Well Partho,
This is common - where there are men and women - there is attraction. This just came to the limelight.
Now that this is out - and that you have already informed them, and that you "JUST SUSPECT", I guess, you shuld not tend to react even if they dont have a smile on their face.
Happened is happened. If you have infromed that this shuld not affect work place, then they will bear it in mind. Even if something goes wrong down the line they may themselves look out.
If there is a sign of any conflict in future - instead of meeting them together - meet them separate, and let them know that reacting to a past issue shuld not spoil their career. You can only advise them to be careful but you would not haev control over the management's final decision - which may turn against them. So ask them gto bear personal grudges within themselves and focus only at work.
They are ultimately being paid for the skills they possess, which is highly valued. Why let a relation gone stale hurt the professional image of the person. But make sure u dont make them feel embaressed!
From India, Madras
54This is common - where there are men and women - there is attraction. This just came to the limelight.
Now that this is out - and that you have already informed them, and that you "JUST SUSPECT", I guess, you shuld not tend to react even if they dont have a smile on their face.
Happened is happened. If you have infromed that this shuld not affect work place, then they will bear it in mind. Even if something goes wrong down the line they may themselves look out.
If there is a sign of any conflict in future - instead of meeting them together - meet them separate, and let them know that reacting to a past issue shuld not spoil their career. You can only advise them to be careful but you would not haev control over the management's final decision - which may turn against them. So ask them gto bear personal grudges within themselves and focus only at work.
They are ultimately being paid for the skills they possess, which is highly valued. Why let a relation gone stale hurt the professional image of the person. But make sure u dont make them feel embaressed!
From India, Madras
Hello Ravi....When you can use this forum to advertise for your orkut communites...I think the issue raised by Parthasarthi is more than genuine and desrves attention!!!!!!!!
From India, Kochi
From India, Kochi
Hi,
This is just another HR issue. I must say that the subject line is sensational though ;)
I appreciate your concern to solve this problem.
I personally dont agree with the funda that "personal issues cannot arise in office"... Why not? you are still human.... even in office ! The crux lies in how a person is conducting himself / herself.
Just explan to each of them individually that if they are not in the best mental state right now, take time-off. On the other hand, if they say they are fine, then tell them that....then they better behave, coz you dont see a reason why they must be spoiling the office atmosphere with unpleasant bickering and badmouthing!
From India, Mumbai
This is just another HR issue. I must say that the subject line is sensational though ;)
I appreciate your concern to solve this problem.
I personally dont agree with the funda that "personal issues cannot arise in office"... Why not? you are still human.... even in office ! The crux lies in how a person is conducting himself / herself.
Just explan to each of them individually that if they are not in the best mental state right now, take time-off. On the other hand, if they say they are fine, then tell them that....then they better behave, coz you dont see a reason why they must be spoiling the office atmosphere with unpleasant bickering and badmouthing!
From India, Mumbai
HR is not a priest in a church. Do not spend time speaking too much .. follow the process. If the girl complains of misconduct or maligning character, it is a case of "sexual harrassment". Take a print out of sexual harrassment policy (either of the company or the country) and show it ! If they want to proceed, ask the girl to launch a complaint / ask the guy to back off unless he wants HR to take pro active action as per the policy !
Sandeep Krishnan
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From India, Bangalore
Sandeep Krishnan
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From India, Bangalore
I dont understand why do HR take active interest only in SEX related topics whereas all these people seem dumb in discussing other important issues,
now as advised by people you are going to ask the couple that how they got into affair, what was the cause of their breakup etc etc, now why would the couple like to tell you their personal details,
or is it because you like anyone of them and are taking your own personal interest in this case,,, even this is possible, that you might get into affair with the girl, boy on coming too close with them, and then after two months you will post about your problem
what the hell is going on here,
dont u have common sense, any school going boy will also tell to strictly instruct them to either LOVE or HATE or KILL each other but outside office premises, :x:x:x
From India, Pune
now as advised by people you are going to ask the couple that how they got into affair, what was the cause of their breakup etc etc, now why would the couple like to tell you their personal details,
or is it because you like anyone of them and are taking your own personal interest in this case,,, even this is possible, that you might get into affair with the girl, boy on coming too close with them, and then after two months you will post about your problem
what the hell is going on here,
dont u have common sense, any school going boy will also tell to strictly instruct them to either LOVE or HATE or KILL each other but outside office premises, :x:x:x
From India, Pune
hi again,
i m a bit ok with Andrew's comment that we also should look at policies..
