Dear Seniors,
How to face co-worker domination due to her 15 years of experience in the same office under the same boss? She is a female without much knowledge about management, but she makes the boss nod his head for her silly, useless decisions. After all, she is basically a diploma holder but she interferes with the work of MBA, BE, and BTech professionals inside the office just because she has been working there for 15 long years. The boss believes she is the only loyal worker.
How to deal with her? Suggestions and advice are most welcome.
Thanks, Prakash.S
From India, Madras
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How to face co-worker domination due to her 15 years of experience in the same office under the same boss? She is a female without much knowledge about management, but she makes the boss nod his head for her silly, useless decisions. After all, she is basically a diploma holder but she interferes with the work of MBA, BE, and BTech professionals inside the office just because she has been working there for 15 long years. The boss believes she is the only loyal worker.
How to deal with her? Suggestions and advice are most welcome.
Thanks, Prakash.S
From India, Madras
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There is a saying, "You cannot afford to be in the lake and also be an enemy of the crocodile at the same time." Being a newcomer, it won't be easy to get rid of her before you make your strong footing.
Your options:
1) Bear with her and believe in fate.
2) Quit the job and ensure you don't find her clone in another organization.
3) Understand her and why she makes silly, useless decisions. Learn if there is something more behind her decisions with practical experience of 15 years, which you, as a newcomer, might be lacking. I guess her decisions would obviously be affecting others in the organization apart from yourself. If you stand united, then divided we fall.
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From India, Mumbai
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19Your options:
1) Bear with her and believe in fate.
2) Quit the job and ensure you don't find her clone in another organization.
3) Understand her and why she makes silly, useless decisions. Learn if there is something more behind her decisions with practical experience of 15 years, which you, as a newcomer, might be lacking. I guess her decisions would obviously be affecting others in the organization apart from yourself. If you stand united, then divided we fall.
Regards,
From India, Mumbai
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Greetings,
In an organization, one finds their way to the top through experiences they have no clue how to deal with! This is one such incident that will help you grow.
Are you in a decision-making role where you have the authority to decide upon her existence in the organization? If not, here are my suggestions for you to consider:
Consider the effort and the hardships this senior had to put up with just to maintain the role she has. Find out more about her career path, with full focus on the learning she gained.
Identify her mentors and find out the skills and competencies they helped her groom.
Observe every situation where she loses her temper. Find out what sets her off the handle.
Identify what she appreciates the most. Even if she doesn't appreciate anybody, there are many areas where she wants to grow and tries to learn them quickly before others.
She is an influencer and an ally. Her strongest area is to connect with the power centers. Learn it from her.
Once your study on her strengths is over, acknowledge all of them, not just through words but actions. She need not respond, if at all positively to it. This is your training on getting better with your emotional quotient.
Lastly, keep yourself motivated. Find out what excites and inspires you the most and do it regularly. This is vital, as when you push yourself beyond your limits, it's normal and natural for you to grow toxic. Avoid every negative pattern in your behavior and continue growing smarter than ever!
God bless you. Wish you all the best!
From India, Mumbai
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In an organization, one finds their way to the top through experiences they have no clue how to deal with! This is one such incident that will help you grow.
Are you in a decision-making role where you have the authority to decide upon her existence in the organization? If not, here are my suggestions for you to consider:
Consider the effort and the hardships this senior had to put up with just to maintain the role she has. Find out more about her career path, with full focus on the learning she gained.
Identify her mentors and find out the skills and competencies they helped her groom.
Observe every situation where she loses her temper. Find out what sets her off the handle.
Identify what she appreciates the most. Even if she doesn't appreciate anybody, there are many areas where she wants to grow and tries to learn them quickly before others.
She is an influencer and an ally. Her strongest area is to connect with the power centers. Learn it from her.
Once your study on her strengths is over, acknowledge all of them, not just through words but actions. She need not respond, if at all positively to it. This is your training on getting better with your emotional quotient.
Lastly, keep yourself motivated. Find out what excites and inspires you the most and do it regularly. This is vital, as when you push yourself beyond your limits, it's normal and natural for you to grow toxic. Avoid every negative pattern in your behavior and continue growing smarter than ever!
God bless you. Wish you all the best!
From India, Mumbai
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Hi,
I do accept the existence of such senior employees in organizations who have succeeded in making their boss dance to their tunes. But, you must look into the PROBLEM - FIRST.
