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What if the Boss is a guy who keeps bullying me, and doesnt kno how to work or respect the subordinates??? Kindly Advice
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Friends,
I hope this article will give an insight into the psychology involved in the behavior of that person, whom you call your boss, and think at least twice before taking his calls after office hours.
That evening when you were enjoying a party with your family and friends, you received a call on your mobile, and the screen was showing, "Boss is calling." What did you do? Did you answer the call, or did you let it ring? Did you call back later, or did you send a message to check if there was anything urgent? Your response and the way you might react in these situations will be based on the type of boss you have and your relationship with him or her. Bosses cannot be categorized as good or bad; they oscillate between being good and bad based on the type of boss they are. It's like holding one end of a rope and swinging in the air; you can see the effect on the whole rope until the other end. Similarly, the behavior of your boss swings between goodness and badness.
Believe it or not, accept it or not, but in the corporate world, everyone is accountable to someone or is reporting to someone unless they are the owner of the company (in the case of a private limited company). In a public limited company, CEOs and Managing Directors are answerable to the Board of Directors. Hence, always remember that even your boss has a boss. No one is spared. Just as you analyze your boss on a scale of good, bad, or horrible, be sure that even your boss is analyzing his or her boss.
Before we proceed with our discussion, let's understand a few facts about your boss; this will help us understand the psychology and behavior of your boss.
1. Just like you, your boss is also a human being with emotions, aspirations, fears, insecurities, issues, and problems.
2. The basic motive for anyone to become a boss is to control. They want to control and manipulate the people under them just as their boss wants to control their behavior and movements.
3. Bosses can have various designations or positions such as Captain, Team Leader, Head, Manager, Vice President, Director, or CXO. The fact that they are above you and you are under them is proof enough that they are your boss and you are their subordinate.
4. Your boss is not only accountable and responsible for their performance, deliverables, and targets but also for yours.
5. Some of the roles of any boss include:
a. Control
b. Direct
c. Make decisions (not only for themselves but for the whole team and take responsibility)
d. Manage (resources, time, and people)
e. Train (pass on their knowledge through training their subordinates)
f. Lead (set examples and be a role model)
g. Coach (to improve the performances of their subordinates)
h. Mentor (pass on their legacy and experiences to the younger generation)
Your boss plays (or at least is expected to play) all these roles in their professional career as they move up in the hierarchy. However, many bosses in many companies are content with controlling, manipulating, and influencing without thinking beyond that.
First-time bosses are not born; even if you held positions like class representatives or school captains, starting at a corporate level is a different experience. Regardless of your past roles, in the corporate world, you begin a new journey that can last for 30 or 40 years.
Your career journey shapes your perception of bosses. As you progress and learn more about working in a corporate setting, you may start to view your boss negatively. You might feel your boss is biased, incompetent, or hindering your growth. This search for a like-minded boss can lead to job changes, overlooking the growth opportunities that come with challenging bosses.
Transitioning to a team leader role can be overwhelming, akin to winning a billion-dollar lottery without a plan. You might emulate your previous bosses' behaviors, enjoying your subordinates' struggles, inadvertently repeating the patterns you disliked in your past bosses.
First-time bosses often struggle with insecurity, becoming arrogant with newfound power. They may exhibit behaviors they once despised, perceiving their subordinates as lazy, disrespectful, or manipulative. This cycle perpetuates in the corporate world, creating a challenging work-life balance.
Promotions mark the beginning of a sandwich-type work-life, an ongoing cycle of leading a team while reporting to a boss. To advance, you must outperform your subordinates and support your boss's growth to eventually occupy their position. Striking this balance isn't easy, with many bosses failing to navigate this dynamic effectively.
Positive and negative motivations influence how we lead. Some emulate negative traits they witness, while others vow to lead differently. It's crucial to define your leadership style consciously, acknowledging shades of grey in every approach.
Personal experiences with bosses shape our understanding of leadership. Each boss, whether good or bad, imparts valuable lessons. Emulating positive traits and learning from negative behaviors helps shape your leadership style.
Becoming a good boss requires continuous learning, self-awareness, subject matter expertise, maturity, transparency, and accountability. Embracing challenges, fostering team confidence, and balancing competition are key to effective leadership.
In conclusion, bosses aren't inherently good or bad; their actions in specific situations determine their effectiveness. The higher the position, the greater the responsibility and accountability. Embrace the complexities of leadership, striving to be a fair, respectable boss in every interaction.
