Hello, I am facing a problem related to communication. People are used to saying to me that you are doing well, but you are not able to express yourself. Your talking behavior is not good. You are saying the right thing and excelling in your work, but you are not replying very seriously or in the right manner. You have to use flourishing language and take the work seriously. I don't know why my seniors think you are taking all the work very lightly.
Please guide me on how I can find where I am lacking and in which area I have to work. Tell me the right way of communication with anyone. What kind of exercises should I follow so that my seniors think that I am working seriously? How to use flourishing language and how should it be used? Because according to me, you cannot use flourishing language every time.
Please guide me on the right communication. Thank you in advance.
From India, Gurgaon
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13Please guide me on how I can find where I am lacking and in which area I have to work. Tell me the right way of communication with anyone. What kind of exercises should I follow so that my seniors think that I am working seriously? How to use flourishing language and how should it be used? Because according to me, you cannot use flourishing language every time.
Please guide me on the right communication. Thank you in advance.
From India, Gurgaon
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Dear Shri Pawan Kumar,
Communication in English is something with which all of us start at a disadvantage, since English is not our mother tongue. With a systematic approach, you can learn communication skills. From your post, we can infer that you need to strengthen your English. In the beginning, write very small sentences correctly. You can use any beginner's book in English. If you type "English Communication" in the box right above (TYPE YOUR QUERY) and then press "RESEARCH," you will get plenty of information. Reading English newspapers and listening to English news will help. After some time, you can start writing bigger sentences. A simple language is always good. However, on some occasions, such as a formal speech or an article that will be published, a high-flown style could be used. You can compare simple language to the daily food that we take and the flowery style to a feast that we take once in a while. Please make a beginning by searching in Cite HR. Practice daily. Follow the writings of seniors to get good guidance. Wish you good luck.
V. Raghunathan
From India
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Communication in English is something with which all of us start at a disadvantage, since English is not our mother tongue. With a systematic approach, you can learn communication skills. From your post, we can infer that you need to strengthen your English. In the beginning, write very small sentences correctly. You can use any beginner's book in English. If you type "English Communication" in the box right above (TYPE YOUR QUERY) and then press "RESEARCH," you will get plenty of information. Reading English newspapers and listening to English news will help. After some time, you can start writing bigger sentences. A simple language is always good. However, on some occasions, such as a formal speech or an article that will be published, a high-flown style could be used. You can compare simple language to the daily food that we take and the flowery style to a feast that we take once in a while. Please make a beginning by searching in Cite HR. Practice daily. Follow the writings of seniors to get good guidance. Wish you good luck.
V. Raghunathan
From India
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Hi,
At the outset let me tell you that the problem you have shared is quite commonly encountered by many people. However, very few people take proactive steps, like you have done to make an effort to tackle the problem by seeking help.
It is essential also to remember that for anything you do in life, a clear goal /vision, adequate motivation / enthusiasm, hard work / discipline and the ability to take risks/ challenges are critical attributes. What you also require are the key attributes called 'discipline' and 'enthusiasm' with which you can achieve anything you want.
Your enthusiasm is the reason you wrote in at Citehr. The next test is to be disciplined and follow the suggestions given here.
1. My first suggestion is to read aloud as much as possible in English ALOUD. A standard daily English Newspaper and the Readers Digest have very good reading material. If possible record your voice and listen to it to know the areas the sounds, words and alphabets that give you trouble and on which you need to work. If possible read aloud to a friend who can give you his/ her feedback based on which you can work on improving your pronunciation as well as articulation.
2. The mother tongue influence is a problem for many considering that very few of us are native English speakers. To reduce that, make more English speaking friends and make a determined effort to speak only in English, even if you keep forgetting words, or tend to stammer or your friends tend to laugh at you. This will require a lot of will power but believe me you will soon improve. If someone corrects your pronunciation don’t take offense, instead be grateful that he/ she is helping you correct yourself.
3. I would also suggest you try to learn at least 3 -5 new words every day and look up the meaning in a dictionary. then try and use these words in your daily work and in your communication to improve your vocabulary. Find synonyms for words that give you trouble and use the synonym.
4. If you still feel that professional help is needed then you will have to attend English speaking classes
5. You are also welcome to go through my reply in the following link to get some more inputs on Written Communications in English
https://www.citehr.com/430425-how-im...ml#post1946760
6. Finally, if you can, do visit my blogs listed below regularly and try to learn the new words in it and also be inspired by it. Try to read the blog content aloud and you can be sure it will be worthwhile since the blogs have a good response from the readers.
Actspot's Blog | Igniting your Thoughts – Encourging you to ACT SPOnTaneously – Over 1,59,500 views and 910 followers
Academy for Creative Training – Over 48,500 views and 225 followers
Best Wishes
From India, Mumbai
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At the outset let me tell you that the problem you have shared is quite commonly encountered by many people. However, very few people take proactive steps, like you have done to make an effort to tackle the problem by seeking help.
