Office Romance
My words :
Dear Members,
I have seen few posts in this Forum which, Young men and Women posted.
'Asking Questions' and 'Replying posts' related to the subject " Office Romance ", " Dating in the Office ", " Sexual Harrasment at the work Place " and so on.
I bring to you few lines that I came across in the the 'NET' which I thought would be useful to you in finding answers to your Questions / Queries or Doubts.
I shall be glad ... if Gentlemen and Women take few minutes to go through the script and also comment on it. :P
Thank you,
Best regards,
V. VENU :P
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Office Romance
- By Curt Smith
Relationship Correspondent
Young professionals often spend more time at the office than at home. Consequently, there are a lot of single men and women who don't have the time to meet new people. Naturally, they seek their potential partners within their surrounding environment -- the office.
Single people feel that work is a natural place to meet new people. After all, you spend at least 40 hours a week there, with individuals of similar backgrounds and interests. Relationships with co-workers can be especially tempting because hard work doesn't leave much time for socializing.
. office romance - the good
There are many issues -- both positive and negative -- to consider before engaging in office romances. One of the positive aspects is time efficiency, since you no longer need to search for a significant other in the evening. Why look around for potential dates when you have an office full of beautiful women? You save both time and money.
A second advantage to dating someone in the workplace is that since you spend so many hours together at work, you already have an idea of what she's like. This can save you from lots of headaches down the road.
A final advantage, besides the sex, is that you can carpool. Not only do you get to spend the night together, you also save on gas. Wow, what are the chances that you could date women that would save you gas money?
. office romance - the bad
Office romances also have their drawbacks. For example, no matter how well the relationship is going, the situation itself is a recipe for disaster. The fact that couples are in constant contact with one another day and night may cause friction within the relationship. Everyone needs "alone time" to pursue hobbies or hang out with friends, and the lack thereof may cause relationships to self-destruct.
Office romances may interfere with individuals' abilities to perform their professional duties. Imagine telling your girlfriend that she's fired? There is obvious potential for conflicts of interest between office situations and relationships. Be sure to avoid accusations of favoritism, which may harm the morale of colleagues.
Jealousy is another negative issue. Because you must usually keep office relationships a secret, other employees may flirt with your partner or vice-versa. You have to keep in mind, that this type of flirting is common and happens all the time in the workplace. So keep cool or the cat's out of the bag.
. office romance - the ugly
Before beginning a relationship consider its potential outcomes. If things don't work out, will things become awkward? Prepare yourself for the unwanted situations that might follow. In order to be prepared, evaluate who's date-worthy, their position and the consequences of a breakup:
Dating colleagues: Rivalry and competition may harm the relationship. Uncomfortable situations may arise after the breakup when career advancement issues come into play.
Dating Subordinates: False accusations of favoritism may arise, as well as accusations of sexual harassment after the breakup.
Dating Bosses: False accusations of favoritism may arise. You may get FIRED after the breakup.
. guidelines for success
Always remember; while inter-office dating is not necessarily illegal, many companies have policies against it. The tricky part regarding such policies is what defines dating. Most companies encourage friendships, so where's the line between friendship and dating? If you start dating someone in the office, whom can you tell? Should you try to keep it a secret? What if someone finds out? Would it have been better if you had been honest with your coworkers from the getgo?
Here are a few preventative guidelines to help develop a successful office romance without falling into any pitfalls or lawsuits.
* Adhere to the "one year" rule by only gradually letting a workplace or business acquaintance become a friend. Even then, try to keep it a casual, non-intimate friendship.
* Be careful if you are new at a job or in an extraordinary situation (like a trade show or a conference) and someone seems over-friendly, prying into the intimate details of your personal life.
* Test your business friend with "low risk" trust tests, to see how reliable they are.
* Is something you shared repeated to others? Are you discovering references from private conversations being mentioned in staff meetings? Does the new friendship seem equal and reciprocal or one-sided?
You can be friendly in the workplace without jeopardizing your career; you don't have to reveal your family secrets to make friends.
. things you should never say
There are too many big mouths in business today. Here are four items you should rarely, if ever, share with any colleagues:
1. Bad mouthing or gossip about anyone, especially business associates, clients or customers.
2. Anything you would not want repeated on the evening news or read about in a newspaper.
3. The sexual prowess of your romantic partner as well as any former sexual liaisons.
4. Business topics that are unethical or indiscreet.
Email communications present a new challenge to discretion in business relationships. There is something about email that makes men and women let down their guards, so before hitting the send button on your computer, re-read your message and make sure that it is appropriate for a business environment.
Office romances can be fun, and successful -- a growing number of newlyweds are coworkers. They should take the proper steps, however, to ensure that the relationship will last without interfering in the workplace. Finally, they should also consider the consequences of breaking up with a colleague before beginning the relationship.
:P :P * * * V. VENU * * * :P :P
From India, Hyderabad
1My words :
Dear Members,
I have seen few posts in this Forum which, Young men and Women posted.
'Asking Questions' and 'Replying posts' related to the subject " Office Romance ", " Dating in the Office ", " Sexual Harrasment at the work Place " and so on.
