Hi friends, I am sharing my feelings through this site. My communication is very poor, so I am not standing anywhere in my life. I am a 30-year-old man. In the meantime, I have no job. Every time my communication comes in the way of my success because whenever I go for an accounts interview, my bad communication shows up and hinders my success. I am very frustrated. Please tell me how I can improve my communication and writing skills.
Thanks & regards,
Amit
From India, Delhi
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Thanks & regards,
Amit
From India, Delhi
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Dear Amit,
Go as per the advice given by our Citehrian, but above all, you should be glad that you have at least understood your weak point. It's great that you know that your communication is your weakness. I suggest a few points which you can practice:
a) Be a good listener.
b) Take your time to speak.
c) Speak slowly, in the style of Mr. Vajpayee (Sorry, I mean speak slowly).
d) Use other modes of communication, such as facial expressions, etc.
For writing skills:
a) Write small and simple sentences; avoid long and flowery language.
b) Ask your friend to rectify the errors.
Try these few methods.
Jitendra
From India, Haora
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4Go as per the advice given by our Citehrian, but above all, you should be glad that you have at least understood your weak point. It's great that you know that your communication is your weakness. I suggest a few points which you can practice:
a) Be a good listener.
b) Take your time to speak.
c) Speak slowly, in the style of Mr. Vajpayee (Sorry, I mean speak slowly).
d) Use other modes of communication, such as facial expressions, etc.
For writing skills:
a) Write small and simple sentences; avoid long and flowery language.
b) Ask your friend to rectify the errors.
Try these few methods.
Jitendra
From India, Haora
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I agree with you, Jitendra.
More than anything else, he has to practice with someone who can correct him for his mistakes. Don't wait to take time out to practice; practice all the time. You will run out of things to talk about; create your talk.
Start by talking about whatever you see, describe them.
Some reading on grammar can help. Observation will surely help, but beware, it may confuse you also, like watching TV channels where every other individual has their way of speaking.
I guess I agree with Jitendra when he says speak slowly; that is very important. Let the thought come to your mind before letting it out on your tongue. A slow but constant flow of thought is essential.
Another thing is to learn to keep focus while speaking. For example, when you are speaking and have to look someone in the eye, you may get nervous and not be able to talk further or make mistakes. A good exercise to overcome this problem is talking to a mirror. Practice it; it is really helpful. Look into your eyes and practice not losing focus on what you are saying. In the beginning, it will be difficult, but you will get it with practice.
Now understand that no matter what effort you make, it may all fetch you no result in the absence of the following:
1. Passionate Intent
2. Observation + introspection + retrospection (While and after reading and talking to others, or observe others talking / TV watching, etc. Dictionary use is a must, as a matter of fact, you should see a dictionary to check all the words you do not know even in this write-up).
3. Practice all the time
4. Create talks; don't give up saying or thinking that you do not have anything to talk about.
5. Mentor - who can correct you.
6. Some reading (10 words a day is an over-ambition if you do not crazily, passionately want to learn, even if you learn just 2 words a day, use them in your day-to-day speech, and can continue to do so for a year you will know 365*2=730 new words in a year that will change you as a person and an English speaker).
7. Patience - this will not happen overnight, the only quick change people can see in you is that you have started trying -- that can happen right after you read this. but the real change in the way you speak will be observed in at least three months that too if you are passionate.
8. Start - First immediate change should come right now... I mean right now... my friend if you fail to start you fail to learn.. start now... give yourself some time and it's very easy.
9. Motivation - many times you will feel things like, "It's okay," "What if I don't know English," "I can't do this," "It demands too much effort," "It is very confusing," or at the very thought of making an effort to learn English if you start looking for excuses to avoid it. Tell yourself this is not tough. Each day takes you closer, and a day missed takes you five behind. Don't leave it.
10. Practice - Our tongue is used to producing Hindi sounds, and when we try to speak English, we get stuck while saying what we want to, as the tongue is trying to produce a new sound that it has not made in Hindi.
