Hi Friends,
I would like to share some information on the body language.
Eye contact. We all know that eye contact is a great way to connect with other people, but it can also be a double-edged sword. Too much of it can seem aggressive and inappropriate, while too little makes you look like you’re being dishonest and have something to hide. So how do you make that balance between looking evasive and looking like you’re about to challenge your interviewer to a duel? “Good eye contact is about maintaining eye contact, but it’s not staring at the person for 40 minutes,” said Vicky Oliver.
Eye rolling. Although eye contact can be either good or bad, depending on how long you maintain it, rolling your eyes is never a good idea. Oftentimes people will roll their eyes when they disagree with someone or when they think the other person has said something dumb. The problem is, people generally aren’t even aware that they’re rolling their eyes — so it’s important to become really cognizant of what you’re doing so that you don’t offend your interviewer.
Posture. During an interview, you want to sit up straight — but not to the point where you look like an ironing board. By doing this, you will show that you’re interested in the conversation you’re having with your prospective employer, while not appearing too stiff.
Handshake. Just like with eye contact, your handshake can either leave an employer with a good or bad impression of you, depending on how you do it. “You don’t want to break bones, but a firm shake conveys a more positive attitude than a limp wrist,” Oliver said.
Tapping. You may not do it on purpose, but if you’re tapping your fingers or toes during your interview, a potential employer may get the impression that you’re agitated or that you have something better to do.
Voice. With so many hiring managers conducting phone interviews these days, you may think that you’re off the hook because your interviewer can’t actually see you. But not so fast: The way you say things — also known as paralanguage — can also tell a potential employer a lot about you. For example, if the tone or pitch of your voice is flat, your interviewer will believe that you’re not really interested in the job — no matter what words you use to convey otherwise. Also, certain speech patterns — such as excessively using words such as “like,” “um” and “ah” — can tell an interviewer that you’re not confident about what you’re saying, or did not adequately prepare for the interview.
71I would like to share some information on the body language.
Eye contact. We all know that eye contact is a great way to connect with other people, but it can also be a double-edged sword. Too much of it can seem aggressive and inappropriate, while too little makes you look like you’re being dishonest and have something to hide. So how do you make that balance between looking evasive and looking like you’re about to challenge your interviewer to a duel? “Good eye contact is about maintaining eye contact, but it’s not staring at the person for 40 minutes,” said Vicky Oliver.
Eye rolling. Although eye contact can be either good or bad, depending on how long you maintain it, rolling your eyes is never a good idea. Oftentimes people will roll their eyes when they disagree with someone or when they think the other person has said something dumb. The problem is, people generally aren’t even aware that they’re rolling their eyes — so it’s important to become really cognizant of what you’re doing so that you don’t offend your interviewer.
Posture. During an interview, you want to sit up straight — but not to the point where you look like an ironing board. By doing this, you will show that you’re interested in the conversation you’re having with your prospective employer, while not appearing too stiff.
Handshake. Just like with eye contact, your handshake can either leave an employer with a good or bad impression of you, depending on how you do it. “You don’t want to break bones, but a firm shake conveys a more positive attitude than a limp wrist,” Oliver said.
Tapping. You may not do it on purpose, but if you’re tapping your fingers or toes during your interview, a potential employer may get the impression that you’re agitated or that you have something better to do.
Voice. With so many hiring managers conducting phone interviews these days, you may think that you’re off the hook because your interviewer can’t actually see you. But not so fast: The way you say things — also known as paralanguage — can also tell a potential employer a lot about you. For example, if the tone or pitch of your voice is flat, your interviewer will believe that you’re not really interested in the job — no matter what words you use to convey otherwise. Also, certain speech patterns — such as excessively using words such as “like,” “um” and “ah” — can tell an interviewer that you’re not confident about what you’re saying, or did not adequately prepare for the interview.
Very nice one. These are useful tips to be kept in mind while giving an interview.
I would like to share my personal experience.
Once I was called up for an interview by a consultant. I went there and was told to sit as the consultant had not yet come. After he came,there was an interview of a boy which was over in just 10mins than after one girl went and her was over in just 15mins but when I was told to go for an interview that girl was sitting inside and the man told her to visit again after he is prepared for interview questions that he asked and than she was asked to leave.
Now came my turn. He went through my CV and noticed that I am Roman Catholic and the worst thing I heard from him was as I am from this religion, I would be very open minded and so he offered job in his own consultancy office but I refused as I came to know what he meant to say by this. He also told me that he'll change my attitude and take me very high. But I just refused. This was the worst experience of my life.
Why people have such cheap mentality which hurts a lot.
Regards,
Sneh Barnes.
From India, Vadodara
I would like to share my personal experience.
Once I was called up for an interview by a consultant. I went there and was told to sit as the consultant had not yet come. After he came,there was an interview of a boy which was over in just 10mins than after one girl went and her was over in just 15mins but when I was told to go for an interview that girl was sitting inside and the man told her to visit again after he is prepared for interview questions that he asked and than she was asked to leave.