Kindly share your EXACT (REALISTIC) PROBLEM (your perception) associated with the senior-most employee in your organization.
If it has affected you, kindly let us know what kind of loss you have incurred.
I am sure, it's not about the XYZ EMPLOYEE (irrespective of her seniority or position in the hierarchy). It's all about your INTERPRETATION & PERCEPTION.
Hence, I request you to focus on the problem (interpret accurately with a high perception level), but not on the HUMAN BEING.
Your QUALIFICATIONS may not support you to make DECISIONS or HANDLE SITUATIONS or MANAGE THINGS BETTER THAN EXPECTED or DEVELOP A PROCESS FOR FURTHER IMPROVEMENT, unless you have been through a STAGE where you have spent SUFFICIENT TIME and DEALT WITH VARIOUS PROBLEMS/ISSUES/PROCESSES, etc., that must be REALISTIC IN NATURE. In simple words, it is all about the
1) EXPERIENCE (knowledge/information) GAINED OVER A PERIOD OF TIME,
2) MATURITY (LOGICAL/ANALYTICAL/CALCULATIVE) LEVEL POSSESSED BY AN INTELLECTUAL WHO CAN DEMONSTRATE THE COMPETENCIES OF A STAR PERFORMER.
Please share your problem, and I will present a solution to your PERCEPTION. You need to solve it before it takes you for a long ride.
With profound regards
From India, Chennai
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I do accept the existence of such senior employees in organizations who have succeeded in making their boss dance to their tunes. But, you must look into the PROBLEM - FIRST.
Kindly share your EXACT (REALISTIC) PROBLEM (your perception) associated with the senior-most employee in your organization.
If it has affected you, kindly let us know what kind of loss you have incurred.
I am sure, it's not about the XYZ EMPLOYEE (irrespective of her seniority or position in the hierarchy). It's all about your INTERPRETATION & PERCEPTION.
Hence, I request you to focus on the problem (interpret accurately with a high perception level), but not on the HUMAN BEING.
Your QUALIFICATIONS may not support you to make DECISIONS or HANDLE SITUATIONS or MANAGE THINGS BETTER THAN EXPECTED or DEVELOP A PROCESS FOR FURTHER IMPROVEMENT, unless you have been through a STAGE where you have spent SUFFICIENT TIME and DEALT WITH VARIOUS PROBLEMS/ISSUES/PROCESSES, etc., that must be REALISTIC IN NATURE. In simple words, it is all about the
1) EXPERIENCE (knowledge/information) GAINED OVER A PERIOD OF TIME,
2) MATURITY (LOGICAL/ANALYTICAL/CALCULATIVE) LEVEL POSSESSED BY AN INTELLECTUAL WHO CAN DEMONSTRATE THE COMPETENCIES OF A STAR PERFORMER.
Please share your problem, and I will present a solution to your PERCEPTION. You need to solve it before it takes you for a long ride.
With profound regards
From India, Chennai
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Dear Prakash,
Boost her ego so much that she gets carried away. Make her give all the wrong advice to management, provide incorrect information about everything, but ensure that such information is verbal in nature only.
Cause her to make mistakes, indirectly causing pain and problems for people down the line. When she makes a mistake and puts people or the company in trouble, you should step in to clean up the mess. Do this a couple of times, and your popularity in the company will increase. Eventually, she will be sidelined.
Learn about your enemy, understand them, and set traps they would walk into. Devise methods and ideas daily, and enjoy her fallacies. Politics is a dirty game, but if that's the only way one can survive, then proceed without an ounce of heartache.
Regards,
Octavious
From India, Mumbai
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Boost her ego so much that she gets carried away. Make her give all the wrong advice to management, provide incorrect information about everything, but ensure that such information is verbal in nature only.
Cause her to make mistakes, indirectly causing pain and problems for people down the line. When she makes a mistake and puts people or the company in trouble, you should step in to clean up the mess. Do this a couple of times, and your popularity in the company will increase. Eventually, she will be sidelined.
Learn about your enemy, understand them, and set traps they would walk into. Devise methods and ideas daily, and enjoy her fallacies. Politics is a dirty game, but if that's the only way one can survive, then proceed without an ounce of heartache.
