Dear all,
Would like to share this inspiring story...very relevant in today's times..
Effective managers know the importance of taking a moment to point out what a worker is doing well. But what a difference a minute of affirmation can make in any relationship!
Well i speak from my own experience ..it's works..
Cheerio
Rajat
During his college years, Rogers spent a summer in an Idaho logging camp. When the superintendent had to leave for a few days, he put Rogers in charge.
"What if the men refuse to follow my orders?" Rogers asked. He thought of Tony, an immigrant worker who grumbled and growled all day, giving the other men a hard time.
"Fire them," the superintendent said. Then, as if reading Rogers' mind, he added, "I suppose you think you are going to fire Tony if you get the chance. I'd feel badly about that. I have been logging for 40 years. Tony is the most reliable worker I've ever had. I know he is a grouch and that he hates everybody and everything. But he comes in first and leaves last. There has not been an accident for eight years on the hill where he works."
Rogers took over the next day. He went to Tony and spoke to him. "Tony, do you know I'm in charge here today?" Tony grunted. "I was going to fire you the first time we tangled, but I want you to know I'm not," he told Tony, adding what the superintendent had said.
When he finished, Tony dropped the shovelful of sand he had held and tears streamed down his face. "Why he no tell me dat eight years ago?"
That day Tony worked harder than ever before -- and he smiled! He later said to Rogers, "I told Maria you first foreman in deese country who ever say, 'Good work, Tony,' and it make Maria feel like Christmas."
Rogers went back to school after that summer. Twelve years later he met Tony again. He was superintendent for railroad construction for one of the largest logging companies in the West. Rogers asked him how he came to California and happened to have such success.
Tony replied, "If it not be for the one minute you talk to me back in Idaho, I keel somebody someday. One minute, she change my whole life."
One minute. Have you got one minute to thank someone? A minute to tell someone what you sincerely like or appreciate about her? A minute to elaborate on something he did well? One minute. It can make a difference for a lifetime.
From India, Pune
101Would like to share this inspiring story...very relevant in today's times..
Effective managers know the importance of taking a moment to point out what a worker is doing well. But what a difference a minute of affirmation can make in any relationship!
Well i speak from my own experience ..it's works..
Cheerio
Rajat
During his college years, Rogers spent a summer in an Idaho logging camp. When the superintendent had to leave for a few days, he put Rogers in charge.
"What if the men refuse to follow my orders?" Rogers asked. He thought of Tony, an immigrant worker who grumbled and growled all day, giving the other men a hard time.
"Fire them," the superintendent said. Then, as if reading Rogers' mind, he added, "I suppose you think you are going to fire Tony if you get the chance. I'd feel badly about that. I have been logging for 40 years. Tony is the most reliable worker I've ever had. I know he is a grouch and that he hates everybody and everything. But he comes in first and leaves last. There has not been an accident for eight years on the hill where he works."
Rogers took over the next day. He went to Tony and spoke to him. "Tony, do you know I'm in charge here today?" Tony grunted. "I was going to fire you the first time we tangled, but I want you to know I'm not," he told Tony, adding what the superintendent had said.
When he finished, Tony dropped the shovelful of sand he had held and tears streamed down his face. "Why he no tell me dat eight years ago?"
That day Tony worked harder than ever before -- and he smiled! He later said to Rogers, "I told Maria you first foreman in deese country who ever say, 'Good work, Tony,' and it make Maria feel like Christmas."
Rogers went back to school after that summer. Twelve years later he met Tony again. He was superintendent for railroad construction for one of the largest logging companies in the West. Rogers asked him how he came to California and happened to have such success.
Tony replied, "If it not be for the one minute you talk to me back in Idaho, I keel somebody someday. One minute, she change my whole life."
One minute. Have you got one minute to thank someone? A minute to tell someone what you sincerely like or appreciate about her? A minute to elaborate on something he did well? One minute. It can make a difference for a lifetime.
From India, Pune
Hai Rajat, Excellent, excellent piece. Yes, a minute’s show of appreciation/understanding makes enormous difference in relationship, in work place, home everywhere.
From India, Madras
From India, Madras
Hi psyched,
Thanks...
The statement - One Minute - should be emphaised by HR Professionals in their respective organizations...something like every day Top Management should have the habit of praising the employees who have done a good job EVERYDAY..in other words emphasis should shift from who has done the mistake to good job done...
