ," Hey God I have a big Problem.Instead say, "Hey Problem i have a Big God".
you know? The Tree that bears the most sweetest fruits grts the maximum number of stones
So dont look at your troubles, instead look at your blessings that you have. see the other person in other departments who would love you and like u and support you..
Every bad situation will have something positive..Even a stopped clock shows a correct time twice a day.
Find that there is some one for you.. yes there is someone who is for you.. be positive.. if you keep worrying, you would never find the answer.. so plan to get the answer.To get the answer, you should analyse yourself.If anybody shows your negative, take it ,and try to work on it. Yes you will succeed, you can.,you will overcome this trouble.
Regards
Daniel
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From India, Mangaluru
Reading your mail, it was really hurting, but you know you should be happy bcos you came to know wat kind of people you are having around you.theres a saying "If a person whom you love & Like & admire leaves you, do not be sad. because you have lost the person who doesnt love you and they have lost the person who really Loves them"
So dont worry.. be positive..I know it is very difficult to be cheerful, but we can be positive.
In times of difficulties, dont ever say ," Hey God I have a big Problem.Instead say, "Hey Problem i have a Big God".
you know? The Tree that bears the most sweetest fruits grts the maximum number of stones
So dont look at your troubles, instead look at your blessings that you have. see the other person in other departments who would love you and like u and support you..
Every bad situation will have something positive..Even a stopped clock shows a correct time twice a day.
Find that there is some one for you.. yes there is someone who is for you.. be positive.. if you keep worrying, you would never find the answer.. so plan to get the answer.To get the answer, you should analyse yourself.If anybody shows your negative, take it ,and try to work on it. Yes you will succeed, you can.,you will overcome this trouble.
Regards
Daniel
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From India, Mangaluru
Hai Sally,
Dont think like a fool, b'cas ur an HR and u have 6yrs of experience and i think in these 6yrs of journey u may have come accross many obstacles and don't let down ur confidence .
See we all being as a HR's we know how to tackle with the problems don't keep quiet ask ur sir what's the reason and be friendly with those two Ok.
Self Motivation, Self confidence & ready to face any problems should be our motto.
sorry if i had hurt u.
Bai saleena.
rgds,
sangeetha.
From India, Hyderabad
Dont think like a fool, b'cas ur an HR and u have 6yrs of experience and i think in these 6yrs of journey u may have come accross many obstacles and don't let down ur confidence .
See we all being as a HR's we know how to tackle with the problems don't keep quiet ask ur sir what's the reason and be friendly with those two Ok.
Self Motivation, Self confidence & ready to face any problems should be our motto.
sorry if i had hurt u.
Bai saleena.
rgds,
sangeetha.
From India, Hyderabad
Saileena,
These things may happen when there is a change of bosses. Your colleagues know which side of the bread is buttered and are just sucking up to the boss. As for the attitude of your boss's boss that is a very natural thing to do especially if he is just a seat warmer.
Fortunately for you, you live in Malaysia which recognises constructive dismissal. Constructive dismissal refers to the termination of employment by the employee for which the employer is responsible and where the employer is the prime mover of the process of termination.In Malaysia the courts have held that the contract test applies in constructive dismissal cases. That is, did the employer’s conduct amount to a breach of contract which entitled the employee to resign?
If your employer fundamentally breaches or changes any major term of the employment relationship, such as duties or status, you could claim you've been constructively dismissed. In other words, you were, in effect, fired. You could then sue for unfair dismissal under Sec. 20 of the Industrial Relations Act. A court will consider all of the circumstances of the employment relationship to decide whether a fundamental breach or change has occurred. The test to be applied is:
1. Was there an actual breach or an anticipatory breach of contract by the employer.
2. That breach must be sufficiently important to justify the employee resigning .
3. The employee must leave in response to the breach and not for some other, unconnected reason.
I am surprised you say there are no openings in your area. Malaysian employers are crying out for people with HR skills and if you register yourself with some on line job agencies you will certainly find a place.
I am an Industrial Relations Consultant from Malaysia and should you need further advice you may email me at "ganapathy@irnetwork.com.my"
regards
ganapathy ramasamy
From Malaysia, Melaka
These things may happen when there is a change of bosses. Your colleagues know which side of the bread is buttered and are just sucking up to the boss. As for the attitude of your boss's boss that is a very natural thing to do especially if he is just a seat warmer.
Fortunately for you, you live in Malaysia which recognises constructive dismissal. Constructive dismissal refers to the termination of employment by the employee for which the employer is responsible and where the employer is the prime mover of the process of termination.In Malaysia the courts have held that the contract test applies in constructive dismissal cases. That is, did the employer’s conduct amount to a breach of contract which entitled the employee to resign?
If your employer fundamentally breaches or changes any major term of the employment relationship, such as duties or status, you could claim you've been constructively dismissed. In other words, you were, in effect, fired. You could then sue for unfair dismissal under Sec. 20 of the Industrial Relations Act. A court will consider all of the circumstances of the employment relationship to decide whether a fundamental breach or change has occurred. The test to be applied is:
1. Was there an actual breach or an anticipatory breach of contract by the employer.
2. That breach must be sufficiently important to justify the employee resigning .
3. The employee must leave in response to the breach and not for some other, unconnected reason.
I am surprised you say there are no openings in your area. Malaysian employers are crying out for people with HR skills and if you register yourself with some on line job agencies you will certainly find a place.
I am an Industrial Relations Consultant from Malaysia and should you need further advice you may email me at "ganapathy@irnetwork.com.my"
regards
ganapathy ramasamy
From Malaysia, Melaka
Hi
I read your problem. somtime it happens in team. this problem should be solved by your boss. even if boss is not taking initiave or reluctant, you should concentrate on your work. Please try to give your best. Talk to your collegue confidently with smile. don't show them your anxiety. Please be happy. it will over very soon.
