Hey Prachi,
how are you
first thing why your compant has discremenation betweeb seniors and middle levels managment on that particular type of Ocassion like Birthday, if they are celebraing bthday then should be same patren for every one.
but here the situation is totaly different you should talk with his Wife rather him beacuse ladies are very soft hearted and they can understand the situation very well then her husband.
if she can convince her husband to follow the company norms and celebrate her birthday like every other middle level celebrate.
you can do one thing arrange a suprise pary for her wife beacuse it will be helpful for him to revert back his decision (Quite the Job).
You have always Big Smile on your Face:-P
it will help in your personal and professional life as well
if you still have any questions please let me know.
Hassan
Regards
how are you
first thing why your compant has discremenation betweeb seniors and middle levels managment on that particular type of Ocassion like Birthday, if they are celebraing bthday then should be same patren for every one.
but here the situation is totaly different you should talk with his Wife rather him beacuse ladies are very soft hearted and they can understand the situation very well then her husband.
if she can convince her husband to follow the company norms and celebrate her birthday like every other middle level celebrate.
you can do one thing arrange a suprise pary for her wife beacuse it will be helpful for him to revert back his decision (Quite the Job).
You have always Big Smile on your Face:-P
it will help in your personal and professional life as well
if you still have any questions please let me know.
Hassan
Regards
hia this is not a problem with the director, just thing the other way. he is a person who loves his wife else he must have gone through a bag fight with his wife at home. its not advisable to loose such a guy, for this silly things. my suggestion would be. just tell him u cant relive him now.
and just check in the past one month how many days he has not come to office and enquir if he has any offer from ur competitors.
if no then then its not he who the problemis , but his wife so just reduce the responsiblity for her but give much work that she cant doo on time. make it sure that she does not stay in the company for long not more then one month. then u wont loose him. I completely agree with others ideas u can b bold but should b smart. as a HR(.......) u should work on some smart tricks just think my suggestion as a smart work.u should be a risk taker in a safe way . read a problem in all ways may be even ugly. but the answer should be cute.
ARVIND.P
MBA(IB)
pondicherry university
mob no 9790011045
1and just check in the past one month how many days he has not come to office and enquir if he has any offer from ur competitors.
if no then then its not he who the problemis , but his wife so just reduce the responsiblity for her but give much work that she cant doo on time. make it sure that she does not stay in the company for long not more then one month. then u wont loose him. I completely agree with others ideas u can b bold but should b smart. as a HR(.......) u should work on some smart tricks just think my suggestion as a smart work.u should be a risk taker in a safe way . read a problem in all ways may be even ugly. but the answer should be cute.
ARVIND.P
MBA(IB)
pondicherry university
mob no 9790011045
Hi Prachi,
Gone through ur situation, and seen some of the replies as well. i think most of the ppl think in the same way and they all are right dear..
if a person who is at director level position behaving like this then i dont think he deserve that position and to stay in the organization. coz if today he is raising this point in future he can create more issues which will trouble u to handle other employees as well...
but as u said ur company dont want to loose him (couldn't understand why) so u can do one thing to and talk to him make rules clear to him and then see how he reacts.
if still he is not ready to change his opinion then dear better to ask him to leave the organization. its gud for your company's future.
all the best.
From India, Delhi
Gone through ur situation, and seen some of the replies as well. i think most of the ppl think in the same way and they all are right dear..
if a person who is at director level position behaving like this then i dont think he deserve that position and to stay in the organization. coz if today he is raising this point in future he can create more issues which will trouble u to handle other employees as well...
but as u said ur company dont want to loose him (couldn't understand why) so u can do one thing to and talk to him make rules clear to him and then see how he reacts.
if still he is not ready to change his opinion then dear better to ask him to leave the organization. its gud for your company's future.
all the best.
From India, Delhi
Hi Prachi
looks like you have been given the ugly task of having to deal with this Director.
Question: Are you a Director? I don't think so based on your pleas for help..so basically you are not on an even playing field.
You have to be brave & go back to any of the other Directors and ask them to make a decision at their level. If they can't then what can they expect you to do?
Throw the ball back in their court.
If they want you to have special priveleges/ treatment for the wife, then change the policy to have everyone's birthday celebrated the same way...bill the expense to the company ; )
From Singapore, Singapore
looks like you have been given the ugly task of having to deal with this Director.
Question: Are you a Director? I don't think so based on your pleas for help..so basically you are not on an even playing field.
You have to be brave & go back to any of the other Directors and ask them to make a decision at their level. If they can't then what can they expect you to do?
Throw the ball back in their court.
If they want you to have special priveleges/ treatment for the wife, then change the policy to have everyone's birthday celebrated the same way...bill the expense to the company ; )
From Singapore, Singapore
Dear All,
Which company allows personal favours and that too soo openly. Here is this person who is annoyed with some other issue and taking unethical issue as the reason to leave the company.
Escalate the matter to higher authority as this is serious breach of policies and if your dont company doesn't have a stand on such issues then its time to revise the HR Strategies.
