Don't let him be alone......distract his mind with some work and some outings ....let him make some good friends ,for that you have to help coz of his trust being hurt so......one person at this moment wants somebody to be with him... u know who he can rely on... be with him.
Regards,
Vidya
From India, Pune
Regards,
Vidya
From India, Pune
Good evening Srikanth,
First and foremost i think its nice that you want to help your friend...I dont know if this will help but i think it would be useful...
See Srikanth you must be knowing in todays world each and everyone of us is vulnerable to the passions and desires which are forbidden...Everyone makes mistakes, none of us are without fault...Each of us has a past...none of us are perfect...You first said that she was a good girl right? so then she must have surely made your friend happy?and gave him a reason for living...if he was dedicatedly in love with her then surely he felt very good with her, in todays world nobody makes a sacrifice for anybody ya...its always a give and take situation wherein both derive pleasure and happiness from a relationship...
Now tell me Srikanth, if thats the case why dwell or only think about the bad parts of a relationship and how bad one is? why not think about the good one has derived from a relationship which was mutual?
Remember one thing Srikanth if your friend really loved her he would accept her as she is with her past if he is sure his love is strong enough to make her change...but if in case he does want to move on, why not just think of the happy moments, lock it in the diary of memories as a good instance?
Im not saying the memories will not come, but my question is why run away from them...let them flow and pass on...life goes on, if your friend has reached so far as an H.R. Executive then he must have had a focused goal in mind right? despite him loving this girl on the sidelines?
Then surely he will have the courage to pick himself up and move on..A phoenix Srikanth is a bird who burns himself up but again grows out of the ashes...Its up to us also to pick ourselves up and fly high but yet keep in mind the experiences in order to help us in our journey called life...
No one said life was easy...Hey its how we look at it..the way i see it that girl has just taught your friend how to keep his eyes open and be more observant not look at everything in black and white...so she has done him a favour right?
Tell your friend this, if he has any questions he can always let me know or if u have any questions on anything ive written you can ask me...
Hey youre given a noble thing to do...Make the best of that dont lose courage...instead fill your friend up with so much positivity that he forgets to be negative...and i hope your friend has actually seen the proof of her being unfaithful and not just relied on people's words...youre innnocent untill proved guilty remember?
All the Best!!
Aveena
From India, Pune
First and foremost i think its nice that you want to help your friend...I dont know if this will help but i think it would be useful...
See Srikanth you must be knowing in todays world each and everyone of us is vulnerable to the passions and desires which are forbidden...Everyone makes mistakes, none of us are without fault...Each of us has a past...none of us are perfect...You first said that she was a good girl right? so then she must have surely made your friend happy?and gave him a reason for living...if he was dedicatedly in love with her then surely he felt very good with her, in todays world nobody makes a sacrifice for anybody ya...its always a give and take situation wherein both derive pleasure and happiness from a relationship...
Now tell me Srikanth, if thats the case why dwell or only think about the bad parts of a relationship and how bad one is? why not think about the good one has derived from a relationship which was mutual?
Remember one thing Srikanth if your friend really loved her he would accept her as she is with her past if he is sure his love is strong enough to make her change...but if in case he does want to move on, why not just think of the happy moments, lock it in the diary of memories as a good instance?
Im not saying the memories will not come, but my question is why run away from them...let them flow and pass on...life goes on, if your friend has reached so far as an H.R. Executive then he must have had a focused goal in mind right? despite him loving this girl on the sidelines?
Then surely he will have the courage to pick himself up and move on..A phoenix Srikanth is a bird who burns himself up but again grows out of the ashes...Its up to us also to pick ourselves up and fly high but yet keep in mind the experiences in order to help us in our journey called life...
No one said life was easy...Hey its how we look at it..the way i see it that girl has just taught your friend how to keep his eyes open and be more observant not look at everything in black and white...so she has done him a favour right?
Tell your friend this, if he has any questions he can always let me know or if u have any questions on anything ive written you can ask me...
Hey youre given a noble thing to do...Make the best of that dont lose courage...instead fill your friend up with so much positivity that he forgets to be negative...and i hope your friend has actually seen the proof of her being unfaithful and not just relied on people's words...youre innnocent untill proved guilty remember?
All the Best!!
Aveena
From India, Pune
Srikanth,
I don't know whether it helps... but one of my friends faced such a situation. To divert himself from the pain he got into photography and has also slowly proved himself in the field. Its one year since, he has moved on and feels the art has helped him when it mattered.
Regards,
Sam Amose.
I don't know whether it helps... but one of my friends faced such a situation. To divert himself from the pain he got into photography and has also slowly proved himself in the field. Its one year since, he has moved on and feels the art has helped him when it mattered.
Regards,
Sam Amose.
Hi Srikanth,
Well i would tell you people have changed; relationship are no more based on trust it is all only give and take; so i would suggest you that your friend need support in every way and you have be with him always and dont leave him alone and once he get well you force him to go back to work as per earliest so that he will be busy and try to forget the things which has happend with him.