but again sticking on my earlier comments..always remember as a HR we r handling with human beings not machines and also we need to ensure to maintain workplace decorum.
I can see many comments of wise people that personal issues should not come at workplace, I totally agree...but nobody is giving solution to act...
issues are important at their place of origin and become example for others..so, Partho, kindly read all the comments and act as per ur situation with balanced mindset... and build an image of good HR at ur workplace.
Regards,
Rahul
From India, Mumbai
i m a bit ok with Andrew's comment that we also should look at policies..
but again sticking on my earlier comments..always remember as a HR we r handling with human beings not machines and also we need to ensure to maintain workplace decorum.
I can see many comments of wise people that personal issues should not come at workplace, I totally agree...but nobody is giving solution to act...
issues are important at their place of origin and become example for others..so, Partho, kindly read all the comments and act as per ur situation with balanced mindset... and build an image of good HR at ur workplace.
Regards,
Rahul
From India, Mumbai
DEar mr. K Ravi,
If u r in HR kindly leave ur profession or learn something...
I can see u r not able to handle such things... If u cant help then please dont abuse others views atleast..if u want ur kind critics are always welcome... do u think sex issues are easy to handle!!!
we will learn something from u..
bye, take care
Rahul
From India, Mumbai
If u r in HR kindly leave ur profession or learn something...
I can see u r not able to handle such things... If u cant help then please dont abuse others views atleast..if u want ur kind critics are always welcome... do u think sex issues are easy to handle!!!
we will learn something from u..
bye, take care
Rahul
From India, Mumbai
hahahah what a joke this HR is encouraging the other HR to handle sex issues and sort of making it a field of HR like in compensation there is PF, PTAX etc, so in HR now there will also be SEX issues pls tell me I want to join this course on how to handle SEX issues pls tel lme
From India, Pune
From India, Pune
Hello,
I am not sure Rahul has got my suggestion about explaining the consequences to both in the right way. I DIDN'T MEAN TO SUGGEST TO GIVE THEM ANY ULTIMATUM TO RESIGN.
When Partho sits with them to explain the consequences, the obvious focus & the emphasis should be WORK. If this attitude of either of them continues, the work would obviously suffer....and if & when this happens THE LAST RESORT ALWAYS is resignation/termination. Let them be made clear reg this too as a possibility.....that's all.
Reg 'going too personal' in such matters, I wouldn't suggest it UNLESS THE HR GUY HAS THE SITUATION IN HIS/HER TOTAL CONTROL--it's tough under such circumstances of emotional matters. Else, even if the present situation is corrected, other situations are more likely to develop that will need resolving....sort of creating a problem & then go about solving it.
Rgds,
TS
From India, Hyderabad
I am not sure Rahul has got my suggestion about explaining the consequences to both in the right way. I DIDN'T MEAN TO SUGGEST TO GIVE THEM ANY ULTIMATUM TO RESIGN.
When Partho sits with them to explain the consequences, the obvious focus & the emphasis should be WORK. If this attitude of either of them continues, the work would obviously suffer....and if & when this happens THE LAST RESORT ALWAYS is resignation/termination. Let them be made clear reg this too as a possibility.....that's all.
Reg 'going too personal' in such matters, I wouldn't suggest it UNLESS THE HR GUY HAS THE SITUATION IN HIS/HER TOTAL CONTROL--it's tough under such circumstances of emotional matters. Else, even if the present situation is corrected, other situations are more likely to develop that will need resolving....sort of creating a problem & then go about solving it.
Rgds,
TS
From India, Hyderabad
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