Dear Kavina,
Be diplomatic on this,you can call to the girl & said we received a compliant about your interection with that person.Some is not like to meet with that person.
If they are working well & your company environment also flexi & cool,why you need to worry about it.if it is too much then call to girl or man individually.
You can save yourself by involving thrid person.
Best Regards
Sajid Ansari
From India, Delhi
46Be diplomatic on this,you can call to the girl & said we received a compliant about your interection with that person.Some is not like to meet with that person.
If they are working well & your company environment also flexi & cool,why you need to worry about it.if it is too much then call to girl or man individually.
You can save yourself by involving thrid person.
Best Regards
Sajid Ansari
From India, Delhi
Dear All, Once again thanks for your quick inputs... Well, I watch saas..bahu serial at my home everyday :) hmmm but not in our valuable HR forum... Cheer Kevina
From India, Ahmadabad
From India, Ahmadabad
Dear Kevina,
Congrats
Apart from other HR and Training aspects this is also one the most important thing you brought in here on CiteHR.com
I would like you, not to get involved into this matter, emotionally.
But do you understand what you are projecting?
If yes, I am really happy that you are a true alarm raiser.
On the contrary, I wonder that do you have proper orientation upon Gender and Sexuality?
Did any exercise happened with regard to "gender and development" in your company. If yes, ask them who attended it.
If No, I am surprised?
See, if your company has a good independent "gender policy" and you are aware of it then you know the way.
But sexuality is something highly sensitive issue upon which a proper training is required. You must invite some resource person who can handle gender and sexuality aspects. During the session you can ask him or her (resource person) certain questions, which can address this issue directly/indirectly and you will have the solution.
For any other help or suggestions you may write me:
From India, Delhi
Congrats
Apart from other HR and Training aspects this is also one the most important thing you brought in here on CiteHR.com
I would like you, not to get involved into this matter, emotionally.
But do you understand what you are projecting?
If yes, I am really happy that you are a true alarm raiser.
On the contrary, I wonder that do you have proper orientation upon Gender and Sexuality?
Did any exercise happened with regard to "gender and development" in your company. If yes, ask them who attended it.
If No, I am surprised?
See, if your company has a good independent "gender policy" and you are aware of it then you know the way.
But sexuality is something highly sensitive issue upon which a proper training is required. You must invite some resource person who can handle gender and sexuality aspects. During the session you can ask him or her (resource person) certain questions, which can address this issue directly/indirectly and you will have the solution.
For any other help or suggestions you may write me:
From India, Delhi
I have come accross similar issues my self at our organisation too ...
Of experience I would like to say that, If this is not effecting their working effeciencies it should be left alone.
As at one hand you also mention about free work timings and open cubicals ... these according to me are few among the many steps organisation takes to avoid monotonus feel in any employees work life.
You can deffinetly take action if you notice them in any indecent or compramising situation. If not It must not bother any.
Also, Have any of their project/Team leaders addressed an issue regarding this to the HR/You?
You seem to have done quite a research on their personal life as mentioned by you regarding their marratal status, break timings, Dining in diff group habitts but looking at each other, ect considering the employee strengths of an average IT organisation. :)
How ever this is only according to me. Few organisation also take mesures to avoide future inconvenience to working atmosfear in similar issues but again I feel that makes it a gambling call
From India, Bangalore
Of experience I would like to say that, If this is not effecting their working effeciencies it should be left alone.
As at one hand you also mention about free work timings and open cubicals ... these according to me are few among the many steps organisation takes to avoid monotonus feel in any employees work life.
You can deffinetly take action if you notice them in any indecent or compramising situation. If not It must not bother any.
Also, Have any of their project/Team leaders addressed an issue regarding this to the HR/You?
You seem to have done quite a research on their personal life as mentioned by you regarding their marratal status, break timings, Dining in diff group habitts but looking at each other, ect considering the employee strengths of an average IT organisation. :)
How ever this is only according to me. Few organisation also take mesures to avoide future inconvenience to working atmosfear in similar issues but again I feel that makes it a gambling call
From India, Bangalore
Dear Kevina,
As per my knowledge, if you advise them officially or issue notice, there may be a change both the employees may leave the job and look for alternative ways. It is really highly sensitive matter to handle.
