Dear Reader's ,
How are you alll ?
I have filed mutual divorce which take 6 months to get final divorce degree ...but now my husband ( prabhat ) is not ready to pay part money .. we have claim for 15 Lacs but .. they are paying 7 Lacs fully after 6 months from the date of first hearing..... but iam demanding for part payment should be done .. his lawyer is not ready to accept my statement .. bcoz the boy side .. has a doubt tht .. if i'll dinai from singing of divorce on the final day
Please suggest me wht to do next ....
Regards
Vandana sharma
From India, Calcutta
12How are you alll ?
I have filed mutual divorce which take 6 months to get final divorce degree ...but now my husband ( prabhat ) is not ready to pay part money .. we have claim for 15 Lacs but .. they are paying 7 Lacs fully after 6 months from the date of first hearing..... but iam demanding for part payment should be done .. his lawyer is not ready to accept my statement .. bcoz the boy side .. has a doubt tht .. if i'll dinai from singing of divorce on the final day
Please suggest me wht to do next ....
Regards
Vandana sharma
From India, Calcutta
Ask your lawyer to appeal the court for the amount . Any proceeding for the payment , needs to come from the court . What did your lawyer say to this?
From India, Mumbai
From India, Mumbai
Dear Vandana,
You have given your post on family matters. However, your latest post is something like washing dirty in the public. Why you wish to do that? This is forum is for HR professionals to discuss HR related issues and not personal or matrimonial issues. The best thing for you is to approach your lawyer and seek his/her guidance.
For (Cite Contribution): - You have appreciated latest post of Vandana but then what was so great about this post that I could not understand. In fact this post merits deletion. So let us be late in doing this than not doing at all.
Thanks,
Dinesh V Divekar
Dear Reader's ,
How are you alll ?
I have filed mutual divorce which take 6 months to get final divorce degree ...but now my husband ( prabhat ) is not ready to pay part money .. we have claim for 15 Lacs but .. they are paying 7 Lacs fully after 6 months from the date of first hearing..... but iam demanding for part payment should be done .. his lawyer is not ready to accept my statement .. bcoz the boy side .. has a doubt tht .. if i'll dinai from singing of divorce on the final day
Please suggest me wht to do next ....
Regards
Vandana sharma
From India, Bangalore
You have given your post on family matters. However, your latest post is something like washing dirty in the public. Why you wish to do that? This is forum is for HR professionals to discuss HR related issues and not personal or matrimonial issues. The best thing for you is to approach your lawyer and seek his/her guidance.
For (Cite Contribution): - You have appreciated latest post of Vandana but then what was so great about this post that I could not understand. In fact this post merits deletion. So let us be late in doing this than not doing at all.
Thanks,
Dinesh V Divekar
Dear Reader's ,
How are you alll ?
I have filed mutual divorce which take 6 months to get final divorce degree ...but now my husband ( prabhat ) is not ready to pay part money .. we have claim for 15 Lacs but .. they are paying 7 Lacs fully after 6 months from the date of first hearing..... but iam demanding for part payment should be done .. his lawyer is not ready to accept my statement .. bcoz the boy side .. has a doubt tht .. if i'll dinai from singing of divorce on the final day
Please suggest me wht to do next ....
Regards
Vandana sharma
From India, Bangalore
I read what ever posted over here, pls.don't mind but what i feel somewhere it's shows your immaturity, don't point & Blam on the things which you already knows before your marriage. if you are having professional experience so don't mix with your personal life.
you and your husband both need consular.
Best wishes for your life
From India
you and your husband both need consular.
Best wishes for your life
From India
Vandana,
I request you to think open mindly and also check the other side of the situation.
As you said there is social difference between you and your husband i am sorry to say that this could not be the fact.One who is Master in Business Administration and also a Science graduate,never can be of rural attitude.
It is upon you now to understand him deeply.Try to enter in his heart and sense his soul.As seen in most of divorce cases due to characterless husband ,guilty or physically unfit,your case is very soft.Be positive and try to come close to him then surely he too will merge with you.The change you are expecting only can happen then.
Thins positive.
Mangesh Wakodkar
Aurangabad
From India, Pune
I request you to think open mindly and also check the other side of the situation.
As you said there is social difference between you and your husband i am sorry to say that this could not be the fact.One who is Master in Business Administration and also a Science graduate,never can be of rural attitude.
It is upon you now to understand him deeply.Try to enter in his heart and sense his soul.As seen in most of divorce cases due to characterless husband ,guilty or physically unfit,your case is very soft.Be positive and try to come close to him then surely he too will merge with you.The change you are expecting only can happen then.
Thins positive.
Mangesh Wakodkar
Aurangabad
From India, Pune
Dear Dinesh,
Its extremely essential to remain honest, however, speaking without complete information isn't the right thing. Please read the thread right from the beginning. We have already addressed the point that this being an HR Forum , wouldn't be the appropriate place to discuss on this topic.
However, in the light of the extreme situation, Vandana required help, rather than us acting from our ivory towers. Hence we all contributed with our suggestions and contacts.
Contributing to a thread, needn't only be restricted on finding faults,
Thankyou once again for your time and attention.
By the way, the appreciation/thanks that I rendered to Vandana, was to humanly support the fact that she still considers sharing the advancements with us. Hope that is not a crime by any standards.
From India, Mumbai
Its extremely essential to remain honest, however, speaking without complete information isn't the right thing. Please read the thread right from the beginning. We have already addressed the point that this being an HR Forum , wouldn't be the appropriate place to discuss on this topic.
However, in the light of the extreme situation, Vandana required help, rather than us acting from our ivory towers. Hence we all contributed with our suggestions and contacts.
