Hi CiteHR friends.
Read this quote by Johann Christoph Arnold:
"When things look dark and hopeless, that is the time to find out who your friends and neighbors really are. Or do you think you are the only one who is afraid? Look with new eyes at the people you meet daily, and you will quickly realize that everyone is frightened, at least at some level. But every time we share a burden like fear with another person, that burden is cut in half and is replaced by love. Suddenly, we will realize that we are not as alone as we thought we were."
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Bala
From India, Madras
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21Read this quote by Johann Christoph Arnold:
"When things look dark and hopeless, that is the time to find out who your friends and neighbors really are. Or do you think you are the only one who is afraid? Look with new eyes at the people you meet daily, and you will quickly realize that everyone is frightened, at least at some level. But every time we share a burden like fear with another person, that burden is cut in half and is replaced by love. Suddenly, we will realize that we are not as alone as we thought we were."
Thanks,
Bala
From India, Madras
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Hi Bala,
I liked the quote but want to say one thing, in reality, it hardly happens. When the time goes wrong, even your own relatives/friends behave as if they are more helpless than you. But this is for sure, my dear friend, somewhere, someone is definitely there to listen to your problem, and this quote goes to that particular person only. We tell our problem to so many people, but hardly there are 2-3 people whose suggestions touch our heart. Nothing, just felt like writing my own views.
Take care.
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I liked the quote but want to say one thing, in reality, it hardly happens. When the time goes wrong, even your own relatives/friends behave as if they are more helpless than you. But this is for sure, my dear friend, somewhere, someone is definitely there to listen to your problem, and this quote goes to that particular person only. We tell our problem to so many people, but hardly there are 2-3 people whose suggestions touch our heart. Nothing, just felt like writing my own views.
Take care.
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True.
I remember another quote: "God forced us to have relatives, but He gave us the freedom to choose our friends, so as to make it up."
Now, that special person, who'll first be your friend and then your relative, will be with you...always. Beautiful Quote Bala, and excellent observation, Rekha.
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sree
From India, New Delhi
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I remember another quote: "God forced us to have relatives, but He gave us the freedom to choose our friends, so as to make it up."
Now, that special person, who'll first be your friend and then your relative, will be with you...always. Beautiful Quote Bala, and excellent observation, Rekha.
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sree
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Hey Bala,
That was a nice one. I read your views as well as Rekha's. Well, my view is that in times of crisis, those who come to you are those whom you have helped and been a part of their lives. Or rather, this answer lies within all of us - it's how one looks at the problems.
When was the last time we all actually saw ourselves in the mirror? Just more than the reflection - just deep within.
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Rajat
From India, Pune
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That was a nice one. I read your views as well as Rekha's. Well, my view is that in times of crisis, those who come to you are those whom you have helped and been a part of their lives. Or rather, this answer lies within all of us - it's how one looks at the problems.
When was the last time we all actually saw ourselves in the mirror? Just more than the reflection - just deep within.
Cheers,
Rajat
From India, Pune
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Hi Bala, Rekha, & Sree,
I felt that my answer wasn't up to the mark, hence I am sharing this excerpt taken from Denis Waitley's newest release, Safari to the Soul.
He says you can change your life by changing your habits. Here are some guidepost rules regarding change:
Rule 1: No one can change you, and you can't really change anyone else. You must admit your need, stop denying your problem, and accept responsibility for changing yourself.
Rule 2: Habits aren't broken but replaced - by layering new behavior patterns on top of the old ones. This usually takes at least a year or two. Forget the 30-day wonder ones. I don't know where motivational speakers got the idea that it takes twenty-one days to gain a new habit!
It may take that long to remember the motions of a new skill, but after many years of being you, it takes far longer to settle into a new habit pattern and stay there. Habits are like submarines. They run silent and deep. They are also like comfortable beds, in that they're easy to get into but difficult to get out of.
So don't expect immediate, amazing results. Give your skills' training a year and stick with it, knowing that your new ways can last a lifetime.
Rule 3: A daily routine adhered to over time will become second nature, like riding a bicycle. Negative behavior leads to a losing lifestyle, positive behavior to a winning lifestyle. Practice makes permanent in both cases.
Cheers & have a great day!
Rajat
From India, Pune
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I felt that my answer wasn't up to the mark, hence I am sharing this excerpt taken from Denis Waitley's newest release, Safari to the Soul.
He says you can change your life by changing your habits. Here are some guidepost rules regarding change:
Rule 1: No one can change you, and you can't really change anyone else. You must admit your need, stop denying your problem, and accept responsibility for changing yourself.
Rule 2: Habits aren't broken but replaced - by layering new behavior patterns on top of the old ones. This usually takes at least a year or two. Forget the 30-day wonder ones. I don't know where motivational speakers got the idea that it takes twenty-one days to gain a new habit!
It may take that long to remember the motions of a new skill, but after many years of being you, it takes far longer to settle into a new habit pattern and stay there. Habits are like submarines. They run silent and deep. They are also like comfortable beds, in that they're easy to get into but difficult to get out of.
So don't expect immediate, amazing results. Give your skills' training a year and stick with it, knowing that your new ways can last a lifetime.
Rule 3: A daily routine adhered to over time will become second nature, like riding a bicycle. Negative behavior leads to a losing lifestyle, positive behavior to a winning lifestyle. Practice makes permanent in both cases.
Cheers & have a great day!
Rajat
From India, Pune
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Hi people,
I think I will go with what Rekha had to say on this, and I fully agree with the quote "God gave us the choice to choose our friends." However, this should not be taken literally. Even some relatives can be friends; it all depends on what kind of a relationship you share with the other person. But yes, it is seen more often that relatives are more concerned about society at large, whereas good friends will be ready to stand by you against the world if they believe you are right.
