Hi, I am 26 a 26-year-old lady working in the IT field for the last 4 years. It has been around 11 months in my present company. Being pregnant last month, I took 1 week's leave due to some complications; since I was taking this much leave, I told my manager about my complication and also told him that I had been advised not to take any stress and that I may have to take some 1-2 day leaves whenever required. Also, I requested him to give me work which does not involve any strict deadline. he was very understanding and asked me to go on Loss of pay leave for 2-3 months. But i took only one week leave and resumed to work since it was only 4th month and i need leaves lateron.
After i joined back after one week he told me that my performance is not found to be satisfactory and i need to undergo performance improvement program for 3 months and the time cant be extended if i take leaves in between. From then on, he is very rude to me. They have also found a replacement for me. I think they want me to resign out of stress. What can I do? Please advise how to deal with this mental harassment.
From India, Bangalore
After i joined back after one week he told me that my performance is not found to be satisfactory and i need to undergo performance improvement program for 3 months and the time cant be extended if i take leaves in between. From then on, he is very rude to me. They have also found a replacement for me. I think they want me to resign out of stress. What can I do? Please advise how to deal with this mental harassment.
From India, Bangalore
Yours problem is not new you can approach an ngo for this do not work u nder stress its not good
From India, Delhi
From India, Delhi
Even after working there for 4 years, didn't you establish a good relationship? How was your performance level before your pregnancy? How suddenly your performance dip and invite the wrath of the boss. I think some thing wrong on your side which you need to introspect.
Pon
From India, Lucknow
604Pon
From India, Lucknow
Dimpy123 has been in the company for only 11 months; 4 years was with a different firm.
Hence, it is wise for all of us to read and digest a post before passing critical comments. Such a step is required to avoid generating heat instead of throwing light on the issue.
Have a nice day.
Simhan
From United Kingdom
Hence, it is wise for all of us to read and digest a post before passing critical comments. Such a step is required to avoid generating heat instead of throwing light on the issue.
Have a nice day.
Simhan
From United Kingdom
Hi Dimpy,
first of all congrats!
talk to your boss personally and explain him, if he understands and agrees with you then ok, otherwise you have to quit the job.
if they are forcing you to leave job then dont worry or take any tention bcoz your health is very important than the job, the way you behave or think will directly effect on your child so, many jobs will come and go but your life and your family is very very important so take lot of care.
keep all your tentions aside this is the time you have to be happy and in good mood, always think positive. bcoz what ever you do will effect to your chlid. If you want good & healthy child than you have sacirifice few things. Nothing is greater than your life and your kid's.
Have a grt day
Regards,
Ruth
HR Manager
From India, Mangaluru
first of all congrats!
talk to your boss personally and explain him, if he understands and agrees with you then ok, otherwise you have to quit the job.
if they are forcing you to leave job then dont worry or take any tention bcoz your health is very important than the job, the way you behave or think will directly effect on your child so, many jobs will come and go but your life and your family is very very important so take lot of care.
keep all your tentions aside this is the time you have to be happy and in good mood, always think positive. bcoz what ever you do will effect to your chlid. If you want good & healthy child than you have sacirifice few things. Nothing is greater than your life and your kid's.
Have a grt day
Regards,
Ruth
HR Manager
From India, Mangaluru
Hello dimpy123,
There are 2 sides to every coin--in the current context, your situation. And pl bear in mind that there's NOTHING RIGHT OR WRONG about any side you take/follow--since this ISN'T a right or wrong issue at all. It's MORE TO DO with what suits YOUR CURRENT situation.
Before getting into the issue, pl note that your manager HAS NOT found anything wrong in your performance--he, in all probability, may have got instructions from the top to do away with your services. Why? Because the company wants to save on the Maternity Leave Salary, as also the associated load-sharing with the others while you are on ML. I would say, a bit of long-term thinking, albeit in the wrong/improper direction. [pl refer to earlier threads in CiteHR w.r.t. this issue & you would know what I mean]. However, this would also depend on the size of your company--if it's a small one, FROM THEIR PERSPECTIVE, they may be right from the financial-burden angle.
Coming to your situation, one way is to take & follow what Ruth mentioned. Especially if your doctor advises you so--which depends on HER reading of your overall medical condition UNTIL the delivery. However, this also depends on your financial situation--whether you can afford to be without a job till your kid grows reasonably, only when you can join another job [if you think you can join elsewhere right now, pl note that not many companies induct someone who is expecting].