Regards,
Octavious
From India, Mumbai
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You have to understand that this way has been successful for her for the last so many years. It's has become her working style, tried and tested, accepted by the Boss, who has also become accustomed to the same. You have to work very hard, smart, and diplomatically until you match the level of loyalty and dependability from the Boss's point of view. "To understand all is to forgive all." Understand her majboori/insecurity behind this. Never take it personally. It's part and parcel of non-professionally managed setups everywhere, especially in small and medium-scale industries.
From United States, New York
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Think this way: why can't you extract work from her? Understand her requirements, analyze the same, make a strategy, and have her work for it. By doing so, you will concentrate on developmental tasks instead of breaking your head over this issue.
From India, Coimbatore
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"To get what you want, STOP doing what isn't working" - Dennis Weaver.
Take a different approach. Look at the world from her point of view. What are her fears, her anxieties? How have the last 15 years shaped her beliefs about the workplace? Why is the boss listening to her? You may gain a different perspective.
Be the change.
Cheers
From India, Madras
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Take a different approach. Look at the world from her point of view. What are her fears, her anxieties? How have the last 15 years shaped her beliefs about the workplace? Why is the boss listening to her? You may gain a different perspective.
Be the change.
Cheers
From India, Madras
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Dear Vivek,
As per him/her, if you think that somebody has been working for more than 15 years in an organization, it truly has an influence on everything. If you want to work, then bear it and work hard. You can take the driving seat.
Thank you.
From India, Jaipur
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As per him/her, if you think that somebody has been working for more than 15 years in an organization, it truly has an influence on everything. If you want to work, then bear it and work hard. You can take the driving seat.
Thank you.
From India, Jaipur
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God, it seems like there is more politics and less work nowadays. See if this worker of yours is causing you trouble intentionally; it must be coming from some insecurity she has on her end. Change your attitude, have faith in yourself and your skills - please do not gratify her by reacting, that is just what she wants. Forget her and concentrate on your work - believe me, things will settle down after some time.
From India, Mumbai
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From India, Mumbai
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Dear,
When somebody joins any organization, this has to be faced, hope she might be your next good friend. However, in the profession, do not compromise on things in which you are a master. Argue to the core; it looks like your boss is not so knowledge-oriented. Argue to the core if you feel that you are right and she is really silly. At least if you don't win, both your boss and his sect will think twice before commenting on anything.
In life, we may need 2 choices in every aspect of life, so choose the one that will make you feel better at the end of the day.
Hope you got your solution.
From India, Bangalore
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When somebody joins any organization, this has to be faced, hope she might be your next good friend. However, in the profession, do not compromise on things in which you are a master. Argue to the core; it looks like your boss is not so knowledge-oriented. Argue to the core if you feel that you are right and she is really silly. At least if you don't win, both your boss and his sect will think twice before commenting on anything.
In life, we may need 2 choices in every aspect of life, so choose the one that will make you feel better at the end of the day.
Hope you got your solution.
From India, Bangalore
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Dear Seniors,
Greetings!!
I need to make a presentation on a FREE Health Check-Up Camp for Cranes organized by our company. The presentation should also focus on my company's growth and the individuals or entities that have supported this initiative.
Please assist me in creating the presentation by providing examples from the automobile industry presentations.
Regards,
Mandip Bedi
From India, Jamshedpur
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Greetings!!
I need to make a presentation on a FREE Health Check-Up Camp for Cranes organized by our company. The presentation should also focus on my company's growth and the individuals or entities that have supported this initiative.
Please assist me in creating the presentation by providing examples from the automobile industry presentations.
Regards,
Mandip Bedi
From India, Jamshedpur
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دوسروں کو نقصان پہنچائے بغیر، ان کو بدنام کیے بغیر، ان سے حسد کیے بغیر، ان سے الجھے بغیر ان سے آگے نکل جانے کا ہنر سیکھئے ....
