Survival of a North Indian person in South India brings out lots of problems. In regard to this, the religious differences cause harassment and mental torture. Is it serious? If yes, up to what extent? What should one do?
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Dear aahnapahwa, You have to be little more clear on to the situation to expect an appropriate comment.
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Hi,
There has always been a dispute with South Indian employers regarding this biased behavior. They always prefer to hire South Indian candidates and always favor them in any grievance over any North Indian candidate. It has been noticed even in big MNCs and colleges today.
Even in my current organization, there are a few South Indians who always complain about us North Indians... even my South Indian housemaid has this problem... :lol: ... it's like an India-Pakistan fight.
So dear aahnapahwa, just be hardworking and reasonable in your approach. If you think you deserve something in your organization and are not getting it, just go to the management and talk about it. I hope your HR and upper management are mature enough in their approach. Just ask them to be professional and educated in their approach.
Take care,
Shivani
From India, Delhi
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There has always been a dispute with South Indian employers regarding this biased behavior. They always prefer to hire South Indian candidates and always favor them in any grievance over any North Indian candidate. It has been noticed even in big MNCs and colleges today.
Even in my current organization, there are a few South Indians who always complain about us North Indians... even my South Indian housemaid has this problem... :lol: ... it's like an India-Pakistan fight.
So dear aahnapahwa, just be hardworking and reasonable in your approach. If you think you deserve something in your organization and are not getting it, just go to the management and talk about it. I hope your HR and upper management are mature enough in their approach. Just ask them to be professional and educated in their approach.
Take care,
Shivani
From India, Delhi
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Dear Aahna,
It is true that North Indians face these problems in the South. I am also working in the South, and I too face the same problem as I don't understand their language. However, I started being friendly with them and began praising them for the work they have done. Gradually, I overcame the problem.
It is true that these people prefer South Indians over North ones. But there is always a middle way. We North Indians get frustrated due to their behavior, but we try to be cool, professional, and sometimes friendly as well. I have observed that if you praise their culture, they become very happy. It's important to appreciate things and try to understand them. It may be difficult at first, but it is not impossible.
Regards,
Swapnaja
From India, Aurangabad
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It is true that North Indians face these problems in the South. I am also working in the South, and I too face the same problem as I don't understand their language. However, I started being friendly with them and began praising them for the work they have done. Gradually, I overcame the problem.
It is true that these people prefer South Indians over North ones. But there is always a middle way. We North Indians get frustrated due to their behavior, but we try to be cool, professional, and sometimes friendly as well. I have observed that if you praise their culture, they become very happy. It's important to appreciate things and try to understand them. It may be difficult at first, but it is not impossible.
Regards,
Swapnaja
From India, Aurangabad
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Dear All,
It depends on the individual and the circumstances they undergo. There will be psychological thoughts; that's what I hope. So, it depends on the situation how you manage people. Whether it is north or south, you have to tackle people; just do not bother whether they are south or north. Even South Indians get angry or very cool in situations, and North Indians do too. Try to understand one thing: don't show partiality between north or south. Languages may be different, gods may be different, but we are all INDIANS. This is a public forum; some have posted as South India and North India look like India Vs. Pakistan, is it so? Who told us we are all brothers and sisters and INDIANS. Jaihind!
Regards,
Ramkishore
From India, Bangalore
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It depends on the individual and the circumstances they undergo. There will be psychological thoughts; that's what I hope. So, it depends on the situation how you manage people. Whether it is north or south, you have to tackle people; just do not bother whether they are south or north. Even South Indians get angry or very cool in situations, and North Indians do too. Try to understand one thing: don't show partiality between north or south. Languages may be different, gods may be different, but we are all INDIANS. This is a public forum; some have posted as South India and North India look like India Vs. Pakistan, is it so? Who told us we are all brothers and sisters and INDIANS. Jaihind!
Regards,
Ramkishore
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Hey, why don't you be practical and down to earth... just look at the situation here. There is somebody who is being harassed in his organization and comes to a public forum for help and to know others' experiences. He is being harassed so much that he has to go public with his emotions. WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO SAY ABOUT THIS? So instead of helping him out, all are getting emotional unnecessarily. Just be practical in your approach, okay! We have all seen how one Mumbai-INDIAN is fighting with Bihar-INDIAN, South-INDIAN with North-INDIAN, etc. YOU CANNOT IGNORE THESE realities. When one person makes life miserable for another person, then you have to look at the difficult situation and be judgmental rather than getting PHILOSOPHICAL AND EMOTIONAL. This is a professional world, sir. Just look at the reality and FIND OUT A SOLUTION rather than getting philosophical.
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First of all, you need to get rid of your perception regarding all are gunning for you because you are a North Indian. Once this is taken care of, then you need to understand why your colleagues are unhappy with you and how you can help them to change their perception about 'you'.
I have not only worked in a multicultural organization in India but also abroad. Everywhere, people are slightly apprehensive about a newcomer, especially if they are from a different culture. Only time helps to accept each other. So, stop playing the culture card and creating a rift between North Indians and South Indians on a public forum.
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I have not only worked in a multicultural organization in India but also abroad. Everywhere, people are slightly apprehensive about a newcomer, especially if they are from a different culture. Only time helps to accept each other. So, stop playing the culture card and creating a rift between North Indians and South Indians on a public forum.
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Hello Friends,
In my view, the best way to overcome the problem is to have a face-to-face conversation with the individuals who are causing trouble. If they are found to be displaying clear regional bias, then they definitely require counseling from their respective HR department. However, before taking that step, I believe the person should analyze the entire scenario with a calm mind and determine whether what he or she is experiencing is actual harassment or just minor incidents being perceived in a personal manner. Viewing situations through the influenced words of others can prevent us from seeing the reality. It is better to examine the scenario in the right light and find a solution.
