Hi,
I would really appreciate if someone could suggest how I can overcome my problem of gaps, frustration, and rejection. Some details about me are: I am a commerce graduate. After completing a diploma course in computers, I joined a company as an Office Management Executive. However, they changed my profile to Inside Sales Marketing as my performance in inside sales was better than that of the direct sales employees. I worked with the company for a year but left because I started receiving prank calls on my workstation and getting flowers in the office. I complained to my boss, but he took it lightly. Meanwhile, a competitor company offered me the position of Asst-Marketing Manager-Inside Sales, so I accepted it. I worked there for another two years but left due to bad office politics. I wasn't able to secure a new job for a year because the offers I received were either for direct sales positions, which I was not keen on, or for inside sales positions where I was considered overqualified.
Eventually, I made an amendment to my resume and labeled myself as a Marketing Coordinator instead of an Assistant Manager. I joined a new company as a Tele-Marketing Executive, as I wanted to secure a job at least. However, as the company failed to establish itself even after a year, they began downsizing, and I had to resign. Since then, I have been unable to find a job. Previously, companies tended to offer me positions I hadn't applied for - for instance, if I applied for an event coordinator role, they would offer me an admin executive position. This pattern continued, leading to further frustration. To address this, I enrolled in a Symbiosis PGDBA program in Sales and Marketing (although in hindsight, I should have chosen Admin or HR), and I successfully completed it with distinction. However, after a four-year gap since my last job, I am struggling to justify my time off. I am 30, unmarried, and lack a compelling reason to explain the gap. I considered trying in a BPO, but I now find myself suffering from interview phobia.
I have provided detailed information to give you a complete understanding of my situation. At times, I contemplate interviewing as a fresher. What should I do in such a situation?
Regards,
From India, New Delhi
5I would really appreciate if someone could suggest how I can overcome my problem of gaps, frustration, and rejection. Some details about me are: I am a commerce graduate. After completing a diploma course in computers, I joined a company as an Office Management Executive. However, they changed my profile to Inside Sales Marketing as my performance in inside sales was better than that of the direct sales employees. I worked with the company for a year but left because I started receiving prank calls on my workstation and getting flowers in the office. I complained to my boss, but he took it lightly. Meanwhile, a competitor company offered me the position of Asst-Marketing Manager-Inside Sales, so I accepted it. I worked there for another two years but left due to bad office politics. I wasn't able to secure a new job for a year because the offers I received were either for direct sales positions, which I was not keen on, or for inside sales positions where I was considered overqualified.
Eventually, I made an amendment to my resume and labeled myself as a Marketing Coordinator instead of an Assistant Manager. I joined a new company as a Tele-Marketing Executive, as I wanted to secure a job at least. However, as the company failed to establish itself even after a year, they began downsizing, and I had to resign. Since then, I have been unable to find a job. Previously, companies tended to offer me positions I hadn't applied for - for instance, if I applied for an event coordinator role, they would offer me an admin executive position. This pattern continued, leading to further frustration. To address this, I enrolled in a Symbiosis PGDBA program in Sales and Marketing (although in hindsight, I should have chosen Admin or HR), and I successfully completed it with distinction. However, after a four-year gap since my last job, I am struggling to justify my time off. I am 30, unmarried, and lack a compelling reason to explain the gap. I considered trying in a BPO, but I now find myself suffering from interview phobia.
I have provided detailed information to give you a complete understanding of my situation. At times, I contemplate interviewing as a fresher. What should I do in such a situation?
Regards,
From India, New Delhi
Hi Seema,
It's never too late in life. As it is said, "jab jago tab savera". Leave all the negative thoughts and start a new beginning with new thoughts and say to yourself, "Yes, I can do it, and I will do it." You are educated and have completed your post-graduation. So, you can once again try for a marketing job, or even BPOs are also not a bad option. Customer care is also a viable option. Nowadays, if you have good communication skills, a lot of opportunities are available in the market.
Regards,
Rajeev Dixit
From India, Bangalore
It's never too late in life. As it is said, "jab jago tab savera". Leave all the negative thoughts and start a new beginning with new thoughts and say to yourself, "Yes, I can do it, and I will do it." You are educated and have completed your post-graduation. So, you can once again try for a marketing job, or even BPOs are also not a bad option. Customer care is also a viable option. Nowadays, if you have good communication skills, a lot of opportunities are available in the market.
Regards,
Rajeev Dixit
From India, Bangalore
With your experience and the postgraduate qualification, have you thought of teaching? You may find the field of education less daunting and, though it may not be as lucrative, it's a very satisfying field. Also see [Whistling While You Work: The 10 Most Satisfying Careers | CareerCast.com](http://www.careercast.com/jobs-rated/whistling-while-you-work-10-most-satisfying-careers)
From United Kingdom
From United Kingdom
Dear,
Don't be negative. Make a tour with your good friends for a few days, and you will feel good. After that, try again in your same field with positive energy. You have a PG Course and experience. Think about changing the location; that's also a good idea so that your chances may increase for moving ahead. Hope you will receive some good news in your life.
From India, Chandigarh
Don't be negative. Make a tour with your good friends for a few days, and you will feel good. After that, try again in your same field with positive energy. You have a PG Course and experience. Think about changing the location; that's also a good idea so that your chances may increase for moving ahead. Hope you will receive some good news in your life.
From India, Chandigarh
Dear Seema,
There is nothing to feel disheartened about. You were simply choosy about the kind of job that you wanted to take up and preferred not to work until something worthwhile comes along. Why should it be considered as stigma and something undesirable? A person can dare to be different and choose his or her own way of life. Somehow, the industry calling it a "gap" and as such something not very desirable is just a prejudice and a false belief.