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کلاس روم میں سناٹا طاری تھا۔ طلبا کی نظریں کبھی استاد کی طرف اٹھتیں اور کبھی بلیک بورڈ کی طرف۔ استاد کے سوال کا جواب کسی کے پاس نہیں تھا۔ سوال تھا ہی ایسا۔ استاد نے کمرے میں داخل ہوتے ہی بغیر ایک لفظ کہے بلیک بورڈ پر ایک لمبی لکیر کھینچ دی۔ پھر اپنا رخ طلبا کی طرف کرتے ہوئے پوچھا، ’’تم میں سے کون ہے جو اس لکیر کو چھوئے بغیر اسے چھوٹا کر دے ؟‘‘۔
’’یہ ناممکن ہے ۔‘‘، کلاس کے سب سے ذہین طالبعلم نے آخر کار اس خاموشی کو توڑ تے ہوئے جواب دیا۔ ’’لکیر کو چھوٹا کرنے کے لیے اسے مٹانا پڑ ے گا اور آپ اس لکیر کو چھونے سے بھی منع کر رہے ہیں ۔‘‘
باقی طلبا نے بھی گردن ہلا کر اس کی تائید کر دی۔ استاد نے گہری نظروں سے طلبا کو دیکھا اور کچھ کہے بغیر بلیک بورڈ پر پچھلی لکیر کے متوازی مگر اس سے بڑ ی ایک اور لکیر کھینچ دی۔ جس کے بعد سب نے دیکھ لیا کہ استاد نے پچھلی لکیر کو چھوئے بغیر اسے چھوٹا کر دیا تھا۔
طلبا نے آج اپنی زندگی کا سب سے بڑ ا سبق سیکھا تھا۔ دوسروں کو نقصان پہنچائے بغیر، ان کو بدنام کیے بغیر، ان سے حسد کیے بغیر، ان سے الجھے بغیر ان سے آگے نکل جانے کا ہنر چند منٹ میں انہوں نے سیکھ لیا تھا۔
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کلاس روم میں سناٹا طاری تھا۔ طلبا کی نظریں کبھی استاد کی طرف اٹھتیں اور کبھی بلیک بورڈ کی طرف۔ استاد کے سوال کا جواب کسی کے پاس نہیں تھا۔ سوال تھا ہی ایسا۔ استاد نے کمرے میں داخل ہوتے ہی بغیر ایک لفظ کہے بلیک بورڈ پر ایک لمبی لکیر کھینچ دی۔ پھر اپنا رخ طلبا کی طرف کرتے ہوئے پوچھا، ’’تم میں سے کون ہے جو اس لکیر کو چھوئے بغیر اسے چھوٹا کر دے ؟‘‘۔
’’یہ ناممکن ہے ۔‘‘، کلاس کے سب سے ذہین طالبعلم نے آخر کار اس خاموشی کو توڑ تے ہوئے جواب دیا۔ ’’لکیر کو چھوٹا کرنے کے لیے اسے مٹانا پڑ ے گا اور آپ اس لکیر کو چھونے سے بھی منع کر رہے ہیں ۔‘‘
باقی طلبا نے بھی گردن ہلا کر اس کی تائید کر دی۔ استاد نے گہری نظروں سے طلبا کو دیکھا اور کچھ کہے بغیر بلیک بورڈ پر پچھلی لکیر کے متوازی مگر اس سے بڑ ی ایک اور لکیر کھینچ دی۔ جس کے بعد سب نے دیکھ لیا کہ استاد نے پچھلی لکیر کو چھوئے بغیر اسے چھوٹا کر دیا تھا۔
طلبا نے آج اپنی زندگی کا سب سے بڑ ا سبق سیکھا تھا۔ دوسروں کو نقصان پہنچائے بغیر، ان کو بدنام کیے بغیر، ان سے حسد کیے بغیر، ان سے الجھے بغیر ان سے آگے نکل جانے کا ہنر چند منٹ میں انہوں نے سیکھ لیا تھا۔
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Nice Suggestion (Cite Contribution) & Sankatacharya.
Everyone has their own way of working; how can we deem them wrong? No doubt, if she has been working in the organization for the past 15 years, bosses will definitely have more faith in her. I believe if you want to establish your position among the bosses, first show that you value her experience, try to learn her way of working, and then only you can surpass her.
Fifteen years ago, people were not as professional as they are today, so it is undoubtedly very difficult for her to accept changes. You will have to gain her confidence and help her understand the benefits of the policies. I think slowly, this way you can bring about the changes.
Regards, Ravita
From India, Mumbai
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Everyone has their own way of working; how can we deem them wrong? No doubt, if she has been working in the organization for the past 15 years, bosses will definitely have more faith in her. I believe if you want to establish your position among the bosses, first show that you value her experience, try to learn her way of working, and then only you can surpass her.
Fifteen years ago, people were not as professional as they are today, so it is undoubtedly very difficult for her to accept changes. You will have to gain her confidence and help her understand the benefits of the policies. I think slowly, this way you can bring about the changes.