Write a few sentences that you need to use more frequently, make about 15 of such sentences and say them over and over again (the idea is not to learn the sentence or to cram it, the idea is to make the tongue get acquainted with the new or strange sounds of a new language).
Try, and with a focused persistent effort, all of us have learned it. Big Deal!!!
You can do it too.
Regards,
Gagan Sharma
From United States, Irvine
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More than anything else, he has to practice with someone who can correct him for his mistakes. Don't wait to take time out to practice; practice all the time. You will run out of things to talk about; create your talk.
Start by talking about whatever you see, describe them.
Some reading on grammar can help. Observation will surely help, but beware, it may confuse you also, like watching TV channels where every other individual has their way of speaking.
I guess I agree with Jitendra when he says speak slowly; that is very important. Let the thought come to your mind before letting it out on your tongue. A slow but constant flow of thought is essential.
Another thing is to learn to keep focus while speaking. For example, when you are speaking and have to look someone in the eye, you may get nervous and not be able to talk further or make mistakes. A good exercise to overcome this problem is talking to a mirror. Practice it; it is really helpful. Look into your eyes and practice not losing focus on what you are saying. In the beginning, it will be difficult, but you will get it with practice.
Now understand that no matter what effort you make, it may all fetch you no result in the absence of the following:
1. Passionate Intent
2. Observation + introspection + retrospection (While and after reading and talking to others, or observe others talking / TV watching, etc. Dictionary use is a must, as a matter of fact, you should see a dictionary to check all the words you do not know even in this write-up).
3. Practice all the time
4. Create talks; don't give up saying or thinking that you do not have anything to talk about.
5. Mentor - who can correct you.
6. Some reading (10 words a day is an over-ambition if you do not crazily, passionately want to learn, even if you learn just 2 words a day, use them in your day-to-day speech, and can continue to do so for a year you will know 365*2=730 new words in a year that will change you as a person and an English speaker).
7. Patience - this will not happen overnight, the only quick change people can see in you is that you have started trying -- that can happen right after you read this. but the real change in the way you speak will be observed in at least three months that too if you are passionate.
8. Start - First immediate change should come right now... I mean right now... my friend if you fail to start you fail to learn.. start now... give yourself some time and it's very easy.
9. Motivation - many times you will feel things like, "It's okay," "What if I don't know English," "I can't do this," "It demands too much effort," "It is very confusing," or at the very thought of making an effort to learn English if you start looking for excuses to avoid it. Tell yourself this is not tough. Each day takes you closer, and a day missed takes you five behind. Don't leave it.
10. Practice - Our tongue is used to producing Hindi sounds, and when we try to speak English, we get stuck while saying what we want to, as the tongue is trying to produce a new sound that it has not made in Hindi.
Write a few sentences that you need to use more frequently, make about 15 of such sentences and say them over and over again (the idea is not to learn the sentence or to cram it, the idea is to make the tongue get acquainted with the new or strange sounds of a new language).
Try, and with a focused persistent effort, all of us have learned it. Big Deal!!!
You can do it too.
Regards,
Gagan Sharma
From United States, Irvine
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Dear Amit,
Hi, this is Naveen. First, I want to convey that you shouldn't think that you will not understand English. Consider this as a new skill that I want to learn, similar to how, in our childhood, we didn't know how to ride a bicycle, but now it's different. Similarly, with the English language.
We already know 70% of the words in English; the only thing is that we don't know how to articulate them. To address this, if you follow these steps, it may help you:
1. Start by reading some editorial columns in English newspapers. Purchase a dictionary. When you come across a difficult word while reading, refer to the dictionary, make a note of it, and try to use it as frequently as possible.
2. Always try to speak in English.
3. Watch some English news.
4. Read children's storybooks.
All the best!
Regards,
Naveen Kumar K.
From India, Hyderabad
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Hi, this is Naveen. First, I want to convey that you shouldn't think that you will not understand English. Consider this as a new skill that I want to learn, similar to how, in our childhood, we didn't know how to ride a bicycle, but now it's different. Similarly, with the English language.
