Hi Guys,
I have recently joined an MNC where I am feeling hesitant as the other staff members are from convent schools and come from wealthy families. Please advise, as I am losing my identity day by day due to my hesitation in talking and sharing my food.
Thank you.
From India, New Delhi
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I have recently joined an MNC where I am feeling hesitant as the other staff members are from convent schools and come from wealthy families. Please advise, as I am losing my identity day by day due to my hesitation in talking and sharing my food.
Thank you.
From India, New Delhi
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Tanya,
This is something to do with your attitude and mindset. I wonder how you can lose your identity by sharing your food with others. If it has something to do with table manners, you can simply Google and find out what TABLE ETIQUETTE is.
Food is enjoyed for its taste, irrespective of whether it is made by the rich or not. Treat your colleagues as friends; never differentiate them as rich or convent-passed. When you are working in an MNC, everyone is equally treated and shares the same privileges of being human.
You are a victim of inferiority complex and should be looking to eliminate it as early as possible. Come out of all these thoughts, walk out one day with your colleagues, and share your food. They might be looking for an opportunity to spend time with you and might even enjoy the food more than you do!
All the best
From India, Mumbai
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34This is something to do with your attitude and mindset. I wonder how you can lose your identity by sharing your food with others. If it has something to do with table manners, you can simply Google and find out what TABLE ETIQUETTE is.
Food is enjoyed for its taste, irrespective of whether it is made by the rich or not. Treat your colleagues as friends; never differentiate them as rich or convent-passed. When you are working in an MNC, everyone is equally treated and shares the same privileges of being human.
You are a victim of inferiority complex and should be looking to eliminate it as early as possible. Come out of all these thoughts, walk out one day with your colleagues, and share your food. They might be looking for an opportunity to spend time with you and might even enjoy the food more than you do!
All the best
From India, Mumbai
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Dear Tanya Good Evening i am agree with MR. Sriram Warrier so you must Treat your colleagues as friends , never differentiate them as rich / convent passed.
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Tanya, a very nice question from you. We generally observe this at many workplaces.
First, you should understand one thing - you are no longer in a school or convent; a company hired you based on your skillset. Here, richness doesn't matter, your 'performance' matters.
If those rich gals don't perform well, you may not see them down the line. Where you could see yourself as a 'manager,' then you have to deal with people who may feel the same way as you are feeling now.
So, this is the cycle of life - never let your weaknesses speak out and shape up as 'inferiority complex.' If it happens, others will have a reason to tease you.
Many people have the tendency to speak too much or show off fakeness. Don't go by words or looks. Try to comfort yourself with everyone with a cheering smile and have good dressing sense.
Off-track, gals get more attention than men by their clothes, smiling face, and way of talking.
Just buck up and get geared to explore a new Tanya. Your name carries so much confidence, maintain that in person. Make your presence attractive and engaging. Enhance your process knowledge so that people come to you for more details.
There's nothing wrong with sharing food or sitting with the rich class. Sit with people who value you and see the pleasure you feel.
Carry on...
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
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First, you should understand one thing - you are no longer in a school or convent; a company hired you based on your skillset. Here, richness doesn't matter, your 'performance' matters.
If those rich gals don't perform well, you may not see them down the line. Where you could see yourself as a 'manager,' then you have to deal with people who may feel the same way as you are feeling now.
So, this is the cycle of life - never let your weaknesses speak out and shape up as 'inferiority complex.' If it happens, others will have a reason to tease you.
Many people have the tendency to speak too much or show off fakeness. Don't go by words or looks. Try to comfort yourself with everyone with a cheering smile and have good dressing sense.
Off-track, gals get more attention than men by their clothes, smiling face, and way of talking.
Just buck up and get geared to explore a new Tanya. Your name carries so much confidence, maintain that in person. Make your presence attractive and engaging. Enhance your process knowledge so that people come to you for more details.
There's nothing wrong with sharing food or sitting with the rich class. Sit with people who value you and see the pleasure you feel.
Carry on...
From United Arab Emirates, Dubai
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Well said, Mr. Sriram and Anil. I too posted a comment earlier on this discussion, but it did not get posted. Well, write again. You can share your food with them; if they don't want it, then let them go. Why should you worry? As Anil said, "the company hired you based on your skillset... here richness doesn't matter, your 'performance' matters."
One more thing to note is that most of the rich family members join to gain knowledge or experience, and later they leave to take care of their family business. So kindly concentrate on your work and let go of all other invaluable things.
Thanks.
From Kuwait, Hawalli
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One more thing to note is that most of the rich family members join to gain knowledge or experience, and later they leave to take care of their family business. So kindly concentrate on your work and let go of all other invaluable things.
Thanks.
From Kuwait, Hawalli
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Hi Guys,
Thank you for your guidance. I want to establish my identity. Please share some tips that I can apply starting tomorrow. I aim to communicate and share knowledge, but I struggle with fluency in English. Please advise.
From India, New Delhi
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Thank you for your guidance. I want to establish my identity. Please share some tips that I can apply starting tomorrow. I aim to communicate and share knowledge, but I struggle with fluency in English. Please advise.
From India, New Delhi
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Dear Tanya,
Congratulations on this job that is propelling you to the next level in terms of professional knowledge and grooming. Consider embarking on a 30-day project to refine yourself. I highly recommend the "Try something new - 30 day projects" video, which can kickstart a transformative process.