Cheerio
Rajat
From India, Pune
Thanks...
The statement - One Minute - should be emphaised by HR Professionals in their respective organizations...something like every day Top Management should have the habit of praising the employees who have done a good job EVERYDAY..in other words emphasis should shift from who has done the mistake to good job done...
Cheerio
Rajat
From India, Pune
Thanks Rajat.
Though not an HR person, i believe fully in this. I believe in practising in it. But this "one minute" is sometimes in short supply in many organisations.
Though not concerned with this, i thought i could put this here.
Bala
Man with an umbrella
A long time ago, there was a severe draught in certain parts of India. One village in particular was caught up right in the middle of this draught belt. The economy of this village was entirely dependent on agricultural produce. Without rains, the villagers faced a bleak future, indeed. The extreme heat of the sun had dried up the rivers and the lakes. There was hardly any water left in the wells. The people were really desperate for water.
The villagers approached the village pundit (priest) and asked him to organise a prayer-for- rain meeting in the temple. The whole village turned out at this prayer meeting. One man was among the last group of people who arrived at the temple and every body with strange quizzical looks on their faces, was looking at this one man. This man was carrying an umbrella and he was the only man who brought his umbrella to this prayer meeting. No villager was ever seen carrying an umbrella outside of the rainy seasons. To the villagers, it was as strange as seeing a housewife going everyday to the vegetable market dressed in a bride’s costume! For it seemed unconventional to carry an umbrella when there was not one rain cloud in the sky. The prayer meeting commenced and at the end of all the rituals and ceremonies, when people were about to leave the temple, they could not hold back their curiosity about the man and his umbrella. ‘Why was he carrying the umbrella?’ the people asked. Upon being questioned, the man with the umbrella replied: ‘The Lord will provide. He gives and He takes away. The Lord will surely answer our prayers for rain and I will need the umbrella for the rains’. The villagers laughed him off. Not one of the villagers could appreciate the absolute and sincere faith of the man with the umbrella. The scorching heat of the sun outside the temple was still fresh in their minds.
And then……..
Behold, a miracle took place. As the people were streaming out of the temple door and putting on their shoes, rain clouds appeared in the sky, the gentle breeze gave way to gusting winds, the pallor of the sky darkened and thunder and lightning heralded the coming of the rains. And a sudden downpour opened the eyes of the villagers. Their ridicule of the man with the umbrella changed to amazement, disbelief, and they now understood the intense faith of this man. All the villagers agreed that it was the sincere prayer of this one man with his total faith and devotion that the Lord simply had to answer.
Thanks
Bala
From India, Madras
Though not an HR person, i believe fully in this. I believe in practising in it. But this "one minute" is sometimes in short supply in many organisations.
Though not concerned with this, i thought i could put this here.
Bala
Man with an umbrella
A long time ago, there was a severe draught in certain parts of India. One village in particular was caught up right in the middle of this draught belt. The economy of this village was entirely dependent on agricultural produce. Without rains, the villagers faced a bleak future, indeed. The extreme heat of the sun had dried up the rivers and the lakes. There was hardly any water left in the wells. The people were really desperate for water.
The villagers approached the village pundit (priest) and asked him to organise a prayer-for- rain meeting in the temple. The whole village turned out at this prayer meeting. One man was among the last group of people who arrived at the temple and every body with strange quizzical looks on their faces, was looking at this one man. This man was carrying an umbrella and he was the only man who brought his umbrella to this prayer meeting. No villager was ever seen carrying an umbrella outside of the rainy seasons. To the villagers, it was as strange as seeing a housewife going everyday to the vegetable market dressed in a bride’s costume! For it seemed unconventional to carry an umbrella when there was not one rain cloud in the sky. The prayer meeting commenced and at the end of all the rituals and ceremonies, when people were about to leave the temple, they could not hold back their curiosity about the man and his umbrella. ‘Why was he carrying the umbrella?’ the people asked. Upon being questioned, the man with the umbrella replied: ‘The Lord will provide. He gives and He takes away. The Lord will surely answer our prayers for rain and I will need the umbrella for the rains’. The villagers laughed him off. Not one of the villagers could appreciate the absolute and sincere faith of the man with the umbrella. The scorching heat of the sun outside the temple was still fresh in their minds.