Now came my turn. He went through my CV and noticed that I am Roman Catholic and the worst thing I heard from him was as I am from this religion, I would be very open minded and so he offered job in his own consultancy office but I refused as I came to know what he meant to say by this. He also told me that he'll change my attitude and take me very high. But I just refused. This was the worst experience of my life.
Why people have such cheap mentality which hurts a lot.
Regards,
Sneh Barnes.
From India, Vadodara
Hi Sneh,
Thankyou for sharing your experience with us. Itz really pathetic to hear that people with such sleaze attitude are on a higher post in any company. Just ignore what he said..& move on.
Regards,
Sayali Patil.
From India, Pune
Thankyou for sharing your experience with us. Itz really pathetic to hear that people with such sleaze attitude are on a higher post in any company. Just ignore what he said..& move on.
Regards,
Sayali Patil.
From India, Pune
It was really difficult for some days to get out of it as it was so pathetic and awkward to hear such cheap words. I just don't understand that why people have such cheap mentality?
Such culprits are only ruining the atmosphere by taking advantage of their positions.
Regards,
Sneh Barnes
From India, Vadodara
Such culprits are only ruining the atmosphere by taking advantage of their positions.
Regards,
Sneh Barnes
From India, Vadodara
hii Manoj
I perfectly agree to ur thoughts yet i find all these more theoritical.
From my personal experience i have observed when we enter the interview room face the recruiters
we generally get nervous and all worst body language takes place without consciousness.
Therefore i request you to suggest how to get over with the nervousness and develop confidence .
From Singapore
I perfectly agree to ur thoughts yet i find all these more theoritical.
From my personal experience i have observed when we enter the interview room face the recruiters
we generally get nervous and all worst body language takes place without consciousness.
Therefore i request you to suggest how to get over with the nervousness and develop confidence .
From Singapore
Hi All,
Truly a very Nice Article from you mani_pooja. Plz do keep sharing such good ones in the future also. However Sneh Barnes I felt very disturbed after reading your experience. I feel the person should be punished badly so that he might never ever even dream such rubbish in his life ever. My hearty Congrats to you Sneha to say a Confident 'No' to such a guy. Thanks & regards to all.
Mody Harish M.
BPP Co-ordinator,
KGK Diamonds Group, Surat.
(+91 97236 96738)
From India, Surat
Truly a very Nice Article from you mani_pooja. Plz do keep sharing such good ones in the future also. However Sneh Barnes I felt very disturbed after reading your experience. I feel the person should be punished badly so that he might never ever even dream such rubbish in his life ever. My hearty Congrats to you Sneha to say a Confident 'No' to such a guy. Thanks & regards to all.
Mody Harish M.
BPP Co-ordinator,
KGK Diamonds Group, Surat.
(+91 97236 96738)
From India, Surat
@Barnali
There is no specific advice on how to use your body language.You’ll probably want to use your body language differently when talking to your boss compared to when you talk to a girl/guy you’re interested in.
First, to change your body language you must be aware of your body language. Notice how you sit, how you stand, how you use you hands and legs, what you do while talking to someone.
You might want to practice in front of a mirror. Yeah, it might seem silly but no one is watching you. This will give you good feedback on how you look to other people and give you an opportunity to practise a bit before going out into the world.
Another tip is to close your eyes and visualize how you would stand and sit to feel confident, open and relaxed or whatever you want to communicate. See yourself move like that version of yourself. Then try it out.
You might also want observe friends, role models, movie stars or other people you think has good body language. Observe what they do and you don’t. Take bits and pieces you like from different people.
Some of these tips might seem like you are faking something. But fake it til you make it is a useful way to learn something new. And remember, feelings work backwards too.Just play around a bit, practice and monitor yourself to find a comfortable balance.
You can change your body language but as all new habits it takes a while.And if you try and change to many things at once it might become confusing and feel overwhelming.
There is no specific advice on how to use your body language.You’ll probably want to use your body language differently when talking to your boss compared to when you talk to a girl/guy you’re interested in.
First, to change your body language you must be aware of your body language. Notice how you sit, how you stand, how you use you hands and legs, what you do while talking to someone.
You might want to practice in front of a mirror. Yeah, it might seem silly but no one is watching you. This will give you good feedback on how you look to other people and give you an opportunity to practise a bit before going out into the world.
Another tip is to close your eyes and visualize how you would stand and sit to feel confident, open and relaxed or whatever you want to communicate. See yourself move like that version of yourself. Then try it out.
You might also want observe friends, role models, movie stars or other people you think has good body language. Observe what they do and you don’t. Take bits and pieces you like from different people.
