I have been working as an HR professional for almost 6 months, but my co-workers do not respect me and treat me as a lower-ranking individual. The reasons for this are as follows:
1. I am too kind to them.
2. I lack the ability to reason effectively.
3. I have a lack of information.
4. There is a maximization of waste.
5. I do not know how to handle certain situations.
What are the things I need to improve on?
From Philippines, undefined
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1. I am too kind to them.
2. I lack the ability to reason effectively.
3. I have a lack of information.
4. There is a maximization of waste.
5. I do not know how to handle certain situations.
What are the things I need to improve on?
From Philippines, undefined
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Dear Jeany,
While you have described the situation you are in, you have not mentioned your designation, nature of your industry, whom you report to, your qualifications, etc. You have identified your weaknesses for the situation prevailing in your company. But what about your strengths? While overcoming shortcomings, you need to leverage your strengths as well. Anyway, suggestions on overcoming your shortcomings are as below:
1. I'm too kind with them
Reply: - Don't be unnecessarily kind or strict. Knowing when to enforce stringently is a subjective decision that must be made on a case-by-case basis. Meanwhile, master assertion skills. Always ensure fairness to both individuals and the organization. Your kindness should not come at the expense of the organization's interests. Strive for the organization's well-being.
2. I don't know how to reason out
Reply: - The definition of reasoning out is "to determine or conclude something by logical thinking." Therefore, whenever you speak or write, provide adequate references to case studies, laws, acts, etc. Do not make statements without evidence. In your communication, verify the correct usage of definitions, terminologies, etc.
3. Lack of information
Reply: - Enhance your subject awareness. Preparedness is key to success. Therefore, invest your time in preparation. Additionally, when you make a mistake, record what happened and why. Consult with subject matter experts and engage in discussions on professional matters.
4. Maximization of waste
Reply: - Reduce wastefulness. Identify technological tools that can enhance productivity. Begin measuring the turnaround time of various processes. Develop analytical skills to optimize resources.
5. Do not know how to handle a situation
Reply: - [i]Learn principles of communication along with negotiation and conflict resolution skills. Implement these skills and evaluate your performance, noting areas of strength and areas needing improvement.
Final comments: - [i]Is there an opportunity to be mentored by a good mentor? Seek feedback and act upon it. Believe in yourself. Self-transformation is within your reach. Success equals self-belief plus efforts in the right direction.
Thanks,
Dinesh Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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8032While you have described the situation you are in, you have not mentioned your designation, nature of your industry, whom you report to, your qualifications, etc. You have identified your weaknesses for the situation prevailing in your company. But what about your strengths? While overcoming shortcomings, you need to leverage your strengths as well. Anyway, suggestions on overcoming your shortcomings are as below:
1. I'm too kind with them
Reply: - Don't be unnecessarily kind or strict. Knowing when to enforce stringently is a subjective decision that must be made on a case-by-case basis. Meanwhile, master assertion skills. Always ensure fairness to both individuals and the organization. Your kindness should not come at the expense of the organization's interests. Strive for the organization's well-being.
2. I don't know how to reason out
Reply: - The definition of reasoning out is "to determine or conclude something by logical thinking." Therefore, whenever you speak or write, provide adequate references to case studies, laws, acts, etc. Do not make statements without evidence. In your communication, verify the correct usage of definitions, terminologies, etc.
3. Lack of information
Reply: - Enhance your subject awareness. Preparedness is key to success. Therefore, invest your time in preparation. Additionally, when you make a mistake, record what happened and why. Consult with subject matter experts and engage in discussions on professional matters.
4. Maximization of waste
Reply: - Reduce wastefulness. Identify technological tools that can enhance productivity. Begin measuring the turnaround time of various processes. Develop analytical skills to optimize resources.
5. Do not know how to handle a situation
Reply: - [i]Learn principles of communication along with negotiation and conflict resolution skills. Implement these skills and evaluate your performance, noting areas of strength and areas needing improvement.
Final comments: - [i]Is there an opportunity to be mentored by a good mentor? Seek feedback and act upon it. Believe in yourself. Self-transformation is within your reach. Success equals self-belief plus efforts in the right direction.
Thanks,
Dinesh Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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Thank you so much I will put this in my notebook as my reminder to improve and to be a better worker at the same time in myself
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Dear Jeany,
I understand your situation. You will get respect if you start working together with your colleague on:
1) Selected issues in which he is interested first.
2) Normally, colleagues will be busy doing things they like, so find out and ask if they need any support in resolving or improving things.
3) Acknowledge the good things he has done and give sincere appreciations.
4) He must be responsible for some activities; sit with him to support if he is struggling, or to review and praise him for the good things.
I followed all of the above steps and did not face any issues when I was new to the organization.
From India, Bengaluru
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I understand your situation. You will get respect if you start working together with your colleague on:
1) Selected issues in which he is interested first.
2) Normally, colleagues will be busy doing things they like, so find out and ask if they need any support in resolving or improving things.
3) Acknowledge the good things he has done and give sincere appreciations.
4) He must be responsible for some activities; sit with him to support if he is struggling, or to review and praise him for the good things.
I followed all of the above steps and did not face any issues when I was new to the organization.
From India, Bengaluru
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Dear Friend,
The best thing in life is learning and knowing yourself. You are good enough; know yourself. SWOT (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats) are important to the organization, goals, and your progress.
1) Take a note, better a diary, write the events periodically.