We already know 70% of the words in English; the only thing is that we don't know how to articulate them. To address this, if you follow these steps, it may help you:
1. Start by reading some editorial columns in English newspapers. Purchase a dictionary. When you come across a difficult word while reading, refer to the dictionary, make a note of it, and try to use it as frequently as possible.
2. Always try to speak in English.
3. Watch some English news.
4. Read children's storybooks.
All the best!
Regards,
Naveen Kumar K.
From India, Hyderabad
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Dear Amit,
I am impressed by the way you have accepted your weakness. Good communication is, of course, very important for progress in life, and in today's world, English has become the key criterion. But, my dear friend, this is not the last language in the world. What I feel is wherever you go, communicate your message with confidence, show your passion to work; every interviewer does understand Hindi. What you need to do is to show your confidence, passion, and determination to learn English if the job demands it in front of the interviewer. This will be an added advantage. There are people who have achieved success without initial knowledge of English, and of course, we keep learning as we grow up.
But that doesn't mean you should stop thinking of learning English. Make a decent start, and the rest of the things have already been suggested by my friends above.
From India, New Delhi
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I am impressed by the way you have accepted your weakness. Good communication is, of course, very important for progress in life, and in today's world, English has become the key criterion. But, my dear friend, this is not the last language in the world. What I feel is wherever you go, communicate your message with confidence, show your passion to work; every interviewer does understand Hindi. What you need to do is to show your confidence, passion, and determination to learn English if the job demands it in front of the interviewer. This will be an added advantage. There are people who have achieved success without initial knowledge of English, and of course, we keep learning as we grow up.
But that doesn't mean you should stop thinking of learning English. Make a decent start, and the rest of the things have already been suggested by my friends above.
From India, New Delhi
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Dear Amit,
Everyone has a learning phase, and so it's you now. No matter what someone thinks, tell them beforehand that you are in a learning phase and open to accepting any corrections. Secondly, don't feel bad that you are struggling with communication; you are proficient in writing without mistakes, which means you can write but may not speak at an expert level. So, no worries, talk as much as you can in English and correct yourself.
Within a month, you will see yourself doing much better than before. The links mentioned by our friends above are sufficient for you to proceed further. All the best, buddy. You will become the best communicator.
Regards,
Manju
From India, Warangal
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Everyone has a learning phase, and so it's you now. No matter what someone thinks, tell them beforehand that you are in a learning phase and open to accepting any corrections. Secondly, don't feel bad that you are struggling with communication; you are proficient in writing without mistakes, which means you can write but may not speak at an expert level. So, no worries, talk as much as you can in English and correct yourself.
Within a month, you will see yourself doing much better than before. The links mentioned by our friends above are sufficient for you to proceed further. All the best, buddy. You will become the best communicator.
Regards,
Manju
From India, Warangal
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Speak English with full confidence within ten days.
Hi friends, I agree with all your comments on this topic, but I'll assure you that you can speak English with full confidence within ten days.
If you do the following for continuous 10 days very seriously, you can do it.
Day 1. Read the newspaper aloud (Only the headlines from page 1 to the last page) four times.
Day 2. Slowly read the newspaper aloud (First 10 pages with full content, excluding classifieds) two times.
Day 3. Slowly read the newspaper aloud (again First 10 pages with full content) two times.
Day 4. Slowly read the newspaper aloud (again First 10 pages with full content) two times.
Day 5. Slowly read the newspaper aloud (again First 10 pages with full content) two times.
By now, anyone could read the passage with correct pronunciation.
Day 6. Slowly read the newspaper aloud. Now choose a passage and try to explain it to yourself in the mirror, thinking that you are in front of a third person.
Day 7. Slowly read the newspaper aloud for four hours; you can split the time duration.
Day 8. Slowly repeat what others say just like a parrot. Read the newspaper aloud for four hours; you can split the time duration.
Day 9. Slowly repeat what others say just like a parrot. Read the newspaper aloud for four hours; you can split the time duration.