He could actually be fired on this issue. But if the guy is a major resource then ask his seniors to counsell and also ask him to demonstrate some professionalism.
Regards
Dr Swati
From India, Bangalore
Which company allows personal favours and that too soo openly. Here is this person who is annoyed with some other issue and taking unethical issue as the reason to leave the company.
Escalate the matter to higher authority as this is serious breach of policies and if your dont company doesn't have a stand on such issues then its time to revise the HR Strategies.
He could actually be fired on this issue. But if the guy is a major resource then ask his seniors to counsell and also ask him to demonstrate some professionalism.
Regards
Dr Swati
From India, Bangalore
Dear Prachi
I am surprised how come a Director of the company behave like college going kid. If he wants to quit let him go ahead not waste ur energy for these kind of issues, u will be having better issues to work on. I wont be surprised if the same reaction came from his wife..
From United States, Santa Clara
I am surprised how come a Director of the company behave like college going kid. If he wants to quit let him go ahead not waste ur energy for these kind of issues, u will be having better issues to work on. I wont be surprised if the same reaction came from his wife..
From United States, Santa Clara
If someone has been placed on director level position he should have manners and broader mindset to understand this logic. I believe some people are habbitual of taking things otherwise or huring their ego or insult etc. But if he is professional director and not shareholder director as happen normally marwari or baniya family businesses he should exhibit his professional approach and appreciate your logic.
I think, in this case you have to explain your chairman and organise one grand party in the honour of this man's wife if your chairman feels he is so crutial to his business or organization as whole.
This advise has nothing to do with your policy but out of policy decision as exception to rules. Because this director and his family owe some strength in your company if your chairmen question you for this fiasco.
You have to take this event as chairty for this Director on behalf of your company.
Regards
Sawant
From Saudi Arabia
I think, in this case you have to explain your chairman and organise one grand party in the honour of this man's wife if your chairman feels he is so crutial to his business or organization as whole.
This advise has nothing to do with your policy but out of policy decision as exception to rules. Because this director and his family owe some strength in your company if your chairmen question you for this fiasco.
You have to take this event as chairty for this Director on behalf of your company.
Regards
Sawant
From Saudi Arabia
Even if the director doesnt provide biased decision for her wife in the office still ppl will have doubt that her growth is bcos of his pressure from top.Atleast what we can do is actually let ppl and the director know that next time the higher treatment will be given to her bcos she is his wife, this wont create any problem at the present, plus probably she will grow in the industry by the time ,yes this issue is sensitive cos either this couple or the morale of the staff will be under threat.I will say she should be given preference bcos this person is a key members wife and he has opened his mouth and asked for some more concession ,only for the respect sake and gratitude actually we should oblige, not in a idea to break rule or not bcos we dont understand that its not proper to do so.Yes it is true but we can sometimes do things for greater good when its particularly silly.Even if the higher preference is given now it will seem silly so avoid it doing now and pls explain it to this director iam sure he will be happy and plus if this was made up game to just quit he will be in tight corner and his true colors will be known to all. - santhosh jagannathan.
From India, Madras
From India, Madras
The first thing that got to my mind was his wife. All this drama was for her and she is silent. If he loves his wife that much she could have easily convinced him not to create much of a problem. If the guy is hurt from the incident then he would have asked his wife to quit first. This is a game.
We too have many couples working, and I have noticed that they work with the same wavelength, Ours is a family run org, so we cannot bring policies to ban couples working together, but we keep constant check on them. Many wife's claim is that they don't influence their husbands officially but the result clearly state that its the wife's influence. Even official discussions are taken the other way.
If you have couples working in your organisation better have a close track of the female if the male has crucial role to play, or ban it. That would be better.
I know a colleague of mine, same as me a HR, quitting her job just because she has fallen in love with a colleague and she wants to set an example for this concern(she has been a victim to one of those couple).
All the best Prachi
Regards
Caroline M.
From India, Coimbatore
We too have many couples working, and I have noticed that they work with the same wavelength, Ours is a family run org, so we cannot bring policies to ban couples working together, but we keep constant check on them. Many wife's claim is that they don't influence their husbands officially but the result clearly state that its the wife's influence. Even official discussions are taken the other way.
If you have couples working in your organisation better have a close track of the female if the male has crucial role to play, or ban it. That would be better.
I know a colleague of mine, same as me a HR, quitting her job just because she has fallen in love with a colleague and she wants to set an example for this concern(she has been a victim to one of those couple).
All the best Prachi
Regards
Caroline M.
From India, Coimbatore
Hi Caroline,
Can you explain this line in detail please? do you mean that only wives influence their husbands' decisions and work from behind the scenes, while husbands are very innocent to listen to watever their wives say without using their brains and become a scape goat in the end?
I am sure i misunderstood. If yes, then i am sorry. So please clarify.
From India, Hyderabad
Can you explain this line in detail please? do you mean that only wives influence their husbands' decisions and work from behind the scenes, while husbands are very innocent to listen to watever their wives say without using their brains and become a scape goat in the end?
I am sure i misunderstood. If yes, then i am sorry. So please clarify.
From India, Hyderabad
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