Hey,
let me give you practical solution to it. Ask your sister to wear mangalsutra when at home and after reaching her office, she can simply put it in purse and wear it again after office hours. So that, her family and her employer both are happy. Its not wise solution to give up your job for this.
I am married woman and wear mangalsutra, but when needed i have no hesitation in taking it off. Common, your love for husband doesnot get affected either way.
I have been involved with the management of One of the leading hotel. And, there Married woman were asked not to wear mangalsutra or sindoor for that matter. Every industry functions in differect manner and employees have to abide by the rules.
Hope this helps, i gave you a practical solution.
Cheers,
Nidhi
From India, Bangalore
let me give you practical solution to it. Ask your sister to wear mangalsutra when at home and after reaching her office, she can simply put it in purse and wear it again after office hours. So that, her family and her employer both are happy. Its not wise solution to give up your job for this.
I am married woman and wear mangalsutra, but when needed i have no hesitation in taking it off. Common, your love for husband doesnot get affected either way.
I have been involved with the management of One of the leading hotel. And, there Married woman were asked not to wear mangalsutra or sindoor for that matter. Every industry functions in differect manner and employees have to abide by the rules.
Hope this helps, i gave you a practical solution.
Cheers,
Nidhi
From India, Bangalore
In just one week 13 pages is being filled , this shows how sensitive this matter is , so i dont think this matter matter is some thing where any oneis ready to compromise thing about it , if you read about it no body is ready to compromise on this matter except few who dont understant the seriousness of the matter
From India, Mumbai
From India, Mumbai
Please remember that the majority of Indian public is conservative about their customs and culture.
This is the part of a strategy that, they now ask for removing the mangal sutra. Then will ask to remove things gradually, till it becomes a complete STRIPPING.
Is that the place where we are going to...or taken to.
It is a matter conciousness...
What I say is:- Refuse it right away.. any degradatory demands. And be a BOLD BHARATA STHREE....
My salute to you go ahead.
Regards
Viswanathan
Surat
From India, Surat
2This is the part of a strategy that, they now ask for removing the mangal sutra. Then will ask to remove things gradually, till it becomes a complete STRIPPING.
Is that the place where we are going to...or taken to.
It is a matter conciousness...
What I say is:- Refuse it right away.. any degradatory demands. And be a BOLD BHARATA STHREE....
My salute to you go ahead.
Regards
Viswanathan
Surat
From India, Surat
Hi,
You can ask her to wear a gold chain and mangalsutra can be tied at the ends of the chain in yellow thread...the chain can be allowed to be inside her dress...need not put outside so that nobody knows whether its a chain or mangalsutra....this is being followed by most of the working ladies.
Jaya
From India, Madras
You can ask her to wear a gold chain and mangalsutra can be tied at the ends of the chain in yellow thread...the chain can be allowed to be inside her dress...need not put outside so that nobody knows whether its a chain or mangalsutra....this is being followed by most of the working ladies.
Jaya
From India, Madras
Hi,
(Let this not hurt anyone)
Mangalsutra, a part relgious culture and custom to be removed for a job.
A bharathia nari, has to quit the job to uphold her custom and reliegious belief.
She has to trade her age old traditions to be employed. Are we not ashamed to discuss it.
Today it is mangalsutra, tomorrow ?
Yes, to day she is a crowd puller, (You call her by any name like brand ambassodor etc.).
Her job is to make the ratings go high even if she has to undergo severe depression, humiliation at the hands of other family members..... and finally a nervous brezakdown..... who bothers as far as the ratings are high....
Come on women of Bharath, rise, why don't you speak of your liberties
don't let anyone encroach on your traditional values
don't let anyone mould you into a saleable sex object, rise and fight
seeemraj
(Let this not hurt anyone)
Mangalsutra, a part relgious culture and custom to be removed for a job.
A bharathia nari, has to quit the job to uphold her custom and reliegious belief.
She has to trade her age old traditions to be employed. Are we not ashamed to discuss it.
Today it is mangalsutra, tomorrow ?
Yes, to day she is a crowd puller, (You call her by any name like brand ambassodor etc.).
Her job is to make the ratings go high even if she has to undergo severe depression, humiliation at the hands of other family members..... and finally a nervous brezakdown..... who bothers as far as the ratings are high....
Come on women of Bharath, rise, why don't you speak of your liberties
don't let anyone encroach on your traditional values
don't let anyone mould you into a saleable sex object, rise and fight
seeemraj
Dear Harshal Sharma,
I don't think there is something to worry. The company has its own policy and your family have your own culture. And I don't think the company will be ready to change its policy but may be your family.