Finally, know for yourself that everyone is alone, an individual; if it's your fight, you just have to fight it. No one will fight it for you. And yes, it is foolish to believe that if you help someone, he/she will help you back. It may or may not happen that way, so don't count on it. It's good if it happens, but don't lose faith in yourself if it doesn't.
Regards,
Pallavi
From India, Pune
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I think I will go with what Rekha had to say on this, and I fully agree with the quote "God gave us the choice to choose our friends." However, this should not be taken literally. Even some relatives can be friends; it all depends on what kind of a relationship you share with the other person. But yes, it is seen more often that relatives are more concerned about society at large, whereas good friends will be ready to stand by you against the world if they believe you are right.
Finally, know for yourself that everyone is alone, an individual; if it's your fight, you just have to fight it. No one will fight it for you. And yes, it is foolish to believe that if you help someone, he/she will help you back. It may or may not happen that way, so don't count on it. It's good if it happens, but don't lose faith in yourself if it doesn't.
Regards,
Pallavi
From India, Pune
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Hi Rajat,
I read your post; it's definitely interesting and thought-provoking too. Quoting from your post:
"No one can change you, and you can't really change anyone else. You must admit your need, stop denying your problem, and accept responsibility for changing yourself."
I am somehow not able to fully agree with this. I take myself as a living example where constant reminders, talks, etc., from my best friend at the office have indeed changed one of my major habits - getting wild - for good. Of course, I had decided that I will change and sincerely worked towards it, and it took more than a year. But without her constant prodding, pushing, reminding, etc., it wouldn't have happened. So in a way, she has changed me, hasn't she?
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Bala
From India, Madras
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I read your post; it's definitely interesting and thought-provoking too. Quoting from your post:
"No one can change you, and you can't really change anyone else. You must admit your need, stop denying your problem, and accept responsibility for changing yourself."
I am somehow not able to fully agree with this. I take myself as a living example where constant reminders, talks, etc., from my best friend at the office have indeed changed one of my major habits - getting wild - for good. Of course, I had decided that I will change and sincerely worked towards it, and it took more than a year. But without her constant prodding, pushing, reminding, etc., it wouldn't have happened. So in a way, she has changed me, hasn't she?
Thanks,
Bala
From India, Madras
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Hi Rajat & Bala,
Both of you have your own points of view, and both of you are correct!
Rajat quoted very nicely that you should accept responsibility for changing your own habits, etc., while Bala adds her own personal experience. I would go with both of you. Yes, Rajat, you are right; we should be responsible for our own habits, etc., and Bala, you are absolutely right. I have also seen a similar situation in my previous office. There were two girls, one of whom was a chain smoker. Both of them were very close and good friends. Due to the other girl's insistence, the smoker decreased her smoking by 1 to 2 cigarettes a day and eventually quit. In this way, she made many changes in her friend's life. It does happen, Bala, that if somebody loves you, they can change your habits/thoughts. That's true.
Take care, friends!
Rekha
From India, Delhi
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Both of you have your own points of view, and both of you are correct!
Rajat quoted very nicely that you should accept responsibility for changing your own habits, etc., while Bala adds her own personal experience. I would go with both of you. Yes, Rajat, you are right; we should be responsible for our own habits, etc., and Bala, you are absolutely right. I have also seen a similar situation in my previous office. There were two girls, one of whom was a chain smoker. Both of them were very close and good friends. Due to the other girl's insistence, the smoker decreased her smoking by 1 to 2 cigarettes a day and eventually quit. In this way, she made many changes in her friend's life. It does happen, Bala, that if somebody loves you, they can change your habits/thoughts. That's true.
Take care, friends!
Rekha
From India, Delhi
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Thanks Rekha for your opinion. Hey, something funny here : "where Bala adds her own personal experience" - correct it to "his own"!!!!!!!!!! Thanks bala
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this reminds me of something i had read wen ppl say they find life difficult, i am tempted to ask " compared to what?" :)
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Yes, Sunayna, you are right, compared to what????? Everybody compares with his/her own past / present, isn’t it? and this is what possibly should change. Thanks Bala
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Yes, Sunayna, you are right, compared to what? Everybody compares with his/her own past/present, isn't it? And this is what possibly should change. Thanks, Bala.
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Thank you for confirming that, but you know, after posting this, I thought about it. Life should be compared to an extent. I don't really know how to explain this, let me try. One should try to be satisfied (not afraid of being satisfied with whatever they've got) and have a negative attitude about this, resulting in the thought that things could be worse (would this be a positive attitude or negative?). Do comment on this, Bala.
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Thank you for confirming that, but you know, after posting this, I thought about it. Life should be compared to an extent. I don't really know how to explain this, let me try. One should try to be satisfied (not afraid of being satisfied with whatever they've got) and have a negative attitude about this, resulting in the thought that things could be worse (would this be a positive attitude or negative?). Do comment on this, Bala.
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Hi Bala, Hey Bala I thought you are a girl.....Anyways, sorry for the typo.... Tke care Rekha
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Hi Sunayna,
I think what you are trying to communicate is: be satisfied with what you have got and compare how better off you are to a person who has much less. Yes, Sunayna, this is the right attitude in my opinion, and I don't think it is negative thinking or attitude. Rekha, thanks for correcting!
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Bala
From India, Madras
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I think what you are trying to communicate is: be satisfied with what you have got and compare how better off you are to a person who has much less. Yes, Sunayna, this is the right attitude in my opinion, and I don't think it is negative thinking or attitude. Rekha, thanks for correcting!
Thanks,
Bala
From India, Madras
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