It is essential also to remember that for anything you do in life, a clear goal /vision, adequate motivation / enthusiasm, hard work / discipline and the ability to take risks/ challenges are critical attributes. What you also require are the key attributes called 'discipline' and 'enthusiasm' with which you can achieve anything you want.
Your enthusiasm is the reason you wrote in at Citehr. The next test is to be disciplined and follow the suggestions given here.
1. My first suggestion is to read aloud as much as possible in English ALOUD. A standard daily English Newspaper and the Readers Digest have very good reading material. If possible record your voice and listen to it to know the areas the sounds, words and alphabets that give you trouble and on which you need to work. If possible read aloud to a friend who can give you his/ her feedback based on which you can work on improving your pronunciation as well as articulation.
2. The mother tongue influence is a problem for many considering that very few of us are native English speakers. To reduce that, make more English speaking friends and make a determined effort to speak only in English, even if you keep forgetting words, or tend to stammer or your friends tend to laugh at you. This will require a lot of will power but believe me you will soon improve. If someone corrects your pronunciation don’t take offense, instead be grateful that he/ she is helping you correct yourself.
3. I would also suggest you try to learn at least 3 -5 new words every day and look up the meaning in a dictionary. then try and use these words in your daily work and in your communication to improve your vocabulary. Find synonyms for words that give you trouble and use the synonym.
4. If you still feel that professional help is needed then you will have to attend English speaking classes
5. You are also welcome to go through my reply in the following link to get some more inputs on Written Communications in English
https://www.citehr.com/430425-how-im...ml#post1946760
6. Finally, if you can, do visit my blogs listed below regularly and try to learn the new words in it and also be inspired by it. Try to read the blog content aloud and you can be sure it will be worthwhile since the blogs have a good response from the readers.
Actspot's Blog | Igniting your Thoughts – Encourging you to ACT SPOnTaneously – Over 1,59,500 views and 910 followers
Academy for Creative Training – Over 48,500 views and 225 followers
Best Wishes
From India, Mumbai
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Dear Pawan,
As other experts have guided you to solve your problem, it is a good idea to tackle the situation.
Apart from this, a few suggestions are provided here. If you follow them, you might benefit:
Start listening to other people in your office who are good in communication, including employees who are closer to your boss. Understand the kind of answers your boss expects and work on this.
Begin reading English newspapers, even a few lines, but do so seriously. Rehearse aloud when you are alone at home.
Start speaking English within your friends' circle, informing them that you are committed to improving your communication skills. This way, they will support you and appreciate your honest efforts.
Watch some English news and various talk shows with media persons. Also, watch award functions on TV. For beginners, these links can be very helpful.
Practice reading, writing, and speaking small sentences initially. Implement and use your learnings in friends' circles and at the office. Do not expect or judge your coworkers' reactions after speaking well before them, something they never expected.
Be confident. Remember, no one is perfect or the best all-rounder in every field of life. Every person has drawbacks and loopholes. A successful person is someone who identifies these gaps and strives to overcome them.
Inform your boss that you are trying to meet their expectations. Ask for some time to improve.
You can start using several words from today. Be confident and start fulfilling the commitment you made to yourself for a better YOU.
Best Wishes,
Manish Srivastava
From India, Lucknow
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As other experts have guided you to solve your problem, it is a good idea to tackle the situation.
Apart from this, a few suggestions are provided here. If you follow them, you might benefit:
Start listening to other people in your office who are good in communication, including employees who are closer to your boss. Understand the kind of answers your boss expects and work on this.
Begin reading English newspapers, even a few lines, but do so seriously. Rehearse aloud when you are alone at home.
Start speaking English within your friends' circle, informing them that you are committed to improving your communication skills. This way, they will support you and appreciate your honest efforts.
Watch some English news and various talk shows with media persons. Also, watch award functions on TV. For beginners, these links can be very helpful.
Practice reading, writing, and speaking small sentences initially. Implement and use your learnings in friends' circles and at the office. Do not expect or judge your coworkers' reactions after speaking well before them, something they never expected.
Be confident. Remember, no one is perfect or the best all-rounder in every field of life. Every person has drawbacks and loopholes. A successful person is someone who identifies these gaps and strives to overcome them.
Inform your boss that you are trying to meet their expectations. Ask for some time to improve.
You can start using several words from today. Be confident and start fulfilling the commitment you made to yourself for a better YOU.
Best Wishes,
Manish Srivastava
From India, Lucknow
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Dear Pawankumar,
Our senior members M/S Raghunathan, Jacob, and Manish Srivastava have given very useful practical tips for improving your communication skills. I would request you to put them into regular and systematic practice.
Few more thoughts in this connection from my own perspective. Simply speaking, communication means conveying our own feelings or thoughts to others in such a way that makes them understand, if not exactly, at least most approximately what we feel or think. To understand the subtle nuances of communication, both verbal and non-verbal, we should first realize that the purpose of communication is connecting ourselves with the world at large in the right perspective, because perceptions are always at variance due to individual differences.