And then……..
Behold, a miracle took place. As the people were streaming out of the temple door and putting on their shoes, rain clouds appeared in the sky, the gentle breeze gave way to gusting winds, the pallor of the sky darkened and thunder and lightning heralded the coming of the rains. And a sudden downpour opened the eyes of the villagers. Their ridicule of the man with the umbrella changed to amazement, disbelief, and they now understood the intense faith of this man. All the villagers agreed that it was the sincere prayer of this one man with his total faith and devotion that the Lord simply had to answer.
Thanks
Bala
From India, Madras
An excellent story. The deepest need of mankind is the need to be appreciated. Every man craves to be appreciated, valued for his experience, insight and knowledge.
From India, Coimbatore
From India, Coimbatore
hello Rajat
Your posting about a minute feed my thinking for hours
Let me narrate my experience
One of the Electrician in my plant ( aged 45 and 20 yrs of experience) was exbhiting a peculiar quality of behaviour, He never refuses my order but when you ask about the feed back he was reluctant to answer, also he abuses every one of his co worker. He never listen to any of other departmental incharges requests
I was keep wondering about his attitude
I put a ranking chart for his behaviour
I realised that he is dedicated, selfless devotional to duty and good amount of logical thinking, His personal life he is enjoying with his mini family consisting of wife and a lone kid, his behaviour with socitey is too excellent, I scratched my head for months
One day one of the main machinery was down to some electrical problems
I was under pressure for the production hampering, I was reluctant to call this electrician as the system is high tech , I spend almost 09 hrs without food for tracing the fault, this electrician joined with me casually and later i found he put his soul and mind to help me , and after 16 hrs of production stoppage WE made the plant rolling, I hugged this old man and said you have donnit, You are simply great and lets celebrate
I told him that he was the best electrician I had ever seen, Next day before commencement of production I had displayed a notice of appreciation in the memo board highlighting yesterday's acheivement and I hold this electrician responsible for that, each and every employee of other sections were seen congratulating him he was found accepting all these compliments with smile, an hour later he came to me and said " Sir , I dont know weather I am really deserve for it, but this kind of appreciation was the thing I was looking for all these years of my service, and now I realise that my ability also useful for our concern's growth, thank you verymuch.
Belive me there was a sea change in his behaviour, he stop using all bad words to companions, when a new person joined in the department he took the responsibilty for teaching them and to the hieght of all these he start guiding for good organisational behviour, though there was no provision for promotion he was complled to stay in his position and he was respected by everybody as senior foreman
Your One minute story took me back to 1982,
It is said that the gems are found in the earth surface in a straight line and are measured in high amount of carats, but has no commercial value but when you assort them to fine diamonds of 24 cts it worth millions
thanks
karunadasp
From Oman, Muscat
Your posting about a minute feed my thinking for hours
Let me narrate my experience
One of the Electrician in my plant ( aged 45 and 20 yrs of experience) was exbhiting a peculiar quality of behaviour, He never refuses my order but when you ask about the feed back he was reluctant to answer, also he abuses every one of his co worker. He never listen to any of other departmental incharges requests
I was keep wondering about his attitude
I put a ranking chart for his behaviour
I realised that he is dedicated, selfless devotional to duty and good amount of logical thinking, His personal life he is enjoying with his mini family consisting of wife and a lone kid, his behaviour with socitey is too excellent, I scratched my head for months
One day one of the main machinery was down to some electrical problems
I was under pressure for the production hampering, I was reluctant to call this electrician as the system is high tech , I spend almost 09 hrs without food for tracing the fault, this electrician joined with me casually and later i found he put his soul and mind to help me , and after 16 hrs of production stoppage WE made the plant rolling, I hugged this old man and said you have donnit, You are simply great and lets celebrate
I told him that he was the best electrician I had ever seen, Next day before commencement of production I had displayed a notice of appreciation in the memo board highlighting yesterday's acheivement and I hold this electrician responsible for that, each and every employee of other sections were seen congratulating him he was found accepting all these compliments with smile, an hour later he came to me and said " Sir , I dont know weather I am really deserve for it, but this kind of appreciation was the thing I was looking for all these years of my service, and now I realise that my ability also useful for our concern's growth, thank you verymuch.
