Lilyana,
Your concern is highly appreciated, and responses have poured in.
1. With no slight meant at all, we often set the mood and the tone and so the responses come, and then the moods start gaining momentum much like a storm till eventually it comes down like a "cloud burst."
2. It's not in this case, but it happens in most postings, there isn't enough data shared to make our points in clearly trying to address the issue.
Without going into much details, I'd like to give this a little twist... please read this story of which I'm not sure of the source, but was collected from the 'internet.'
THERE IS ALWAYS ANOTHER WAY
A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by will see the new words.
The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?”
The man said, “I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a way.”
What he had written was: "Today is a day and I cannot see it."
Do you think the first sign and the second sign were saying the same thing?
But the first sign simply told people to help by putting some money in the hat.
The second sign told people that they were able to enjoy the beauty of the day, but the boy could not enjoy it because he was blind.
Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?
There are at least two lessons we can learn from this simple story.
The first is, “Be thankful for what you have. Someone else has less. Help where you can.”
The second is, “Be. Be Present. Think. THERE IS ALWAYS ANOTHER WAY!”
I'm trying to see if the is 'value' in trying to educate people with you to be future conscious, by elaborating of the role of connectedness and hope.
Can't see the wood for the trees. Sometimes when we concentrate on the minute details of a problem, we can lose sight of the overall picture; in other words, all you can see is one tree but there is actually a whole bunch of them in front of you. It may mean concentrating on the smaller specifics and in the process losing out on the larger perspective. Trees are part of the forest. While one may be enjoying the beauty of the trees individually but at the same time he is losing out the beauty of nature as is evident in the complete forest.
Serving a 'memo' will be a 'transaction' I tried opening you out to a 'transformation,' choices are entirely yours.
Best wishes.
From India, Hyderabad
353Your concern is highly appreciated, and responses have poured in.
1. With no slight meant at all, we often set the mood and the tone and so the responses come, and then the moods start gaining momentum much like a storm till eventually it comes down like a "cloud burst."
2. It's not in this case, but it happens in most postings, there isn't enough data shared to make our points in clearly trying to address the issue.
Without going into much details, I'd like to give this a little twist... please read this story of which I'm not sure of the source, but was collected from the 'internet.'
THERE IS ALWAYS ANOTHER WAY
A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat. He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by will see the new words.
The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?”
The man said, “I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a way.”
What he had written was: "Today is a day and I cannot see it."
Do you think the first sign and the second sign were saying the same thing?
But the first sign simply told people to help by putting some money in the hat.
The second sign told people that they were able to enjoy the beauty of the day, but the boy could not enjoy it because he was blind.
Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?
There are at least two lessons we can learn from this simple story.
The first is, “Be thankful for what you have. Someone else has less. Help where you can.”
The second is, “Be. Be Present. Think. THERE IS ALWAYS ANOTHER WAY!”
I'm trying to see if the is 'value' in trying to educate people with you to be future conscious, by elaborating of the role of connectedness and hope.
Can't see the wood for the trees. Sometimes when we concentrate on the minute details of a problem, we can lose sight of the overall picture; in other words, all you can see is one tree but there is actually a whole bunch of them in front of you. It may mean concentrating on the smaller specifics and in the process losing out on the larger perspective. Trees are part of the forest. While one may be enjoying the beauty of the trees individually but at the same time he is losing out the beauty of nature as is evident in the complete forest.
Serving a 'memo' will be a 'transaction' I tried opening you out to a 'transformation,' choices are entirely yours.
Best wishes.
From India, Hyderabad
Dear Shailesh Ji,
I agree with you that she has asked for a format for communication. but our respected forum members have gone through the insight of the problem presenting various turns this small act could take. Anybody can find a format in google but its the knowledge and experience our members share makes us post or problems/requirements at the forum. I am sure even Lilyana Ji will agree with me.
From India, Mumbai
I agree with you that she has asked for a format for communication. but our respected forum members have gone through the insight of the problem presenting various turns this small act could take. Anybody can find a format in google but its the knowledge and experience our members share makes us post or problems/requirements at the forum. I am sure even Lilyana Ji will agree with me.
From India, Mumbai
Dear Manoj and Shailesh,
Members of this forum are not poster's obedient subordinates. Neither are they paid consultants. When someone raises some query in open forum you are bound to get the diverse opinions. Members have every right to scrutinize the intention of the memo. Originator has written that those who do not comply with the instruction could be dismissed. Is this not height of the coercion? Can we jump directly to this punishment? Is this how we expect our employee to get motivated or engaged?
Diversity in replies is a result of lack in clarity of the original post. So many days passed since the query was raised. So many posts have appeared but then the originator of the post did not deem it fit to come up with clarification. She has chosen to remain as cool as cucumber! In my previous post, I also have asked so many questions but then where are the replies? This speaks of the attitude of the originator of the post. Rather than chiding at her stolidity, why are you questioning the respondents?
In fact there is no such provision to debar member who just hit the question and run away. That is the real problem is.
Dinesh V Divekar
Dear Shailesh Ji,
I agree with you that she has asked for a format for communication. but our respected forum members have gone through the insight of the problem presenting various turns this small act could take. Anybody can find a format in google but its the knowledge and experience our members share makes us post or problems/requirements at the forum. I am sure even Lilyana Ji will agree with me.