It clearly shows that it wont be possible for your sister to remove the Mangal Sutra to protect her job as she may have to undergo some hardship in her family too.
Today your sister may come to a decision to break your family culture to adjust with the company policy, but who knows, tomorrow she may be laid off for some silly reason's like recession.
So what is the use of creating some discomfort within your family members.
There is only one option in front of you.
Let your sister discuss this issue with the HR Department and try to find out a solution on this. If the company is not ready to adjust with your situation better try for some other good opportunity in some other good firm.
Note:
Don't mistake the HR Department, as this may be the policy of the company initiated by the owner/ for customer attraction/ satisfaction/ Service.
Hope nowadays most of the working women doesn't wear Mangal Sutra.
Thanks,
Don.
I don't think there is something to worry. The company has its own policy and your family have your own culture. And I don't think the company will be ready to change its policy but may be your family.
It clearly shows that it wont be possible for your sister to remove the Mangal Sutra to protect her job as she may have to undergo some hardship in her family too.
Today your sister may come to a decision to break your family culture to adjust with the company policy, but who knows, tomorrow she may be laid off for some silly reason's like recession.
So what is the use of creating some discomfort within your family members.
There is only one option in front of you.
Let your sister discuss this issue with the HR Department and try to find out a solution on this. If the company is not ready to adjust with your situation better try for some other good opportunity in some other good firm.
Note:
Don't mistake the HR Department, as this may be the policy of the company initiated by the owner/ for customer attraction/ satisfaction/ Service.
Hope nowadays most of the working women doesn't wear Mangal Sutra.
Thanks,
Don.
Hi,
I would like to ask, does the HR allow an ornament to be worn in the work place. :?:
If the answer is "yes" then my friend there is a simple solution. :idea:
In market there is numerous design where the upper half is a gold chain and the lower half is in made up of black bead ( I recently made one for my beloved wife on 10th anniv from India :-D ). Now a days it a fashion to wear small and trendy mangalsutra. Mostly females don’t display mangalsutra , it is always covered.
Well for outside world it’s a gold chain and for home it’s a mangalsutra.
This will I hope resolve the matter.
Bobby
From India, Mumbai
I would like to ask, does the HR allow an ornament to be worn in the work place. :?:
If the answer is "yes" then my friend there is a simple solution. :idea:
In market there is numerous design where the upper half is a gold chain and the lower half is in made up of black bead ( I recently made one for my beloved wife on 10th anniv from India :-D ). Now a days it a fashion to wear small and trendy mangalsutra. Mostly females don’t display mangalsutra , it is always covered.
Well for outside world it’s a gold chain and for home it’s a mangalsutra.
This will I hope resolve the matter.
Bobby
From India, Mumbai
Hello everybody,
I have been following up this thread for quite long and somehow i felt that therez a part of India with which I have still been untouched with.
Myself being an Indian gal, born and brought up in a very cultured hindu family with my mom being a typical traditional lady, I had never been taught that a wife's love for her husband is hidden inside her mangalsutra. All i knew that it is another pious thing which the hindu married women wear to show that she is married and care for her husband, same like sindoor.
But as you can see in today's age hardly any newly married lady prefer wearing sindoor, she is all decked up in high heals sandal, jeans, short tops and sunglasses. Does that lessen her love for her husband or does she think ill of her husband while not wearing mangalsutra and sindoor??
I have always been taught of the linakge between souls and not the physical thing, and thats what i feel is the true bondage.
In today's world the competition is so high that you need to be presentable and professional in your professional life in order to perform well, specially in a job like that of VJ, RJ etc.
I strongly feel that one's intentions should be pious, after that whether you wear mangalsutra or not, it really doesnt matter. Moreover, you should sit with your husband and discuss the nature of the job with him.
I am sorry to say but somehow 90% of the entire conversation has showed the shallowness among the husband wife relation wherein the love of the wife is completely dependant on an inanimated object like mangalsutra. Once, again its not your outer clading but your inner faithfullness and love which matters the most.
I would like to express my apologies to all those whose sentiments i might have hurt unintentionally, but all I want to say is: Let's have a rock solid relation with our respective husbands wherein nothing and nothing can damage their trust upon we famales.
I am able to say this thing because last weekend when i participated in a fashion competition in Dubai, it was my darling hubby who came and took off my wedding ring (as it's a heavy gold ring) saying his wife should look the hottest contestent while posing. Though i stood only as a runner up, my love for him has definitely increased manyfold.
Once again my apologies and my assurance that this is just my point of view, so please don't take it otherwise.
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
I have been following up this thread for quite long and somehow i felt that therez a part of India with which I have still been untouched with.