Regards, Ravita
From India, Mumbai
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Dear Prakash,
For experienced persons, it is common that they will dominate others. My suggestion in this connection is to bear with such people and observe their professionalism. Maintain strict confidence, show your ability to do things better, keep patience, behave properly, keep up with time management, punctuality, attendance, and promptness in dealing with official business. Bear in mind the official targets and their implementation within the prescribed time frame. Show loyalty and soundness so that the officials in your surroundings will definitely support and like you. Develop yourself professionally, demonstrate your qualities and skills in your professional dealings to show that you possess more qualities and skills that could not be acquired solely through experience.
I hope these suggestions are helpful to you.
Best regards,
[Your Name]
From Canada, Calgary
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For experienced persons, it is common that they will dominate others. My suggestion in this connection is to bear with such people and observe their professionalism. Maintain strict confidence, show your ability to do things better, keep patience, behave properly, keep up with time management, punctuality, attendance, and promptness in dealing with official business. Bear in mind the official targets and their implementation within the prescribed time frame. Show loyalty and soundness so that the officials in your surroundings will definitely support and like you. Develop yourself professionally, demonstrate your qualities and skills in your professional dealings to show that you possess more qualities and skills that could not be acquired solely through experience.
I hope these suggestions are helpful to you.
Best regards,
[Your Name]
From Canada, Calgary
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I am feeling that you are having an ego problem regarding how a girl who is just a diploma holder can supersede an MBA. The first issue is that she is a woman, and the second is that she is a diploma holder. However, you are ignoring her experience and loyalty. Experience is a more critical aspect when dealing with the situation. It will take a lot of time for you to prove yourself. So, first prove yourself and then compete. She has been working for the last fifteen years, which means she is an asset to the company. Even though you may think she is making silly mistakes, she must also be doing a lot of good work.
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From India, New Delhi
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Dear Friend,
You need to introspect.
1. You seem to be having a strong gender bias. You must accept that irrespective of gender, people can perform.
2. You seem to have a strong bias towards qualifications. The fact that she has been in the organization for 15 years is an indication that she is contributing.
3. How do you presume that the decisions taken by the management on her advice are silly? Do you really know the circumstances under which these decisions are made?
4. If the boss believes she is loyal, there must be some truth in it.
Unless you eliminate biased opinions based on gender and qualifications, you cannot grow. Look at the content and not the container. You seem to have been influenced by the container.
Best wishes,
Sivasankaran
From India, Chennai
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You need to introspect.
1. You seem to be having a strong gender bias. You must accept that irrespective of gender, people can perform.
2. You seem to have a strong bias towards qualifications. The fact that she has been in the organization for 15 years is an indication that she is contributing.
3. How do you presume that the decisions taken by the management on her advice are silly? Do you really know the circumstances under which these decisions are made?
4. If the boss believes she is loyal, there must be some truth in it.
Unless you eliminate biased opinions based on gender and qualifications, you cannot grow. Look at the content and not the container. You seem to have been influenced by the container.
Best wishes,
Sivasankaran
From India, Chennai
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Dear hrtechindia,
I am presenting my views on your query. I hope it helps you in overcoming the problem and leading a happy life.
"How to face co-worker domination due to her 15 years' experience in the same office under the same boss?"
Why do you want to 'face' her? Why can't you try to work around and work with her?
"She is a female without much knowledge about management, but she makes the boss nod his head for her silly, useless decisions."
Please post your educational and professional data and your intellectual largess that gives you the license to decide about others' knowledge of management. Define management for me in your own words.
"After all, she is basically a diploma holder, but she messes up with all the MBA, BE, and BTechs inside the office just because she has been working there for 15 long years. And the boss believes she is the only loyal worker."
This shows a bit of intellectual arrogance. I guess you are a bit more qualified than a Diploma. My dear friend, knowledge and education are two different things. Just being more educated does not give you an upper hand in being able to appreciate a situation.
This reminds me of the story I had read around 14 years ago: 'The Enchanted Pool'. When all the brothers of Yudhisthira had died after drinking water from the pool, Yudhisthira was asked by Yaksha a question to save one of his dead brothers:
Question: How does one get wisdom?
Answer: Not by studying any Shastra does one get wisdom. It is by association with men in wisdom that one gets wisdom.
So, instead of boasting about your better education level, try to learn from people. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey was all about. That will help you in a long way, and after 20-30 years, you will feel that this was the best decision you ever made.
How to get rid of her? Suggestions and advice are most welcome.
