Suddenly, a cockroach flew from somewhere and sat on a boy. I wondered if this was the cockroach response to all the glory that was spoken about it!
The boy started screaming out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice, He started jumping, with both his hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
His reaction was contagious, as everyone in his group got cranky to what was happening. The boy finally managed to push the cockroach to another boy in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other boy in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering!
Was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behaviour?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the boy to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the boy.
I realized even in my case then, it is not the shouting of my father, spouse or my boss that disturbs me, but its my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me. Its not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it is our reaction to the problem that hurts us.
The GYAAN KI BAAT :
We should not react in life, we should respond.
Reactions are instinctive whereas responses are intellectual.
From India, Hyderabad
32The boy started screaming out of fear. With panic stricken face and trembling voice, He started jumping, with both his hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
His reaction was contagious, as everyone in his group got cranky to what was happening. The boy finally managed to push the cockroach to another boy in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other boy in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter. The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behaviour of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed and threw it out with his fingers.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering!
Was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behaviour?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the boy to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the boy.
I realized even in my case then, it is not the shouting of my father, spouse or my boss that disturbs me, but its my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me. Its not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it is our reaction to the problem that hurts us.
The GYAAN KI BAAT :
We should not react in life, we should respond.
Reactions are instinctive whereas responses are intellectual.
From India, Hyderabad
hi rmshbala,
nicely said and even explained whenever we react to a situation we hurt ourselves and even we ruin our mood as well as others...
so we shuld actually not react first think n den try n respond to d situation...
which will help to carry the asituation positivly den in a hyper manner(negative)...
Hats off nice explanation...
From India, New Delhi
nicely said and even explained whenever we react to a situation we hurt ourselves and even we ruin our mood as well as others...
so we shuld actually not react first think n den try n respond to d situation...
which will help to carry the asituation positivly den in a hyper manner(negative)...
Hats off nice explanation...
From India, New Delhi
Dear Bala and others,
Please find the original version of the motivational and self development theory.
The Cockroach Theory for Self-development - Response Vs Reaction
At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.
The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.
Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of, just and right to save a situation from going out of hand, to avoid cracks in relationship, to avoid taking decisions in anger, anxiety, stress or hurry.
Have a nice day!
From India, Secunderabad
Please find the original version of the motivational and self development theory.
The Cockroach Theory for Self-development - Response Vs Reaction
At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.
Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky.
The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but ...it landed on another lady in the group.
Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama.
The waiter rushed forward to their rescue.
In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.
The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt.
When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.
Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?
If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed?
He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.
It is not the cockroach, but the inability of the ladies to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach that disturbed the ladies.
I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it's my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.
It's not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.
More than the problem, it's my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.
Lessons learnt from the story:
I understood, I should not react in life.
I should always respond.
The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.
Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of, just and right to save a situation from going out of hand, to avoid cracks in relationship, to avoid taking decisions in anger, anxiety, stress or hurry.
Have a nice day!
From India, Secunderabad
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