Fear is an evil emotion which keeps us away from projecting our self. To overcome fear we need to understand what causes fear. Fear takes birth the very moment we think about results. We think about the outcome of our performance and often we take the outcome to be negative and this thought process keeps us back from performing. Now to overcome fear just set your goals to be performance oriented rather than result oriented.If somebody criticizes us for something just try to understand that we have a new thing to learn .Fear can be overcomed only by facing it.Do not ever run away from facing fear if u do it once then fear will conquer you and will rule you. Just take a single step then you are ready. Fear prevents you from taking this single step.Tell yourself that you will do it no matter what the the result will be.
From India, Kollam
From India, Kollam
Hi Ajmal,
You have shared some interesting inputs on overcoming fear. I particularly liked your suggestion that we need to be more performance oriented rather than purely result oriented in order to overcome our inhibitions and fears.
There are number of reasons why people are afraid. Similarly the degree of fear and the root cause of fear could vary from situation to situation. I am taking the liberty of enumerating a few more points to supplement your input.
- Lack of self belief. This can be primarily due to some nasty experience with a previous employer or the result of some harsh criticism that your friend has faced. What she needs to understand is that if she is selected it means that she is first among equals which in itself is a clear appreciation of her abilities, qualifications and capabilities.
- Tendency to have negative thoughts. Over a period this tendency can magnify itself to such an extent that one will see demons in every situation that one visualizes. The person needs to then focus on the numerous success that she has achieved, ensure she is around people who are positive by nature and cheerfully motivate and encourage. She can also mentally work out how she plans to go about making a success of her job.
- Having unrealistic and difficult to achieve standards of excellence. Some people tend to keep targets far in excess of their abilities. Every setback or failure is then seen as a disaster. She will then need to be more pragmatic, realistic and down to earth if she has to find a balance between her true abilities and her performance benchmarks.
- Comparisons with superlative successful peers. Nothing is worse than making comparisons with peers who could have done well in their chosen filed. The problem here is we do not see the risks they take, the lucky breaks they get, the price they pay for success and so we believe that we too must attain the same even if we are not able to pay the same price they pay for success.
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Regards
From India, Mumbai
490You have shared some interesting inputs on overcoming fear. I particularly liked your suggestion that we need to be more performance oriented rather than purely result oriented in order to overcome our inhibitions and fears.
There are number of reasons why people are afraid. Similarly the degree of fear and the root cause of fear could vary from situation to situation. I am taking the liberty of enumerating a few more points to supplement your input.
- Lack of self belief. This can be primarily due to some nasty experience with a previous employer or the result of some harsh criticism that your friend has faced. What she needs to understand is that if she is selected it means that she is first among equals which in itself is a clear appreciation of her abilities, qualifications and capabilities.
- Tendency to have negative thoughts. Over a period this tendency can magnify itself to such an extent that one will see demons in every situation that one visualizes. The person needs to then focus on the numerous success that she has achieved, ensure she is around people who are positive by nature and cheerfully motivate and encourage. She can also mentally work out how she plans to go about making a success of her job.
- Having unrealistic and difficult to achieve standards of excellence. Some people tend to keep targets far in excess of their abilities. Every setback or failure is then seen as a disaster. She will then need to be more pragmatic, realistic and down to earth if she has to find a balance between her true abilities and her performance benchmarks.
- Comparisons with superlative successful peers. Nothing is worse than making comparisons with peers who could have done well in their chosen filed. The problem here is we do not see the risks they take, the lucky breaks they get, the price they pay for success and so we believe that we too must attain the same even if we are not able to pay the same price they pay for success.
Many of those reading this post would also benefit from the following Inspirational and Motivational Blogs.
www.actspot.wordpress.com - Over 96,500 views and 635 followers
www.poweract.blogspot.com - Over 29,500 views and 165 followers
Regards
From India, Mumbai
Its a good posting and everybody who will read must like it. Its true that everyone in his life should overcome from his fear then only he will perform well. Keep aside your past experience and let's enjoy the present then only we can overcome from our fear and negative thoughts of life.
From India, Mumbai
From India, Mumbai
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