I feel that this option should be left to the boss. Do your best and leave the rest. If you try to do this to her, tomorrow you may find yourself in her shoes too.
This reminds me of another story I had read around 10-12 years back. There were a lot of frogs in a well that used to live happily. One day, there was a bit of discontent in the mind of a frog, and he decided to get rid of his enemies. So, he invited a large snake from a hole nearby the well. The snake used to eat frogs every day. Soon, all the frogs were dead, and the snake turned to eat that frog and his family. The frog died repenting his action.
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From India, Bhubaneswar
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I am presenting my views on your query. I hope it helps you in overcoming the problem and leading a happy life.
"How to face co-worker domination due to her 15 years' experience in the same office under the same boss?"
Why do you want to 'face' her? Why can't you try to work around and work with her?
"She is a female without much knowledge about management, but she makes the boss nod his head for her silly, useless decisions."
Please post your educational and professional data and your intellectual largess that gives you the license to decide about others' knowledge of management. Define management for me in your own words.
"After all, she is basically a diploma holder, but she messes up with all the MBA, BE, and BTechs inside the office just because she has been working there for 15 long years. And the boss believes she is the only loyal worker."
This shows a bit of intellectual arrogance. I guess you are a bit more qualified than a Diploma. My dear friend, knowledge and education are two different things. Just being more educated does not give you an upper hand in being able to appreciate a situation.
This reminds me of the story I had read around 14 years ago: 'The Enchanted Pool'. When all the brothers of Yudhisthira had died after drinking water from the pool, Yudhisthira was asked by Yaksha a question to save one of his dead brothers:
Question: How does one get wisdom?
Answer: Not by studying any Shastra does one get wisdom. It is by association with men in wisdom that one gets wisdom.
So, instead of boasting about your better education level, try to learn from people. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey was all about. That will help you in a long way, and after 20-30 years, you will feel that this was the best decision you ever made.
How to get rid of her? Suggestions and advice are most welcome.
I feel that this option should be left to the boss. Do your best and leave the rest. If you try to do this to her, tomorrow you may find yourself in her shoes too.
This reminds me of another story I had read around 10-12 years back. There were a lot of frogs in a well that used to live happily. One day, there was a bit of discontent in the mind of a frog, and he decided to get rid of his enemies. So, he invited a large snake from a hole nearby the well. The snake used to eat frogs every day. Soon, all the frogs were dead, and the snake turned to eat that frog and his family. The frog died repenting his action.
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Practically, the lady in the organization is a very experienced employee, and understanding the boss's perspective, she has been working for a long time in the organization, which needs to be respected.
At the same time, you need to sit and discuss matters with the lady about her reasons for providing such an opinion. Whenever you are in a meeting, you can present your point while agreeing with the lady's perspective. Show that the point she raised was good, but it can be further modified in your way.
From India, Mumbai
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At the same time, you need to sit and discuss matters with the lady about her reasons for providing such an opinion. Whenever you are in a meeting, you can present your point while agreeing with the lady's perspective. Show that the point she raised was good, but it can be further modified in your way.
From India, Mumbai
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Dear Prakash,
Someone like this exists in every organization. As some have mentioned, there may be a communication gap or a perception problem. But if you feel that is not the case and she is deliberately doing so to pamper her ego, then the best thing is to avoid this. One should never mix their work with personal rifts. Such people exist everywhere and continue to be like this. Someone like this doesn't deserve your attention, AT ALL!
All the very best, and have some patience... Besides, if your company has 360-degree appraisals, then you can always mention it then!
Regards!
From India, Bareli
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Someone like this exists in every organization. As some have mentioned, there may be a communication gap or a perception problem. But if you feel that is not the case and she is deliberately doing so to pamper her ego, then the best thing is to avoid this. One should never mix their work with personal rifts. Such people exist everywhere and continue to be like this. Someone like this doesn't deserve your attention, AT ALL!
All the very best, and have some patience... Besides, if your company has 360-degree appraisals, then you can always mention it then!
Regards!
From India, Bareli
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Dear ones,
I found what is posted by 1979 very professional and applicable (from a positive point of view). Moreover, concerning office politics, the post by Octavious can be useful to undermine trust before the boss, but only for learning purposes.
From Tanzania, Dar Es Salaam
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I found what is posted by 1979 very professional and applicable (from a positive point of view). Moreover, concerning office politics, the post by Octavious can be useful to undermine trust before the boss, but only for learning purposes.
