How to deal with Lady HR Boss perfectly ? Can anyone help and give some tips ?
From India, New Delhi
16From India, New Delhi
If we assume you have been reporting to leaders at work, you must have already identified the leadership models and how to respond them.
How is this situation different from what you have seen so far? If you are looking for a specific input in dealing with a reporting manager, please do share the incident, that required you to brain storm.
Looking forward to hear from you
From India, Mumbai
How is this situation different from what you have seen so far? If you are looking for a specific input in dealing with a reporting manager, please do share the incident, that required you to brain storm.
Looking forward to hear from you
From India, Mumbai
This Lady HR Boss is well qualified from technical as well as top B-schools. Brillient in academic. When matter comes to dealing in critical situation specially with employees then HR person becomes 'bali ka bakra' and she enjoys a lot at that time. But recommends for promotion, increment etc as per norms and makes HR person happy who is not from top B -schools but from reputed institute with specialisation in HR and having base line experiences in dealing with employee, IR issues, Unions, grievances etc. One extreme moment was when HR person put his paper due to frustration but she didnt accept and asked for long association with the organisation. It is of course a very good and renowned organisation with more than 2000 workforce. HR person working with this Lady Boss for the last 7 yrs. Still waiting for sloution why he become 'bali ka bakra' everytime. Is it her tactice to stay alive in the job? or anything else?
From India, New Delhi
From India, New Delhi
Hi ABC8708,
Check out the following ............. it is an excellent article, and may help you understand how to deal with your situation.
Regards,
Harsh
From United Kingdom, Barrow
Check out the following ............. it is an excellent article, and may help you understand how to deal with your situation.
Regards,
Harsh
From United Kingdom, Barrow
Fortunately encountered to such distinction females have marvellously acquired certain position in the society as well as in many compnaies. Misfortune turns when we see such "MEAN MENTALITY" bosses. Doesn't matter of what education she has or which B-School she came from, it's always a matter of capably dealing the juniors.
These kind of lady bosses will never change and have not seen changes or heard of ever, the employees will have to decide exactly how much he/she is willing to take. Eventhough in your case, you decide to see what is the line of delineation is, the very movement - "poltergeist" in her overpowers the state and you should be prepared for wrost case scenarios.
No, You ain't not want to take any chances and standstill; the praise and pride of that lady should be controlled as again any slight hunch may risk the chances of getting FIRED or getting stepped into DIRTY & BAD OFFICE POLITICS, [She would enjoy as such].
On the contrary, the above are unembellished reasons as to why the HR is a ""STOOG"" here in this case. At an outset to your point all you need to do is work your wits safely and do not get engaged in any out of the blue business. {If you think you've got another job handy, have it played out of harm's way and prevent yourselve from any sham}.
From India, Visakhapatnam
These kind of lady bosses will never change and have not seen changes or heard of ever, the employees will have to decide exactly how much he/she is willing to take. Eventhough in your case, you decide to see what is the line of delineation is, the very movement - "poltergeist" in her overpowers the state and you should be prepared for wrost case scenarios.
No, You ain't not want to take any chances and standstill; the praise and pride of that lady should be controlled as again any slight hunch may risk the chances of getting FIRED or getting stepped into DIRTY & BAD OFFICE POLITICS, [She would enjoy as such].
On the contrary, the above are unembellished reasons as to why the HR is a ""STOOG"" here in this case. At an outset to your point all you need to do is work your wits safely and do not get engaged in any out of the blue business. {If you think you've got another job handy, have it played out of harm's way and prevent yourselve from any sham}.
From India, Visakhapatnam
Thanks Sharmila. She is very strange woman/HR person ever seen. When we talk about balance between work & life , we always give priority to family. Is she victim of this ?? She is 40+ and still single. It is also true that happy in family front makes one career successful & enjoyable . Sometimes when I talk about weekend or planning for movie, outing on sunday with family , I saw her very egotistical mind on monday in many times. Now i stopped telling about family.
From India, New Delhi
From India, New Delhi
Dear Mr ABC8708,
First to answer your question as to how to deal with a lady boss. The answer is simple the same as you deal with a gentleman boss.
We are getting only one side of the perspective. So to pass a judgement is unfair. But in a reasonable organisation senior management would see through tactics of passing the buck to juniors. In any case even if juniors are at fault in the eyes of senior management, it reflects poorly on senior anyway. And for her faults she can hardly hide juniors to protect herself. So just take it easy and do YOUR work well and you shall remain unharmed in the long run.
From India, Chandigarh
First to answer your question as to how to deal with a lady boss. The answer is simple the same as you deal with a gentleman boss.
We are getting only one side of the perspective. So to pass a judgement is unfair. But in a reasonable organisation senior management would see through tactics of passing the buck to juniors. In any case even if juniors are at fault in the eyes of senior management, it reflects poorly on senior anyway. And for her faults she can hardly hide juniors to protect herself. So just take it easy and do YOUR work well and you shall remain unharmed in the long run.
From India, Chandigarh
Dear ABC...
People have made some excellent comments. As my wont, I have read your comments and have to extract some points to clarify the situation. Please correct me if I am wrong.
You work for an organisation (not sure in which capacity) which has 2000 workers.
The HR boss is a female that is well qualified, with an MBA from a reputed institute. She is 40 years old and yet single. You think she has no family life.
