Hi Asha, Very good learning and I really appreciate your efforts in typing everything/sharing the same. . . . . .
From India, Tiruppur
2From India, Tiruppur
Dear Asha,
I read this today only. It's more appreciable on your part to express your feeling after kowing the reality, not justifying yourself. That shows you have a good heart and thinking. Your experience shows all of us, how we should be patient to our sorroundings.
But you have done this for your elderly parents. More important is that, take out this from your mind & relax
Regards
Shyam Kumar
Trainer
Cochin
Mob: 9995031775
From India, Ernakulam
I read this today only. It's more appreciable on your part to express your feeling after kowing the reality, not justifying yourself. That shows you have a good heart and thinking. Your experience shows all of us, how we should be patient to our sorroundings.
But you have done this for your elderly parents. More important is that, take out this from your mind & relax
Regards
Shyam Kumar
Trainer
Cochin
Mob: 9995031775
From India, Ernakulam
Dear Raj Kumar and others
Please comment on what we can learn from the incident rather than question the veracity.
For you information there will be many strange coincidences in life. I have mentioned this to KCS Kutty in private. If any one requires please drop me a private message.
Have a nice day.
Simhan
From United Kingdom
Please comment on what we can learn from the incident rather than question the veracity.
For you information there will be many strange coincidences in life. I have mentioned this to KCS Kutty in private. If any one requires please drop me a private message.
Have a nice day.
Simhan
From United Kingdom
If only u had carefully read the narration and absorbed the message that, quote - "Had I been calm... I would have observed things around and noticed a wheel chair folded next to the seat." - unquote, you would have refrained from commenting so carelessly and rudely.
This is a touching, brilliant and genuine first hand write up by an amateur and not one that is done by a professional story writer.
There are so many tell tale signs there in the narration which indicate a genuine original effort; only thing one needs is the ability to observe.
From India, Pune
My dear JayantG;
What makes you say :
"you would have refrained from commenting so carelessly and rudely."
I had written just two sentences :
"Straight out of the Chicken Soup series !!!!
I too, have read a few such stories earlier."
What made you conclude that I am CARELESS and RUDE ????
Dear JayantG, That simply means you have NOT learnt anything from this story !!
You have made the same error - Fundamental Attribution Error
Why it never occurred to you that when I am saying "Straight out of the Chicken Soup series !!!!", I am COMPLIMENTING the story and the story writer's skill, that it is in the same league as the famous inspirational series of stories that go by the name of "Chicken Soup for the Soul" series by Jack Canfield.
Here, please read what it means :
"A Chicken Soup for the Soul story is an inspirational, true story about ordinary people doing extraordinary things. It is a story that opens the heart and rekindles the spirit. It is a simple, inter-denominational, living art piece that touches the soul of the readers and helps them discover basic principles they can use in their own lives. They are personal and often filled with emotion and drama. They are filled with vivid images created by using the five senses. In some stories, the readers feel that they are actually in the scene with the people." (quoted from its web site)
Don't you think this story fits the bill (as given above) PERFECTLY ??? !!!!
Did not you say the same thing - "This is a touching, brilliant and genuine first hand write up by an amateur and not one that is done by a professional story writer."
I meant the same thing, or perhaps better - a story as good as Chicken Soup for the Soul stories !!!
Secondly :
When I say "I too, have read a few such stories earlier." while responding to the member's post who is a professional Trainer; I am stating the truth.
I have indeed read such stories.
In fact, I tell such stories, when I conduct training programmes, and encourage others to tell. A typical overnight assignment may contain such question as :
Once we are aware of our perceptual errors, we realize the prevalence of Fundamental Attribution Errors in our daily life. To encourage participants to be able to identify familiarize themselves of such perceptual errors, your assignment is to write about two instances of FAE that you have come across recently. It can be from your own experience, experiences of others -colleagues, friends, relatives; or from a tertiary source like news articles, cinema or TV shows.
Would be obliged, if you could kindly explain, where is the "carelessness" and "rudeness" in these two sentences ??
But, thanks anyway, you have given me a good take-away. I can quote this story in future.
Regards.
From India, Delhi
What makes you say :
"you would have refrained from commenting so carelessly and rudely."