2) Wherever you are misguided, write it in a different color. Whenever you are given the right direction, put it in another color. When and where you are making mistakes, either consciously or unconsciously, put it in pencil (to erase later).
3) If written in pencil, correct it. If written in different colors, take time to correct it.
4) Always, every night before going to bed, take some time to reflect, chew it over like a cow, and understand your progress. Bring in good things.
5) Never succumb to pressure. Take your time, even if you are at the lowest rung in life. Give more time for progress; limited time or no time leads to destruction.
6) Read more books related to industry, motivation, speeches... You will become a Pioneer.
Best of Luck.
From India, Arcot
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The best thing in life is learning and knowing yourself. You are good enough; know yourself. SWOT (Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities, and Threats) are important to the organization, goals, and your progress.
1) Take a note, better a diary, write the events periodically.
2) Wherever you are misguided, write it in a different color. Whenever you are given the right direction, put it in another color. When and where you are making mistakes, either consciously or unconsciously, put it in pencil (to erase later).
3) If written in pencil, correct it. If written in different colors, take time to correct it.
4) Always, every night before going to bed, take some time to reflect, chew it over like a cow, and understand your progress. Bring in good things.
5) Never succumb to pressure. Take your time, even if you are at the lowest rung in life. Give more time for progress; limited time or no time leads to destruction.
6) Read more books related to industry, motivation, speeches... You will become a Pioneer.
Best of Luck.
From India, Arcot
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Dear Zian,
Anyone who knows their weaknesses may be a legend in converting them into strengths. Kindly follow the guidelines provided by our mentors. Best of luck!
Respected Mentors,
Thank you very much for your posts.
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Anyone who knows their weaknesses may be a legend in converting them into strengths. Kindly follow the guidelines provided by our mentors. Best of luck!
Respected Mentors,
Thank you very much for your posts.
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Respect, that is what all of us strive for.. But the funny thing with respect is that it doesn’t come attached with any designation, post or position. It must be earned.
If you look up a dictionary, “Respect” means “a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements”.
If you notice, another thing about the definition, you will realize that ability, qualities and achievements in your profession are built on the foundation called “Knowledge”. In my view, the lack of knowledge is one of the basic reasons for this despairing feeling of inadequacy.
BUT, merely having “Knowledge” is not sufficient, you must LEARN TO APPLY THAT KNOWLEDGE to practical situations thereby developing your “ABILITIES”, Successful application of your abilities gives you “Achievements” and a combination of both gives you “professional qualities” that others look up to. In case you are unsuccessful in applying your abilities, do not despair, it will just improve your “KNOWLEDGE” and refine your “ABILITIES”.
Then there is the aspect of “Personal Qualities”; are you trustworthy, are you reliable, are you a gossip-monger, how do you conduct yourself, how you dress, your etiquettes, how you talk, and so many more qualities…
Gaining knowledge is a lifelong process, and developing the “Abilities”, “Qualities” and “Achievement” needs constant updates to your knowledge base and lots of hard work, persistence and dedication.
One can begin with self-awareness, for which SWOT Analysis as Mr. Gopinath Varahamurthi has already brought out, is a very useful tool. Self SWOT Analysis is easier said than done, one must be dispassionate about it and have courage to do it, because it can be quote revealing about oneself. But if you do it successfully, you get a clear-cut idea about how to channelize your efforts towards becoming a better professional.
(A word of caution about gaining KNOWLEDGE: With free “data” available on the world wide web, including this forum and many like this, the habit of reading reference books, professional publications etc have completely vanished… notwithstanding all this free advice and guidance, as Mr. Dinesh Divekar very rightly brought out in his reply - always, always, always go back to the books, the bare acts, the case laws, read & re-read the original stuff…)
All the best..
From India, Kochi
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If you look up a dictionary, “Respect” means “a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievements”.
If you notice, another thing about the definition, you will realize that ability, qualities and achievements in your profession are built on the foundation called “Knowledge”. In my view, the lack of knowledge is one of the basic reasons for this despairing feeling of inadequacy.
BUT, merely having “Knowledge” is not sufficient, you must LEARN TO APPLY THAT KNOWLEDGE to practical situations thereby developing your “ABILITIES”, Successful application of your abilities gives you “Achievements” and a combination of both gives you “professional qualities” that others look up to. In case you are unsuccessful in applying your abilities, do not despair, it will just improve your “KNOWLEDGE” and refine your “ABILITIES”.
Then there is the aspect of “Personal Qualities”; are you trustworthy, are you reliable, are you a gossip-monger, how do you conduct yourself, how you dress, your etiquettes, how you talk, and so many more qualities…
Gaining knowledge is a lifelong process, and developing the “Abilities”, “Qualities” and “Achievement” needs constant updates to your knowledge base and lots of hard work, persistence and dedication.
One can begin with self-awareness, for which SWOT Analysis as Mr. Gopinath Varahamurthi has already brought out, is a very useful tool. Self SWOT Analysis is easier said than done, one must be dispassionate about it and have courage to do it, because it can be quote revealing about oneself. But if you do it successfully, you get a clear-cut idea about how to channelize your efforts towards becoming a better professional.
(A word of caution about gaining KNOWLEDGE: With free “data” available on the world wide web, including this forum and many like this, the habit of reading reference books, professional publications etc have completely vanished… notwithstanding all this free advice and guidance, as Mr. Dinesh Divekar very rightly brought out in his reply - always, always, always go back to the books, the bare acts, the case laws, read & re-read the original stuff…)
All the best..
From India, Kochi
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