From India, Delhi
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I hope this article will give an insight into the psychology involved in the behavior of that person, whom you call your boss, and think at least twice before taking his calls after office hours.
That evening when you were enjoying a party with your family and friends, you received a call on your mobile, and the screen was showing, "Boss is calling." What did you do? Did you answer the call, or did you let it ring? Did you call back later, or did you send a message to check if there was anything urgent? Your response and the way you might react in these situations will be based on the type of boss you have and your relationship with him or her. Bosses cannot be categorized as good or bad; they oscillate between being good and bad based on the type of boss they are. It's like holding one end of a rope and swinging in the air; you can see the effect on the whole rope until the other end. Similarly, the behavior of your boss swings between goodness and badness.
Believe it or not, accept it or not, but in the corporate world, everyone is accountable to someone or is reporting to someone unless they are the owner of the company (in the case of a private limited company). In a public limited company, CEOs and Managing Directors are answerable to the Board of Directors. Hence, always remember that even your boss has a boss. No one is spared. Just as you analyze your boss on a scale of good, bad, or horrible, be sure that even your boss is analyzing his or her boss.
Before we proceed with our discussion, let's understand a few facts about your boss; this will help us understand the psychology and behavior of your boss.
1. Just like you, your boss is also a human being with emotions, aspirations, fears, insecurities, issues, and problems.
2. The basic motive for anyone to become a boss is to control. They want to control and manipulate the people under them just as their boss wants to control their behavior and movements.
3. Bosses can have various designations or positions such as Captain, Team Leader, Head, Manager, Vice President, Director, or CXO. The fact that they are above you and you are under them is proof enough that they are your boss and you are their subordinate.
4. Your boss is not only accountable and responsible for their performance, deliverables, and targets but also for yours.
5. Some of the roles of any boss include:
a. Control
b. Direct
c. Make decisions (not only for themselves but for the whole team and take responsibility)
d. Manage (resources, time, and people)
e. Train (pass on their knowledge through training their subordinates)
f. Lead (set examples and be a role model)
g. Coach (to improve the performances of their subordinates)
h. Mentor (pass on their legacy and experiences to the younger generation)
Your boss plays (or at least is expected to play) all these roles in their professional career as they move up in the hierarchy. However, many bosses in many companies are content with controlling, manipulating, and influencing without thinking beyond that.
First-time bosses are not born; even if you held positions like class representatives or school captains, starting at a corporate level is a different experience. Regardless of your past roles, in the corporate world, you begin a new journey that can last for 30 or 40 years.
Your career journey shapes your perception of bosses. As you progress and learn more about working in a corporate setting, you may start to view your boss negatively. You might feel your boss is biased, incompetent, or hindering your growth. This search for a like-minded boss can lead to job changes, overlooking the growth opportunities that come with challenging bosses.
Transitioning to a team leader role can be overwhelming, akin to winning a billion-dollar lottery without a plan. You might emulate your previous bosses' behaviors, enjoying your subordinates' struggles, inadvertently repeating the patterns you disliked in your past bosses.
First-time bosses often struggle with insecurity, becoming arrogant with newfound power. They may exhibit behaviors they once despised, perceiving their subordinates as lazy, disrespectful, or manipulative. This cycle perpetuates in the corporate world, creating a challenging work-life balance.
Promotions mark the beginning of a sandwich-type work-life, an ongoing cycle of leading a team while reporting to a boss. To advance, you must outperform your subordinates and support your boss's growth to eventually occupy their position. Striking this balance isn't easy, with many bosses failing to navigate this dynamic effectively.
Positive and negative motivations influence how we lead. Some emulate negative traits they witness, while others vow to lead differently. It's crucial to define your leadership style consciously, acknowledging shades of grey in every approach.
Personal experiences with bosses shape our understanding of leadership. Each boss, whether good or bad, imparts valuable lessons. Emulating positive traits and learning from negative behaviors helps shape your leadership style.
Becoming a good boss requires continuous learning, self-awareness, subject matter expertise, maturity, transparency, and accountability. Embracing challenges, fostering team confidence, and balancing competition are key to effective leadership.
In conclusion, bosses aren't inherently good or bad; their actions in specific situations determine their effectiveness. The higher the position, the greater the responsibility and accountability. Embrace the complexities of leadership, striving to be a fair, respectable boss in every interaction.
From India, Delhi
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