Myself being an Indian gal, born and brought up in a very cultured hindu family with my mom being a typical traditional lady, I had never been taught that a wife's love for her husband is hidden inside her mangalsutra. All i knew that it is another pious thing which the hindu married women wear to show that she is married and care for her husband, same like sindoor.
But as you can see in today's age hardly any newly married lady prefer wearing sindoor, she is all decked up in high heals sandal, jeans, short tops and sunglasses. Does that lessen her love for her husband or does she think ill of her husband while not wearing mangalsutra and sindoor??
I have always been taught of the linakge between souls and not the physical thing, and thats what i feel is the true bondage.
In today's world the competition is so high that you need to be presentable and professional in your professional life in order to perform well, specially in a job like that of VJ, RJ etc.
I strongly feel that one's intentions should be pious, after that whether you wear mangalsutra or not, it really doesnt matter. Moreover, you should sit with your husband and discuss the nature of the job with him.
I am sorry to say but somehow 90% of the entire conversation has showed the shallowness among the husband wife relation wherein the love of the wife is completely dependant on an inanimated object like mangalsutra. Once, again its not your outer clading but your inner faithfullness and love which matters the most.
I would like to express my apologies to all those whose sentiments i might have hurt unintentionally, but all I want to say is: Let's have a rock solid relation with our respective husbands wherein nothing and nothing can damage their trust upon we famales.
I am able to say this thing because last weekend when i participated in a fashion competition in Dubai, it was my darling hubby who came and took off my wedding ring (as it's a heavy gold ring) saying his wife should look the hottest contestent while posing. Though i stood only as a runner up, my love for him has definitely increased manyfold.
Once again my apologies and my assurance that this is just my point of view, so please don't take it otherwise.
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
I may look bit oldie , Please read Harishchandra Story. The Mangal Sutra, need to be worn but need not be displayed. The issue raises if you want to display it. And waht is inside, am sure doesnot bother the Management. Our friends have outpoured their personal views, whats the path to be taken? Personal views with due respect need not be right. And as Hr responsible professionals we should be policy developers.
Our friend says pious intentions and Hindu traditions, why should at all one have the rituals and the ring if not Hindus, The great westerners. Ask them to dispense with that. its easy to ask one to dispense precedences but to implement for self. firstly why should we follow the western concept of management. The world is looking at Indian Management Techs and we are looking for 'their' approval.
We used to have father'sname in our CVs' and were proud to write. The so called system its risky because at the time of submmission its' one, during interview its second and at the time documentation it is third. Instead of upholding ourselves we still are upholding slavery and looking for 'their' approval for life.
From India, Vijayawada
Our friend says pious intentions and Hindu traditions, why should at all one have the rituals and the ring if not Hindus, The great westerners. Ask them to dispense with that. its easy to ask one to dispense precedences but to implement for self. firstly why should we follow the western concept of management. The world is looking at Indian Management Techs and we are looking for 'their' approval.
We used to have father'sname in our CVs' and were proud to write. The so called system its risky because at the time of submmission its' one, during interview its second and at the time documentation it is third. Instead of upholding ourselves we still are upholding slavery and looking for 'their' approval for life.
From India, Vijayawada
Dear All,
In life what matters is "what you chose when you are given an option"...not just "chose whatever"
To give more clarity - had I been given the ultimate choice of chosing the way I prefer to dress, I'd rather ignore all tradition. (and still let people know that I am the same Asha when relationships are concerned, but just a different outlook)
But when it comes to a matter of chosing between two like - "chose to wear Mangal Sutra - and forget the job, and "Not wear the Mangal Sutra - have the job" - its more like a condition imposed.
In such a situation the couple (Husband and wife) - take a keen look into what choice the other makes. When there is no such condition imposed - I am sure the wife will not worry over NOT wearing the mangal Sutra occassionally when she is dressed in a modern outfit (even the husband may think its okay)..
From India, Madras
In life what matters is "what you chose when you are given an option"...not just "chose whatever"
To give more clarity - had I been given the ultimate choice of chosing the way I prefer to dress, I'd rather ignore all tradition. (and still let people know that I am the same Asha when relationships are concerned, but just a different outlook)
But when it comes to a matter of chosing between two like - "chose to wear Mangal Sutra - and forget the job, and "Not wear the Mangal Sutra - have the job" - its more like a condition imposed.
In such a situation the couple (Husband and wife) - take a keen look into what choice the other makes. When there is no such condition imposed - I am sure the wife will not worry over NOT wearing the mangal Sutra occassionally when she is dressed in a modern outfit (even the husband may think its okay)..
From India, Madras
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