Regards
Seema Goswami
HR Manager
From India, Pune
Well i would tell you people have changed; relationship are no more based on trust it is all only give and take; so i would suggest you that your friend need support in every way and you have be with him always and dont leave him alone and once he get well you force him to go back to work as per earliest so that he will be busy and try to forget the things which has happend with him.
Regards
Seema Goswami
HR Manager
From India, Pune
Hi Srikanth,
Live is so short , enjoy it. Do not keep unwanted feelings . Try to forget aand forgive as you are a human being. Ony Human beings have the capacity to forget .
Pl go back to your job and interact with people.
Regards
BinduChandra
Manager HR & facility
From India, Mumbai
Live is so short , enjoy it. Do not keep unwanted feelings . Try to forget aand forgive as you are a human being. Ony Human beings have the capacity to forget .
Pl go back to your job and interact with people.
Regards
BinduChandra
Manager HR & facility
From India, Mumbai
Hey Srikanth,
" Past is a history and future is still a mistry so live in present" an advise from a friend.
Let your friend know this and make him understand the meaning of it.
The best thing is to learn from the past, improve your present and just see your future getting brighter...
There is no meaning in sticking to old thigs in such a way. Get rid of past unwanted and unlikely events. Rather then longing to make a life, ,make up every day and life will be derived on the right track automatically.
Regards,
From India, Ahmadabad
9" Past is a history and future is still a mistry so live in present" an advise from a friend.
Let your friend know this and make him understand the meaning of it.
The best thing is to learn from the past, improve your present and just see your future getting brighter...
There is no meaning in sticking to old thigs in such a way. Get rid of past unwanted and unlikely events. Rather then longing to make a life, ,make up every day and life will be derived on the right track automatically.
Regards,
From India, Ahmadabad
Hi Srikanth,
Hey! You look to be his good friend and you know him better than others. You have the capacity to console your friend's heart.
Let him slowly understand "Why cry over spilt milk ?" and forget her, who was not his heart at all.
I am believer in Karma and Fate as well, I will suggest you to consult abt your friends' horo to learned Astologer and remove his sins.
Ask him to believe in God. Life is very beautiful to live and sad incidents are part of life drama. I know this is something that involves heart but he who has powerfull will to create passion to face life with a 'Heart of Lion' only can survive and reach the 'peak success' of life.
Good Luck!
From India, Madras
Hey! You look to be his good friend and you know him better than others. You have the capacity to console your friend's heart.
Let him slowly understand "Why cry over spilt milk ?" and forget her, who was not his heart at all.
I am believer in Karma and Fate as well, I will suggest you to consult abt your friends' horo to learned Astologer and remove his sins.
Ask him to believe in God. Life is very beautiful to live and sad incidents are part of life drama. I know this is something that involves heart but he who has powerfull will to create passion to face life with a 'Heart of Lion' only can survive and reach the 'peak success' of life.
Good Luck!
From India, Madras
Hi, My advice to your friend, dont think about the person who has nothing for you . Take him to meditation centre, ask him spend his timings with family as well as with his well wishers like you.
From India, Madras
From India, Madras
Dear Srikanth,
I would suggest you to talk to him, and make him understand to value and love himself first, than any other person. He should know that God has given him one life, not to waste on people who don't value about him. Its nice to love and care for someone, but not so much that you forget your identity.
He should know that he is also special in his own way, and the girl was not for him. This pain will be there for some time, but plz suggest him not to loose his identity for that girl. Its better to move on with life, there are many other intresting aspects to any person's life, alongwith love.
Tell him to focus on his special intrests and qulaities, and to grow them, rather than holding her memories and ruining his life. She will not come back to pick him up, if his falls down. It is he, who has to pick himself up, and again walk with confidence.
The more you show yourself weak in this world, the more people are there to step on you and move forward.
I am saying all this b'coz of my personal experience.
Hope your friend gets courage to cope up with this stage.
Rgds,
Uma
From India, Mumbai
I would suggest you to talk to him, and make him understand to value and love himself first, than any other person. He should know that God has given him one life, not to waste on people who don't value about him. Its nice to love and care for someone, but not so much that you forget your identity.
He should know that he is also special in his own way, and the girl was not for him. This pain will be there for some time, but plz suggest him not to loose his identity for that girl. Its better to move on with life, there are many other intresting aspects to any person's life, alongwith love.
Tell him to focus on his special intrests and qulaities, and to grow them, rather than holding her memories and ruining his life. She will not come back to pick him up, if his falls down. It is he, who has to pick himself up, and again walk with confidence.
The more you show yourself weak in this world, the more people are there to step on you and move forward.
I am saying all this b'coz of my personal experience.
Hope your friend gets courage to cope up with this stage.
Rgds,
Uma
From India, Mumbai
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