Hello All,
Good Morning!
I would like to place my query in the form of the following points:
* I recently received a call from my ex-employer asking if I would be interested in returning to work for them. I worked as an HR in this company for 3 years before leaving for family reasons.
* I was excited about this opportunity since this company is a great place to work, and I thoroughly enjoyed my previous tenure there. I resigned from the company 2 years ago.
* Everything was progressing smoothly regarding my rejoining, and I was eagerly awaiting official confirmation.
* My husband has been working in the same company (in a different department) for the past 6.5 years. We only got married after I had left this job.
* Everyone in the company, including the management, was aware that my husband also worked there, and there were no issues raised about it.
* Out of the blue, while I was anticipating a call regarding my job confirmation, I was informed by HR that they couldn't offer me employment due to my husband's employment in the same company (albeit in a different location).
My query pertains to the fact that the company's management was aware of my husband's employment all along yet showed keen interest in hiring me. However, I was later informed that some senior members of the management felt it would not be appropriate. Ironically, the company currently employs a couple who met at work, got married, and now work together (the husband rejoined the company after their marriage).
I find it difficult to comprehend being denied an opportunity based on this reason. If it were related to my work or skills, I could accept it, but I struggle to understand this decision, especially considering that the company initially approached me and then backtracked.
I have come across discussions on whether spouses should be allowed to work in the same company after marriage, but my situation, I believe, presents a different angle.
Seniors, I would appreciate hearing your opinion or perspective on this matter.
From India, Bangalore
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3Good Morning!
I would like to place my query in the form of the following points:
* I recently received a call from my ex-employer asking if I would be interested in returning to work for them. I worked as an HR in this company for 3 years before leaving for family reasons.
* I was excited about this opportunity since this company is a great place to work, and I thoroughly enjoyed my previous tenure there. I resigned from the company 2 years ago.
* Everything was progressing smoothly regarding my rejoining, and I was eagerly awaiting official confirmation.
* My husband has been working in the same company (in a different department) for the past 6.5 years. We only got married after I had left this job.
* Everyone in the company, including the management, was aware that my husband also worked there, and there were no issues raised about it.
* Out of the blue, while I was anticipating a call regarding my job confirmation, I was informed by HR that they couldn't offer me employment due to my husband's employment in the same company (albeit in a different location).
My query pertains to the fact that the company's management was aware of my husband's employment all along yet showed keen interest in hiring me. However, I was later informed that some senior members of the management felt it would not be appropriate. Ironically, the company currently employs a couple who met at work, got married, and now work together (the husband rejoined the company after their marriage).
I find it difficult to comprehend being denied an opportunity based on this reason. If it were related to my work or skills, I could accept it, but I struggle to understand this decision, especially considering that the company initially approached me and then backtracked.
I have come across discussions on whether spouses should be allowed to work in the same company after marriage, but my situation, I believe, presents a different angle.
Seniors, I would appreciate hearing your opinion or perspective on this matter.
From India, Bangalore
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Does one of persons that you quote work in HR? If not, that you would be employed in HR may be the reason. You have to take these things as they come and not feel bad about it.
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Hello Sir,
The couple I have quoted, neither of them works in HR. As you mentioned, maybe the reason is that I work in HR, but this could have been considered from the company's point of view much earlier, not after all the rounds of discussions I had with them.
From India, Bangalore
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The couple I have quoted, neither of them works in HR. As you mentioned, maybe the reason is that I work in HR, but this could have been considered from the company's point of view much earlier, not after all the rounds of discussions I had with them.
From India, Bangalore
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If you have worked with this company before and know any of the high-up people, reach out to them and tell them about how you are keen on joining the company and any issues the management foresees can be discussed and sorted out. Do not show an ounce of irritation; rather, be very positive and tell them about how they would not have to retrain you and how that can save the company some money. I am sure you can think of other positives you can bring into the company; stress on those and don't take no for an answer (do this with your enthusiasm rather than stubbornness). Try to reach out to all who are in decision-making roles and convert them one by one; if you can change their focus to the positives, they will drop their concerns.