Advise them individually as a friend that some of the employees are doing gossip on them. Be a communicator and tell them that you are more concerned about their image infront of others.
Some time It may work.
Note: As per my experience, if you handle officially, both employee may leave. If you are not addressing, others also may follow these kind of practice which can affect the decoram latter.
Your are more concerned about their image.
From India, Bangalore
As per my knowledge, if you advise them officially or issue notice, there may be a change both the employees may leave the job and look for alternative ways. It is really highly sensitive matter to handle.
Advise them individually as a friend that some of the employees are doing gossip on them. Be a communicator and tell them that you are more concerned about their image infront of others.
Some time It may work.
Note: As per my experience, if you handle officially, both employee may leave. If you are not addressing, others also may follow these kind of practice which can affect the decoram latter.
Your are more concerned about their image.
From India, Bangalore
Dear Kevina,
Its just another Office Fling.
Lets focus on the working hours alone.
Please call the "MARRIED" guy and tell him that - the girl seems to overly occupied with him and interacting with him, and this is raising many questions at work. Please note that - the guy would only say he was casually talking and would defend himself (but dont let that change what you are going to tell him). Ask him to make sure that such comments would not affect his career and reputation that he has at work. Sometimes,it may be a silly nature of ours that can affect the entire working relationship and reputation earned. Talk to him, but make sure its like a casual discussion - and let him know that many of them are having doubts about the relationship.
Even if he says aiagn that its "mere friendship" - pls let him know that its okay in him being freinds with this girl, but maybe outsode office hours.
Now next you may want to call this little girl and hint her that "everyone is aware abt whats happening around". Just keep her cautioned.
And one more thing - to a certain extent we can feel bad that someo0ne is taking advantage of her immaturity. Let her be informed that such relations (infactuations / or anythign fo that sort) will only end in a disaster - as teh guy is married.
Some people just look out for some extra adventure at work - its just their nature.
But all you could do is - first hint her, and then if she talks to you more on a personal level - you could advise her to stay away from the relation and limit only to professional extent.
If she is in a dialemma - let her know that Dumping someone who just makes use of the person - is a great experience! You have something to prove that this guy is "fooling around" - he is married!
Else if she is ACTING immatured / innocent - then maybe she is also looking for a fling - we cant help this area dear - but yes - you can avoid the relation at work - by just mere TALKING!
;-) cya
From India, Madras
Its just another Office Fling.
Lets focus on the working hours alone.
Please call the "MARRIED" guy and tell him that - the girl seems to overly occupied with him and interacting with him, and this is raising many questions at work. Please note that - the guy would only say he was casually talking and would defend himself (but dont let that change what you are going to tell him). Ask him to make sure that such comments would not affect his career and reputation that he has at work. Sometimes,it may be a silly nature of ours that can affect the entire working relationship and reputation earned. Talk to him, but make sure its like a casual discussion - and let him know that many of them are having doubts about the relationship.
Even if he says aiagn that its "mere friendship" - pls let him know that its okay in him being freinds with this girl, but maybe outsode office hours.
Now next you may want to call this little girl and hint her that "everyone is aware abt whats happening around". Just keep her cautioned.
And one more thing - to a certain extent we can feel bad that someo0ne is taking advantage of her immaturity. Let her be informed that such relations (infactuations / or anythign fo that sort) will only end in a disaster - as teh guy is married.
Some people just look out for some extra adventure at work - its just their nature.
But all you could do is - first hint her, and then if she talks to you more on a personal level - you could advise her to stay away from the relation and limit only to professional extent.
If she is in a dialemma - let her know that Dumping someone who just makes use of the person - is a great experience! You have something to prove that this guy is "fooling around" - he is married!
Else if she is ACTING immatured / innocent - then maybe she is also looking for a fling - we cant help this area dear - but yes - you can avoid the relation at work - by just mere TALKING!