Contributing to a thread, needn't only be restricted on finding faults,
Thankyou once again for your time and attention.
By the way, the appreciation/thanks that I rendered to Vandana, was to humanly support the fact that she still considers sharing the advancements with us. Hope that is not a crime by any standards.
From India, Mumbai
While understanding Dinesh's apparent casternation and dismay on the matter not being "HR related" ; I appreciate (Cite Contribution)'s opinion.
Sometimes exceptions have to be made. Although the member was advised to seek help in appropriate forum and with professionals dealing with such matters; as HRs it is not wrong to render urgent assistance to a fellow Recruitment professional who desperately needed help and was at a very crucial and vulnerable point of her life.
Many senior members including our Super Moderator Nashbramhall has given their opinions. They would not have done so, if they thought otherwise, but that the case deserves attention and help and the member appears genuinely in severe distress. Is there any harm if one can save a distressed life or family? A key characteristic of HR professionals is that they are humanitarian.
Many organizations including PSU's have Employee Welfare Cells or Counselling Sections; which render assistance to employees who are having marital discord; habitual indebtness, alcoholism, drug addiction or seek any kind of guidance related to their family.
Relationships and family life are important aspects of employees as human beings. A case study on such matter or topic is not as entirely out of the purview that it deserved deletion; especially after many, especially senior members, have put in their effort and time; it would be unfair to waste their efforts.
I am sure, this thread will be of help to members in future, who may find themselves or their employees/co-worker in similar quandary.
Warm regards.
From India, Delhi
Sometimes exceptions have to be made. Although the member was advised to seek help in appropriate forum and with professionals dealing with such matters; as HRs it is not wrong to render urgent assistance to a fellow Recruitment professional who desperately needed help and was at a very crucial and vulnerable point of her life.
Many senior members including our Super Moderator Nashbramhall has given their opinions. They would not have done so, if they thought otherwise, but that the case deserves attention and help and the member appears genuinely in severe distress. Is there any harm if one can save a distressed life or family? A key characteristic of HR professionals is that they are humanitarian.
Many organizations including PSU's have Employee Welfare Cells or Counselling Sections; which render assistance to employees who are having marital discord; habitual indebtness, alcoholism, drug addiction or seek any kind of guidance related to their family.
Relationships and family life are important aspects of employees as human beings. A case study on such matter or topic is not as entirely out of the purview that it deserved deletion; especially after many, especially senior members, have put in their effort and time; it would be unfair to waste their efforts.
I am sure, this thread will be of help to members in future, who may find themselves or their employees/co-worker in similar quandary.
Warm regards.
From India, Delhi
Dear Vandhana
As a matter of compensation concerned, the either party can demand. The Court can also fix the compensation amount to be paid. Even on the final judgement day, you can request the court to pass instruction to the opponent to pay compensation.
But do not wait till last minute. Approach your lawyer and ask for adding one more application for the compensation. Your lawyer will guide and help you out in fixing the amount and getting your compensation from the opponent.
From India, Kumbakonam
As a matter of compensation concerned, the either party can demand. The Court can also fix the compensation amount to be paid. Even on the final judgement day, you can request the court to pass instruction to the opponent to pay compensation.
But do not wait till last minute. Approach your lawyer and ask for adding one more application for the compensation. Your lawyer will guide and help you out in fixing the amount and getting your compensation from the opponent.
From India, Kumbakonam
Dear Readers,
After posting my new update abt my case .. I red all the comments .. some of them found disappointing .. most of them motivating ..
Well Dinesh Divekar U said My post is washing dirty in the public .. U tell me .. did I used any abuse words / Dirty as u said .. I need the answer of your comment ... Now I dont think I have posted my concern in a wrong forum ...
So .. my case is very common these days .. A Cause for Increasing Divorce Rate in India IS only woman empowerment ?
On this Wednesday I have a meeting with my lawyer .. .. will keep on updating you ..
thanks you all for the moral support .. STAY IN TOUCH ...
From India, Calcutta
After posting my new update abt my case .. I red all the comments .. some of them found disappointing .. most of them motivating ..
Well Dinesh Divekar U said My post is washing dirty in the public .. U tell me .. did I used any abuse words / Dirty as u said .. I need the answer of your comment ... Now I dont think I have posted my concern in a wrong forum ...
So .. my case is very common these days .. A Cause for Increasing Divorce Rate in India IS only woman empowerment ?
On this Wednesday I have a meeting with my lawyer .. .. will keep on updating you ..
thanks you all for the moral support .. STAY IN TOUCH ...
From India, Calcutta
Dear Vandana,
Since you have asked reply from me emphatically in your latest post, I am writing this post.
Please click here to know meaning of the idiom "wash one's dirty linen in public". From the meaning, it is well apparent that dirty linen can be washed in public without being abusive.
Before including this idiom in my last post, I had checked its meaning and then I had written. I found meaning of the idiom quite quite matching to your post, hence its inclusion.
Otherwise personally I have nothing against you. I wish you all the best and I wish all of your woes to end soon!
By the way, I have unsubscribed myself from this thread and I would not like to comment further.
Thanks,
Dinesh V Divekar
From India, Bangalore
Since you have asked reply from me emphatically in your latest post, I am writing this post.
Please click here to know meaning of the idiom "wash one's dirty linen in public". From the meaning, it is well apparent that dirty linen can be washed in public without being abusive.
Before including this idiom in my last post, I had checked its meaning and then I had written. I found meaning of the idiom quite quite matching to your post, hence its inclusion.
Otherwise personally I have nothing against you. I wish you all the best and I wish all of your woes to end soon!
By the way, I have unsubscribed myself from this thread and I would not like to comment further.
Thanks,
Dinesh V Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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