Belive me there was a sea change in his behaviour, he stop using all bad words to companions, when a new person joined in the department he took the responsibilty for teaching them and to the hieght of all these he start guiding for good organisational behviour, though there was no provision for promotion he was complled to stay in his position and he was respected by everybody as senior foreman
Your One minute story took me back to 1982,
It is said that the gems are found in the earth surface in a straight line and are measured in high amount of carats, but has no commercial value but when you assort them to fine diamonds of 24 cts it worth millions
thanks
karunadasp
From Oman, Muscat
Hi Karunadasp,
Great experience and the right words from you had really changed his world.
Do read this
Removable Rocks
A little boy was spending his Saturday morning playing in his sandbox. He had with him his box of cars and trucks, his plastic pail, and a shiny, red plastic shovel. In the process of creating roads and tunnels in the soft sand, he discovered a large rock in the middle of the sandbox.
The boy dug around the rock, managing to dislodge it from the dirt. With a little bit of struggle, he pushed and nudged the rock across the sandbox by using his feet. (He was a very small boy, and the rock was very large.) When the boy got the rock to the edge of the sandbox however, he found that he couldn't roll it up and over the little wall.
Determined, the little boy shoved, pushed, and pried, but every time he thought he had made some progress, the rock tipped and then fell back into the sandbox. The little boy grunted, struggled, pushed, & shoved; but his only reward was to have the rock roll back, smashing his chubby fingers.
Fin ally he burst into tears of frustration. All this time the boy's father watched from his living room window as the drama unfolded.
At the moment the tears fell, a large shadow fell across the boy and the sandbox. It was the boy's father.
Gently but firmly he said, "Son, why didn't you use all the strength that you had available?"
Defeated, the boy sobbed back, "But I did, Daddy, I did! I used all the strength that I had!"
"No, son," corrected the father kindly.
"You didn't use all the strength you had. You didn't ask ME!!!."
With that the father reached down, picked up the rock and removed it from the sandbox.
Do you have "rocks" in your life that need to be removed? Are you discovering that you don't have what it takes to lift them? There is Somebody, Somewhere who is always available to us and willing to give us the strength we need. Isn't it funny how we try so hard to do things ourselves.
From India, Madras
Great experience and the right words from you had really changed his world.
Do read this
Removable Rocks
A little boy was spending his Saturday morning playing in his sandbox. He had with him his box of cars and trucks, his plastic pail, and a shiny, red plastic shovel. In the process of creating roads and tunnels in the soft sand, he discovered a large rock in the middle of the sandbox.
The boy dug around the rock, managing to dislodge it from the dirt. With a little bit of struggle, he pushed and nudged the rock across the sandbox by using his feet. (He was a very small boy, and the rock was very large.) When the boy got the rock to the edge of the sandbox however, he found that he couldn't roll it up and over the little wall.
Determined, the little boy shoved, pushed, and pried, but every time he thought he had made some progress, the rock tipped and then fell back into the sandbox. The little boy grunted, struggled, pushed, & shoved; but his only reward was to have the rock roll back, smashing his chubby fingers.
Fin ally he burst into tears of frustration. All this time the boy's father watched from his living room window as the drama unfolded.
At the moment the tears fell, a large shadow fell across the boy and the sandbox. It was the boy's father.
Gently but firmly he said, "Son, why didn't you use all the strength that you had available?"
Defeated, the boy sobbed back, "But I did, Daddy, I did! I used all the strength that I had!"
"No, son," corrected the father kindly.
"You didn't use all the strength you had. You didn't ask ME!!!."
With that the father reached down, picked up the rock and removed it from the sandbox.
Do you have "rocks" in your life that need to be removed? Are you discovering that you don't have what it takes to lift them? There is Somebody, Somewhere who is always available to us and willing to give us the strength we need. Isn't it funny how we try so hard to do things ourselves.
From India, Madras
Namaskar Rajatji,
Your experiential story has inspired Bala and Karuna to tell their own experiences. I think this is an improved trend. I congratulate you for that. I hope more and more experiential narrations be there.
However, studies in gerontology show that personality scores through out life are correlated. So changes in personality are exceptional and not rules. This happens when there is threat to existence or perceived self image as in case of Dasyu Ratnakar and Chandashoka
Regards
From India, Delhi
Your experiential story has inspired Bala and Karuna to tell their own experiences. I think this is an improved trend. I congratulate you for that. I hope more and more experiential narrations be there.
