Dear Seniors,
How to face co-worker domination due to her 15 years of experience in the same office under the same boss? She is a female without much knowledge about management, but she makes the boss nod his head for her silly, useless decisions. After all, she is basically a diploma holder but she interferes with the work of MBA, BE, and BTech professionals inside the office just because she has been working there for 15 long years. The boss believes she is the only loyal worker.
How to deal with her? Suggestions and advice are most welcome.
Thanks, Prakash.S
From India, Madras
How to face co-worker domination due to her 15 years of experience in the same office under the same boss? She is a female without much knowledge about management, but she makes the boss nod his head for her silly, useless decisions. After all, she is basically a diploma holder but she interferes with the work of MBA, BE, and BTech professionals inside the office just because she has been working there for 15 long years. The boss believes she is the only loyal worker.
How to deal with her? Suggestions and advice are most welcome.
Thanks, Prakash.S
From India, Madras
There is a saying, "You cannot afford to be in the lake and also be an enemy of the crocodile at the same time." Being a newcomer, it won't be easy to get rid of her before you make your strong footing.
Your options:
1) Bear with her and believe in fate.
2) Quit the job and ensure you don't find her clone in another organization.
3) Understand her and why she makes silly, useless decisions. Learn if there is something more behind her decisions with practical experience of 15 years, which you, as a newcomer, might be lacking. I guess her decisions would obviously be affecting others in the organization apart from yourself. If you stand united, then divided we fall.
Regards,
From India, Mumbai
Your options:
1) Bear with her and believe in fate.
2) Quit the job and ensure you don't find her clone in another organization.
3) Understand her and why she makes silly, useless decisions. Learn if there is something more behind her decisions with practical experience of 15 years, which you, as a newcomer, might be lacking. I guess her decisions would obviously be affecting others in the organization apart from yourself. If you stand united, then divided we fall.
Regards,
From India, Mumbai
Greetings,
In an organization, one finds their way to the top through experiences they have no clue how to deal with! This is one such incident that will help you grow.
Are you in a decision-making role where you have the authority to decide upon her existence in the organization? If not, here are my suggestions for you to consider:
Consider the effort and the hardships this senior had to put up with just to maintain the role she has. Find out more about her career path, with full focus on the learning she gained.
Identify her mentors and find out the skills and competencies they helped her groom.
Observe every situation where she loses her temper. Find out what sets her off the handle.
Identify what she appreciates the most. Even if she doesn't appreciate anybody, there are many areas where she wants to grow and tries to learn them quickly before others.
She is an influencer and an ally. Her strongest area is to connect with the power centers. Learn it from her.
Once your study on her strengths is over, acknowledge all of them, not just through words but actions. She need not respond, if at all positively to it. This is your training on getting better with your emotional quotient.
Lastly, keep yourself motivated. Find out what excites and inspires you the most and do it regularly. This is vital, as when you push yourself beyond your limits, it's normal and natural for you to grow toxic. Avoid every negative pattern in your behavior and continue growing smarter than ever!
God bless you. Wish you all the best!
From India, Mumbai
In an organization, one finds their way to the top through experiences they have no clue how to deal with! This is one such incident that will help you grow.
Are you in a decision-making role where you have the authority to decide upon her existence in the organization? If not, here are my suggestions for you to consider:
Consider the effort and the hardships this senior had to put up with just to maintain the role she has. Find out more about her career path, with full focus on the learning she gained.
Identify her mentors and find out the skills and competencies they helped her groom.
Observe every situation where she loses her temper. Find out what sets her off the handle.
Identify what she appreciates the most. Even if she doesn't appreciate anybody, there are many areas where she wants to grow and tries to learn them quickly before others.
She is an influencer and an ally. Her strongest area is to connect with the power centers. Learn it from her.
Once your study on her strengths is over, acknowledge all of them, not just through words but actions. She need not respond, if at all positively to it. This is your training on getting better with your emotional quotient.
Lastly, keep yourself motivated. Find out what excites and inspires you the most and do it regularly. This is vital, as when you push yourself beyond your limits, it's normal and natural for you to grow toxic. Avoid every negative pattern in your behavior and continue growing smarter than ever!
God bless you. Wish you all the best!
From India, Mumbai
Hi,
I do accept the existence of such senior employees in organizations who have succeeded in making their boss dance to their tunes. But, you must look into the PROBLEM - FIRST.
Kindly share your EXACT (REALISTIC) PROBLEM (your perception) associated with the senior-most employee in your organization.
If it has affected you, kindly let us know what kind of loss you have incurred.
I am sure, it's not about the XYZ EMPLOYEE (irrespective of her seniority or position in the hierarchy). It's all about your INTERPRETATION & PERCEPTION.
Hence, I request you to focus on the problem (interpret accurately with a high perception level), but not on the HUMAN BEING.
Your QUALIFICATIONS may not support you to make DECISIONS or HANDLE SITUATIONS or MANAGE THINGS BETTER THAN EXPECTED or DEVELOP A PROCESS FOR FURTHER IMPROVEMENT, unless you have been through a STAGE where you have spent SUFFICIENT TIME and DEALT WITH VARIOUS PROBLEMS/ISSUES/PROCESSES, etc., that must be REALISTIC IN NATURE. In simple words, it is all about the
1) EXPERIENCE (knowledge/information) GAINED OVER A PERIOD OF TIME,
2) MATURITY (LOGICAL/ANALYTICAL/CALCULATIVE) LEVEL POSSESSED BY AN INTELLECTUAL WHO CAN DEMONSTRATE THE COMPETENCIES OF A STAR PERFORMER.