To expect that people would start working and continue until they reach old age and infirmity is not the only way to lead life, nor is it a very healthy or admirable way. You have taken a much-considered break and then pursued an academic course. Subsequently, you think you are not able to fit yourself into some popular molds which are being dished out to you. It is fine, so far.
Now, you have to make your decision regarding a job, career, or plain livelihood. You have to decide and back it up with full conviction, whether you would be able to make yourself ready to accept the opportunities available and come out of your comfort zone to apply your effort and will to deliver what is required in these roles? It is quite possible that on the way you may come across something that may appeal to you.
Alternatively, getting into a job may bring people, circumstances, and resources near to you, which you may need to chart out your own journey! The possibilities are endless! All you have to make is a start. Perhaps you have waited long enough for the right opportunity to come your way. It may not be worthwhile now to wait any longer for your "dream" job. Make a start now, and someday you'll find what you have been looking for.
It would be very unfortunate that despite your qualification and experience, you do not make a start at all. So, just put all your self-doubts, apprehensions, and worries behind you, and start looking afresh at all the available opportunities.
Hope the above makes some sense. Do feel free to revert back in case you need further clarification or assistance.
Warm regards.
From India, Delhi
There is nothing to feel disheartened about. You were simply choosy about the kind of job that you wanted to take up and preferred not to work until something worthwhile comes along. Why should it be considered as stigma and something undesirable? A person can dare to be different and choose his or her own way of life. Somehow, the industry calling it a "gap" and as such something not very desirable is just a prejudice and a false belief.
To expect that people would start working and continue until they reach old age and infirmity is not the only way to lead life, nor is it a very healthy or admirable way. You have taken a much-considered break and then pursued an academic course. Subsequently, you think you are not able to fit yourself into some popular molds which are being dished out to you. It is fine, so far.
Now, you have to make your decision regarding a job, career, or plain livelihood. You have to decide and back it up with full conviction, whether you would be able to make yourself ready to accept the opportunities available and come out of your comfort zone to apply your effort and will to deliver what is required in these roles? It is quite possible that on the way you may come across something that may appeal to you.
Alternatively, getting into a job may bring people, circumstances, and resources near to you, which you may need to chart out your own journey! The possibilities are endless! All you have to make is a start. Perhaps you have waited long enough for the right opportunity to come your way. It may not be worthwhile now to wait any longer for your "dream" job. Make a start now, and someday you'll find what you have been looking for.
It would be very unfortunate that despite your qualification and experience, you do not make a start at all. So, just put all your self-doubts, apprehensions, and worries behind you, and start looking afresh at all the available opportunities.
Hope the above makes some sense. Do feel free to revert back in case you need further clarification or assistance.
Warm regards.
From India, Delhi
DEAR, send me ur update cv on my mail id,hope i will find a suitable job for you.
From India, Chandigarh
From India, Chandigarh
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From India, Vadodara
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From India, Vadodara
Dear Seema,
You don't have to worry about this; the past is past. Just forget it and move on. What I can tell you is, just keep on trying; definitely, you will get a better job. There are some people who can understand your profile and reasons for that gap, and definitely, if everything goes fine, you will get a job. Hey, don't forget to treat yourself after getting a job :)
Regards,
Mohan
From India, Bangalore
You don't have to worry about this; the past is past. Just forget it and move on. What I can tell you is, just keep on trying; definitely, you will get a better job. There are some people who can understand your profile and reasons for that gap, and definitely, if everything goes fine, you will get a job. Hey, don't forget to treat yourself after getting a job :)
Regards,
Mohan
From India, Bangalore
Dear Seema,
This is in addition to what other senior members have said. I would not like to repeat what they have said. Have you done SWOT Analysis of your career? If not, then you may click here to know more about it.
SWOT Analysis is a powerful tool for career planning. After reading your post, I may say that because of your long stint in sales, you might have developed better selling skills. On the weakness side, I can say that your English is poor. You need to improve your English first. I have drawn this conclusion from your post. You need to learn tenses. Forget about the actual job knowledge; if this is how you speak, then who will give you a job?
You have developed an interview phobia because of a lack of awareness. The more you understand yourself, the better you understand the world. To develop your self-awareness, I recommend going through the following two links:
Johari Window Model - helpful for personal awareness and group relationships
and
The Johari Window (Questionnaire included for self-analysis), - IndusLadies
Secondly, you need to organize your personal life as well. It also has a bearing on your professional life. Certain things need to happen at a certain period of life. Any delay is not conducive in the long run.
All the best!
Dinesh V Divekar
From India, Bangalore
This is in addition to what other senior members have said. I would not like to repeat what they have said. Have you done SWOT Analysis of your career? If not, then you may click here to know more about it.
SWOT Analysis is a powerful tool for career planning. After reading your post, I may say that because of your long stint in sales, you might have developed better selling skills. On the weakness side, I can say that your English is poor. You need to improve your English first. I have drawn this conclusion from your post. You need to learn tenses. Forget about the actual job knowledge; if this is how you speak, then who will give you a job?
You have developed an interview phobia because of a lack of awareness. The more you understand yourself, the better you understand the world. To develop your self-awareness, I recommend going through the following two links:
Johari Window Model - helpful for personal awareness and group relationships
and
The Johari Window (Questionnaire included for self-analysis), - IndusLadies
Secondly, you need to organize your personal life as well. It also has a bearing on your professional life. Certain things need to happen at a certain period of life. Any delay is not conducive in the long run.
All the best!
Dinesh V Divekar
From India, Bangalore
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