In your situation building your confidence and winning the battle of the brain can create a change in an instant
- Have clarity what do you want? What’s important to you right now?.
- Try your level best to open up with your manager with a clear, positive approach exploring - What is the true source of the problem?
- With a pause and bit of clarity — create a viable plan to improve the situation and work things out
- Give yourself time to explore and implement a few changes. However, if still things do not seem to improve — take a last call on “To stay” or “To move on to another role” & prepare yourself for a transition.
As it is said “Employees don’t quit their jobs, they quit their managers” & interestingly, managers always responded to this with: “But I don’t do anything to make them quit!” Well it means, if they don’t do anything TO them, they don’t do much FOR them either.
From India, Mumbai
- Have clarity what do you want? What’s important to you right now?.
- Try your level best to open up with your manager with a clear, positive approach exploring - What is the true source of the problem?
- With a pause and bit of clarity — create a viable plan to improve the situation and work things out
- Give yourself time to explore and implement a few changes. However, if still things do not seem to improve — take a last call on “To stay” or “To move on to another role” & prepare yourself for a transition.
As it is said “Employees don’t quit their jobs, they quit their managers” & interestingly, managers always responded to this with: “But I don’t do anything to make them quit!” Well it means, if they don’t do anything TO them, they don’t do much FOR them either.
From India, Mumbai
Hello everyone,
I appreciate the views, advice's mentioned on the subject.
I do agree that given the situation patience is the key, however, I am of a strong opinion that one should not tolerate this behavior for a longer period, because by doing so you would end up encouraging the same.
Also at a work place I believe no employee has the right to raise his voice, or vent his anger, on any other employee to prove his point, hence, if I were you, I would have awaited for a appropriate opportunity (whenever his temper cools down), to politely but strongly convey it to my boss that this behavior could be avoided.
From India, Hyderabad
I appreciate the views, advice's mentioned on the subject.
I do agree that given the situation patience is the key, however, I am of a strong opinion that one should not tolerate this behavior for a longer period, because by doing so you would end up encouraging the same.
Also at a work place I believe no employee has the right to raise his voice, or vent his anger, on any other employee to prove his point, hence, if I were you, I would have awaited for a appropriate opportunity (whenever his temper cools down), to politely but strongly convey it to my boss that this behavior could be avoided.
From India, Hyderabad
I do agree with your views, I guess there is no point in working in fear of our bosses. I am just waiting for the opportunity to convey my message.
From India, Bangalore
From India, Bangalore
I have read the comments with interest. Let me raise a few questions before putting forth a view. How old is your boss? Does he normally talk loud, which becomes louder when he is not satisfied with the work done?
I raise these questions, as I knew of a lecturer against whom students complained about her shouting. When asked for an explanation, it came to light that she was a bit hard of hearing and she did not wear the hearing aids to work, as the noise from the computer and the overhead projector gave her a headache. My friend, who is hard of hearing, also complaints that his wife accuses him of starting to shout of late. When he got his hearing checked, he needed hearing aids.
For one minute do not think that I condone rude behaviour. May be you could circulate the following story or its gist The Prince And The Seedling - Panchatantra Stories for Kids | Mocomi
From United Kingdom
I raise these questions, as I knew of a lecturer against whom students complained about her shouting. When asked for an explanation, it came to light that she was a bit hard of hearing and she did not wear the hearing aids to work, as the noise from the computer and the overhead projector gave her a headache. My friend, who is hard of hearing, also complaints that his wife accuses him of starting to shout of late. When he got his hearing checked, he needed hearing aids.
For one minute do not think that I condone rude behaviour. May be you could circulate the following story or its gist The Prince And The Seedling - Panchatantra Stories for Kids | Mocomi
From United Kingdom
Look my dear boy
Bosses are most often than not rude or at least seemingly rude. Being very friendly also has its side effects. However since you are at the starting rung of your career, consider the following before taking your next step:
1. Is this a branded organization which will have a sterling effect on your CV
2. Is the above job profile what you were always looking forward to.
3. Is the monetary compensations worthy of a long stay and
4. Are the promotional avenues well defined here
If the answer to the above is positive or at least positive for 2 to 3 points stay put and bear with the gentleman. Not always will you be given lessons in holding yourself without flaring up. This will be a lesson that will serve you best in life. Patience is a virtue which if imbibed will take you places. Be thankful that you are being given lessons on this so early in life. Put up with it for a period of 3 to 6 months and you can go places. My advise would be "Hold your horses".
All the best
Robin Varghese
HR Consultant, New Delhi
From India, Delhi
Bosses are most often than not rude or at least seemingly rude. Being very friendly also has its side effects. However since you are at the starting rung of your career, consider the following before taking your next step:
1. Is this a branded organization which will have a sterling effect on your CV
2. Is the above job profile what you were always looking forward to.
3. Is the monetary compensations worthy of a long stay and
4. Are the promotional avenues well defined here
If the answer to the above is positive or at least positive for 2 to 3 points stay put and bear with the gentleman. Not always will you be given lessons in holding yourself without flaring up. This will be a lesson that will serve you best in life. Patience is a virtue which if imbibed will take you places. Be thankful that you are being given lessons on this so early in life. Put up with it for a period of 3 to 6 months and you can go places. My advise would be "Hold your horses".
All the best
Robin Varghese
HR Consultant, New Delhi
From India, Delhi
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