I had written just two sentences :
"Straight out of the Chicken Soup series !!!!
I too, have read a few such stories earlier."
What made you conclude that I am CARELESS and RUDE ????
Dear JayantG, That simply means you have NOT learnt anything from this story !!
You have made the same error - Fundamental Attribution Error
Why it never occurred to you that when I am saying "Straight out of the Chicken Soup series !!!!", I am COMPLIMENTING the story and the story writer's skill, that it is in the same league as the famous inspirational series of stories that go by the name of "Chicken Soup for the Soul" series by Jack Canfield.
Here, please read what it means :
"A Chicken Soup for the Soul story is an inspirational, true story about ordinary people doing extraordinary things. It is a story that opens the heart and rekindles the spirit. It is a simple, inter-denominational, living art piece that touches the soul of the readers and helps them discover basic principles they can use in their own lives. They are personal and often filled with emotion and drama. They are filled with vivid images created by using the five senses. In some stories, the readers feel that they are actually in the scene with the people." (quoted from its web site)
Don't you think this story fits the bill (as given above) PERFECTLY ??? !!!!
Did not you say the same thing - "This is a touching, brilliant and genuine first hand write up by an amateur and not one that is done by a professional story writer."
I meant the same thing, or perhaps better - a story as good as Chicken Soup for the Soul stories !!!
Secondly :
When I say "I too, have read a few such stories earlier." while responding to the member's post who is a professional Trainer; I am stating the truth.
I have indeed read such stories.
In fact, I tell such stories, when I conduct training programmes, and encourage others to tell. A typical overnight assignment may contain such question as :
Once we are aware of our perceptual errors, we realize the prevalence of Fundamental Attribution Errors in our daily life. To encourage participants to be able to identify familiarize themselves of such perceptual errors, your assignment is to write about two instances of FAE that you have come across recently. It can be from your own experience, experiences of others -colleagues, friends, relatives; or from a tertiary source like news articles, cinema or TV shows.
Would be obliged, if you could kindly explain, where is the "carelessness" and "rudeness" in these two sentences ??
But, thanks anyway, you have given me a good take-away. I can quote this story in future.
Regards.
From India, Delhi
Classic example of political double speak!!!
One day they call people cattle and next day say, "I didn't mean it, my words were quoted out of context, blah, blah, blah, .......... ."
They say it in 485 words approx. when only three words, "I liked it", could have done the job admirably.
From India, Pune
Thanx for sharing such a precious sharing with with us , the incident took place really teaches us to know more about enter in other shoes theory, moreover i am being thankful to you.
From India
From India
Hi Asha,
Thanks for sharing this experience.
I suggest you read Stephen Covey's book "7 Habits of Highly Effective People". There is an example of a similar incident. A man sitting in a train silently and lost in deep thoughts while his children were misbehaving. All others around could not understand how he can tolerate. They were very angry. The hard fact is that the man lost his wife only days before. What was anger turned into compassion!!!
We never stop learning. Everyday we learn irrespective of our age. Learning is a continuous process. Had this man told you his wife is sick, you would surely have reacted differently instead of being angry. You are not at fault at all. You have reacted as any normal person would have done. You must not feel guilty or ashamed. One more thing I suggest you read is "IF" of Rudyard Kipling. What is Onam?Ganessen.
Thanks for sharing this experience.
I suggest you read Stephen Covey's book "7 Habits of Highly Effective People". There is an example of a similar incident. A man sitting in a train silently and lost in deep thoughts while his children were misbehaving. All others around could not understand how he can tolerate. They were very angry. The hard fact is that the man lost his wife only days before. What was anger turned into compassion!!!
We never stop learning. Everyday we learn irrespective of our age. Learning is a continuous process. Had this man told you his wife is sick, you would surely have reacted differently instead of being angry. You are not at fault at all. You have reacted as any normal person would have done. You must not feel guilty or ashamed. One more thing I suggest you read is "IF" of Rudyard Kipling. What is Onam?Ganessen.
Community Support and Knowledge-base on business, career and organisational prospects and issues - Register and Log In to CiteHR and post your query, download formats and be part of a fostered community of professionals.
Old one but will ALWAYS remain true.doc
IOC fire incident.pdf