Oral communication is particularly difficult because it is always an extempore action or reaction. So, the basic tenet of communication is effective listening, as suggested by Mr. Srivastava. Listening does not mean the mere physical act of hearing. On the contrary, it is a systematic process of assimilation that ends up in conscious response. Generally, we listen halfway only, and our listening is not always total or complete.
One day, Mulla Nazirud-din returned home very late. His wife asked for the reason, and Nazirud-din, like any other latecomers, answered that it was late. She became wild because of this answer as it strengthened her suspicion that Nazirud-din had some illicit extramarital connection. She searched him thoroughly but found nothing, warning him not to come home so late in the future.
The very next day, Mulla was late again. Fueled by her suspicion, his wife asked irrelevant questions, checked his clothes thoroughly, and found a long hair, presuming it to be that of a lady's, and thrashed him. The following day, Mulla was late once more, taking precautions not to have any foreign objects on his clothes. His wife found nothing but started crying. Mulla asked her why she was crying, and she shouted back, revealing her misunderstanding.
When you listen, listen totally without superimposing your own prejudicial reactionary thoughts. Only then will you be able to understand and respond accordingly. Next, don't be obsessed with language. After all, language is just a vehicle of expression. Always remember that 'the expressed' is more important than 'the expression'.
Imagine you are not comfortable with flawless English and you are in New York in dire need of boarding a bus to Madison Square. A bus arrives. Will you ask the American standing beside you, pointing to the bus, "GOING TO MADISON SQUARE?" or start recalling grammatical formations? Please don't bother too much about any language in which you have to communicate.
Oral expression in any language is a delicate affair. Sometimes you have to be brief, in tune with the adage, "Brevity is the soul of wit," and other times you have to be elaborate. It depends.
From India, Salem
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Our senior members M/S Raghunathan, Jacob, and Manish Srivastava have given very useful practical tips for improving your communication skills. I would request you to put them into regular and systematic practice.
Few more thoughts in this connection from my own perspective. Simply speaking, communication means conveying our own feelings or thoughts to others in such a way that makes them understand, if not exactly, at least most approximately what we feel or think. To understand the subtle nuances of communication, both verbal and non-verbal, we should first realize that the purpose of communication is connecting ourselves with the world at large in the right perspective, because perceptions are always at variance due to individual differences.
Oral communication is particularly difficult because it is always an extempore action or reaction. So, the basic tenet of communication is effective listening, as suggested by Mr. Srivastava. Listening does not mean the mere physical act of hearing. On the contrary, it is a systematic process of assimilation that ends up in conscious response. Generally, we listen halfway only, and our listening is not always total or complete.
One day, Mulla Nazirud-din returned home very late. His wife asked for the reason, and Nazirud-din, like any other latecomers, answered that it was late. She became wild because of this answer as it strengthened her suspicion that Nazirud-din had some illicit extramarital connection. She searched him thoroughly but found nothing, warning him not to come home so late in the future.
The very next day, Mulla was late again. Fueled by her suspicion, his wife asked irrelevant questions, checked his clothes thoroughly, and found a long hair, presuming it to be that of a lady's, and thrashed him. The following day, Mulla was late once more, taking precautions not to have any foreign objects on his clothes. His wife found nothing but started crying. Mulla asked her why she was crying, and she shouted back, revealing her misunderstanding.
When you listen, listen totally without superimposing your own prejudicial reactionary thoughts. Only then will you be able to understand and respond accordingly. Next, don't be obsessed with language. After all, language is just a vehicle of expression. Always remember that 'the expressed' is more important than 'the expression'.
Imagine you are not comfortable with flawless English and you are in New York in dire need of boarding a bus to Madison Square. A bus arrives. Will you ask the American standing beside you, pointing to the bus, "GOING TO MADISON SQUARE?" or start recalling grammatical formations? Please don't bother too much about any language in which you have to communicate.
Oral expression in any language is a delicate affair. Sometimes you have to be brief, in tune with the adage, "Brevity is the soul of wit," and other times you have to be elaborate. It depends.
From India, Salem
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Greetings for the Day!!!
Kindly find an article on the same in the attachment with this post. Definitely, it's going to help you to enhance... All the best!!!
Regards,
Shubha
Fb Id: shubhalakshmi88@yahoo.com
From India, Patna
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Thank you all for the support and guidance. I am very grateful to all of you. In the meanwhile, please give me some suggestions so that I can present myself as a serious person. I am working hard, but due to some actions, I am unable to. Even people are saying, "Pawan, you are working very well, your working style is very good." But the same person, after some days, says, "Your way of replying is not good." So, tell me, how can I control this and what should I do so that people think, "Yes, you are working seriously."
From India, Gurgaon
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