A kind word, a helping hand, and a friendly smile can elevate us to greater heights. If you have been implementing these three approaches and there is still no change in their behavior, then you can certainly escalate the matter to higher authorities. Otherwise, you might inadvertently cultivate more negativity towards you in their minds.
So, stay composed. A calm mind is always the key to success in any situation.
All the best.
Thanks & Regards,
Manju :)
From India, Hyderabad
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In my view, the best way to overcome the problem is to have a face-to-face conversation with the individuals who are causing trouble. If they are found to be displaying clear regional bias, then they definitely require counseling from their respective HR department. However, before taking that step, I believe the person should analyze the entire scenario with a calm mind and determine whether what he or she is experiencing is actual harassment or just minor incidents being perceived in a personal manner. Viewing situations through the influenced words of others can prevent us from seeing the reality. It is better to examine the scenario in the right light and find a solution.
A kind word, a helping hand, and a friendly smile can elevate us to greater heights. If you have been implementing these three approaches and there is still no change in their behavior, then you can certainly escalate the matter to higher authorities. Otherwise, you might inadvertently cultivate more negativity towards you in their minds.
So, stay composed. A calm mind is always the key to success in any situation.
All the best.
Thanks & Regards,
Manju :)
From India, Hyderabad
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Dear Shivani B,
With regards to the post you have posted, I replied that there is no difference between South Indian and North Indian. We speak different languages, and I mean I am not emotional at all. I feel we are in HR, and people differ from one another. Situations happen, and to overcome these barriers, if you are in HR and aiming to be successful, it is common to play a role that suits and adjust to the situation. This may lead to stress or mental torture. I posted because there should not be any partiality between our fellow Indians, especially in this public forum. For example, consider what South Indians think when they go to North India – they search for South Indians and avoid talking to the Northerners. Similarly, when you go from Tamil Nadu to Bangalore, you search for Tamils. This situation exists everywhere. To overcome it, you should mingle with others so that you will be safe in your career and plan accordingly. This is my perception. And do not divide us into South, North, East, or West. We are all INDIANS. JAIHIND!
Regards,
Ramkishore
From India, Bangalore
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With regards to the post you have posted, I replied that there is no difference between South Indian and North Indian. We speak different languages, and I mean I am not emotional at all. I feel we are in HR, and people differ from one another. Situations happen, and to overcome these barriers, if you are in HR and aiming to be successful, it is common to play a role that suits and adjust to the situation. This may lead to stress or mental torture. I posted because there should not be any partiality between our fellow Indians, especially in this public forum. For example, consider what South Indians think when they go to North India – they search for South Indians and avoid talking to the Northerners. Similarly, when you go from Tamil Nadu to Bangalore, you search for Tamils. This situation exists everywhere. To overcome it, you should mingle with others so that you will be safe in your career and plan accordingly. This is my perception. And do not divide us into South, North, East, or West. We are all INDIANS. JAIHIND!
Regards,
Ramkishore
From India, Bangalore
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Dear,
If you go out of home, your neighbor will be a problem. If you go out of the village, other villagers will be a problem. If you go out of the district, other district residents will be a problem. If you go out of the state, other state residents, their language, their food habits, their body language, their customary behavior, their lifestyle.
But in reality, in Delhi offices, you can find that 85 to 90% of employees are from South India, while only 10 to 15% are from Delhi, Haryana, Rajasthan, Punjab, even though the employers are from North India.
If you look at the Tamil and Telugu Cinema Industries, the majority of heroines are from the North. They are successful and have adopted Tamil and Telugu languages as their own, even though their mother tongue is different.
In this world, the only place that does not have any problems is the GRAVEYARD, where the departed souls rest in peace.
So in your prayers, ask God to give you problems so that you can live your life, and ask God to give you the strength to solve those problems too.
Some people have the problem of high cholesterol due to overeating, while others struggle to earn their daily bread or livelihood.
ALL INCONVENIENCES ARE ADVENTURES - RIGHTLY CONSIDERED.
BE BRAVE ENOUGH TO TACKLE ANY HARDSHIP AND OVERCOME ALL THE PROBLEMS.
BE HAPPY AND ENJOY LIFE.
With warm regards,
S. Bhaskar
9099024667
From India, Kumbakonam
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If you go out of home, your neighbor will be a problem. If you go out of the village, other villagers will be a problem. If you go out of the district, other district residents will be a problem. If you go out of the state, other state residents, their language, their food habits, their body language, their customary behavior, their lifestyle.
But in reality, in Delhi offices, you can find that 85 to 90% of employees are from South India, while only 10 to 15% are from Delhi, Haryana, Rajasthan, Punjab, even though the employers are from North India.
If you look at the Tamil and Telugu Cinema Industries, the majority of heroines are from the North. They are successful and have adopted Tamil and Telugu languages as their own, even though their mother tongue is different.
In this world, the only place that does not have any problems is the GRAVEYARD, where the departed souls rest in peace.
So in your prayers, ask God to give you problems so that you can live your life, and ask God to give you the strength to solve those problems too.
Some people have the problem of high cholesterol due to overeating, while others struggle to earn their daily bread or livelihood.
ALL INCONVENIENCES ARE ADVENTURES - RIGHTLY CONSIDERED.
BE BRAVE ENOUGH TO TACKLE ANY HARDSHIP AND OVERCOME ALL THE PROBLEMS.
BE HAPPY AND ENJOY LIFE.
With warm regards,
S. Bhaskar
9099024667
From India, Kumbakonam
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