Have you ever had someone tell you about a problem or concern they are having, and you're mind automatically starts thinking of a solution for them? Probably, we all have. Somehow that seems to be an automatic response for most people; especially in response to people we love and care about. Often, though, all the speaker wants (often without even knowing it) is simply to be heard and understood. It can take an act of will to notice the urge to offer a fix and hold your tongue. Next time this happens to you, don't jump right in with a solution, try listening instead and asking them if there is more they would like to say about that until they are emptied out. Then, rather than offering a solution, ask them if they would like you to hear your ideas about what they could do. People feel much better about receiving solutions and answers they have asked for.</p>
With regards,
Vipul
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9With regards,
Vipul
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I born and brought-up in Ahmedabad and studied in Gujarati medium. There was a Gujarati lesson namely "AAnjani" (Means a small tumor on upper or lower eyelid) written by Jyotindra Dave a well known author of Gujarati. Once the author had AAnjani and during the time who so ever meets him, gives one or the other advice and finally the author had to go for operation, as a small disease worsen to the extent. The story was a big critic on our habit of giving free advice, without in-depth knowledge on the subject or sometime without asked by a person. You reminded me of that beautiful story.
From India, Ahmadabad
From India, Ahmadabad
Excellent point... can solve most of the interpersonal problems one faces and reduce those to a large extent...you have written 'Next time this happens to you, don't jump right in with a solution, try listening instead......", this too is an advice, however, it is well taken :) :):).
Ramesh
From India, Pune
Ramesh
From India, Pune
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You can't fix stupid.pps
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