I second Simhan. That will convey Vijay's concern for her as well as give her a chance to analyze for herself the various options she has. She's, after all, an adult now and should be able to make decisions herself to a large extent. And I don't think anything mentioned by the members or Vijay in this thread has any content that should be the cause of worry or apprehension for her... it's all well-meant and keeping her interest in mind.
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TS
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TS
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Dear Nashbramhall, Thanks for the suggestion. I have already informed her about posting thread on Cite.HR and also conveyed some of the messages posted by our members. Thanks once again. VIJAY
From United Arab Emirates, Ras Al Khaimah
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Dear Mr. Vijay,
You have answered most of the queries that were raised as the thread had progressed. I hope you have responded to Mr. Jacob separately. His name was suggested since you wanted a senior member with a financial background. This request was in your opening message. Mr. Jacob is a great motivator and had personally confirmed to me about his writing to you.
V. Raghunathan
From India
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You have answered most of the queries that were raised as the thread had progressed. I hope you have responded to Mr. Jacob separately. His name was suggested since you wanted a senior member with a financial background. This request was in your opening message. Mr. Jacob is a great motivator and had personally confirmed to me about his writing to you.
V. Raghunathan
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Dear Vijay,
I don't see it as her weakness in techniques; it is more about her being introverted and not able to mingle with people. Please have her go through a public speaking course, which would be a couple of weeks long. She needs to feel confident from within; the rest will fall into place.
From India, Hyderabad
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I don't see it as her weakness in techniques; it is more about her being introverted and not able to mingle with people. Please have her go through a public speaking course, which would be a couple of weeks long. She needs to feel confident from within; the rest will fall into place.
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One major flaw in this forum is that the communication is always one-sided in a large majority of the cases. The person who originally posted his or her query does not even have the basic courtesy of acknowledging the various comments posted by people who are otherwise busy with their own commitments. Still, we take time off from our schedule and ensure that we share our opinion, thoughts, and ideas so that the person who posted his or her query gets a variety of choices in front of him/her. Anyway, 'courtesy' is a word that is slowly vanishing from the earth and also from the English Dictionary!!!
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Hello Sundaram,
You are right.
However, the way I have been looking at my participation in this forum is: There are two types of people – takers and givers.
Most of those who take time off from their busy schedules belong to the 'givers' category, and it's up to the originators whether to acknowledge the suggestions and, more importantly, become 'givers' too along the way.
The only parameter I apply to my opinions and participation is to follow what's said in the Gita - 'Patra Daan' and 'Apatra daan' - meaning 'deserving' and 'undeserving' giving (be it suggestions, money, idea, opinion, etc.). One of the main reasons I begin my participation in any discussion/thread by asking queries is to get better clarity of the issue/situation and the context. If you notice, many new members want to know ways to beat the rules when it's inconvenient for them - be it absconding without repercussions, how to skip the bond without paying a dime, how to legally punish the company for their mistake, and so forth. There are others who ask innocuous queries (masking the actual issue) and misuse the suggestions given.
The only way the seniors in this forum can inculcate the habit among those who raise issues/queries with half-baked/incomplete inputs is to desist from giving suggestions right away. Once this becomes a habit for the likes of us, only then will the habit of giving the full and truthful details by thread initiators begin and continue.
Else, this topic will keep getting discussed, even when CiteHR celebrates its centenary (seriously).
Had this been an organization, one would have templates, formats, etc., but in such public forums, that's both tough and impractical.
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TS
From India, Hyderabad
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You are right.
However, the way I have been looking at my participation in this forum is: There are two types of people – takers and givers.
Most of those who take time off from their busy schedules belong to the 'givers' category, and it's up to the originators whether to acknowledge the suggestions and, more importantly, become 'givers' too along the way.
The only parameter I apply to my opinions and participation is to follow what's said in the Gita - 'Patra Daan' and 'Apatra daan' - meaning 'deserving' and 'undeserving' giving (be it suggestions, money, idea, opinion, etc.). One of the main reasons I begin my participation in any discussion/thread by asking queries is to get better clarity of the issue/situation and the context. If you notice, many new members want to know ways to beat the rules when it's inconvenient for them - be it absconding without repercussions, how to skip the bond without paying a dime, how to legally punish the company for their mistake, and so forth. There are others who ask innocuous queries (masking the actual issue) and misuse the suggestions given.
The only way the seniors in this forum can inculcate the habit among those who raise issues/queries with half-baked/incomplete inputs is to desist from giving suggestions right away. Once this becomes a habit for the likes of us, only then will the habit of giving the full and truthful details by thread initiators begin and continue.
Else, this topic will keep getting discussed, even when CiteHR celebrates its centenary (seriously).
Had this been an organization, one would have templates, formats, etc., but in such public forums, that's both tough and impractical.
Regards,
TS
From India, Hyderabad
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Dear Mr. Sundaram,
It is not correct that the communication is one sided and I do not have courtesy to even reply to the posting. I already tried to reply almost everyone's suggestions. Off course it is not possible to reply every member like how we chat in "what's app". I thanks to everyone who provided the valuable information. I posted 2 replies with sufficient explanation and situation but it is not correct to accuse anyone that the person doesn’t have courtesy to reply the members.