Please share your problem, and I will present a solution to your PERCEPTION. You need to solve it before it takes you for a long ride.
With profound regards
From India, Chennai
I do accept the existence of such senior employees in organizations who have succeeded in making their boss dance to their tunes. But, you must look into the PROBLEM - FIRST.
Kindly share your EXACT (REALISTIC) PROBLEM (your perception) associated with the senior-most employee in your organization.
If it has affected you, kindly let us know what kind of loss you have incurred.
I am sure, it's not about the XYZ EMPLOYEE (irrespective of her seniority or position in the hierarchy). It's all about your INTERPRETATION & PERCEPTION.
Hence, I request you to focus on the problem (interpret accurately with a high perception level), but not on the HUMAN BEING.
Your QUALIFICATIONS may not support you to make DECISIONS or HANDLE SITUATIONS or MANAGE THINGS BETTER THAN EXPECTED or DEVELOP A PROCESS FOR FURTHER IMPROVEMENT, unless you have been through a STAGE where you have spent SUFFICIENT TIME and DEALT WITH VARIOUS PROBLEMS/ISSUES/PROCESSES, etc., that must be REALISTIC IN NATURE. In simple words, it is all about the
1) EXPERIENCE (knowledge/information) GAINED OVER A PERIOD OF TIME,
2) MATURITY (LOGICAL/ANALYTICAL/CALCULATIVE) LEVEL POSSESSED BY AN INTELLECTUAL WHO CAN DEMONSTRATE THE COMPETENCIES OF A STAR PERFORMER.
Please share your problem, and I will present a solution to your PERCEPTION. You need to solve it before it takes you for a long ride.
With profound regards
From India, Chennai
Dear Prakash,
Boost her ego so much that she gets carried away. Make her give all the wrong advice to management, provide incorrect information about everything, but ensure that such information is verbal in nature only.
Cause her to make mistakes, indirectly causing pain and problems for people down the line. When she makes a mistake and puts people or the company in trouble, you should step in to clean up the mess. Do this a couple of times, and your popularity in the company will increase. Eventually, she will be sidelined.
Learn about your enemy, understand them, and set traps they would walk into. Devise methods and ideas daily, and enjoy her fallacies. Politics is a dirty game, but if that's the only way one can survive, then proceed without an ounce of heartache.
Regards,
Octavious
From India, Mumbai
Boost her ego so much that she gets carried away. Make her give all the wrong advice to management, provide incorrect information about everything, but ensure that such information is verbal in nature only.
Cause her to make mistakes, indirectly causing pain and problems for people down the line. When she makes a mistake and puts people or the company in trouble, you should step in to clean up the mess. Do this a couple of times, and your popularity in the company will increase. Eventually, she will be sidelined.
Learn about your enemy, understand them, and set traps they would walk into. Devise methods and ideas daily, and enjoy her fallacies. Politics is a dirty game, but if that's the only way one can survive, then proceed without an ounce of heartache.
Regards,
Octavious
From India, Mumbai
You have to understand that this way has been successful for her for the last so many years. It's has become her working style, tried and tested, accepted by the Boss, who has also become accustomed to the same. You have to work very hard, smart, and diplomatically until you match the level of loyalty and dependability from the Boss's point of view. "To understand all is to forgive all." Understand her majboori/insecurity behind this. Never take it personally. It's part and parcel of non-professionally managed setups everywhere, especially in small and medium-scale industries.
From United States, New York
From United States, New York
Think this way: why can't you extract work from her? Understand her requirements, analyze the same, make a strategy, and have her work for it. By doing so, you will concentrate on developmental tasks instead of breaking your head over this issue.
From India, Coimbatore
From India, Coimbatore
"To get what you want, STOP doing what isn't working" - Dennis Weaver.
Take a different approach. Look at the world from her point of view. What are her fears, her anxieties? How have the last 15 years shaped her beliefs about the workplace? Why is the boss listening to her? You may gain a different perspective.
Be the change.
Cheers
From India, Madras
Take a different approach. Look at the world from her point of view. What are her fears, her anxieties? How have the last 15 years shaped her beliefs about the workplace? Why is the boss listening to her? You may gain a different perspective.
Be the change.
Cheers
From India, Madras
Dear Vivek,
As per him/her, if you think that somebody has been working for more than 15 years in an organization, it truly has an influence on everything. If you want to work, then bear it and work hard. You can take the driving seat.
Thank you.
From India, Jaipur
As per him/her, if you think that somebody has been working for more than 15 years in an organization, it truly has an influence on everything. If you want to work, then bear it and work hard. You can take the driving seat.
Thank you.
From India, Jaipur
God, it seems like there is more politics and less work nowadays. See if this worker of yours is causing you trouble intentionally; it must be coming from some insecurity she has on her end. Change your attitude, have faith in yourself and your skills - please do not gratify her by reacting, that is just what she wants. Forget her and concentrate on your work - believe me, things will settle down after some time.
From India, Mumbai
From India, Mumbai
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