Another way is to fight it out--smoothly & as per the law--especially if you need the salary. It's here that sansin.2007's suggestion would fit into well--you can transfer your stress to the NGO, who can take up the issue on your behalf. However, pl note that this step would depend a lot on the support you have within your family. If not, it may not really work-out well--in all probability, you would be INCREASING your stress rather than reducing it by taking this route.
All the Best.
Rgds,
TS
From India, Hyderabad
There are 2 sides to every coin--in the current context, your situation. And pl bear in mind that there's NOTHING RIGHT OR WRONG about any side you take/follow--since this ISN'T a right or wrong issue at all. It's MORE TO DO with what suits YOUR CURRENT situation.
Before getting into the issue, pl note that your manager HAS NOT found anything wrong in your performance--he, in all probability, may have got instructions from the top to do away with your services. Why? Because the company wants to save on the Maternity Leave Salary, as also the associated load-sharing with the others while you are on ML. I would say, a bit of long-term thinking, albeit in the wrong/improper direction. [pl refer to earlier threads in CiteHR w.r.t. this issue & you would know what I mean]. However, this would also depend on the size of your company--if it's a small one, FROM THEIR PERSPECTIVE, they may be right from the financial-burden angle.
Coming to your situation, one way is to take & follow what Ruth mentioned. Especially if your doctor advises you so--which depends on HER reading of your overall medical condition UNTIL the delivery. However, this also depends on your financial situation--whether you can afford to be without a job till your kid grows reasonably, only when you can join another job [if you think you can join elsewhere right now, pl note that not many companies induct someone who is expecting].
Another way is to fight it out--smoothly & as per the law--especially if you need the salary. It's here that sansin.2007's suggestion would fit into well--you can transfer your stress to the NGO, who can take up the issue on your behalf. However, pl note that this step would depend a lot on the support you have within your family. If not, it may not really work-out well--in all probability, you would be INCREASING your stress rather than reducing it by taking this route.
All the Best.
Rgds,
TS
From India, Hyderabad
MENTAL HARASSMENT??? :shock: :shock:
may i know why inspite of being pregnant you want to continue your job? I mean you can resign and be at home whole day and take care of your health as doctor advised you not to take stress.
From India, Madras
may i know why inspite of being pregnant you want to continue your job? I mean you can resign and be at home whole day and take care of your health as doctor advised you not to take stress.
From India, Madras
Dear Dimpy, Better you quit a job and take care of your health. In this time, you must give importance to health and little baby. Have a stress free life.
From India, Madras
From India, Madras
For MENTAL HARASSMENT, Employer can be sued even leaving company within 3 year period.
PIP can be taken as normal maintenance exercise from Management but on either side, Management can give pressure to resign.
As employee, Always resist for forced resignation and approach legal team/Trade union/Labour office for betterment of situation.
Ramesha Landmark case for PIP revoking
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The reason: His performance was not satisfactory and he had not shown any improvement despite counselling. Ramesha questioned his removal, and his counsel argued that no explanation had been called by the company, no charge memo had been given and no enquiry had been conducted before the termination order was issued.
https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/tech-news/court-orders-hcl-to-reinstate-sacked-employee/articleshow/52204942.cms?pcode=461
Don't Resign Without an Offer in Hand or Financial Backup.
voip it union
94444764983
voiceofitprofessionals@gmail.com
Court orders HCL to reinstate sacked employee
Trouble began on January 22, 2013 .
Read more at:
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/52204942.cms?pcode=461&utm_source=contentofinteres t&utm_medium=text&utm_campaign=cppst
From India, Chennai
PIP can be taken as normal maintenance exercise from Management but on either side, Management can give pressure to resign.
As employee, Always resist for forced resignation and approach legal team/Trade union/Labour office for betterment of situation.
Ramesha Landmark case for PIP revoking
====================================
The reason: His performance was not satisfactory and he had not shown any improvement despite counselling. Ramesha questioned his removal, and his counsel argued that no explanation had been called by the company, no charge memo had been given and no enquiry had been conducted before the termination order was issued.
https://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/tech-news/court-orders-hcl-to-reinstate-sacked-employee/articleshow/52204942.cms?pcode=461
Don't Resign Without an Offer in Hand or Financial Backup.
voip it union
94444764983
voiceofitprofessionals@gmail.com
Court orders HCL to reinstate sacked employee
Trouble began on January 22, 2013 .
Read more at:
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/52204942.cms?pcode=461&utm_source=contentofinteres t&utm_medium=text&utm_campaign=cppst
From India, Chennai
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