You have already pinpointed the areas you want to improve. Establish a daily schedule for learning and practicing these skills.
Focus on recognizing your shortcomings and replacing them with the appropriate presentation.
Utilize both audio and video resources to aid your learning. Watch a YouTube video on corporate grooming in the evenings, and listen to language proficiency audio files while commuting. Implement what you have learned throughout the day and strive to acquire new knowledge.
Observe those around you without mimicking their behavior. Study their mannerisms, choice of words, subtleties, and non-verbal cues to adapt to your new environment. It takes time to refine your behavior, so be patient with yourself.
Consider enrolling in a language grooming course offered by professional institutions like the British Council. Starting with their basic online courses can not only expand your knowledge but also provide certifications.
Take into account the valuable contributions of our members.
Lastly, view this as a lifelong journey rather than a time-bound program. You will be pleasantly surprised by the results as you dedicate yourself to self-improvement. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself, not a replica of someone else.
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- "Language as a Window into Human Nature" [Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3-son3EJTrU&feature=related]
- "Grooming for Girls" [Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRxvaMVLCrg&feature=related] - Despite its age, pay attention to how poise and grace are exemplified in this video. This classic piece is still recommended by grooming experts. Adapt the teachings to suit your environment, as you are the best judge of that.
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From India, Mumbai
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Congratulations on this job that is propelling you to the next level in terms of professional knowledge and grooming. Consider embarking on a 30-day project to refine yourself. I highly recommend the "Try something new - 30 day projects" video, which can kickstart a transformative process.
You have already pinpointed the areas you want to improve. Establish a daily schedule for learning and practicing these skills.
Focus on recognizing your shortcomings and replacing them with the appropriate presentation.
Utilize both audio and video resources to aid your learning. Watch a YouTube video on corporate grooming in the evenings, and listen to language proficiency audio files while commuting. Implement what you have learned throughout the day and strive to acquire new knowledge.
Observe those around you without mimicking their behavior. Study their mannerisms, choice of words, subtleties, and non-verbal cues to adapt to your new environment. It takes time to refine your behavior, so be patient with yourself.
Consider enrolling in a language grooming course offered by professional institutions like the British Council. Starting with their basic online courses can not only expand your knowledge but also provide certifications.
Take into account the valuable contributions of our members.
Lastly, view this as a lifelong journey rather than a time-bound program. You will be pleasantly surprised by the results as you dedicate yourself to self-improvement. Focus on becoming the best version of yourself, not a replica of someone else.
[Link removed]
Videos to watch:
- "Language as a Window into Human Nature" [Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3-son3EJTrU&feature=related]
- "Grooming for Girls" [Link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wRxvaMVLCrg&feature=related] - Despite its age, pay attention to how poise and grace are exemplified in this video. This classic piece is still recommended by grooming experts. Adapt the teachings to suit your environment, as you are the best judge of that.
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From India, Mumbai
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Hi Tanya,
I am working with a pharma MNC's HR-Recruitment department. I would like to show you the difference:
Assume that you are comparatively poor and low in confidence, skills, and communication, not from a convent, and others are just the opposite in every aspect as you mentioned earlier only.
Now, if a company is hiring a non-convent, which is you, and a convent, that means the company has found that confidence and caliber in you with the same pace as in others. As per them, you are as rich as a convent stuff in terms of all skills. Now it is time for "INTRAINTRODUCTION."
Explore your talent to them and prove yourself as a right hiring. They know about you; now you have to know YOU. Rest learning is a continuous and lifelong process, and I would suggest you take regular classes for English speaking instead of online.
"LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE CONFUSED AND DOUBTFUL, ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF IT."
With Regards and Best Wishes,
Minakshi Sharma
From India, Delhi
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I am working with a pharma MNC's HR-Recruitment department. I would like to show you the difference:
Assume that you are comparatively poor and low in confidence, skills, and communication, not from a convent, and others are just the opposite in every aspect as you mentioned earlier only.
Now, if a company is hiring a non-convent, which is you, and a convent, that means the company has found that confidence and caliber in you with the same pace as in others. As per them, you are as rich as a convent stuff in terms of all skills. Now it is time for "INTRAINTRODUCTION."
Explore your talent to them and prove yourself as a right hiring. They know about you; now you have to know YOU. Rest learning is a continuous and lifelong process, and I would suggest you take regular classes for English speaking instead of online.
"LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO BE CONFUSED AND DOUBTFUL, ENJOY EVERY MOMENT OF IT."
With Regards and Best Wishes,
Minakshi Sharma
From India, Delhi
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Hello,
This is for the one who has started the thread. Falling short of skills in communication and interpersonal transactions can be cured by one's own efforts. One has to take initiative, get over mistakes, not feel put down, and march on. But for that, one needs to look at "self-esteem," and on that matter, kindly see the attachment. Evidently, it is not my creation, but I have used it for many candidates and with good results! Check it out if it helps you!
Regards, Samvedan
July 26, 2011
From India, Pune
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This is for the one who has started the thread. Falling short of skills in communication and interpersonal transactions can be cured by one's own efforts. One has to take initiative, get over mistakes, not feel put down, and march on. But for that, one needs to look at "self-esteem," and on that matter, kindly see the attachment. Evidently, it is not my creation, but I have used it for many candidates and with good results! Check it out if it helps you!
Regards, Samvedan
July 26, 2011
From India, Pune
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