Instead of replying every post I preferred to wait for 3-4 postings together and reply them all in one post, which I am doing. There are always two sides for the coin. Secondly I am hardcore technical person who is a bit not very familiar with HR terms. So some of the postings are really tough for me to understand.
Mr. Raghunathan, my daughter already contacted Mr. Jacob and both of them in communication with each other. She also agreed to look for some personality development classes.
Regards to all.
VIJAY
From United Arab Emirates, Ras Al Khaimah
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It is not correct that the communication is one sided and I do not have courtesy to even reply to the posting. I already tried to reply almost everyone's suggestions. Off course it is not possible to reply every member like how we chat in "what's app". I thanks to everyone who provided the valuable information. I posted 2 replies with sufficient explanation and situation but it is not correct to accuse anyone that the person doesn’t have courtesy to reply the members.
Instead of replying every post I preferred to wait for 3-4 postings together and reply them all in one post, which I am doing. There are always two sides for the coin. Secondly I am hardcore technical person who is a bit not very familiar with HR terms. So some of the postings are really tough for me to understand.
Mr. Raghunathan, my daughter already contacted Mr. Jacob and both of them in communication with each other. She also agreed to look for some personality development classes.
Regards to all.
VIJAY
From United Arab Emirates, Ras Al Khaimah
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Hello Vijay,
I think you got the intent and content of Sundaram's posting all wrong. He was referring to the general direction postings in this forum have been going in the recent past, and so was my reply posting too. It surely wasn't directed at you or your issue at hand; it looks more like an unintended communication gap.
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TS
From India, Hyderabad
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I think you got the intent and content of Sundaram's posting all wrong. He was referring to the general direction postings in this forum have been going in the recent past, and so was my reply posting too. It surely wasn't directed at you or your issue at hand; it looks more like an unintended communication gap.
Regards,
TS
From India, Hyderabad
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Dear Mr. Tajsateesh,
Cite HR is a nice platform for people like me who are not basically from the HR department. We are all here to share information, advice, and knowledge, not to pinpoint individuals. This is not a court where explanations are mandatory. However, the sentence "The person who originally posted his or her query does not even have the basic courtesy of acknowledging the various comments posted by people, who are otherwise busy with their own commitments" is certainly not a general statement but rather points to an individual.
I kindly request everyone not to prolong this subject any further. I have respect for all the members who regularly share their valuable advice and wish to maintain good terms with all of you forever.
Best regards,
VIJAY
From United Arab Emirates, Ras Al Khaimah
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Cite HR is a nice platform for people like me who are not basically from the HR department. We are all here to share information, advice, and knowledge, not to pinpoint individuals. This is not a court where explanations are mandatory. However, the sentence "The person who originally posted his or her query does not even have the basic courtesy of acknowledging the various comments posted by people, who are otherwise busy with their own commitments" is certainly not a general statement but rather points to an individual.
I kindly request everyone not to prolong this subject any further. I have respect for all the members who regularly share their valuable advice and wish to maintain good terms with all of you forever.
Best regards,
VIJAY
From United Arab Emirates, Ras Al Khaimah
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Mr. Vijay,
As Mr. Tajsateesh has correctly pointed out, it is my general opinion I was talking about and in particular about you. As a parent, I too fully understand the mental agony and turmoil you must be passing through. A girl not getting a proper job commensurate with her qualifications in this modern competitive world is as good as her not getting married despite reaching the correct age. The concern is genuine. What we expected was a simple acknowledgment for having received the inputs (perhaps more than what you expected!). As they say, giving advice to others is the easiest thing in this world. However, in a forum like this, which is full of professionals, the advice given will be based more on their knowledge, skills, and experience gained over the years. We do not give any off-the-cuff advice, like a remedy/cure for a 'cold'!
I am happy that your daughter is on the right track, and we wish her all success. These days, I understand the CA branches in various major cities conduct a lot of soft skill training programs like presentation skills (my son is a CA, and I know it for certain!) to further enhance the soft skills of CAs. You can explore this as well.
Best wishes
From India, Bengaluru
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As Mr. Tajsateesh has correctly pointed out, it is my general opinion I was talking about and in particular about you. As a parent, I too fully understand the mental agony and turmoil you must be passing through. A girl not getting a proper job commensurate with her qualifications in this modern competitive world is as good as her not getting married despite reaching the correct age. The concern is genuine. What we expected was a simple acknowledgment for having received the inputs (perhaps more than what you expected!). As they say, giving advice to others is the easiest thing in this world. However, in a forum like this, which is full of professionals, the advice given will be based more on their knowledge, skills, and experience gained over the years. We do not give any off-the-cuff advice, like a remedy/cure for a 'cold'!
I am happy that your daughter is on the right track, and we wish her all success. These days, I understand the CA branches in various major cities conduct a lot of soft skill training programs like presentation skills (my son is a CA, and I know it for certain!) to further enhance the soft skills of CAs. You can explore this as well.
Best wishes
From India, Bengaluru
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