;-) cya
From India, Madras
Are yar Chodona, Kyu Chinta Karte ho, bure kam ka bura natiza .. ye sab jyada din nahi chalega... samjo,, do not pay more attention on these issues, apne aap sab thik ho jayege...
From India, Ahmadabad
From India, Ahmadabad
Hi
I dont think HR shud interfere in such matters. Afterall its their personal life. I f you talk to them as HR it would really demoralise them if they are good at their work. Such things do happen everywhere. Extra marital affairs, relationships are bound to happen. You cannot control an employee's life. And as it is you just have a doubt on them. With no evidence you cannot interfere in their personal life. And as somebody said earlier what are you going to do after office hours. At the most you can talk with the girl as a friend and not on behalf of the HR department if she confides in you.
From India, Mumbai
I dont think HR shud interfere in such matters. Afterall its their personal life. I f you talk to them as HR it would really demoralise them if they are good at their work. Such things do happen everywhere. Extra marital affairs, relationships are bound to happen. You cannot control an employee's life. And as it is you just have a doubt on them. With no evidence you cannot interfere in their personal life. And as somebody said earlier what are you going to do after office hours. At the most you can talk with the girl as a friend and not on behalf of the HR department if she confides in you.
From India, Mumbai
Dear Kevina
Accept my admirations for being able to spot a potential office-romance; and your initiative in doing something about it.
You must be aware, how companies, esp. in IT sector, have suffered due to office-romances culminating in Sexual Harassment cases against the company.
What happens is, later when the romance breaks off, and in case the male is in a superior position; and the female does not get promotion (or other career development issues) ; she may accuse (also, to take revenge for being dumped), the male and consequently the company of "sexual harassment" , and the company has to respond to the law-suit and may have to pay considerable damage.
This is where, you, as an HR person come in. You can interfere in their private relationship to safeguard the company's interest, should something go wrong between them and tomorrow there is an allegation of sexual harassment by (in this case) the girl who is much younger and sub-ordinate o that person.
Corporate Law savvy Companies have devised several ways to counter this; one of the most important tool being to enforce the "Love Contract" between two consensual employees.
Le me know if you need further information on this. You can discuss with your management to develop a policy on "office-romance" that does not affect the perfomanc of the compan and protects it from sexual harassment allegations.
Regards.
From India, Delhi
Accept my admirations for being able to spot a potential office-romance; and your initiative in doing something about it.
You must be aware, how companies, esp. in IT sector, have suffered due to office-romances culminating in Sexual Harassment cases against the company.
What happens is, later when the romance breaks off, and in case the male is in a superior position; and the female does not get promotion (or other career development issues) ; she may accuse (also, to take revenge for being dumped), the male and consequently the company of "sexual harassment" , and the company has to respond to the law-suit and may have to pay considerable damage.
This is where, you, as an HR person come in. You can interfere in their private relationship to safeguard the company's interest, should something go wrong between them and tomorrow there is an allegation of sexual harassment by (in this case) the girl who is much younger and sub-ordinate o that person.
Corporate Law savvy Companies have devised several ways to counter this; one of the most important tool being to enforce the "Love Contract" between two consensual employees.
Le me know if you need further information on this. You can discuss with your management to develop a policy on "office-romance" that does not affect the perfomanc of the compan and protects it from sexual harassment allegations.
Regards.
From India, Delhi
Hi Kevina,
This is Carol here.
According to my view if both the employee's performance is affected due to long hrs of chatting, you must talk to both of them ( separately ) and explain that there is a certain decorum to be followed in a workplace. You need to explain it as professionally as possible since their behaviour also distracts other working there.
Hope this will help you..
Regards,
Carol.
From Singapore, Singapore
This is Carol here.
According to my view if both the employee's performance is affected due to long hrs of chatting, you must talk to both of them ( separately ) and explain that there is a certain decorum to be followed in a workplace. You need to explain it as professionally as possible since their behaviour also distracts other working there.
Hope this will help you..
Regards,
Carol.
From Singapore, Singapore
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