Dear all,
I have just joined a small firm as an HR Executive where there are 20 to 25 employees working. I am directly reporting to the Director. Most of the employees have been working here for the past 6-7 years and hence play an important role in the company. One of them is a poet; I must say he is talented and hardworking but very rude by nature. He doesn't have any manners when speaking to others, especially new joiners, maybe because he feels that he is a senior employee. Sadly, his attitude towards me is the same, which, for obvious reasons, I don't like. When the boss is not around, he plays music so loudly, mostly ghazals and folk songs. I don't know about others, but it really disturbs me. Now, I feel that being just 2 months old in this role, if I complain about him, I don't know how people will perceive this.
I really need your advice on this.
Thanks.
From India, Surat
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1I have just joined a small firm as an HR Executive where there are 20 to 25 employees working. I am directly reporting to the Director. Most of the employees have been working here for the past 6-7 years and hence play an important role in the company. One of them is a poet; I must say he is talented and hardworking but very rude by nature. He doesn't have any manners when speaking to others, especially new joiners, maybe because he feels that he is a senior employee. Sadly, his attitude towards me is the same, which, for obvious reasons, I don't like. When the boss is not around, he plays music so loudly, mostly ghazals and folk songs. I don't know about others, but it really disturbs me. Now, I feel that being just 2 months old in this role, if I complain about him, I don't know how people will perceive this.
I really need your advice on this.
Thanks.
From India, Surat
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Hi Geetika,
Please speak to your colleagues to see if they are also facing the same problem. If they are, then kindly inform management about it. As you work in HR, it is important to keep management informed about what is happening in the office premises.
Thank you.
From India, Bangalore
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Please speak to your colleagues to see if they are also facing the same problem. If they are, then kindly inform management about it. As you work in HR, it is important to keep management informed about what is happening in the office premises.
Thank you.
From India, Bangalore
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Why dont you also play music at loud....so he would get disturbed and when he complaints...just say "Gotcha Bingo"
From India, Pune
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From India, Pune
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Rude behavior needs to be reported to the managers. Also, if you are getting disturbed by behavior that does not meet the office decorum, it needs to be taken up with the management.
To give an example, my mom faced a liar situation when she joined her last company (about 25 years ago). The person in the office used to think of himself as indispensable and was rude, arrogant, and, in general, refused to follow instructions. My mom told him clearly that she expected him to behave in a proper manner and do the work as instructed. When that didn't work, she reported it to the sales manager in charge of the office. After one warning from the manager, the guy changed his behavior immediately and from that point ensured he treated my mom with respect.
However, you need to make a decision on this, keeping in mind your circumstances, the attitude of the manager, and the hierarchy. Whether others will back you up is another matter to consider.
From India, Mumbai
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To give an example, my mom faced a liar situation when she joined her last company (about 25 years ago). The person in the office used to think of himself as indispensable and was rude, arrogant, and, in general, refused to follow instructions. My mom told him clearly that she expected him to behave in a proper manner and do the work as instructed. When that didn't work, she reported it to the sales manager in charge of the office. After one warning from the manager, the guy changed his behavior immediately and from that point ensured he treated my mom with respect.
However, you need to make a decision on this, keeping in mind your circumstances, the attitude of the manager, and the hierarchy. Whether others will back you up is another matter to consider.
From India, Mumbai
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Dear Ms. Banerjee,
Exactly my point. I don't know whether others will support me on this or not for one reason - I'm new to this company, and others, including the team lead, have been working here for the past 7 years. In fact, when he listens to the songs, nobody utters a word.
Still, at least now, I am confident that my approach towards this is correct. I will wait for the next few days and will directly approach my senior on this.
Thank you all for your support and kind advice. I really appreciate it. For executives like us, sometimes, since we are new to the organization, we are scared to make a robust decision. But when we speak to others, at least we come to know whether we are making the right decision or not.
Thanks once again,
Geetika
From India, Surat
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Exactly my point. I don't know whether others will support me on this or not for one reason - I'm new to this company, and others, including the team lead, have been working here for the past 7 years. In fact, when he listens to the songs, nobody utters a word.
Still, at least now, I am confident that my approach towards this is correct. I will wait for the next few days and will directly approach my senior on this.
Thank you all for your support and kind advice. I really appreciate it. For executives like us, sometimes, since we are new to the organization, we are scared to make a robust decision. But when we speak to others, at least we come to know whether we are making the right decision or not.
Thanks once again,
Geetika
From India, Surat
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Dear Geetika,
As you are saying that you are new to the company, first of all, try to observe the mentality of the people who have been working there for the last five years, and you will notice the difference. When your experience grows, you will encounter many such issues during your journey. Every person will have some flaws in their routine; just identify that significant flaw, also known as a loophole, and apply pressure on that person so that they understand why they are being pointed out. People will rely on their talent if they have enough worth, but individuals like these will rely on the experience they have since they are not valuable enough. You may not receive a proper result by directly complaining about him. Moreover, if he discovers that you filed a complaint against him, he may escalate his rude behavior towards you, making you a target. This could lead to further distress for you. Therefore, handle the situation tactically and intelligently; for instance, approach one of the senior employees who is very close to the boss to address his behavior. Ensure that your involvement does not get exposed.
