In order to fight with irrational fears, I suggest you to read this story:-
One fine day, a bus driver went to the bus garage, started his bus, and drove off along the route. No problems for the first few stops - a few people got on, a few got off, and things went generally well.
At the next stop, however, a big hulk of a Pathan got on. Six feet four, built like a wrestler, arms hanging down to the ground. He glared at the conductor and said, "Pathan doesn't pay!" and sat down at the back.
Conductor didn't argue with Pathan, but he wasn't happy about it. The next day the same thing happened – Pathan got on again, made a show of refusing to pay, and sat down. And the next day, and the next..
This brought in feelings of insult, lack and shame in the conductor's heart. The conductor finally decides to go on a vacation. He works hard to building a strong physique, taske self defense classes and finally, comes back to take the role of conductor 3 months later.
He now has the courage to ask the question he should have asked the Pathan 3 months ago; why he wouldn't buy a ticket. He asked Pathan, “ticket!”. Pathan said, "Pathan doesn't pay!" So he again asked in loud voice, “ticket!’ and the driver stood up and glared back at the Pathan and screamed, " And why not?" Then the Pathan replied with a surprise look on his face, "Pathan has a bus pass.”
The moral of the story- Sometimes the problems are not as big as we make them. We overestimate our problems and underestimate our self. Like in this story, the bus conductor overestimate the problem and he made that problem so big that it never existed.
Once Mark Twain said, “I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”
From India, Ludhiana
50One fine day, a bus driver went to the bus garage, started his bus, and drove off along the route. No problems for the first few stops - a few people got on, a few got off, and things went generally well.
At the next stop, however, a big hulk of a Pathan got on. Six feet four, built like a wrestler, arms hanging down to the ground. He glared at the conductor and said, "Pathan doesn't pay!" and sat down at the back.
Conductor didn't argue with Pathan, but he wasn't happy about it. The next day the same thing happened – Pathan got on again, made a show of refusing to pay, and sat down. And the next day, and the next..
This brought in feelings of insult, lack and shame in the conductor's heart. The conductor finally decides to go on a vacation. He works hard to building a strong physique, taske self defense classes and finally, comes back to take the role of conductor 3 months later.
He now has the courage to ask the question he should have asked the Pathan 3 months ago; why he wouldn't buy a ticket. He asked Pathan, “ticket!”. Pathan said, "Pathan doesn't pay!" So he again asked in loud voice, “ticket!’ and the driver stood up and glared back at the Pathan and screamed, " And why not?" Then the Pathan replied with a surprise look on his face, "Pathan has a bus pass.”
The moral of the story- Sometimes the problems are not as big as we make them. We overestimate our problems and underestimate our self. Like in this story, the bus conductor overestimate the problem and he made that problem so big that it never existed.
Once Mark Twain said, “I've had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”
From India, Ludhiana
Not lack of wisdom, intelligence or ability makes one timid or coward. But it is the lack of confidence which is the root of fear. Yet fear should be distinguished from cautiousness which brings in the intelligence to respond rather than to react. Existence is always responsive to the brave and the braveness culminates in adaptability. This ability to adapt gives one the equanimity to handle any problem without fear.
From India, Salem
From India, Salem
Practical way to fight Irrational Fears:
1. Do a faux-soul-search - It helps you base your inner self firmly
2. Get Practical - It helps you to be really 'be' in the World
3. Don't be too much obsessed with future and finances
4. Ignore desire for more(Avarice) - be satisfied with the minimum that is required to keep you happy and motivated
5. In case of an adversity - face it. It will make you mentally stronger
6. Always trust yourselves and family only - no other relation/ bonding in this World is actually 'real'
From India, Delhi
1. Do a faux-soul-search - It helps you base your inner self firmly
2. Get Practical - It helps you to be really 'be' in the World
3. Don't be too much obsessed with future and finances
4. Ignore desire for more(Avarice) - be satisfied with the minimum that is required to keep you happy and motivated
5. In case of an adversity - face it. It will make you mentally stronger
6. Always trust yourselves and family only - no other relation/ bonding in this World is actually 'real'
From India, Delhi
Dear Mr Jayant, Your Concise Moral of the Story,precisely put is Most Impreseive & Stoked the Conscience. Kudos. Harsh K Sharan, Kritarth Consulting 9.7.2020
From India, Delhi
From India, Delhi
Everything is within us! The only thing is that we need to realise and discover it! Secondly, over the period of time, it is seen that it’s quite easier to precept or preach rather to execute it on self! When things come on us, we react differently and start faltering and subsequently succumb to pressure! It has rightly been said that only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches!
Further, certain things we learn with the age! It’s a human nature that we do not learn from others, unless we experience it ourselves. Moreover, it’s our perception that we build about the problems. Otherwise, no problem is so big that cannot be resolved. But the problem gets bigger on viewing it from a different angle and perception.
When we find no solution or reach to a dead end, it’s better to stop it then & there and start re-evaluating it after a cooling off period and certainly there is going to be some solution or the other. If not, then better we should leave it till the time storm gets passed off, otherwise God Himself will answer it!
Last, but not the least as said in the beginning everything is in the brain, we can make a problem as big as we want or reduce it to tiny one!
JSM
From India, New Delhi
Further, certain things we learn with the age! It’s a human nature that we do not learn from others, unless we experience it ourselves. Moreover, it’s our perception that we build about the problems. Otherwise, no problem is so big that cannot be resolved. But the problem gets bigger on viewing it from a different angle and perception.
When we find no solution or reach to a dead end, it’s better to stop it then & there and start re-evaluating it after a cooling off period and certainly there is going to be some solution or the other. If not, then better we should leave it till the time storm gets passed off, otherwise God Himself will answer it!
Last, but not the least as said in the beginning everything is in the brain, we can make a problem as big as we want or reduce it to tiny one!
JSM
From India, New Delhi
Dear Sir, Good Afternoon, Thanks a lot , share more stories. Thanking you, With Regards, Dharma Gowri Channaveerappa Bangalore.
From India, Bangalore
From India, Bangalore
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