It is not clear whether you are the HR person or is it someone else. From your statement "Bali ka Bakra", it appears that the HR person is a male and obliges the female boss whenever she allots him work. He has 7 years of work experience with this boss and she has promoted him even though he has qualified only from a reputable but not a top institute.
When he wanted to resign from his job in frustration, once, she dissuaded him from doing so and he withdrew the application.
You talk to that "Boss" about your family life etc, and you have found her to be "egotistical" on Mondays. So, now you have stopped talking to her about these matters. I did not understand what you meant by this statement.
Now, let me make a few general statements. A colleague of mine was an unmarried woman. But, she was a very committed family person. She looked after her aged parents. The thing you say about a single lady will equal apply to a single man. For example, where my father worked, a researcher asked "Mr. K, why do you rush home at 5 pm on the dot? Look at me I do research till 8 pm and then go home" but after a couple of years my father noticed that the researcher was dashing home at 5 or even earlier. My father asked him why? He said that he had a fiancee and she wanted to go out walking, etc. So, you are right family commitments make us do things which others may not.
Finally a question, are you the "Bali ka Bakra" in question that needs a solution?
From United Kingdom
People have made some excellent comments. As my wont, I have read your comments and have to extract some points to clarify the situation. Please correct me if I am wrong.
You work for an organisation (not sure in which capacity) which has 2000 workers.
The HR boss is a female that is well qualified, with an MBA from a reputed institute. She is 40 years old and yet single. You think she has no family life.
It is not clear whether you are the HR person or is it someone else. From your statement "Bali ka Bakra", it appears that the HR person is a male and obliges the female boss whenever she allots him work. He has 7 years of work experience with this boss and she has promoted him even though he has qualified only from a reputable but not a top institute.
When he wanted to resign from his job in frustration, once, she dissuaded him from doing so and he withdrew the application.
You talk to that "Boss" about your family life etc, and you have found her to be "egotistical" on Mondays. So, now you have stopped talking to her about these matters. I did not understand what you meant by this statement.
Now, let me make a few general statements. A colleague of mine was an unmarried woman. But, she was a very committed family person. She looked after her aged parents. The thing you say about a single lady will equal apply to a single man. For example, where my father worked, a researcher asked "Mr. K, why do you rush home at 5 pm on the dot? Look at me I do research till 8 pm and then go home" but after a couple of years my father noticed that the researcher was dashing home at 5 or even earlier. My father asked him why? He said that he had a fiancee and she wanted to go out walking, etc. So, you are right family commitments make us do things which others may not.
Finally a question, are you the "Bali ka Bakra" in question that needs a solution?
From United Kingdom
Hi friends
I can not agree with many of your comments. First ABC8708 says that the Lady Leader in question, is from a reputed B-School and with good acadamic background. Considering her background and her capability to lead a workforce of >2000 employees, one cannot agree to your part of argument. Nevertheless, the top management is not bliend & deaf enough to keep such Lady Leader to continue her leadership.
We have to keep in mind that our work is our Bread & Butter and in any organisation, small such incidence may happen, as nobody can continue without mistake and can not become GOD.
Rgds
Vijayan
I can not agree with many of your comments. First ABC8708 says that the Lady Leader in question, is from a reputed B-School and with good acadamic background. Considering her background and her capability to lead a workforce of >2000 employees, one cannot agree to your part of argument. Nevertheless, the top management is not bliend & deaf enough to keep such Lady Leader to continue her leadership.
We have to keep in mind that our work is our Bread & Butter and in any organisation, small such incidence may happen, as nobody can continue without mistake and can not become GOD.
Rgds
Vijayan
Dear ABC
I would like to tell you one thing that you are agreeing that she is well qualified that to from a reputed institution. As senior staff member she may think that it will not be good for her to interfere in day to day activities. The 2000 workforce can understand with whose permission the bali ka bakra have taken the initiation. Some times the senior management intentionally asks the subordinates to perform certain things to observe the results and to analyse the seriousness of the initiation. They wont leave you on the road if you follow their instructions and implement them. Even if you did something wrong while performing your day to day activities the top management has to face the tune of the 2000 work force.
My sincere advice to you that don't spoil your life with this type of inhibitions. Boss is Boss and they are always right. The top management always watch the activities and knows the capability of their staff. One must agree that she has stuff if she is working as the head of the department for more than seven years. It is not good to discriminate any one by gender or of any type. Try to adjust with her or submit paper because if you are angry over your boss or your boss got angry on you you only have to face the tune.
From India, Hyderabad
I would like to tell you one thing that you are agreeing that she is well qualified that to from a reputed institution. As senior staff member she may think that it will not be good for her to interfere in day to day activities. The 2000 workforce can understand with whose permission the bali ka bakra have taken the initiation. Some times the senior management intentionally asks the subordinates to perform certain things to observe the results and to analyse the seriousness of the initiation. They wont leave you on the road if you follow their instructions and implement them. Even if you did something wrong while performing your day to day activities the top management has to face the tune of the 2000 work force.
My sincere advice to you that don't spoil your life with this type of inhibitions. Boss is Boss and they are always right. The top management always watch the activities and knows the capability of their staff. One must agree that she has stuff if she is working as the head of the department for more than seven years. It is not good to discriminate any one by gender or of any type. Try to adjust with her or submit paper because if you are angry over your boss or your boss got angry on you you only have to face the tune.
From India, Hyderabad
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