Regards,
Sid
From India, Gurgaon
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Sid
From India, Gurgaon
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Hello Sid,
Last I heard that the MD, HR, and a few others in management have no issues with me rejoining, and I also have a good track record of my work there. During my earlier tenure, I closely worked with the MD on some value engineering projects, but I am not sure if I can approach him since it's a collective decision that needs to be taken by the Company Management Group. The HR is very keen on having me on board as well but only mentioned that a few people from the old school of thought (as quoted by HR) have expressed their concerns.
It's just that I had everything in place and lost out at the last minute for no fault of mine.
From India, Bangalore
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Last I heard that the MD, HR, and a few others in management have no issues with me rejoining, and I also have a good track record of my work there. During my earlier tenure, I closely worked with the MD on some value engineering projects, but I am not sure if I can approach him since it's a collective decision that needs to be taken by the Company Management Group. The HR is very keen on having me on board as well but only mentioned that a few people from the old school of thought (as quoted by HR) have expressed their concerns.
It's just that I had everything in place and lost out at the last minute for no fault of mine.
From India, Bangalore
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Hi, Divya,
I second Mr. Simhan, would like to say that there is no need to take much stress and worry about anything because you can get any good job outside and I believe you have this confidence too.
Second, you are feeling bad because of your high expectation and that you really wanted to rejoin because of your past employment with them. You are familiar with the work style and atmosphere but today’s truth is that the things have changed and you have to accept it. You have worked with them in past (With HR department) and know well about their work style and procedure /policies, but it may also possible that today company having a policy or conditions that are not allowing them to hire you again as you are a wife of a present employee which you are not aware of it.
About Management, they never show directly what they want actually because of their nature of work. Therefore, you must not expect anything from them. Our system is still not so mature, though, we have adopted western corporate culture and their work style a lot but still there are many things/reasons, which never allowed accepting these and your case is one of them.
I professional and personally feel that there is no harm in appointing a wife or any present employee even when the candidate is an ex-employee but still it is not being accepted which is a truth and need to be work with.
This would also be learning for you and im sure, this will help other by your exercise in future.
Well, lastly, I would say that you must forget this and look for a good job elsewhere and wishing you very best of luck for this too.
From India, Gurgaon
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I second Mr. Simhan, would like to say that there is no need to take much stress and worry about anything because you can get any good job outside and I believe you have this confidence too.
Second, you are feeling bad because of your high expectation and that you really wanted to rejoin because of your past employment with them. You are familiar with the work style and atmosphere but today’s truth is that the things have changed and you have to accept it. You have worked with them in past (With HR department) and know well about their work style and procedure /policies, but it may also possible that today company having a policy or conditions that are not allowing them to hire you again as you are a wife of a present employee which you are not aware of it.
About Management, they never show directly what they want actually because of their nature of work. Therefore, you must not expect anything from them. Our system is still not so mature, though, we have adopted western corporate culture and their work style a lot but still there are many things/reasons, which never allowed accepting these and your case is one of them.
I professional and personally feel that there is no harm in appointing a wife or any present employee even when the candidate is an ex-employee but still it is not being accepted which is a truth and need to be work with.
This would also be learning for you and im sure, this will help other by your exercise in future.
Well, lastly, I would say that you must forget this and look for a good job elsewhere and wishing you very best of luck for this too.
From India, Gurgaon
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Thanks for the suggestion, Mr. Anil. Well, it might be a factor of me being an HR person that did not work in my favor. The company is, in fact, very encouraging about employing people who are related to each other, be it husband and wife or any other. Just that it did not work out for me though.
From India, Bangalore
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From India, Bangalore
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Hello Mr. Anil,
Well, departments like HR/Admin/Finance are expected to maintain a certain level of confidentiality. They might have had concerns about employing me in HR while my husband works in another department.
From India, Bangalore
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Well, departments like HR/Admin/Finance are expected to maintain a certain level of confidentiality. They might have had concerns about employing me in HR while my husband works in another department.
From India, Bangalore
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Ah, that does make sense - being in HR, you would have a certain level of insider knowledge. In that case, there is nothing you can really do - let it go - things have a way of working out for the better.
In any case, don't burn your bridges - write to the MD/HR and tell him you understand the issue - a time may come when your husband has moved to another job, and you can then join this company.
Regards,
Sid
From India, Gurgaon
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In any case, don't burn your bridges - write to the MD/HR and tell him you understand the issue - a time may come when your husband has moved to another job, and you can then join this company.
Regards,
Sid
From India, Gurgaon
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