Day 10. Think that you are abroad and the only language you can speak is English for communication. So talk with everyone in English and feel that you are the master in it and don't bother what others say because they are not going to help you in your interview.
This is not for anyone in particular, but this can be practiced by anyone to improve their English communication. You can even download tongue twisters and practice that too for good pronunciation. Cheers! :-)
Senior HR,
Tony
From India, Madras
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Hi friends, I agree with all your comments on this topic, but I'll assure you that you can speak English with full confidence within ten days.
If you do the following for continuous 10 days very seriously, you can do it.
Day 1. Read the newspaper aloud (Only the headlines from page 1 to the last page) four times.
Day 2. Slowly read the newspaper aloud (First 10 pages with full content, excluding classifieds) two times.
Day 3. Slowly read the newspaper aloud (again First 10 pages with full content) two times.
Day 4. Slowly read the newspaper aloud (again First 10 pages with full content) two times.
Day 5. Slowly read the newspaper aloud (again First 10 pages with full content) two times.
By now, anyone could read the passage with correct pronunciation.
Day 6. Slowly read the newspaper aloud. Now choose a passage and try to explain it to yourself in the mirror, thinking that you are in front of a third person.
Day 7. Slowly read the newspaper aloud for four hours; you can split the time duration.
Day 8. Slowly repeat what others say just like a parrot. Read the newspaper aloud for four hours; you can split the time duration.
Day 9. Slowly repeat what others say just like a parrot. Read the newspaper aloud for four hours; you can split the time duration.
Day 10. Think that you are abroad and the only language you can speak is English for communication. So talk with everyone in English and feel that you are the master in it and don't bother what others say because they are not going to help you in your interview.
This is not for anyone in particular, but this can be practiced by anyone to improve their English communication. You can even download tongue twisters and practice that too for good pronunciation. Cheers! :-)
Senior HR,
Tony
From India, Madras
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1. It's good you understand your limitations. Many of us can't, ever.
2. Your English is not 'very poor' as you feel. This I gathered from your written communication. Of course, there is good scope for improvement.
3. As others have suggested, read, read, and read good material. Listen to English, speak English, and do so only in English.
4. Don't hesitate to join a good English-speaking institution, but research well before making a decision.
5. Don't be negative, dude. You are just 30. Both your professional and personal life have a long way to go.
6. Keep searching for jobs and work simultaneously on improving your English. If you stay at home, your frustration will only increase.
7. Be cool, man. Just smile and chill :)
Wishes,
Mayank
From India, Bhilai
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2. Your English is not 'very poor' as you feel. This I gathered from your written communication. Of course, there is good scope for improvement.
3. As others have suggested, read, read, and read good material. Listen to English, speak English, and do so only in English.
4. Don't hesitate to join a good English-speaking institution, but research well before making a decision.
5. Don't be negative, dude. You are just 30. Both your professional and personal life have a long way to go.
6. Keep searching for jobs and work simultaneously on improving your English. If you stay at home, your frustration will only increase.
7. Be cool, man. Just smile and chill :)
Wishes,
Mayank
From India, Bhilai
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Dear Amit, follow the advice of all. Please try the following points also:
1: Think in the language in which you want to be proficient. Let your thoughts arise in the desired language in your mind.
2: While going to bed and before you sleep, do a short revision of what you learned and did the whole day. Our brain is a super computer; for a day's revision, it will just take a few seconds or more. Then gradually, you can increase the revision process for 2 days, then more.
Benefit: IT WILL HELP YOU IN MEMORIZING WHAT YOU LEARNED
From India, Delhi
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1: Think in the language in which you want to be proficient. Let your thoughts arise in the desired language in your mind.
2: While going to bed and before you sleep, do a short revision of what you learned and did the whole day. Our brain is a super computer; for a day's revision, it will just take a few seconds or more. Then gradually, you can increase the revision process for 2 days, then more.
Benefit: IT WILL HELP YOU IN MEMORIZING WHAT YOU LEARNED
From India, Delhi
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