From Tanzania, Dar Es Salaam
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Dear Friend,
You can't do anything about this situation since she has reaped the fruits of loyalty...working in one organization for 15 years is not child's play. She must have shown her performance in the past, and that could be the reason for her having stayed for 15 years. Everyone has some bad qualities; that doesn't mean that you can criticize him or her. So, you should try giving her a memo and see the consequences of it. If the boss says anything to her, then try to make him understand the reality. If he is not ready to listen to you, then give up. You grow and leave the company.
From India
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You can't do anything about this situation since she has reaped the fruits of loyalty...working in one organization for 15 years is not child's play. She must have shown her performance in the past, and that could be the reason for her having stayed for 15 years. Everyone has some bad qualities; that doesn't mean that you can criticize him or her. So, you should try giving her a memo and see the consequences of it. If the boss says anything to her, then try to make him understand the reality. If he is not ready to listen to you, then give up. You grow and leave the company.
From India
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Please consider becoming aware of how your perception of the lady is affecting you. Once you have taken notice of the thoughts that are evoked by her in you—particularly in a situation you would call toxic—consider accepting and letting go of those thoughts. Try to be in the moment; there is a lot more happening at your workplace beyond just interactions with the lady. Do not miss out on these other experiences due to any preoccupation with her.
All of this is much easier said than done, but that is the challenge for all of us, I guess. Best wishes.
From India, Mumbai
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All of this is much easier said than done, but that is the challenge for all of us, I guess. Best wishes.
From India, Mumbai
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I think understanding her can surely help. What is the quality in her that the boss listens to her? Is it her experience, dominating nature, convincing skills, etc.? If her decisions are really affecting business and others, identify those affected and unite to get rid of her. These things really help and are needed sometimes in an organization. Sometimes people find a comfort zone at a place and don't want to leave; it can be a mere reason to think she is loyal to the company.
From India, Mumbai
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From India, Mumbai
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Dear Mr. Prakash,
Till now we were just reading a one-sided story. Most of the members (including me) had posted their opinions without knowing much about you.
1) No one knows what exactly is the PROBLEM,
2) Who has faced the PROBLEM?
3) Who has incurred the LOSS (need to categorize it)
4) How many were AFFECTED (in what way)?
5) What exactly is the SITUATION over there?
Now, it's time for us to know the other side of the story. We would like to know more about you. Posting our opinions may or may not help you solve the problem. It will only help us reveal our perceptions about the situation without evaluating the FACTS. We, as members, never knew "to what extent our opinions had helped members cater to their requirements or solve their problems." Instead of wasting our time, I believe that "we must know the facts - BOTH sides and then post our comments/opinions." This is the only way for members (intellectuals) to develop their competencies.
I hope other members will support my views. If we fail to demonstrate our MATURITY LEVELS, then we are just wasting our TIME in posting COMMENTS.
With profound regards
From India, Chennai
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Till now we were just reading a one-sided story. Most of the members (including me) had posted their opinions without knowing much about you.
1) No one knows what exactly is the PROBLEM,
2) Who has faced the PROBLEM?
3) Who has incurred the LOSS (need to categorize it)
4) How many were AFFECTED (in what way)?
5) What exactly is the SITUATION over there?
Now, it's time for us to know the other side of the story. We would like to know more about you. Posting our opinions may or may not help you solve the problem. It will only help us reveal our perceptions about the situation without evaluating the FACTS. We, as members, never knew "to what extent our opinions had helped members cater to their requirements or solve their problems." Instead of wasting our time, I believe that "we must know the facts - BOTH sides and then post our comments/opinions." This is the only way for members (intellectuals) to develop their competencies.
I hope other members will support my views. If we fail to demonstrate our MATURITY LEVELS, then we are just wasting our TIME in posting COMMENTS.
With profound regards
From India, Chennai
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Not a difficult thing to correct her, but it would require lots of patience on your part.
Do you have JDs in place? Next, do you have KPIs in place? Formulate a compensation and a training plan keeping the above in mind.
With the passage of time, i.e., <6 months, it would be clear to everyone that she is not a domain expert in any area nor a strong leader.
From India, Delhi
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Do you have JDs in place? Next, do you have KPIs in place? Formulate a compensation and a training plan keeping the above in mind.
With the passage of time, i.e., <6 months, it would be clear to everyone that she is not a domain expert in any area nor a strong leader.
From India, Delhi
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