Regards
Nishant
I read your problem. somtime it happens in team. this problem should be solved by your boss. even if boss is not taking initiave or reluctant, you should concentrate on your work. Please try to give your best. Talk to your collegue confidently with smile. don't show them your anxiety. Please be happy. it will over very soon.
Regards
Nishant
Hi Saleena,
trust me, i was shocked to read your message. But after going through your whole situation i could make out one thing ...since you have been performing really well and far better than your other colleagues and now that your performance appraisal is due, may be your senior managers want to look at you for higher level position and hence they might be checking as to how you behave under different circumstances...so, donot GIVE UP and please take it in a positive way and concentrate more on your wrok and perform well...I'm sure there is something good in store for you....THINGS CAN CHANGE DRASTICALLY !!
cHEER up
Be Happy n Keep Smiling :)
Regards
Bushra
From India, Hyderabad
trust me, i was shocked to read your message. But after going through your whole situation i could make out one thing ...since you have been performing really well and far better than your other colleagues and now that your performance appraisal is due, may be your senior managers want to look at you for higher level position and hence they might be checking as to how you behave under different circumstances...so, donot GIVE UP and please take it in a positive way and concentrate more on your wrok and perform well...I'm sure there is something good in store for you....THINGS CAN CHANGE DRASTICALLY !!
cHEER up
Be Happy n Keep Smiling :)
Regards
Bushra
From India, Hyderabad
Dear Friends,
Thank you so much for your encouragement. I will definately take the advices given & by grace of God if there are any changes, I will keep you guys posted.
By the way one of our friends had posted a Q as to whether what triggered this. Frankly, I have no idea. We all were fine before I went on leave, joking & laughing. Well, workwise I still talk to them whether they are listening or not. For me the job has to go on. As for leisure time, I just listen to music to keep me accompany. It's true, no use of going after them if they are not your true friends. I just hope God knows the amount of things I did for them from coaching, counseling, supportive, caring & loving. I thought I should share the love I have in me & knowledge with friends. Unfortunately I have been back stabbed.
I am holding up here, praying to God to get me through this agony. You guys are the best. You there in time of need eventhough we do not know each other very well.
:)
From Malaysia, Kajang
Thank you so much for your encouragement. I will definately take the advices given & by grace of God if there are any changes, I will keep you guys posted.
By the way one of our friends had posted a Q as to whether what triggered this. Frankly, I have no idea. We all were fine before I went on leave, joking & laughing. Well, workwise I still talk to them whether they are listening or not. For me the job has to go on. As for leisure time, I just listen to music to keep me accompany. It's true, no use of going after them if they are not your true friends. I just hope God knows the amount of things I did for them from coaching, counseling, supportive, caring & loving. I thought I should share the love I have in me & knowledge with friends. Unfortunately I have been back stabbed.
I am holding up here, praying to God to get me through this agony. You guys are the best. You there in time of need eventhough we do not know each other very well.
:)
From Malaysia, Kajang
Be stern. Think you are smartest of all. Joke around with them, let them hear. One point of time, they will have to respond. The idea is keep on hitting the dog until it charges you.
hi Saileena,
You are sounding much better in that response.. thats reaaly cool..
Let me tell you.. dont get dissappointed by the task they have given you... do it to the fullest.. may be they are drivers.. but without these drivers or the cleaners.. your company will be greatly affected.. ( do you think anybody will be happy with an untidy bathroom , or wait for their cab for hours..etc)
They are also your employees.. HR is there to take care of the employees and make their employees work at their best..
Come out with lot of simple & cost-effective programmes for such people..let them also feel that they are also a integral part of the company... exactly how we take care of teh main employees...
Think for lot of innovative things for those people..
Say for eg:- A small workshop on reducing back pain (A common illness seen in such workers bcoz of the kind of job).. office ettiquets.. get togethers.. cleaniliness.. need for education.. games.. etc etc...
Let your colleagues get the hint that ....whatever task is assigned to u(say small or big) will do it to the best of your capabiliies..
And about the appraisal, If you have initiated lot of programmes and you have solid proof that how the programmes have helped them.. say in attrition, absenteeism, health wise, ...or even comments from the people who got their service. I am sure your appraiser will be dumbstruck and ofcourse force to give u a good rating inspite of his/her problem with you..
Take each responsibility as the best responsibility..it will make u feel better.. U be the first person to intiate such things..say a TREND SETTER
From India, Madras
You are sounding much better in that response.. thats reaaly cool..
Let me tell you.. dont get dissappointed by the task they have given you... do it to the fullest.. may be they are drivers.. but without these drivers or the cleaners.. your company will be greatly affected.. ( do you think anybody will be happy with an untidy bathroom , or wait for their cab for hours..etc)
They are also your employees.. HR is there to take care of the employees and make their employees work at their best..
Come out with lot of simple & cost-effective programmes for such people..let them also feel that they are also a integral part of the company... exactly how we take care of teh main employees...
Think for lot of innovative things for those people..
Say for eg:- A small workshop on reducing back pain (A common illness seen in such workers bcoz of the kind of job).. office ettiquets.. get togethers.. cleaniliness.. need for education.. games.. etc etc...
Let your colleagues get the hint that ....whatever task is assigned to u(say small or big) will do it to the best of your capabiliies..
And about the appraisal, If you have initiated lot of programmes and you have solid proof that how the programmes have helped them.. say in attrition, absenteeism, health wise, ...or even comments from the people who got their service. I am sure your appraiser will be dumbstruck and ofcourse force to give u a good rating inspite of his/her problem with you..
Take each responsibility as the best responsibility..it will make u feel better.. U be the first person to intiate such things..say a TREND SETTER
From India, Madras
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