Some of these tips might seem like you are faking something. But fake it til you make it is a useful way to learn something new. And remember, feelings work backwards too.Just play around a bit, practice and monitor yourself to find a comfortable balance.
You can change your body language but as all new habits it takes a while.And if you try and change to many things at once it might become confusing and feel overwhelming.
Nice article? But is there any real way of practicing interview process? Plz find answer after u read few of my interview experiences.
1. I went for interview to a Pvt Ltd Firm during last year November. Total six(!) rounds interview procedures. Well all this drama started at 10am around & from 10 am to 3.30pm i had cleared three rounds. Then it was the time for fourth round. HR was looking really tired & was in mood for a brief midday nap. At last he rejects me on the ground of location distance. I told him i was told that i would be selected for some other branch which is close to my house. But still he rejects me.
After 5mnths i received a phone from there. I was shocked , i asked them why u r calling me after such a long period? Is that a Govt. Job, so u hv lengthy selection process? Then one lady clarify it to me that That last interviewer were not doing his job properly. He had rejected many good candidates for some personal reason, so, organisation have fired him & now they are getting back to those candidates who were rejected by him.
2. I was told always prepare b4 interview. Preparation=Organisation Knowledge+Own Knowledge base About that job. I prepared myself for that newly launched Organisation, for my dream job. But on the interview board they asked me all the questions which are not related with my JD(ERP related questions). And those questions which are related with my JD when i'm trying to give it's answer they were instantly twisting the questions & proving me wrong.
Now, plz suggest me what would be the ideal preparation under such circumstances?
Regards,
Mahua Biswas
From India, Calcutta
1. I went for interview to a Pvt Ltd Firm during last year November. Total six(!) rounds interview procedures. Well all this drama started at 10am around & from 10 am to 3.30pm i had cleared three rounds. Then it was the time for fourth round. HR was looking really tired & was in mood for a brief midday nap. At last he rejects me on the ground of location distance. I told him i was told that i would be selected for some other branch which is close to my house. But still he rejects me.
After 5mnths i received a phone from there. I was shocked , i asked them why u r calling me after such a long period? Is that a Govt. Job, so u hv lengthy selection process? Then one lady clarify it to me that That last interviewer were not doing his job properly. He had rejected many good candidates for some personal reason, so, organisation have fired him & now they are getting back to those candidates who were rejected by him.
2. I was told always prepare b4 interview. Preparation=Organisation Knowledge+Own Knowledge base About that job. I prepared myself for that newly launched Organisation, for my dream job. But on the interview board they asked me all the questions which are not related with my JD(ERP related questions). And those questions which are related with my JD when i'm trying to give it's answer they were instantly twisting the questions & proving me wrong.
Now, plz suggest me what would be the ideal preparation under such circumstances?
Regards,
Mahua Biswas
From India, Calcutta
HI
Thank you for sharing this post???
Its very useful.
I myself have seen candidate's in worst situation.
For Example Candidates coming for Interview & don't even carry a Resume with them?I have even seen Experience candidates coming for Interview Without Resume
From India, Bangalore
Thank you for sharing this post???
Its very useful.
I myself have seen candidate's in worst situation.
For Example Candidates coming for Interview & don't even carry a Resume with them?I have even seen Experience candidates coming for Interview Without Resume
From India, Bangalore
Friends,
If someone is not carrying Resume that does mean that person does not know how to write it. But I am sharing something more interesting- Few weeks back I got a call for Admin position in firm. I got rejected the ground that I have HR & Admin both experiences. So, I don't qualify for that job.
During Interview I saw one person who does not bring his Resume & without even any Formal Outfit. I was shocked to see how could someone come up for the interview with such a casual approach for a Management Position? But my real shock was that when I saw the person bagged that job. Just because we belong to the same Business Area, both the offices are situated on the same road so somehow I gathered the info with the help of an insiders. And the reason he got selected, just because he belongs to the same state where MD belongs. Hence he got that extra advantage.
I can remember apart from him rest of us were Bengali. I was with minimum experience among them.
Now under such circumstances how you would prepare yourself?
Regards,
Mahua Biswas
From India, Calcutta
If someone is not carrying Resume that does mean that person does not know how to write it. But I am sharing something more interesting- Few weeks back I got a call for Admin position in firm. I got rejected the ground that I have HR & Admin both experiences. So, I don't qualify for that job.
During Interview I saw one person who does not bring his Resume & without even any Formal Outfit. I was shocked to see how could someone come up for the interview with such a casual approach for a Management Position? But my real shock was that when I saw the person bagged that job. Just because we belong to the same Business Area, both the offices are situated on the same road so somehow I gathered the info with the help of an insiders. And the reason he got selected, just because he belongs to the same state where MD belongs. Hence he got that extra advantage.
I can remember apart from him rest of us were Bengali. I was with minimum experience among them.
Now under such circumstances how you would prepare yourself?
Regards,
Mahua Biswas
From India, Calcutta
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