Regards,
Rajesh
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Ahmedabad
From India, Hyderabad
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As you are saying that you are new to the company, first of all, try to observe the mentality of the people who have been working there for the last five years, and you will notice the difference. When your experience grows, you will encounter many such issues during your journey. Every person will have some flaws in their routine; just identify that significant flaw, also known as a loophole, and apply pressure on that person so that they understand why they are being pointed out. People will rely on their talent if they have enough worth, but individuals like these will rely on the experience they have since they are not valuable enough. You may not receive a proper result by directly complaining about him. Moreover, if he discovers that you filed a complaint against him, he may escalate his rude behavior towards you, making you a target. This could lead to further distress for you. Therefore, handle the situation tactically and intelligently; for instance, approach one of the senior employees who is very close to the boss to address his behavior. Ensure that your involvement does not get exposed.
Regards,
Rajesh
09662064352
Ahmedabad
From India, Hyderabad
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No matter whether you are a new employee or not, if you are feeling very disturbed, there is no point in waiting. My advice is that you report verbally to the concerned person. In some organizations, the peons play a key role with the support and goodwill of employers, as they receive feedback about an employee through peons. Moreover, there might be employees among the group who are disturbed, but they can't respond since no support is given by others. When you get a chance to share things with them, you will get an idea about their views.
From Saudi+Arabia, Dammam
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Dear Geetika & others,
As you are an HR professional, your first duty is to bring him in line with the organization. Since you say he is a good worker, it is all the more necessary that he behaves himself. Therefore, you need to confront him and tell him to stop. The more you tolerate this sort of nonsense, the more such irritants would follow. There are some characters in every organization who try to test the endurance limit of newcomers. However, you need to tackle it tactfully but firmly. Prepare well for such an eventuality, call him to your office, and tell him directly that this behavior is not acceptable. Every office needs to maintain certain decorum and decency. If all your persuasive efforts fail, then escalate the issue to the higher boss.
All the best.
KK
From India, Bhopal
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As you are an HR professional, your first duty is to bring him in line with the organization. Since you say he is a good worker, it is all the more necessary that he behaves himself. Therefore, you need to confront him and tell him to stop. The more you tolerate this sort of nonsense, the more such irritants would follow. There are some characters in every organization who try to test the endurance limit of newcomers. However, you need to tackle it tactfully but firmly. Prepare well for such an eventuality, call him to your office, and tell him directly that this behavior is not acceptable. Every office needs to maintain certain decorum and decency. If all your persuasive efforts fail, then escalate the issue to the higher boss.
All the best.
KK
From India, Bhopal
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Hi Geetika,
I feel that it is HR's duty to set these kinds of people right. Take it as a learning opportunity and tell him that he cannot speak to you like this. Make him understand that you have your own value in the company. If his rude behavior continues, speak to the person to whom he is reporting and then to your boss if necessary. You should handle this case on your own rather than involving many people. All the very best to you :)
Regards,
From India, Faridabad
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I feel that it is HR's duty to set these kinds of people right. Take it as a learning opportunity and tell him that he cannot speak to you like this. Make him understand that you have your own value in the company. If his rude behavior continues, speak to the person to whom he is reporting and then to your boss if necessary. You should handle this case on your own rather than involving many people. All the very best to you :)
Regards,
From India, Faridabad
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Dear Geetika,
These are situations that are not taught in any HR curriculum. However, these situations are very real.
There is no unique way or a single prescription to deal with such cases. Such situations get solved if one "leads" by example.
What kind of personality do you project? If you are perceived as a "no-nonsense," punctual, disciplined, and dedicated HR professional, then whatever you say shall carry weight.
You just have to tell him firmly but politely that his music distracts you from your official duties and he should use 'headphones' instead of disturbing others.
About his rude behavior; it is difficult to say anything unless you quote the verbal exchange verbatim.
Suffice it to say that it can be a perceptual error on your part. Also, consider the fact that he is a peon, and his way of talking is a reflection of his socio-economic background. It is futile to expect polished behavior comparable to that of an executive.
Try to deal with this issue with compassion and empathy, and I am confident of your success.
Do feel free to give your feedback on the developments.
Warm regards.
From India, Delhi
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These are situations that are not taught in any HR curriculum. However, these situations are very real.
There is no unique way or a single prescription to deal with such cases. Such situations get solved if one "leads" by example.
What kind of personality do you project? If you are perceived as a "no-nonsense," punctual, disciplined, and dedicated HR professional, then whatever you say shall carry weight.
You just have to tell him firmly but politely that his music distracts you from your official duties and he should use 'headphones' instead of disturbing others.
About his rude behavior; it is difficult to say anything unless you quote the verbal exchange verbatim.
Suffice it to say that it can be a perceptual error on your part. Also, consider the fact that he is a peon, and his way of talking is a reflection of his socio-economic background. It is futile to expect polished behavior comparable to that of an executive.
Try to deal with this issue with compassion and empathy, and I am confident of your success.
Do feel free to give your feedback on the developments.
Warm regards.
From India, Delhi
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