Kindly read the article by Dr. Fathi El-Nadi.
Understanding Boss Psychology
It is a fact that people lose jobs most often because they have not been successful in satisfying the demands of their boss. They lose out because of faulty boss relations; because they lack an understanding of "boss psychology." Of course, I do not mean here to suggest that the reader needs to turn into a psychologist in order to be able to deal with his/her boss, but to understand both the motives and personal traits that drive bosses' behaviors and attitudes.
By working "with" your boss, you can become free to move ahead and not become lost in the great unknown depths of the business world. Work becomes more pleasant, and you become more productive. You gain more satisfaction because you are able to record more achievements. It all becomes possible by using one of your greatest assets - your boss.
Here are a few tips to help you plan ahead on how to make yourself indispensable to your boss as part of his team; how to eliminate unnecessary daily conflicts that consume your energy in unproductive activities:
First - you need to change your concept of being a "boss" as well as being "bossed." These are different roles that can be enjoyed "if" well played. It requires understanding on the part of both the boss and the subordinate that one role cannot be effectively played without the other role being delicately played to complement the other. There are demands for each role, and these demands can only be completed if integration of the other role is accomplished. It is then, a give-and-take relationship that needs to be sustained if we want to create an attractive, motivating work environment.
Second - Avoid hostility, harshness, and friction with your boss. Differences in personalities will surely cause some frictions, but these should not be taken personally. They need to be interpreted against the situation that created them. If we believe that there are more than one way to create mutual understanding and "empathy." Uncontrolled "perception" would always result in misinterpretation of behavior, resulting in turn in more friction and conflict, which makes the workplace "a fighting arena" of winners and losers.
Third - Help your boss become a better manager. This means "accepting" the other with a belief that regardless of our being different, we still can work together. Personal defects are more felt among friends, but in the workplace, these can be accepted as long as they do not influence our performance. Do not try to make your boss look bad before others, especially his superiors. He/she has got more "power" to settle accounts making your life miserable. Learn how to "invest" in your boss by educating him/her without even hinting you do.
Fourth - Develop a daily "game plan" to make it possible to stress positive thoughts, good emotional balance, and be in charge of yourself. You need to "sell" your ideas without being "pushy" or aggressive. Your tool would be "persuasion," not "power." Remember, you cannot impose on your boss. He can.
Fifth - Put your entire group - in addition to your boss - to work for you. Make them feel that you are a valuable asset to the team. This relies mainly on your ability to exert effort to be helpful and cooperating whenever you can. Enhancing your interpersonal skills of communication and negotiation would help you become most effective in this area.
Sixth - Have an eye on becoming a boss yourself. Invest in yourself. Do not leave a chance to learn from your mistakes as from your successes. Always ask yourself: "What are the things that I do not like in my boss, and that I am going to avoid when I become one?"
Your biggest challenge though would be dealing with an insensitive boss. A boss who is too results-oriented. Bosses of that kind are usually inconsiderate of their people's needs. You need to work on winning ways to gain their attention and recognition. Allow enough time and work systematically to develop an interactive relationship with a boss of that kind until you win his/her respect.
Regards,
Hassan
From Pakistan, Islamabad
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23Understanding Boss Psychology
It is a fact that people lose jobs most often because they have not been successful in satisfying the demands of their boss. They lose out because of faulty boss relations; because they lack an understanding of "boss psychology." Of course, I do not mean here to suggest that the reader needs to turn into a psychologist in order to be able to deal with his/her boss, but to understand both the motives and personal traits that drive bosses' behaviors and attitudes.
By working "with" your boss, you can become free to move ahead and not become lost in the great unknown depths of the business world. Work becomes more pleasant, and you become more productive. You gain more satisfaction because you are able to record more achievements. It all becomes possible by using one of your greatest assets - your boss.
Here are a few tips to help you plan ahead on how to make yourself indispensable to your boss as part of his team; how to eliminate unnecessary daily conflicts that consume your energy in unproductive activities:
First - you need to change your concept of being a "boss" as well as being "bossed." These are different roles that can be enjoyed "if" well played. It requires understanding on the part of both the boss and the subordinate that one role cannot be effectively played without the other role being delicately played to complement the other. There are demands for each role, and these demands can only be completed if integration of the other role is accomplished. It is then, a give-and-take relationship that needs to be sustained if we want to create an attractive, motivating work environment.
Second - Avoid hostility, harshness, and friction with your boss. Differences in personalities will surely cause some frictions, but these should not be taken personally. They need to be interpreted against the situation that created them. If we believe that there are more than one way to create mutual understanding and "empathy." Uncontrolled "perception" would always result in misinterpretation of behavior, resulting in turn in more friction and conflict, which makes the workplace "a fighting arena" of winners and losers.
Third - Help your boss become a better manager. This means "accepting" the other with a belief that regardless of our being different, we still can work together. Personal defects are more felt among friends, but in the workplace, these can be accepted as long as they do not influence our performance. Do not try to make your boss look bad before others, especially his superiors. He/she has got more "power" to settle accounts making your life miserable. Learn how to "invest" in your boss by educating him/her without even hinting you do.
Fourth - Develop a daily "game plan" to make it possible to stress positive thoughts, good emotional balance, and be in charge of yourself. You need to "sell" your ideas without being "pushy" or aggressive. Your tool would be "persuasion," not "power." Remember, you cannot impose on your boss. He can.
Fifth - Put your entire group - in addition to your boss - to work for you. Make them feel that you are a valuable asset to the team. This relies mainly on your ability to exert effort to be helpful and cooperating whenever you can. Enhancing your interpersonal skills of communication and negotiation would help you become most effective in this area.
Sixth - Have an eye on becoming a boss yourself. Invest in yourself. Do not leave a chance to learn from your mistakes as from your successes. Always ask yourself: "What are the things that I do not like in my boss, and that I am going to avoid when I become one?"
Your biggest challenge though would be dealing with an insensitive boss. A boss who is too results-oriented. Bosses of that kind are usually inconsiderate of their people's needs. You need to work on winning ways to gain their attention and recognition. Allow enough time and work systematically to develop an interactive relationship with a boss of that kind until you win his/her respect.
Regards,
Hassan
From Pakistan, Islamabad
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Hi friends,
I agree with your points, but what should one do if something wrong happens unintentionally, resulting in the boss forming a new/wrong perception about you and other team members exacerbating the situation?
Monika
From India, Delhi
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I agree with your points, but what should one do if something wrong happens unintentionally, resulting in the boss forming a new/wrong perception about you and other team members exacerbating the situation?
Monika
From India, Delhi
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Hi Monika,
It's some employees' bad luck that he/she is in the bad books of his/her boss. In most organizations, these situations are often followed by teasing or leg-pulling in many cases. The best thing you can do is to focus on your work and tasks. That's it. 😄
From Pakistan, Islamabad
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It's some employees' bad luck that he/she is in the bad books of his/her boss. In most organizations, these situations are often followed by teasing or leg-pulling in many cases. The best thing you can do is to focus on your work and tasks. That's it. 😄
From Pakistan, Islamabad
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