I bring to you few lines that I came across in the the 'NET' which I thought would be useful to you in finding answers to your Questions / Queries or Doubts.
I shall be glad ... if Gentlemen and Women take few minutes to go through the script and also comment on it. :P
Thank you,
Best regards,
V. VENU :P
......................................
Office Romance
- By Curt Smith
Relationship Correspondent
Young professionals often spend more time at the office than at home. Consequently, there are a lot of single men and women who don't have the time to meet new people. Naturally, they seek their potential partners within their surrounding environment -- the office.
Single people feel that work is a natural place to meet new people. After all, you spend at least 40 hours a week there, with individuals of similar backgrounds and interests. Relationships with co-workers can be especially tempting because hard work doesn't leave much time for socializing.
. office romance - the good
There are many issues -- both positive and negative -- to consider before engaging in office romances. One of the positive aspects is time efficiency, since you no longer need to search for a significant other in the evening. Why look around for potential dates when you have an office full of beautiful women? You save both time and money.
A second advantage to dating someone in the workplace is that since you spend so many hours together at work, you already have an idea of what she's like. This can save you from lots of headaches down the road.
A final advantage, besides the sex, is that you can carpool. Not only do you get to spend the night together, you also save on gas. Wow, what are the chances that you could date women that would save you gas money?
. office romance - the bad
Office romances also have their drawbacks. For example, no matter how well the relationship is going, the situation itself is a recipe for disaster. The fact that couples are in constant contact with one another day and night may cause friction within the relationship. Everyone needs "alone time" to pursue hobbies or hang out with friends, and the lack thereof may cause relationships to self-destruct.
Office romances may interfere with individuals' abilities to perform their professional duties. Imagine telling your girlfriend that she's fired? There is obvious potential for conflicts of interest between office situations and relationships. Be sure to avoid accusations of favoritism, which may harm the morale of colleagues.
Jealousy is another negative issue. Because you must usually keep office relationships a secret, other employees may flirt with your partner or vice-versa. You have to keep in mind, that this type of flirting is common and happens all the time in the workplace. So keep cool or the cat's out of the bag.
. office romance - the ugly
Before beginning a relationship consider its potential outcomes. If things don't work out, will things become awkward? Prepare yourself for the unwanted situations that might follow. In order to be prepared, evaluate who's date-worthy, their position and the consequences of a breakup:
Dating colleagues: Rivalry and competition may harm the relationship. Uncomfortable situations may arise after the breakup when career advancement issues come into play.
Dating Subordinates: False accusations of favoritism may arise, as well as accusations of sexual harassment after the breakup.
Dating Bosses: False accusations of favoritism may arise. You may get FIRED after the breakup.
. guidelines for success
Always remember; while inter-office dating is not necessarily illegal, many companies have policies against it. The tricky part regarding such policies is what defines dating. Most companies encourage friendships, so where's the line between friendship and dating? If you start dating someone in the office, whom can you tell? Should you try to keep it a secret? What if someone finds out? Would it have been better if you had been honest with your coworkers from the getgo?
Here are a few preventative guidelines to help develop a successful office romance without falling into any pitfalls or lawsuits.
* Adhere to the "one year" rule by only gradually letting a workplace or business acquaintance become a friend. Even then, try to keep it a casual, non-intimate friendship.
* Be careful if you are new at a job or in an extraordinary situation (like a trade show or a conference) and someone seems over-friendly, prying into the intimate details of your personal life.
* Test your business friend with "low risk" trust tests, to see how reliable they are.
* Is something you shared repeated to others? Are you discovering references from private conversations being mentioned in staff meetings? Does the new friendship seem equal and reciprocal or one-sided?
You can be friendly in the workplace without jeopardizing your career; you don't have to reveal your family secrets to make friends.
. things you should never say
There are too many big mouths in business today. Here are four items you should rarely, if ever, share with any colleagues:
1. Bad mouthing or gossip about anyone, especially business associates, clients or customers.
2. Anything you would not want repeated on the evening news or read about in a newspaper.
3. The sexual prowess of your romantic partner as well as any former sexual liaisons.
4. Business topics that are unethical or indiscreet.
Email communications present a new challenge to discretion in business relationships. There is something about email that makes men and women let down their guards, so before hitting the send button on your computer, re-read your message and make sure that it is appropriate for a business environment.
Office romances can be fun, and successful -- a growing number of newlyweds are coworkers. They should take the proper steps, however, to ensure that the relationship will last without interfering in the workplace. Finally, they should also consider the consequences of breaking up with a colleague before beginning the relationship.
:P :P * * * V. VENU * * * :P :P
From India, Hyderabad
Thanks Dear Member .... for Giving away 4 points to my post. :P :P :P
It's understood though, that you did not want to disclose your identity. :P
However, I am glad that my post was liked by you and hope that it helps others too ...and no wonder, it has been viewd by over 25 members.
:D :D
Thanks and regards,
VENU .. :P
From India, Hyderabad
It's understood though, that you did not want to disclose your identity. :P
However, I am glad that my post was liked by you and hope that it helps others too ...and no wonder, it has been viewd by over 25 members.
:D :D
Thanks and regards,
VENU .. :P
From India, Hyderabad
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