Dear Members
Many of the members have ventures in writing essay without understanding the problem and help the person is seeking from the forum.
She wants a format (draft) to communicate about the compulsory usage of the ipad--without sounding it an offensive or threatening. It is that company’s policy about the ipad..she hasnt asked weather thje policy is right or wrong.
Regards
Shailesh Parikh
Vadodara, Gujarat
99 98 97 10 65
From India, Bangalore
Members of this forum are not poster's obedient subordinates. Neither are they paid consultants. When someone raises some query in open forum you are bound to get the diverse opinions. Members have every right to scrutinize the intention of the memo. Originator has written that those who do not comply with the instruction could be dismissed. Is this not height of the coercion? Can we jump directly to this punishment? Is this how we expect our employee to get motivated or engaged?
Diversity in replies is a result of lack in clarity of the original post. So many days passed since the query was raised. So many posts have appeared but then the originator of the post did not deem it fit to come up with clarification. She has chosen to remain as cool as cucumber! In my previous post, I also have asked so many questions but then where are the replies? This speaks of the attitude of the originator of the post. Rather than chiding at her stolidity, why are you questioning the respondents?
In fact there is no such provision to debar member who just hit the question and run away. That is the real problem is.
Dinesh V Divekar
Dear Shailesh Ji,
I agree with you that she has asked for a format for communication. but our respected forum members have gone through the insight of the problem presenting various turns this small act could take. Anybody can find a format in google but its the knowledge and experience our members share makes us post or problems/requirements at the forum. I am sure even Lilyana Ji will agree with me.
Dear Members
Many of the members have ventures in writing essay without understanding the problem and help the person is seeking from the forum.
She wants a format (draft) to communicate about the compulsory usage of the ipad--without sounding it an offensive or threatening. It is that company’s policy about the ipad..she hasnt asked weather thje policy is right or wrong.
Regards
Shailesh Parikh
Vadodara, Gujarat
99 98 97 10 65
From India, Bangalore
Dear fellow members,
I fully endorse Mr.Dinesh V Divekar on his last posting.
I would only like to add a little more to that, and here is an example:
Assume you've got a severe headache and you to do not know why, and you go to a doctor - these could be the possibilities.
He will ask you questions like: since when, is it in the morning or through the day or at night, is it to the left hand side or the right hand side and can take a course of action based on the in-puts, but supposing you do not give the right response it's guess work.
1. He can give you some medicines, however, might recommend you for some diagnostic tests
2. He could refer you to a Ophthalmologist
3. He could ask you to consult a Dentist
4. He could refer you to Neurologist
There is another option too.... you go crying in pain to the doctor and ask him to prescribe any medicine that can relieve you of this headache.
A professional will not I believe do a thing like that and will add that he will investigate through diagnosis, and then decide the next course of treatment.
Here we are neither doctors not patients, but one thing is evident we seem losing our "patience"
Things that I have been experiencing is the same. We perhaps do not know anyone except on this network, we may not have seen each other, we may not have spoken to each other, therefore we may not even know what things are like outside our "zones" yet with the experience we all carry, we share our thoughts. I think we are entitled to as much as we take everything coming our way is a learning. I'd suggest, let's please relax, let's enjoy the journey, let's enjoy the experiences, let's change our perceptions, let's learn to respond and not to react.
Thanks and let's hope this brings back the discussion to the originator.
From India, Hyderabad
I fully endorse Mr.Dinesh V Divekar on his last posting.
I would only like to add a little more to that, and here is an example:
Assume you've got a severe headache and you to do not know why, and you go to a doctor - these could be the possibilities.
He will ask you questions like: since when, is it in the morning or through the day or at night, is it to the left hand side or the right hand side and can take a course of action based on the in-puts, but supposing you do not give the right response it's guess work.
1. He can give you some medicines, however, might recommend you for some diagnostic tests
2. He could refer you to a Ophthalmologist
3. He could ask you to consult a Dentist
4. He could refer you to Neurologist
There is another option too.... you go crying in pain to the doctor and ask him to prescribe any medicine that can relieve you of this headache.
A professional will not I believe do a thing like that and will add that he will investigate through diagnosis, and then decide the next course of treatment.
Here we are neither doctors not patients, but one thing is evident we seem losing our "patience"
Things that I have been experiencing is the same. We perhaps do not know anyone except on this network, we may not have seen each other, we may not have spoken to each other, therefore we may not even know what things are like outside our "zones" yet with the experience we all carry, we share our thoughts. I think we are entitled to as much as we take everything coming our way is a learning. I'd suggest, let's please relax, let's enjoy the journey, let's enjoy the experiences, let's change our perceptions, let's learn to respond and not to react.
Thanks and let's hope this brings back the discussion to the originator.
From India, Hyderabad
I do not want to add any more mumbo jumbo to this post. But just look at the last but one line in the post by TSK Raman
Quote learn to respond and not to react.Unquote
If every one just adheres to this Inter personal adage life would be much better.
"Carry on Jeeves" as PG Wodehouse says.
From India, Hyderabad
Quote learn to respond and not to react.Unquote
If every one just adheres to this Inter personal adage life would be much better.
"Carry on Jeeves" as PG Wodehouse says.
From India, Hyderabad
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