However, studies in gerontology show that personality scores through out life are correlated. So changes in personality are exceptional and not rules. This happens when there is threat to existence or perceived self image as in case of Dasyu Ratnakar and Chandashoka
Regards
From India, Delhi
Dear Dr,
Quote:
However, studies in gerontology show that personality scores through out life are correlated. So changes in personality are exceptional and not rules. This happens when there is threat to existence or perceived self image as in case of Dasyu Ratnakar and Chandashoka
Unquote
Could you please explain further on Dasyu Ratnakar and Chandashoka?
Who were they and what happened? Also "gerontology"!
Thanks
Bala
From India, Madras
Quote:
However, studies in gerontology show that personality scores through out life are correlated. So changes in personality are exceptional and not rules. This happens when there is threat to existence or perceived self image as in case of Dasyu Ratnakar and Chandashoka
Unquote
Could you please explain further on Dasyu Ratnakar and Chandashoka?
Who were they and what happened? Also "gerontology"!
Thanks
Bala
From India, Madras
Thank you Bala for your query. You already know both dasyu Ratnakar and Chandashoka. Ratnakar was the original name of sage Valmiki. He was a dasyu. When due to cofrontation with Narad he realised that he is in the mistakened belief. So he sought a way out. Narada instructed to do tapasya chanting the name of Ram. He was so engrossed in tapasya that white ants(valmikas) made a hill on him. Still he was unmoved and even did not know. after attaining siddhi while he was sitting under a tree, he saw that a hunter shoot down one of a couple of cranes while they were copulating. So the following sloka came out of his mouth spontaneously.
Ma nishada pratistham twamagama saswati sama,
Yat krauncha mithunad ekamavadhi, Kama mohitam.
This became the first sloka of Ramayan.
Ashoka was the son of emperor of Magadh. He was sent to take care of Ujjain. On the way he was enchanted by the beauty of Vidisha a Buddhist girl. He married her on condition that he would not indulge in violence. But while looking after the administration of Ujjain, he got the news of illness of his father. so he rushed to Pataliputra, the capital of Magadh. But alas! his father was dead by that time. Then there was a quarrel for throne among the brothers. Ashoka killed his 100 brothers and ascended to the throne. Vidisha accused him of the breach of pre-marital cotract of non-violence and she handed over their two kids, Sanghamitra and Rahul and entered into Buddhist monestary.
subsequently he attacked Kalinga for absolutely no ground. But after the war the war killings disturbed him very much. one, day while he was moving restlessly on his portico, he say a Buddhist boy going on the road. virtually the boy was his nephew. Ashoka called him and asked_
"You must be hating me?"
The boy asked"why?"
Ashoka replied"Is that enough to hate?"
This answer turned Chandashoka into Dharmashoka instantly.
similar is the case of Angulimala who virtualy changed twice-good to bad and bad to good.
Grontology is the science of the study of ageing.
regards
From India, Delhi
Ma nishada pratistham twamagama saswati sama,
Yat krauncha mithunad ekamavadhi, Kama mohitam.
This became the first sloka of Ramayan.
Ashoka was the son of emperor of Magadh. He was sent to take care of Ujjain. On the way he was enchanted by the beauty of Vidisha a Buddhist girl. He married her on condition that he would not indulge in violence. But while looking after the administration of Ujjain, he got the news of illness of his father. so he rushed to Pataliputra, the capital of Magadh. But alas! his father was dead by that time. Then there was a quarrel for throne among the brothers. Ashoka killed his 100 brothers and ascended to the throne. Vidisha accused him of the breach of pre-marital cotract of non-violence and she handed over their two kids, Sanghamitra and Rahul and entered into Buddhist monestary.
subsequently he attacked Kalinga for absolutely no ground. But after the war the war killings disturbed him very much. one, day while he was moving restlessly on his portico, he say a Buddhist boy going on the road. virtually the boy was his nephew. Ashoka called him and asked_
"You must be hating me?"
The boy asked"why?"
Ashoka replied"Is that enough to hate?"
This answer turned Chandashoka into Dharmashoka instantly.
similar is the case of Angulimala who virtualy changed twice-good to bad and bad to good.
Grontology is the science of the study of ageing.
regards
From India, Delhi
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